Whether you’re too fat or too fit, seems like you can’t win.
Hey guys,
You know, these days social media has been getting on my nerves. Specifically some of the comments I’ve been reading on Instagram and Facebook. Everyone seems to be offended at literally everything. It seems that people think they can tell you how to look, what to post, and then threaten to unfollow you because you’ve “changed”.
You see, I got engaged last year, so I always knew that making a Bridal Bootcamp series was in the cards for me! It was so fun to finally create the Bridal workout calendar for all my Blogilates Brides, including myself. I’ll be getting married to my fiancé Sam this Fall and I will be wearing some of the most extravagant dresses I’ve ever worn in my entire life! So…if you were wondering if I was going to do anything special in terms of my food and my workouts, the answer is DUH.
But turns out some people didn’t like hearing that.
“You’re such a hypocrite. Aren’t you supposed to be body positive?”
“Why can’t you just be happy with your body?”
“Why do you have to make other brides feel like they have to lose weight before their wedding?”
“You’re sending a bad message about body image with the Bridal Bootcamp.”
Ummm.
On one hand, I get that wanting to work out harder and eat better might make it SEEM like I don’t love my body. But the key word here is “seem”. Because body image is a state of mind, and you’re not inside my head, you can’t tell me what my intentions, my goals, and my feelings are. Plus, who ever said that you couldn’t be body positive while wanting to transform your body?
These two things are not mutually exclusive.
Here’s the problem you guys. I think we all know that fat shaming is not okay. And the whole body positive movement has been incredibly amazing in making that message clear. As I was gaining weight a few years ago after my bikini competition, it was so helpful to see other women embracing their natural curves, rolls, and cellulite! It made me love my body more. I also think it has helped to normalize beauty standards. Social media and the body positive movement really did us good.
But, there always seems to be a point where the movement and the message goes from creating positive change to then being misunderstood and then abused.
This is the case with skinny shaming and in this case, weight loss shaming! I’m glad society is finally learning that it’s NOT OKAY to tell someone they’re fat. But this doesn’t make it okay to say the exact opposite. You can’t choose to be body positive one way but not the other!
So when it comes to me wanting to work out harder and eat better for my wedding, can someone please tell me what is wrong with that? I want to work hard so that on my wedding day my skin is glowing, I feel confident in my dress, and I feel amazing walking down the aisle. So yeah – my body is going to change and yeah – I’m gonna love it.
Now let me clarify something. Just because I’m changing, does not mean I can’t also cherish my body at the same time.
Let that sink in.
Just because I’m changing, does not mean I can’t also cherish my body at the same time.
We must learn to love our journey at every micro step of the way. THAT is what body positivity means. Change in no way means self hatred. Change is simply our progress. All the mini befores, mini nows, and mini afters will be strung together to create our unique journey.
So if you currently have a problem seeing someone evolve, I ask that you look within yourself. Why are you so upset? Why are you so offended? Why do you assume this person (or me in this case) hates their body? That is a lot of energy you’re spending worrying about someone else when you could be spending it on bettering yourself.
So there you go guys! Main takeaway? Stop hating on people’s bodies and start loving on people’s character.
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Tony Robbins said it best. Progress equals happiness. It’s great to embrace your body and where you are now. That said, it is wired in us to seek improvement physically, emotionally, financially, and intellectually. The key is loving the journey and understanding that it’s one step at a time. Thanks for sharing your heart again!
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I agree
THIS IS 1000% TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Totally agree! Keep doing you! I love your videos, instagram, and clothing line! The way you approach exercise and health is so refreshing. Thanks for everything you do! Congratulations on your engagement 🙂
(posting this on Youtube and the site!)
Some of my favorite videos of yours are the videos where weight-loss isn’t the main motivation for the work out, the ones where you encourage us to stay fit because exercise helps boost your mood, or helps you challenge yourself everyday. One of the reasons I keep coming back to Blogilates is because you’re not all about weight-loss, especially in the videos you’ve posted in the last year or so. You’re about toning and getting stronger and loving your body even if it doesn’t fit some societal ideal. You encourage us to love our booties and not feel like a six-pack is the definition of healthy.
Exercise and weight loss seem to go hand in hand everywhere we look, I think we can easily forget that exercise itself is good for you REGARDLESS of how much you weigh. I’ve found in my own journey that it can be very easy for me to slip into an unhealthy mindset of counting calories, eliminating foods, working out super hard, all under the guise of “health” but really in pursuit of some sort of illusive weight “perfection.”
I would just love to see an empowerment series of videos specifically for reminding people that the journey doesn’t have to be about weight-loss, and that there are plenty of other health benefits from exercise besides losing weight.
Thank you for doing what you do! I’ve been doing your videos for almost a year now and this is the longest I’ve stuck with any particular trainer/program. You’re incredibly inspiring in your determination, skills, strength and ability to just be real. I can’t wait to see what you post next!
