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It Wasn’t The Scale. It Was Me.

By | Body Image, Working Out | 2 Comments

I feel like this is going to be a controversial topic.

Warning: This article contains talk of scales, numbers, and may be triggering for those currently struggling with body dysmorphia and other related body image disorders.

We need to talk about scales. For a really long time, I was so scared of this thing because it actually had the power to ruin my entire day. All I had to do was step on it, and if the number was higher than I wanted, I’d be curled up in fetal position crying. I wouldn’t want to do anything for the rest of the day because in my head, it was pointless. It got to a point where the scale was controlling my happiness. So I did what every body-loving article and influencer on the internet told me to do – THROW IT OUT.

So, was it the right thing to do?

I am not here to argue if scales or good or bad. They are neither good nor bad. It just depends on how you choose to look at it. And the truth is, the way I view the scale and my relationship with the scale has evolved over the years. It’s been both negative AND positive. And that’s something people never talk about because I feel like it’s either you either hate the scale…or you’re a guy.

So let’s go back to the beginning to understand how my relationship with the scale went from being non-existent to obsessive to terrified to empowering. My goal with this video is to teach you how to stop fearing the scale because you simply cannot let this piece of metal and glass control you. I am going to show you how I freed myself from the scale’s power, and put that power back in MY hands.

I believe that there are 4 stages of relationships that one can have with a scale.

#1. The nonexistent relationship where you literally don’t care what you weigh because your weight does not impact your life whatsoever.

#2. The abusive relationship where the number on the scale affects your happiness, controls your mood, and has power over your self-worth. For a lot of girls, a light number means you’re going to have a good day and a heavier number means you’re going to have a bad day.

#3. The break up where you realize how messed up the scale makes you feel so you throw it out and ban yourself from ever stepping it again! This is a healing phase to re-learn that your self worth is not related to your weight.

Most people in the body positive community will tell you that that is pure freedom. That THAT is winning. But there’s actually one more stage. The final stage is hard to reach, but it’s possible and it’s even more freeing and more empowering than stage #3. I’ll get to stage #4 in a little bit. 

For now, I want to define each stage a little more…purely from my perspective as a female who has struggled with her weight and her body image.

1. The non-existent relationship

In my experience, this only really existed from zero to eight years old.

One of the first times I realized that weight was even a thing was when I was 8. I was at a family party at one of my auntie’s houses so excited to be eating amazing Vietnamese foods that only came out for special occasions like people’s birthdays or weddings. I had just taken my first sweet and savory bite of bánh ướt when one of the other kids walked up to my table and started staring at me. She pointed her finger at me and asked “Why are you so fat?” 

When those words came out of her mouth, my body froze. The food in my mouth suddenly lost all its flavor. I remember my face getting hot and my eyes welling up. I didn’t know how to respond so I just ran to the bathroom. I locked the door, spit out my half-chewed food, and started crying and crying and crying. It was from that day forward that my weight suddenly had meaning. And it wasn’t a good one.

2. The abusive relationship

This stage lasted for me from about 9 years old to my late twenties. Basically, 20 years.

In the abusive relationship stage, I did a lot of bad things. Things that are super uncharacteristic of who I am today and I am super ashamed to share what I am about to share.

I played around with really unhealthy things to try to lose weight. As a teenager, I used to use diet teas, diet pills, fat blockers, fat burners, and laxatives. I was so OBSESSED with getting skinnier and I literally didn’t care how I was going to do it. Plus I didn’t know anything about anything. Honestly, if I were me then, right now, I’d probably fall into the traps of skinny teas and waist trainers. I was naive, desperate, and I just wanted to lose weight so bad so I could fit in. Maybe have more friends. Maybe have boys like me.

I remember specifically this one time in the Fall of Freshman year of college, when I went to Rite Aid to look for diet pills. After spending about 30 minutes going up and down the supplements aisle, I ended up choosing this pack of green tea fat burning pills because it was only $8.99. I secretly carried that brown paper bag back to my dorm thinking I had the solution. I was so excited to take one. I remember it smelling so strongly herbal that I wanted to throw up, but I didn’t care, I was going to suck it up and TAKE IT because THIS was going to make me skinny.

After swallowing 1 pill, like the back of the box said, I proceeded to read my bio textbook on mitochondria or whatever you learn in Bio 101. Then, 5 minutes in, I started to feel my heart thump. Then it thumped faster and faster!!! My face started to get hot and my head started to feel really weird. It felt like I was running without having gone on a run. I was so scared I was going to have a heart attack because my heart kept beating faster and faster and faster! I went to go lie down thinking that in that moment, I actually might die.

Then after college, I did my first and only bikini competition where I was trained by a bodybuilding coach to weigh in every day. If I was heavier, he’d tell me to stop eating so many carbs (this included iceberg lettuce), and then he’d proceed to make me do more cardio. I didn’t question his techniques or advice because he had won a ton of trophies in the bodybuilding world, so I just went into student mode and just listened to my teacher.

Losing weight throughout my 8-week bikini competition journey made me feel like I was achieving something I had never been able to do. It felt so good and so addicting to feel “successful”. Was I happy though? No. If you ask Sam who I became around that time, it was a really mean, really cranky, vanity driven version of Cassey.

After the competition when I decided to go back to “normal-healthy” living, not bikini competitor living (which is not healthy or sustainable for the long term by the way) – my body was so deprived that it soaked up every calorie I was eating. I started to gain weight and I couldn’t control it. My body was so messed up. Every time I stepped on the scale, it made no sense. Sometimes salads would make me gain and pizza would make me lose. Working out didn’t even seem to matter. I had totally damaged my metabolism. I was so scared to step on the scale because anytime I’d see the number jump, I’d cry and let the rest of my day go to waste.

3. The break up

There comes a time when any girl with body image issues should probably just get rid of their scale. When I made the decision to live a scale-free life at the end of my 20s until I was 32, it was freeing. Initially.

It was the phase of my life where I was gaining weight on YouTube and everyone saw. People commented on my body all the time, saying that my workouts must not work because I was getting fat. There was hate from a community of YouTubers who made videos about my body, shaming me for the way I looked and the way I ate. It was during this time period that I had to toughen up and learn how to love my body regardless of how I looked or how much I weighed. I think a lot of you guys probably found my workouts around this time because of my viral video “The Perfect Body” where I visually photoshop myself on camera to look like how people want me to look. Bigger boobs, bigger butt, thinner waist, thigh gappier thighs.

It was from that moment that Blogilates became synonymous with body positivity and it was a good thing for me. I was still healing from years of hating my body, and hearing that other women were feeling the same things I was feeling was so encouraging and so empowering.

