Body positivity. What EXACTLY does it mean??
I’ve noticed that the definition has evolved over time as the movement has gotten bigger and bigger. And in my own personal experience, it’s been frustrating to have my name and face conveniently thrown in and out of this movement by whoever wanted to make their point.
Seeing people tell me that I am not being body positive and that I am misusing the term itself makes me feel really confused. And to be honest with you, I had never actually looked up the origin of the word until a couple months ago. I just thought if I was loving my body, then I was being positive with my body. But it seems to be a lot more complicated than that. And you know what, if I’m wrong, I can accept that! But I’d love to know why, and that’s why I made this video.
It’s one of the most important videos I have ever made. Please watch.
Let’s step back in time for just a second. When I posted “The Perfect Body” – a video me photoshopping myself to reflect the mean comments I was getting about how I was too fat to be a trainer, 4 years ago in 2015, it really was to help me fight back against the cyber bullies and to help me heal from all of the negativity I was getting about my body. But incredibly, it ended up going viral, racking up nearly 14 million views!
It was really cool to see how many women and girls related to the pressure I felt to have the “perfect body.” National publications and TV shows like Good Morning America, The Today Show, CNN, AdWeek, People Magazine, and US Weekly began picking it up and my name became synonymous with body positivity. The crazy thing was…back in 2014 and 2015, body positivity was something new to me. I wasn’t trying to be body positive, I was just trying to be be me, teaching Pilates without a six pack. And somehow my undefined abs solidified my role as a “body positive role model.”
Now let’s step back just 2 and a half months ago. On August 16th, 2019 I announced that I would embark on a 90 day journey to to get in the best shape of my life – mentally and physically. This meant doing more workouts that made me happy, like dancing. This meant cooking for myself more because making food brings me joy. This meant blogging everyday to practice not letting other people’s opinion of me censor my true authentic self, as it had over the past several years of being on online public figure. Sooo what was the problem? Well, I announced some numerical goals for my weight and my body fat. And just like that, it was like the world burst into flames.
All of a sudden I was called anti-body positive, too skinny to lose weight, a promoter of eating disorders, an embarrassment to women, a disappointment to my fans, a traitor to my own brand, psychologically unstable, and best of all, I was formally “diagnosed” in the YouTube comments by a number of people who seemed to know that I was mentally ill and needed to seek professional help. Then the media got involved, as they always do, and all of a sudden there were a bunch of articles being written about how my 90 day journey was “controversial”.
The video above explores the history of body positivity and how it is being defined today. I interview a number of women from the body positive community, including the MOTHER the movement. I also had a super enlightening chat with a plus size model who’s ready to expose something crazy about the double standards in the plus size modeling industry. This is a MUST WATCH.
To me, body positivity means loving what your body for what it can do today and for what it has the potential to do in the future. Body positivity does not mean accepting where you are now and staying there forever. It means evolving your body as your evolve as a person. Change does not mean you hate yourself, it means you love yourself enough to put effort into growing. And guess what? Growth looks different on every person. Doesn’t matter if they are fat, or skinny, or whatever – if a person wants to grow and embark on their own journey in a healthy way, LET THEM. Let them define their own markers for happiness and success. You are not here to judge someone else’s journey. If you want to help someone feel more positive about their body, then you won’t make mean comments on the sidelines. You’ll either join the journey or cheer them on.
What’s your definition of “body positivity”?
Fit Journal entry. It was another Halloween party night. And me at parties = I wanna try everything. I pretty much did :)
It was a Wild West themed party that one of the companies we work with put on (they were very specific and passionate about the theme), so I dressed up as a saloon girl and Sam was an 1800s aristocrat!
Jackelyn borrowed my skeleton costume from my heels dance, and then wrapped a bandana around her neck for the wild west bandit effect!
Can you believe this was the CEO’s house!!?? He apparently spent 6 months decorating. It was INSANE.
He hired a small army of caricature artists, fortune tellers, makeup artists, a live DJ, a magician from The Magic Castle, a much of gambling tables – I mean WHOA. It was like a wedding but Halloween!!! It inspires me to know that my wedding doesn’t HAVE TO be the biggest party of my life…hahahaha.
Alright, now let’s get to the food.
24% carbs, 29% fat, 47% protein
1 chicken skewer, 1 egg thin quesadilla with Daiya vegan cheese, plus pico de gallo. This was more like a tiny snack 20 min before my workout.
15% carbs, 46% fat, 39% protein
Salmon, green beans, coconut aminos, and sriracha. I also had a small snack of sea bass.
PRE-DINNER SNACK + DINNER:
36% carbs, 37% fat, 27% protein
Before we left for the party, I made 3 egg thin tacos filled with sea bass, power greens, and pico de gallo.
I had salad, broccoli, mushrooms, succotash, baked beans, caramelized onions, jalapeños, beef stew and beef chili. I went back and got seconds of the beef chili because it was so good! I also snacked on some bacon and a mini hot dog. For drinks, I just had sparkling water with a squeeze of lemon as well as tea! (I don’t like alcohol!)
24% carbs, 54% fat, 11% protein
I had 1.5 gluten free apple cinnamon muffins!
Yesterday I came in at 1,946 calories, 140g carbs (28%), 90g fat (42%), and 144g protein (29%).
Ready to get back on track starting Monday! 17 more days. AHHHHHH!!!!