I agree absofreekinglootly!
Such a short and to-the-point post. Thank you. You made me realize what my problem is. Being overweight, I grew to love my body over the years. However, I still struggle so much with committing to working out in order to lose weight. My goal is to be in the healthy portion of the BMI scale. For myself. Because even if I am healthy now (almost 30 yo), I know my chances of being healthier later will increase with a healthier diet and weight. The problem: it’s really hard to keep loving myself when my goal is to lose weight. I sometimes find myself taking steps backward mentally. Not often, but once or twice is enough to make me refuse to follow through as I recognize that I am being too hard on my body (still talking about a mental state). Anyone else experiencing the same thing? Love
Cassey, thank you for your strength in this article! I have actually been going through a similar thing lately. I started the PIIT28 workout 3 weeks ago because I felt like my regular workout routine wasn’t challenging me or making me stronger. Why have a routine if it’s not propelling you forward? I started PIIT and I am already a pretty thin person and I feel like people are being constantly discouraging like “why are you waking up early to workout” or “you’re making me feel bad, stop trying so hard.” All these negative statements are making me loose momentum and taking away how I feel about myself. Thank you for sharing your story and the negative effects these social media “haters” are having.
I’m a 64 year old woman and enjoy your bridal videos and others. Been married 36 years and though I’ve let myself go a bit. I find you totally encouraging , Slowly getting back in shape. Though I don’t do as many reps and modify often. Keep upwhat you are doing.
Thank you!
I want to lose weight. I need to lose weight. And I’m working on eating better. But I’m also learning to love my body as it is, and THAT is what’s making fitness and losing weight easier. I want to care for it, and also feel confident and STRONG.
sorry you’ve had to deal with this, cassey! i loved the bridal boot camp series (and my legs are currently burning from just 4 days of the squat challenge!). there’s sort of a weird line with the body positive movement. i’m all for it and love it, but, it’s about accepting who you are. i think some people try to use it as an excuse to justify their behavior. we should still strive to be better versions of ourselves–not necessarily physically, but mentally, too. there’s nothing wrong with working out and wanting to continue to improve! i think you’re spot on … something you’re doing is making others reflect on their own issues, and they don’t like how they feel, so they’re taking it out on you. don’t let them get you down — this is going to be the happiest time of your life! thanks for all you do.
ps – you look AMAZING in that dress photo!
My wedding is in a year, and me and my friend are video calling and doing your videos together! It’s been so fun and i’m loving them all. I think that even if your at your very best, it never means you have to stop… if it makes you feel good and keeps you healthy, why wouldn’t you want to keep being your best and happiest self? I think the message you spread is great, not just for me, but girls for all ages. I first started fallowing you when i was in high school and was picked on all the time, you helped me tone up and get healthy in such a positive way that has shown me that loving your body is important and to never stop being your happiest healthiest self. I’ve grown up and moved out, i’ve made friends, gotten healthier and loved my body more since I stumbled on to your videos. So after a very long post… I just wanna say thanks. Your an inspiration <3 (Also congratulations on your engagement!)
You were just simply giving a new workout idea. Bridal boot camp may not be what everyone wanted but same goes for your love handles videos or cardio videos. You give it for your fans to pick and choose what they want to workout to. Plain and simple! I Love, Love, Love the Bridal bootcamp series and I have no wedding in the future. It was a great challenge and beautifully done!
Cassey! i got married 5 years ago and created a mini-bootcamp the month before my wedding just using your videos and motivation! you are a phenomenal human being and I have successfully gotten into shape AND felt better about myself just by following your videos.
As for all of this hate. Don’t let it get to you! People who are disappointed in their own lives will project hate at others….just keep doing you and stay positive!
MUCH LOVE, <3
you are motivational. I appreciate your youtube channel.
People who responded to your bridal bootcamp that way are people who just simply can’t think by themselves. If in a few years, on the month of my wedding, I love my body enough without any workout I won’t do the bridal bootcamp. And if I want to be more confortable in my dress I’ll just do it. It’s all about choices, and for me all the videos, the moves you propose to us every single days are advices, and help if we want to change our body. We have the choice everyday to just not follow your videos if we don’t want to, it’s not an obligation. And that’s the most amazing thing about your workouts. I choose to follow them and I love myself for that ! And some people can’t seem to understand the goal of your work.
I think that we sometimes forget that behind that screen you are a human just like the rest of us, with her private life and her doubts. So, just like you tell us every day to be confident and to not listen to others, let people talk and enjoy your bridal bootcamp. I’m sure you’ll be a perfect bride !
(sorry for my english, not my mother tongue and still improving ^^)
I have been thinking this since I started seeing comments on your bridal workouts. Like jesus, sue me if I want to be in better shape, for chrissakes that’s why everyone does pilates anyways. Sheesh. Talk about hypocrisy.