Body positivity helped free me from food jail. I was no longer scared of eating foods I used to label as bad. So Sam and I kind of went crazy. We ordered dessert after every meal, we ate late, we went out a lot, and we really had a great time trying out so many new restaurants. It was awesome to have this break from eating healthy because it actually ended up recalibrating my metabolism in a way.

However, when your job is to make fitness videos and you actually need the RIGHT fuel to get through a workout, you just can’t eat like that. I remember being on set for a HIIT video and asking to take a break between filming because I could barely breathe. It was so embarrassing because ALL of my videos are filmed in real-time, no breaks – ever. After that shoot, I realized that real food freedom doesn’t mean eat whatever you want all the time. Food is supposed to help you not hurt you, and my “food freedom” was getting to a point where I couldn’t even do my job right.

So as you can see, there is a stage after stage 3. It doesn’t apply to everyone, because some people’s stage 3 is the type of freedom they need.

But not for me.

Eating “whatever I wanted” did not result in true happiness and freedom because it was hindering my strength and my endurance. It was affecting my body and my business and I was not feeling my best.

That’s why stage 3 for me, was just a temporary healing phase.

3. Empowered relationship with the scale

The empowered relationship is where you are unafraid to step on the scale because you realize it actually doesn’t hold any power over you. A higher number or a lower number on the scale does not affect your mood because you know that your weight is simply a data point and that a scale is simply a tool that could help you reach your goals.

August 2019 was the beginning of stage 4 for me.

You already know that this is when I embarked on my 90-day journey and actually weighed myself every single day. The first day I stepped on the scale, I had to keep repeating to myself that this was just a number. It was still shocking to see how that number after YEARS of not stepping on the scale, but it also felt like I was getting to know myself again. Like I was unafraid to know this extra information about me.

The more I stepped on the scale, the less it scared me. Because I had goals to reach and I needed as many tools to help me as I could! I wanted to get in the best shape of my life mentally and physically and that involved weighing myself, which is fine when you ARE intentionally trying to lose weight, which for the record is NOT a bad thing if you’re going into it with a healthy purpose.

On the contrary, if you’re not in the right headspace when you’re going on a weight loss journey, this is incredibly dangerous for your mental health and I do not want you to go near a scale. Stay in stage 3!

If you still feel like higher numbers make you sad and lower numbers make you happy, I highly suggest that you work on healing yourself first before you do anything related to weight loss. You will be at risk of falling back into stage 2 – the abusive relationship.

If you still want to go on a journey – go on one! But make it about lifting heavier, holding longer planks, running faster, or finishing one of my 7-day or 30-day challenges! You have plenty to choose from on my blog. What you need are some non-numerical achievements to give you a sense of what un-weight related success feels like.

Remember, I didn’t get to stage 4 without being in stage 3 for like five to six years. I took 5-6 years to heal my body image issues and re-calibrate my metabolism. I’ve now been in 4 of my relationship with the scale, the empowered stage, and I feel good. Who knows what stages are still left to be uncovered but if i discover any more, I will share them with you.

I’d love to know which stage you’re currently in with the scale! Please leave a comment below and let’s have a really open discussion about it where you are and where you wanna be. I’ll see you in there.

A 28-Day Workout Calendar for Beginners!

By | Calendar | 334 Comments

Hey guys!

For those of you just peeking into the whole fitness thing, I know it can feel really exhausting. There are so many options out there – so many programs – so many trainers – so many gadgets! But which one is “the one” that’ll finally change you forever?! Well, that’s what we call your fitness journey :) What you start with today may not be what you stick with forever, but you’ve got to start somewhere. So, today I am going to share with you all the resources you need to get started!

I’ve planned out a simple 28-day program that will get you from where you are now to being the strongest, happiest version of yourself in just 4 weeks. All through finding the joy in fitness. The best part? My 28-Day Beginner’s Workout Calendar is FREE to follow along if you download the JPEG!

If you want to keep yourself even more accountable, you can download my free app BODY by Blogilates. To access the Beginner’s Workout Calendar, you will need a premium subscription (only $3.99/month) but the benefits of having the app are ENDLESS! You can click through the day’s videos right in the app, cast it to your TV, and check off every single day as you go. It is sooooo gratifying and fun to see your progress!

All in all, you won’t need any equipment for this calendar and you can do all of my workouts from the comfort of your own home. Soooo, you ready to do this?!

How To Get Started

Download the BODY by Blogilates app on iOS or Android

My app will help you stay on schedule with all of your workouts in this Beginner’s Calendar! All you have to do is download the app and choose your workout. The Beginner’s Calendar requires a premium subscription ($3.99/month), but the extra benefits are amaaaaaazing, I promise!

Curious about why the app is my fave place to do challenges?!

💪 IT’S 100% FREE TO DOWNLOAD!

💪 HUGE WORKOUT VIDEO LIBRARY – TOTALLY FREE.⁠

💪 All videos are castable to TV!⁠

💪 All videos are commercial-free!⁠

💪 All my CHALLENGES are in the app and INTERACTIVE.

💪 There’s even a CHALLENGE PROGRESS BAR to show you what % of the challenge you’ve completed to keep you motivated!

💪 The beginner’s calendar is totally immersed in app. No more wasting time searching YouTube for workouts.⁠

Once you’re in, you can choose your calendar start date and access the workout videos straight from your phone! It’s also castable onto your TV, too :) If you want to learn more about all the fun features in the BODY by Blogilates app, I talk about it here!

Workout With Me On YouTube!

Not an app person?! Allllll good! You can still follow along The Beginner’s Calendar the old school way! Here’s how:

  1. Subscribe to my channel where you can find all the workout videos: YouTube.com/Blogilates
  2. Download the calendar, print it, hang it on your wall or put it as your desktop background. Whatever you do, KEEP YOUR CALENDAR IN VIEW.
  3. To really stay accountable, tweet me or tag me on Instagram @Blogilates with a pic of you and the calendar so I can send some encouragement your way!

That’s it! I wish you the best of luck on the start of your fitness journey. I know you’re going to find the entire experience transformative, not just for your body, but for you mind and your spirit as well. Prepare to be a new person in 28 days.

Comment below and let me know if you’re doing this! I’m sooooo excited for you!

Too Fat? Too Skinny? I am SO sick of this.

By | Body Image, Working Out | 97 Comments

You know what’s been really frustrating me lately? The fact that I never get a break. Everyone’s always constantly judging my body like I don’t read the comments or something. First, they say I’m too fat. Now they say I’m too skinny. I seriously don’t know if my body is ever going to be good enough.

You guys, I’ve been on the internet since 2009 and honestly when I posted my first Pilates workout, I thought the meanest comment I was going to get was going to be about my form. Oh, how naive I was. 99% of the mean comments I got were about my weight, how fat I was, why I didn’t have abs and why my butt was flat. Let me also remind you that these comments came from other women, as my channel demographic is made up of an overwhelming majority of women. It’s easy to say that I should have ignored those comments from strangers because why should their opinion matter to me…but it did. I’m a really sensitive person who cares what people think about me – to a fault – so it really hurt me to hear these things. And honestly I let it shape the way I saw myself. 

