The title of this blog post is the title of the book I am reading called “Can’t Hurt Me” by David Goggins.
For too many years, I have allowed negative comments from strangers to affect my emotional well-being and I need to stop letting people have control over me, my mind, my body, and my journey.
I’m almost done with the book, and I HIGHLY recommend you read it. I find myself literally (as in audibly) saying “YES” under my breath every time David says something that rings so true for me, but that I have been afraid to express for fear of being called names. His whole thing is “stay hard” and let me tell you – this Navy Seal is one of the hardest people I’ve ever learned about. He was a victim of child abuse, he’s run on broken legs (literally), has completed over 60 ultramarathons and seems to have hacked the potential of the human mind.
My goal with reading this book is to figure out how to not let other people’s opinions of me bother me. Like, why do I STILL give them that power? WHY do I give them the power to hurt me?
I hope I have an answer after I finish the last few chapters.
But one thing I do want to mention before I get into my meal plan for week 4:
I am sick of the sexism that goes into play when a female wants to be intense, be hard, and push her limits. Why is it that she is labeled “unhealthy”, “unrealistic”, and a “bad role model”? Why can a man do it and be inspirational? Why, when I do it, do people feel it’s ok to tell me to chill out and to focus on more important things, like being a mother? And, why do people feel like they can tell me how much to work out, how much to eat, and how I should be running my business and my life?
Honestly, I was getting so sick of all of this that I was about to just stop the blog posting, stop the IG posts, stop the IG stories, and just be like – kay, you don’t get to be a part of my journey, you don’t get the privilege of my transparency, you don’t get to taste my vulnerability, see ya – I’ll be back in 90 days.
But that would mean that I gave in.
That would mean I became weak.
And that is not what I am trying to do. I am on this 90 day Journey to get in the STRONGEST shape of my life physically, mentally, and emotionally.
See why defining your Why is so important? It was in this time of weakness that I NEEDED my Why. I needed my Why to tell me to keep going. And it did just that, so here I am, pushing on into week 4, trying t0 stay hard, and unhurt.
Week 4 meal Plan:
I am REALLY excited about my meal plan this week because it’s all of my fave meals from the past 3 weeks, tweaked to perfection!
I’ve decided to stay in the 1800 calorie range for now with all macros generally the same as last week’s meal plan. It’s also the FINAL week of my Month 1 Workouts! Cannot wait to write a new plan this weekend and get my Dexa Scan next Wednesday.
Looking forward, next month’s workouts will have less reps so I can lift heavier. Food wise, I will generally keep things the same (well, unless my Dexa Scan tells me otherwise) until the final couple weeks out, aka my faux “bikini prep week”! Still wondering…should I buy an over the top sparkly bikini, wear clear heels, and do a faux walk across the stage…at home!!?? OMG wait, should I get a fake tan? But like, not be a hot cheeto this time!??? Hahaha. WE SHALL SEE HOW DEEP I GET.
But I mean, if we’re gonna do this, we’re gonna DO THIS, right??