Being made fun of for being the fattest kid in class made growing up really hard. 6th grade was the worst. I was already super nerdy, an overachiever, a teacher’s pet, my mom wouldn’t let me shave my hairy legs or arms (my hairs were like 3 inches long each, no joke), AND my last name was Ho. No matter how well I did in school or how many awards or scholarships I won, I never saw myself as worthy or successful if no one liked me. I struggled a lot socially. I was never popular. And somehow always had a hard time making friends in school. In fact, going to school gave me so much anxiety. Not the academic part but the “who could I sit next to on the bus?” part. 

So from a very early age, I linked people liking me to my weight and my weight to my success and my success to my happiness.

As you know, childhood scars have a way of sticking with you forever, especially if you never knew you were scarred to begin with. So when I started posting my Pilates videos on YouTube and I got my first fat comment, it brought me back to those middle school days where those popular girls would make fun of me in the locker room, and those boys would pretend they didn’t see me when the slow dance songs came on. That comment made me cry from my gut. The kind of cry where you can’t breathe, with your lips quivering. The kind where you can’t make a sound because you have nothing left to give. I felt like a worthless, ugly piece of trash that was too fat to do anything good. I hated my body for doing this to me. I hated that my body was the source of my unhappiness.

If you look at my videos and pictures since 2009, you can see that I was never actually what most Americans would call fat, but when you’re in the fitness space and you don’t have ab lines, you’re fat. That’s just the truth of the fitness industry. I don’t think it’s fair, but my body became a walking billboard for my programs. So no matter how good my workouts made you feel, the judgment was that my workouts didn’t work or that I was a bad instructor because my body wasn’t as lean or as toned as other fitness influencers.

Somehow, the media ended up labeling me as a body positive activist simply because I didn’t have ab lines and was teaching fitness so “bravely” on YouTube like it was an act of courage or something. It wasn’t something I set out to do. My focus was always to be a good instructor. Not a good Asian instructor. Not a good “fat” instructor. Not a good female instructor. Just a good instructor trying to spread the joy of fitness.

But you know what, even though it wasn’t my intention, I am proud to have helped in some way with the body positive revolution in the fitness space. The revolution helped me embrace my body too – because I needed healing from the years of built up hatred towards my own body.

It was during this time that I began to lose focus.

I began catering to my audience instead of leading them. People began to get upset when I posted workouts or healthy recipes because they said that I was contributing to diet culture and I was making them feel bad for not working out hard enough or not eating healthy enough. So, I got scared of upsetting my now very woke, very body positive audience. So I made my workouts looser, I stopped sharing what I actually ate, and I eventually became this boring vanilla cupcake that was terrified of doing anything because I was scared of upsetting people. I even stopped blogging because I felt like anytime I had even a hint of an opinion, someone was offended. I felt paralyzed.

As you can see right here – I’ve always put too much value on what people think of me. As a child, I made this flawed connection between my self-worth, my success, and my happiness…and this is how it played out: I became a slave to people’s opinions of me.

Well, as you guys know, it was August 2019 when I broke. I couldn’t take it anymore, so I went on a 90 Day Journey to do all the things no one wanted me to do. I was going to rediscover myself and get in the best shape of my life, mentally and physically. And yeah, that meant losing weight, talking about scales, talking about what I ate, and being really REAL with my fans.

I’m not going to repeat the hurtful things people said, but people were really, really cruel. All over the internet, I was reading some of the meanest things I’ve ever read about myself. I didn’t expect hate like that, but you know what – if there was ANYTHING I was going to lose on my 90 day journey, it was going to be all the people who didn’t love me for me.

Well after 90 days of being super authentic to myself, blogging every single day no matter how tired I was, working out for me and no one else, and eating how I wanted to eat regardless of what anyone said – I ended up achieving what I set out to do. I found who I was again, I rediscovered my purpose, I got in the best shape of my life, and I was overflowing with confidence. This confidence ended up leaking over into my business, my personal relationships, and overall gave me exactly what I was looking for – it gave me myself back. It was magic.

But wouldn’t you know…the haters came back to hate.

First I was too fat. Now I’m just too skinny. 

I am sick of having my body define who I am!

When I was “fat”, my workouts were so inspiring and so body positive.

Now that I am “skinny”, my workouts apparently cause women to have eating disorders and subscribe to diet culture.

Are you kidding me????

I am literally the same Cassey Ho with the same intention of being a good instructor trying to spread the joy of fitness. That has NEVER changed. But somehow the narrative around me changed because of the way my body – a vessel – just a physical vessel – has changed.

I am sick of people trying to villainize me for things because of the way I look. I can’t even share an honest “what I eat in a day” video without nutritionists shaking their heads at me. I remember sharing recipes and food tips when I was heavier and no one even batted an eye. It was inspiring when I was “fat” and now it’s irresponsible because I am “skinny”.

You know what’s irresponsible? Diagnosing someone you don’t even know with an eating disorder when they don’t have one. 

Do you know how damaging it is to finally heal from something only to be told you’re still damaged? I hear it so much sometimes I almost believe it!

You guys know that I’ve been VERY open about having orthorexia after my bikini competition, but it’s like people think that once you have an ED you’re forever damaged.

It took me years to mend my relationship with food but now I am here and I’ve finally found my peace. You need to understand that maybe my peace looks different than your peace because maybe my goals look different than your goals. You cannot compare 2 people that are incomparable. Your conclusions will be faulty and useless.

And you know what? Useless is exactly what those comments attacking my body are to me. They serve zero purpose in my life and bring no positivity to me, to my family, or to you guys.

I just had to get this off my chest because if you are reading this right now and you actually think I’m making content that is hurtful to you, then I really really really want you to unsubscribe. If you’re not viewing my content through a lens that can show you joy and good right in my videos, then I don’t want to be hurting you. Seriously. Sometimes relationships only last long enough for both people to get what they can out of it, and then that’s it. And that is ok. It’s the sad truth that I’ve come to realize as I’ve gotten older. 

That’s all you guys. Just know that I will always be here, teaching Pilates, telling you guys my latest Trader Joe’s find, gushing over my favorite desserts, and telling you what color I painted my nails, whenever you need me. Love you.

The Best Healthy Pumpkin Pancakes Ever

By | Breakfasts, Desserts, Food, Recipe Index | 9 Comments

Hey guys!

Okay so you know I am super obsessed with pancakes, right?! Whether they are sweet or savory, I am all about these little tasty circles of heaven! Now that we’re into the full swing of fall, it is time to go full on with pumpkin!

I mean, look at how festive and yummy these pancakes look! Best of all they are gluten-free, dairy-free AND grain-free!

Want more recipes just like this? Then the 90-Day Journey Meal Plans are for you! These plans are filled with yummy, delicious, and healthy recipes to fuel your own journey!

Fall Pumpkin Pancakes Recipe

INGREDIENTS

2 large eggs
4 TBSP canned organic pumpkin OR pure pumpkin puree
2 TBSP cashew butter
2 TBSP monk fruit sweetener
2 TBSP almond milk
2/3 C almond flour
2 TBSP coconut flour
1 tsp baking powder
1 tsp pumpkin pie spice
1/2 tsp ground cinnamon
Optional: 1 egg white (if you want extra fluffy pancakes)

Instructions

1. Mix everything together, except for the one egg white! Batter should be thick.
2. OPTIONAL: Whip the egg white until stiff peaks form. Gently old into the pancake batter
3. Heat your pan to medium-low heat.
4. Spray pan with coconut oil.
5. Dollop pancake batter on and flip when bubbles form on top and bottom is solid enough to flip.
6. Top with desired fruit!

Top with fall fruit and nuts…pecans, walnuts, figs, pears, apples, or whatever else you’re craving!

Ahhhhhhh I am so excited for you to try this!

If you make this recipe, tag me on Instagram or let me know in the comments! I wanna know what you think! What other fall or pumpkin recipes do you want me to make next?!

Introducing the Retro Rainbow Collection!

By | Fashion, Life | 13 Comments

Hey guys!

Today is a biggggg day! 2 reasons!

#1. It’s my 2 year wedding anniversary!

#2. It’s the launch of my newest POPFLEX Collection, Retro Rainbow!

Somewhere over the retro rainbow is where I found the inspiration for this collection! I love colors so much. I can’t even choose my favorite because each color describes a different mood, a different feeling, a different season – and I need them all! To start off this post, I want to show you the mood boards that inspired the feelings for Retro Rainbow…

I love mint because it represents abundance, renewal, growth and it’s such a healing color! Plus it reminds me of pistachio ice cream and matcha milkshakes!

When I see peach, I feel joy and comfort. It’s friendship, gratitude, sincerity with just a touch of feminine energy.

Baby blue is so calming and tranquil! When I am at peace, I feel most confident.

Now that the mood has been set…I introduce you to my most colorful collection yet! Retro Rainbow!

AHH!!!! I love how the colors look together and I love how the silhouettes look so good on everybody! Before we get any further into this post, I want to give Jordan, Sasha, Ahlah, and Dzoanna a HUGE shoutout for modeling like pros for this collection! I’m having a major proud mama moment because these are your fellow POPsters who have never modeled before, but found the courage to apply for the opportunity, push past their fears, and you know what?? They totally KILLED IT.

Here I am wearing the Focus Half Zip-Top and the Tone Shorts! This top is perf for layering over a sports bra for chilly morning runs. The Tone Shorts fit similar to the Wander Shorts 2.0 with the hold band. I’m super into biker shorts right now – no more butt cheeks hanging, you know what I mean!!??

All the pieces are cut from the same StretchSilk fabric we used for the Terrain Collection, so it’s super sleek, stretchy and breathable.

Sasha. Girl. That face. That hair. That confidence! She wearing the Believe Bra and Believe 7/8 Leggings. Sasha’s energy truly lit up the room!

I love the Believe set because #1 – it reminds me of a matcha milkshake and #2 – that soft elastic band is the epitome of Retro Rainbow. LOVE.

Dzoanna’s firey red hair is just as playful as her soul! I loved getting to know her on shoot day. I found out that she had a huge transformation by using Blogilates videos. Do you want to see her before and after?!

Dzoanna is wearing the layering the Breezy Tie Tank over the Tone Bra and Tone 7/8 Legging in Peach. This top is perfect for layering over any bra. Plus isn’t the tie back feature so girly and sporty all in one? I’m all for anything adjustable!

It was amazing getting to know Jordan and learn more about her Native family history!

Sweet Jordan is wearing the Focus Half-Zip Top and the Tone Shorts in Baby Blue! I designed this top to have mesh cutouts at the shoulders for extra breathability. Plus love me some thumbholes and a sophisticated collar.

Okay this jump is perfection. She literally got this on her first try. I’ve done so many of these and it takes 50 til I get an “effortless” looking one!

Look how cool this open bra back is. Open teardrop shape to commemorate the tears that will run when I make you do 100 burpees in a row.

Jordan is wearing the Believe Bra in Mint.

Ahlah was shy, cute, and bubbly all in one! It was so cool to see her get more and more comfortable modeling as the day went on. I mean, how amazing does she look in the Believe set!? The elastic and high neck design keeps everything securely in place as you work out!

AH!!! This color. Reminds me of an orange creamsicle or a peach sherbert! Now I’m hungry.

I’ve been dying to design a square neck bra for a while and now finally we have one!!! I plan to keep this style around for a while because the fit is perfection! Oh and the low cut back is sooo sleek. Shows off all your sexy back muscles! Dzoanna is wearing the Tone Bra and Tone 7/8 Legging in Peach.

The Tone 7/8 Leggings are a similar fit to the Gulch 7/8 Legging. The hold band keeps everything in place, and the v-cut crossover waistband accentuates your natural hourglass shape!

So proud of these girls for KILLING IT at our Retro Rainbow shoot! It’s such an honor to be able to work with girls from our very own community because it makes the collection truly reflective of YOU. There’s so much more than a person modeling clothes. It’s like having old friends come over catching up and playing dress up. It’s so fun and I can’t wait to keep featuring more POPsters in future collections!

Shop The Retro Rainbow Collection

It’s My 2-Year Wedding Anniversary!

By | Life | 53 Comments

Hey guys!

So tomorrow is my 2-year wedding anniversary and I CANNOT BELIEVE IT! I keep getting reminders from my phone of this day two years ago and I just get filled with soooo much excitement remembering how amazing the entire week was. People always told me that their wedding day was the best day of their life and I never believed them… but you guys. It is so true.

Marrying Sam, the love of my life, and having all of my closest family and friends there with us was literally THE. BEST. I wish I could do it all over again!!!

So how has marriage been?

I know it’s different for everyone, but here are my honest thoughts. I’m so lucky to spend all my days with Sam. As a couple, we’ve gotten stronger over the past 2 years. We’ve learned how to better complement each other’s strengths, and be forgiving of each other’s weaknesses – doing what we can to create more joy and experience deeper love in our relationship. Getting Sir George, buying our dream house, and getting married all in one year (2018) was a lot and I think we’re finally settling into it all!

With our businesses being so demanding, it has been hard to plan our next phase of life – but we’ve started at least talking about it! I’ll for sure update you guys on what will happen next – but for now, let’s revisit this wedding because I CANNOT and WILL NEVER get over it!!! I’m always thankful that Sam wasn’t opposed to me planning the ultimate dream wedding. I love you!!!

Now that my sister’s wedding is only 7 months away, I’m in a renewed phase of excitement. It’s been sooooo fun looking at dresses and talking about decorations again!

In honor of our anniversary, I felt like compiling a lookbook so you could get a feel for all of the memories! If you wanted inspo for your wedding, I hope this helps!

P.S. If you’re planning your wedding right now, I wanna hear all about it! Drop a comment below and tell me what it’s been like <3

Getting Ready

The morning of! It was sooooo hectic!!! I was supposed to practice my first dance with Sam for the last time that morning and somehow there was NO TIME.

The most luxurious bathroom I have ever gotten ready in. Definitely felt like a princess.

No bridesmaids! Just got ready with my mom, my sister (Maid of Honor), and Sam’s mom! SOMEHOW it took all morning, through lunch time, and right before the guests started arriving for us to finish hair, makeup, and dresses! I don’t understand how it took so long, yet felt so fast!

The men. They took maybe 20 min to get ready!!????

Putting on my Galia Lahav for the ceremony…the biggest dress I have EVER worn.

The Look

I loved my shoes! But now that I know what I know…NEVER wear rhinestone shoes with a tulle dress. IT WILL RIP THE TULLE when you walk.

My dresses.

I custom designed the mesh on the sides and the V down the center to make this gown uniquely mine.

UGH. I cannot get over this train!!! And will never!!!

And a veil as long as the train…at this point Sam had not seen this dress yet and my heart was pounding hard. Just 10 more minutes or so till the guests would be arriving.

Backtracking a bit. Here was the photoshoot we did with my second dress the day before the wedding! Also a Galia Lahav with custom off the shoulder sleeves.

Windmills!

I lovedddd this navy blue tuxedo on Sam.

See that big flower in the middle? It’s called a Protea. And I embodied everything “Enchanted Oasis” was supposed to be!

The Ceremony

I had so much fun planning our wedding. Besides getting married to Sam and spending the funnest night of our lives with our friends and family, seeing my wedding vision come together was THE BESTTTTTT.

Wanted a garden in the desert! So these florals lining the aisle was a MUST.

Side note: All of the flowers from the wedding were gifted to a local senior center the day after!

Sir George the ring bearer, coming down the aisle in Porsche style!

I didn’t expect to be so overwhelmed with emotion here, but my heart was racing and I was nearly in tears before I stepped down the aisle.

Married!!!

The Reception

Sweetheart chairs decorated with Enchanted Oasis florals in our custom built light tent.

Really wanted the napkins folded into hearts. Literally don’t think anyone remembers the napkins and it was SUCH an ordeal, but who cares…AT LEAST I REMEMBER!

The carousel. It was brought in horse by horse because the semi truck couldn’t fit through the side yard of the estate. ALSO such an ordeal, but I had the best wedding planner ever, and she made my vision come through – NO MATTER WHAT. It was MAGIC.

The energy that night was insane. Insanely full of love, positivity, and light. It really was the best night of our lives.

Indeed that is a hanging cake!

Our favorite flavor inside…blue velvet!!!

Happy 2 year Anniversary Sam. To many many more happy years together!!!

Wedding Dresses and Maid of Honor Dress: Galia Lahav

Wedding Planner: Laurie Lund of The Events Department

Location: The Solomon Estate in Rancho Mirage, CA

Photography: Kassia Phoy

Videography: 

Directed by: Brad Etter

Video Produced By: Ashla Soter

Director of Photography: Marco Bottiglieri

Additional Camera: Faisal Shah

Edited by: Brad Etter, Cassey Ho

Florals: Lovesome Blossom

Hair & Makeup: Beauty Marked

Catering: Fusion Flair

Matcha Bar and mini desserts: Midori Matcha

Cake: Exquisite Desserts

Tent, Lighting, Chairs etc: BRIGHT Rentals

Carousel: Christiansen Amusements

4 Sweet Potato Toast Recipes You’ll Want to Make ASAP

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Hey guys!

Sometimes when you’re trying to eat healthily, it can get suuuuupppeeerrrr boring eating the same things over and over again.

BUT the secret to making yummy meals is learning how to use the same foods in new ways! Whether you spice it up with different seasoning, change the way you cook it, or what you pair it with, you’ll soon learn that the options are endless.

I’m so excited to share with you my latest obsession – sweet potato toast! The coolest thing about this is that it’s super filling and easy to make! All you have to do is thinly slice up some sweet potato (be careful here, I recommend using a mandoline), toast it up and then top it off! The best part is you can go either savory or sweet! Here are 4 easy recipes you can start with – you can find the directions at the very bottom.

My favorite thing about these recipes is you can really feel it out! If you have extra ingredients on hand that you want to sprinkle on, go for it! If you love an extra creamy toast, then add another tablespoon of peanut butter :) I know I’ll be doing that!

If you want more delicious and nutritious meals just like this one, you can get them all in my 90 Day Journey Meal Plans!

Fried Egg Sweet Potato Toast

1 egg, fried
Salt & pepper to taste
Fresh thyme to taste

Avocado Sweet Potato Toast

1 avocado, thinly sliced
Sesame seeds for topping

Peanut Butter and Banana Sweet Potato Toast

2 Tablespoons of Peanut butter
1 small Banana, thinly sliced
Small handful of Walnuts, chopped

Blueberry Sweet Potato Toast

2 Tablespoons of Yogurt
1 Tablespoon of Raspberry Puree
3 oz. of Blueberries
Chia seed to top off

Directions

1. Thinly slice sweet potato slices. Mandoline recommended.
2. Spray sweet potato slices with cooking spray and toast in toaster for 2-3 minutes. Alternatively, toast in oven for 10 mins at 400 degrees F.
3. Meanwhile, cook or prep ingredients.
4. Once sweet potato is ready, layer on ingredients.
5. Eat and enjoy!

333 Days Later. My 90 Day Journey Update.

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To be completely honest with you, when I first started my 90 Day Journey, I already knew that the hardest part wasn’t going to be hitting my goals on Day 90. It was going to be maintaining my results.

Every other time I had gone on a strict diet and fitness regimen (like my Bikini Competition in 2012), I couldn’t wait for it to be over. I was so sick of eating broccoli and chicken breast. So sick of feeling like I was in food jail. The workout part was fine – I mean I enjoy working out. But the food part was always the hardest for me. I am a foodie at heart and if I wasn’t a fitness instructor and didn’t need to ACTUALLY use my food for actual fuel, I totally, 100%, most definitely would be a competitive eater. I literally kid you not. I outeat all my friends and family. I’m usually the last one still picking at stuff at the dinner table. And then asking if we can have dessert.

This time though, when I decided to go on this 90 Day Journey, I made the very conscious choice to give myself time the freedom to experiment, fail, and try again. I never had that liberty before.

When I did Whole30, I couldn’t have any dairy, legumes, grains, added, sugar, baked goods, and junk food for 30 days straight. If I cheated, it was over. I’d have to start over.

When I did Keto, I couldn’t have fruit, I had to limit veggies, and had to force myself to eat more meat, dairy, oils, and fats to try to get into ketosis. Once I was there, I had to try to stay there…by eating more meat, dairy, oils, and fats.

When I did the bikini competition body builder diet, I pretty much could only eat protein. I got in trouble by my coach for eating too much lettuce…because it had “too many carbs”…plus I was eating only 1,000 calories a day for 8 weeks, while working out around 4 hours a day. (Unhealthy, please don’t try.)

The thing with all of these diets? They weren’t my own. They were someone else’s. And it didn’t feel good. That’s why almost immediately after my bikini competition, I gained all my weight back plus more. Same would happen after any other diet I’d try. I just couldn’t do it anymore. I was physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted.

So this time around, on my 90 day Journey, I wanted to once and for all find a diet that would suit my lifestyle – not for 30 days, not for 8 weeks, but for…forever. Could I do it?

Before, After & After-After

333 days.

I can’t believe it’s been 333 days since the start of my 90 Day Journey. It was almost a year ago that I decided to embark on a personal mission to unapologetically get into the best shape of my life – MENTALLY and PHYSICALLY.

On my terms.

For myself.

If you can remember, things got off to a really controversial start…with people saying that I was a “disgrace to all women”, “anti body positive”, ” a hypocrite”, “a bad role model”, “mentally disordered” plus a whole slew of terrible assumptions that really hurt me.

Even though the public shaming was painful, it was the exact start I needed to prepare me for the difficult challenges that lay ahead. It foreshadowed the shedding of toxicity, extra baggage, and extra weight that was holding me back from being the best version of myself.

I am so happy to tell you that today – 333 days after the start of my journey, I am the HAPPIEST, most CONFIDENT, most CREATIVE, and most UNSTOPPABLE version of myself that I have EVER been. And it feels SO GOOD!!! AHHH!!!!

You can see in the comparison photos above that the momentum of the 90 Day Journey is keeping me fitter, leaner, and stronger than I’ve ever been before. Unlike with the bikini competition, I did not want to go back to my old eating habits. Why?

Because I like the way my food makes me feel.

Because I like the way my workouts make me feel.

BECAUSE I LOVE THE WAY I FEEL.

I finally, FINALLY, FINALLY understand my body. You guys…it’s like I solved the ultimate riddle. For my whole life I’ve battled my body. I was always so confused why my friends could eat whatever they wanted and not gain weight. I was always frustrated that if I tried eating the same foods my sister ate, she’d have abs and I’d have a bloated belly. I was always SO angry at my body for not listening to me!

But you know what the problem was???

I wasn’t listening to my body.

This whole time, my body was trying to tell me things but I kept ignoring it because I was trying to compare my body to other bodies…my diet to other diets. I was forcing my body to eat stuff and do stuff that wasn’t prescribed for its uniqueness. I was totally blind to the signs my body was trying to give me. It wasn’t until I started journaling that I started seeing the patterns and making the connections.

During my 90 Day Journey, I wrote down everything in complete detail:

  • What I ate
  • How much I slept
  • My mood
  • My water intake
  • My workouts
  • My weight
  • My body fat
  • My muscle mass
  • My accomplishments
  • My setbacks

Writing daily for 90 days allowed allowed me to solidify the following truths about my body:

  • Grains bloat me and make me constipated
  • Dairy irritates my stomach, makes me gassy, and makes me break out on my face
  • The combination of sugar and dairy will immediately lead to acne
  • If I get less than 5 hours of sleep, I get bloated the next morning and lack energy for my workouts
  • Eating late dinners messes up my digestion and bloats me for the next day
  • I can easily overeat if I am not mindful, leading to unnecessary weight gain
  • Increased stress increases my appetite

Additionally, I know once and for all that my genes do not allow me to eat whatever I want and not gain weight. (My 23andMe results confirm this as well.) I am simply not built like that! And that’s ok. I know that I do have to work harder than most people to get the results I want. But if that’s something I am willing to do because it brings me joy, then that is the very conscious choice I am going to make. No whining. No complaining. No “life is unfair.” This is the body I was born with. It is a gift. And I will do everything in my power to keep it healthy, fit, and happy.

So that’s where I am today guys! I wake up every morning to work out around 7:30am. I do a mixture of cardio/PIIT, Pilates, and/or weights. Then I cook all my meals at home every single day (thanks to quarantine). My meals are usually a lean protein with veggies. I snack on fruits, popcorn, freshly blended smoothies and/or protein bars. A couple times a week I have real ice cream (currently LOVING the ube ice cream and the strawberry oat milk ice cream from Trader Joes) because it makes my soul happy!

If you’re feeling inspired to start your own 90 Day Journey…

I have good news for you.

So you know how I kept charts, data, graphs, and literally recorded everything about my 90 Day Journey in blog posts, journals, and spreadsheets? It was a lot of numbers and notes spread across a lot of platforms. I was testing the best way to record key information for analysis. The entire time, I knew I wanted to share with you the EXACT strategy I used to crush my 90 Day Journey….and guys…here it is:

Meet the 90 Day Journal!!!! Inside is EVERYTHING I journaled to lose over 20 lbs (of toxicity, negativity, judgement, insecurity, and baggage) during my very own 90 Day Journey.

This is the daily page. Here you will record your food intake, macros, water intake, sleep duration, mood, workouts, and any notable things you are experiencing that day. Very important to be as detailed as possible so that in the future, you can look back and find patterns.

90 day journal blogilates fitness goals motivation

An upgrade from the last Fit Planner! This time there’s dividing tabs!!! This is SUPER necessary as you will be flipping back and forth between weeks A LOT. You will be comparing your progress and again, checking for patterns.

Goals. EXTREMELY important to set your goals. But not just physique goals. Your mental wellness goals (ie. not care about what others think about you) and your strength goals (ie. how many pushups on toes do you do by day 90?) are equally important. I added this page because I want your priorities CRYSTAL CLEAR. This will help give you direction when it comes to experimenting and tweaking your fitness and nutrition strategies.

I looked forward to filling out my weekly progress chart every week when I was doing my 90 Day Journey! I loved seeing how my hard work affected my results over the course of 7 days. If it worked, I would keep doing what I was doing. If it didn’t, I’d look back at my prior week of daily pages to find the culprit for my stagnation. Then I’d tweak my strategies for next week.

My fave part? How you can always compare you progress to Day 1. Sometimes it’s discouraging to not see change week to week. But you’ve got to look back to see how far you’ve come.

Grocery lists! You’ve got one every week. Bring this with you to the store and check it off as you shop!

Weekly recap. Very important. Taking the time to reflect on what worked and what didn’t every week is what will help you tweak your process. You see – the reason why my 90 day Journey was so successful was because I wasn’t restricted to one method. I allowed myself to try, experiment, fail, and try again. 90 days is just enough time for you to focus and to also be flexible. Use the time to your advantage, and don’t be afraid to take risks! If you don’t try, you will never know.

If you really are serious about embarking on your own 90 Day Journey and finally getting in the best shape of your life – mentally and physically – DO IT. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made. My journey has positively impacted everything in my life: my relationships, my career, my happiness, my confidence, my creativity…even my hair!!! It is longer and healthier than ever!!!

I feel the best I have ever felt in my entire life. And that is not an exaggeration.

The 7 Day Ab Challenge (+ May Workout Calendar)

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Hey guys!

It’s time for us to take on a challenge. You ready?

I want you to commit with me for 7 days.

Anywhere between 20-30 minutes a day. That’s it.

It’s the time you probably take to browse what show to watch next on Netflix. Or the time you take to mindlessly scroll TikTok for no reason. Or the time you take stare in the fridge deciding what to eat next :P

Do you want to accomplish something cool while getting stronger and feeling really good about yourself in just 7 days? Then this is what I want you to do:

I want you to commit to the #7DayAbChallenge.

Save 7 Day Ab Challenge

#7DayAbChallenge:

Purpose: To build and reveal your abs in 7 days!

Begins: Monday May 4, 2020

Ends: Sunday May 10, 2020

Length: 7 days

Daily commitment: 20-30 min

The Guidelines:

  1. Day 0: Save the challenge graphic and upload it to Instagram or TikTok and let everyone know you’re doing this! Make sure to hashtag #7DayAbChallenge and tag @blogilates.
  2. Day 0: Take a before picture or video of your abs.
  3. Day 1-7: Complete the workouts listed for the day. You can even film yourself doing these and have a cool progress video that you can upload to Instagram, TikTok, or YouTube at the end of the week!
  4. Day 1-7: Make sure to drink at least 64 oz of water a day for all 7 days.
  5. Day 1-7: Make sure to reduce your intake of refined/processed carbs (bread, crackers, cereal, pastries etc.) and replace with whole vegetables and fruits for 7 days.
  6. End of Day 7: Take an after picture or video of your abs and upload the results to Instagram, TikTok, or YouTube! Make sure to include the #7DayAbChallenge hashtag and tag @blogilates so other users can find the challenge!

Your 7 Day Workout Plan:

The workout videos:

This is the video that you will do every day for 7 days. The Waist Whittler Cardio Pilates is designed to melt the fat off of your abs.

You will then add on this video for days 4-7. The Beautiful Ab Sculpt is designed to bring out the definition in your abs.

Results!

Here are some results that just came in! I am SO PROUD of everyone who stuck to the guidelines and got so much stronger and fitter in just 7 days. It’s really cool to see the hard work pay off huh?

What if you want…MOOOORREEEEE???

If you want to be active for 45 min a day, but STILL wanna complete the #7DayAbChallenge, no worries. Here’s your May Workout Calendar :) I’ll also be linking the new videos to Coda so feel free to follow the calendar there if you prefer!

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If you’re doing the #7dayabchallenge exclusively, then no, there are no rest days. But if you’re doing the May workout calendar, feel free to designate one rest day a week. You can pick any day you would like!

Good luck!

14-Day Quarantine Workout Plan

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Umm, wow. The last few days have been pandemonium here in the US.

I went to Costco on Thursday and 3 huge lines wrapped all the way to the back of the store where the dairy was. People had to get in a separate line for toilet paper and water, and that line wrapped around the outside of the store. Oh, and I could NOT even get a single disinfectant wipe. Anything hygiene related was OUT. The worst part was, people were being super rude, pushy, and just plain nasty to me and one other. In a time like this, I feel like we should all be trying to help each other more…

So then I went to 99 Ranch (an Asian supermarket) hoping things would be better there. Lines were long, but they weren’t as bad as Costco…however…ALL THE RICE WAS GONE.

THAT’S WHEN YOU KNOW IT’S SERIOUS.

My sister told me that when she went to Trader Joes, the frozen food aisle was empty. Like, apocalypse empty! So eerie to see images like this…

And then just tonight, the Mayor of Los Angeles declared that all gyms and fitness centers be closed until March 31st!!!!

Well you guys, as sad as I am about not being able to go to the gym, at least we can still work out at home! The crazy thing is – just about 3 hours before I got the alert from The LA Times about the whole gym shutdown order in our city, I had already prepared a 14-day Quarantine Workout Plan – as suggested by YOU GUYS!

Download Plan

Here's what your 14-Day Anti-Coronavirus Workout Plan looks like:

DAY 1: Quarantine Cardio – See Demo

DAY 2: Anti-Covid Abs – See Demo

DAY 3: Sleek & Sanitized Arms – See Demo

DAY 4: Plump Pandemic Booty – See Demo

DAY 5: Long, Lean, & Clean Legs – See Demo

DAY 6: Empty Shelves Sculpt – See Demo

DAY 7: Social Distance Stretches in Bed – See Demo

DAY 8: Quiet Cardio – See Demo

DAY 9: No More Corona Core – See Demo

DAY 10: Couch Potato Upper Body – See Demo

DAY 11: Never Bored Booty – See Demo

DAY 12: Not Out of Stock Thighs – See Demo

DAY 13: Toned Unlike Toilet Paper Total Body – See Demo

Day 14: Stop Hoarding Start Stretching – See Demo

 

To get a 25-30 min workout in each day, do each circuit 4 times through! Give yourself a 1 minute rest between rounds to catch your breath and drink water. And make sure to check off each workout as you finish the day’s circuit!

I designed each workout to be apartment friendly so that you’re not driving your neighbors insane! So, no jumping! But I promise that you will still sweat and be sore the next day. That’s how we do.

Also, I will be posting the demos every day on my Instagram @Blogilates. So make sure you follow me there so you can see how to do the moves properly.

Please stay safe everyone!!! I’m wishing you and your family health and strength to get through this hard (and very weird) time.

Dear Cassey: How do I stop obsessing over wanting to be thinner?

By | Dear Cassey | 35 Comments

Dear Cassey,

I’m recovering from an eating disorder, but my doctor says it’s safe for me to begin to work out again. How do I find power in something that used to tear me down? How do I shift my mindset from working out as a way to diminish myself, to working out as a way to find my own power and grow some freaking muscle mass?!

Sincerely,

Recovering My Power

Dear Recovering My Power,

I want you to know that I am so proud of you for shifting your mindset from eating for skinniness to eating for POWER. THIS is what will give you the happiness and freedom you deserve. I am very excited for your journey towards recovering your strength.

As someone who overcame an ED, I can totally sympathize with the feelings that you are going through right now.

Look, in all honesty – this is going to be a process. There will be times when your mind will revert back to your old habits – obsessively calorie counting, obsessively weighing yourself, obsessively exercising – all so that you can get smaller and smaller and smaller. But this time – this is how you’re going to make it different.

You need to let go of control.

I know. It’s scary. But trust your body. It’s going to be just fine!

In this first phase of recovery, I don’t want you to focus on the numbers at all. You need a period of mental recovery from the numbers in order to build that trust you need between you and your body.

  • Don’t count your calories. Delete those calorie counting apps on your phone.
  • Don’t weigh yourself. Put your scale away.
  • Stop doing workouts that you hate. Do workouts that bring you joy.

I want you to set your “WHY” and focus on that instead of the numbers. Why are you on this journey towards power and strength? Answer that honestly, because that answer will help you make the hard decisions and conquer the tough challenges that will arise along your journey to recovery. You need to make it about something NON-PHYSICAL. This is very important.

To help you understand the importance of “WHY”, think back to why you got obsessed with food and exercise in the first place. Your “WHY” was probably something along the lines of “to be skinny” or “to get abs” or “to look like [insert name of some “perfect girl”]. Your “WHY” was so strong that you fell into an ED that spun out of control.

Now…I don’t want you to spin out of control again…BUT I do want you to dig deep and find a “WHY” so strong that nothing will stand in your way to regaining your power! REALLY think about why you’re so passionate about your new goal.

Though I love that you want to now focus on gaining muscle, I want you to be very VERY careful. Just because building muscle sounds healthier than getting skinny, making your “WHY” all about something super physical can lead you back to the same disordered thinking about your body…except this time you’re replacing the goal of weight loss with the goal of muscle gain. I want you to go into this new journey of yours with a new mindset – one that is focused on your mental well being FIRST. Got it?

Good luck on your new adventure Recovering My Power! You’ve got this! I believe in you!

PS – If you have a burning question you want to ask me, I’m taking questions via text at 510-692-4556. Currently this only works for US and Canada. If you’re outside of those countries, you can leave a question below.

Dear Cassey: Why does everyone look better than me?

By | Dear Cassey | 21 Comments

Dear Cassey,

I really need some advice on body image. I am quite short (5ft) and am naturally a bit more curvy looking. I eat healthy and workout regularly, but I just never feel good enough…on social media all I see are these beautiful/sexy/curvy/fit women and I feel like I’m doing something wrong. It’s like I’m not working hard enough, eating clean enough, or just not working as hard as they are. It has really impacted my self esteem and self worth…any advice on how to get over this would be greatly appreciated.

Sincerely,

Sad on Social

Dear Sad on Social,

You are not alone.

So many of us women are constantly comparing ourselves against the latest beauty ideals. Be it putting ourselves up against magazine cover girls, Instagram influencers, actresses, models, or the pretty girl in the front row of your yoga class – I guarantee that you’re not the only one doing this and you are DEF not the only one who feels terrible afterwards.

Let me remind you of this: Comparison is the thief of joy.

The less you can compare, the happier you’re going to feel. It’s really that simple.

But…how do you stop yourself from comparing?

First, it begins with you understanding that comparison is a waste of energy. Why use your precious energy to pick yourself a part when you could be using that same energy to build yourself up? We all have 24 hours in a day, and what we choose to do with our limited time here on earth will dictate how our future self will look. I choose to focus on me instead of focusing on other people. That’s the secret to getting ahead and getting what you want. I want you to CHOOSE to stop comparing. This is a choice you can make.

Secondly, please realize that what people post on social media is simply a portfolio of the best moments and the best angles they’ve chosen to share. That’s right – they’re not sharing the the tears, the exhaustion, the frustration, the anger, and the sadness that’s very normal for human beings. Why? Simple. It doesn’t get likes and engagement. So the social media algorithm has trained us to share the better parts of our lives.

Additionally, a lot of people hype things up and make things sound wayyyyy better than they actually are. (Trust me – I personally know people like this. I’ve either muted them or unfollowed them because I can’t take the exaggeration.) And then you have the people who actually photoshop their pictures so that they have perfectly smooth skin, teeny tiny waists, longer legs, skinnier arms, and enhanced butts. There’s so many free photo editing apps out there that can allow anyone (like even my mom) to make believable edits to a photo. So again – you cannot take to heart everything you see!

Finally – you mentioned that looking at other perfect bodies on social media makes you feel like you aren’t doing enough. I get how that can feel. So I’m going to ask you a tough question: Do you, in the deepest part of your heart and soul, think you are actually doing enough to get where you want to be?

If I asked you that question and you suddenly feel attacked or offended, then I think you know what that means. It’s tough to be honest with ourselves because when things are bad, it never feels good to realize that you are where you are because of well, you. But know what? The good thing is that if you got yourself here, you can also get yourself out! You are in control of your destiny. It’s okay to take a moment to feel sad or angry with yourself, but let those emotions be short and temporary. Once you start creating a specific plan for how you’re gonna get to where you wanna be – girl, you’re gonna be on fire! A girl with a plan and determination is UNSTOPPABLE!

That’s how my 90 Day Journey started. My goal was to get in the fittest shape of my life mentally and physically. I declared my goals, how I was going to eat, how I was going to work out, and how I was going to reflect daily. And you know what? It’s been over 100 days AFTER my 90 Day Journey has ended I’ve not gained back any of that pre-journey weight and any of that pre-journey timid mentality. It all started with me being brutally honest with myself.

On the other hand, if you genuinely and truly are doing everything to the best of your ability, then girl, you’re doing your best and I am so proud of you!!! That is all anyone can ask for!! YOU ARE AMAZING AND BEAUTIFUL!!!! If no one has told you that lately, I am telling you that now.

Listen, your version of best looks different than someone else’s version of best. Your version of happy is different than someone else’s version of happy. Your version of success is different than someone else’s version of success.

We are all made up of different genes and DNA – so how can we expect the same results? Biologically and genetically, we are different.

Accept your body for what it is and focus on the things that make you feel strong…things that make you feel skilled…things that make you feel happy. When you shift your focus from the physical to the internal, life gets so much better. And you know what? Sometimes all that stress from worrying about your body, makes your body stagnate in progress. Letting go will let things flow. And maybe, just maybe, your body will end up transforming without you obsessing over it so much.

Hope that helps Sad on Social!

PS – If you have a burning question you want to ask me, I’m taking questions via text at 510-692-4556. Currently this only works for US and Canada. If you’re outside of those countries, you can leave a question below.