I see weddings/vacations/whatever as an “excuse” to be motivated to work out. Sometimes you need to work towards a “goal” to stay motivated and consistent. You’d work out whether you were getting married or not because that’s what you do for a living, but let’s be honest, the wedding factor adds some fun and motivation to it, and it is great for your audience to get that inspiration and motivation we desperately need from you. People need to chill out and realize they’re following a fitness channel, and as such content will be fitness related. I personally think this is one of the most body positive fitness channels I’ve followed and, honestly I feel much better when I eat clean and work out than when I don’t, but that doesn’t mean I’m always motivated to stay that way. When I don’t work out and I start eating junk, it’s a clear sign I’m sad and I need to seek motivation from an external source, like your channel
EXACTLYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!! 100% agree
I think its crazy that people seem to believe just because you want to feel the best you can on your wedding day means that you no longer love your body where it’s at. You can love your body and still want to change things, doesn’t mean the love isn’t there?!? Change isn’t scary or bad, it can be an amazing thing and I think people need to understand that versus what’s wrong with the idea of change. I am so happy that you are doing this boot camp because I might be getting married within the next year and I love boot camp style workouts! (:
People project their insecurities on you. Accountability seems to be something nasty these days. It’s easier to blame somebody else. I’m also getting married. I’m 38 and have 2 daughters. And I also want to be in my best shape. I don’t care if I’m making other lady’s insecure because I’m looking better day by day. Change is possible if you want to. If you don’t want to, don’t shame those who are willing. And thanks to you Casey I am making it work, I am at my weight from before my kids and healthy at that. All thanks to hard work and Pilates. I didn’t hate myself before, but girl, I do love the progress.
Don’t pay attention to judgemental people 🙂 Thanks for sharing
Great post Cassey
How you feel mentally and emotionally is 99.9999% going to affect how you perceive your body. Especially if you have body dismorphism. For example: if you eat poorly one day and don’t get good sleep and decide to workout hardcore and take a look in the mirror and do not see the results you were hoping to see, while feeling like poop because you’re bloated and sleep deprived, it will hit you way harder. Rational thought goes out the window! But if you sleep well, eat poorly one day, have an ok workout and decide to take a look in the mirror, you may think “Hey, I look less bloated than a few days ago and feel pretty good. Ok, I’m doing good!” I find I also look best to myself after a good nights rest, regardless of what I ate the day prior or what time of the month it is! It doesn’t matter if I know i ate way too much sodium the other day, or ate way too many heavy carbs that made me feel bloated. I won’t obsess ‘as much’ and will be loving to myself. This will in turn make my goals easier to reach. 🙂 That’s just my opinion and personal experience. But I do have a mental issue with my body. I literally do not see myself the way others do. It’s like hallucinating really. So I find if I get more sleep I truly see my progress better!
So true! There are so many judgemental people! When my family and I go places like the doctors office, etc., we get people who make fun of us because some of us like me are fat, but I don’t give a darn what they say about me. They should know better than others if they really studied nursing and doctorate degrees that certain illnesses and medications causes weight gain too.
The question, “What is being happy with your body, really?”, is what I think in this case. It is fine, absolutely if one has no desire to eat healthy and exercise. I’m absolutely sure that some folks can be just happy with their life and even their body with that lifestyle. But those people would potentially be unhappy doing the exact opposite because they do not get any joy from eating healthy and exercising. On the flip side, there are those of us who are happy with our lives and even our body while we choose to eat healthy and exercise. There’s nothing any more wrong with wanting to push your body harder and your discipline harder by changing your work out routine and finding a better way to eat than anything else that people take any interest in in their lives. A lot of people just think it’s ok to complain about someone elses choices regardless of whether or not they understand them because they want to identify with others who complain about similar things. Like unity coming from sharing a common enemy. We hear you Cassy. What is there for anyone to do? We could all complain to, and surely we will. But it’s all just a continuous cycle that we’ll feed. Just one of those things. The right people got you, that’s all that matters really
Hi! I had just found this blog… exercise… recipe website. I am loving the post, I think people just need to stop having a go at people for doing what they love. Do have any advice on how to get rid of double chins? Thanks! <3
I know what you mean! I actually just recently found out I have hypothyroidism and have been following your videos for years even before I had this and was very fit and good looking back then (almost 6 years ago). After I got that problem I had a lot of people tell me how I was fat and lost many friends just because I got fat. Now after I realized what was wrong with me I decided to make a change and be healthy or try to stay healthy. Eat less junk food, exercise, etc… For many years I have used facebook and decided to join a sort of dieting group to go along with my journey it all seemed fine until people started criticizing me for eating SALAD! they would judge me based on my profile picture that I still look fat without even knowing how hard I try and all the things I do with no avail to stay fit it really hit me hard to see people call themselves body positive but then judge others based on appearance or assume we are not working hard towards our goal, then on the other side people will also judge you if you exercise. One of the bad aspects of social media is that people want to know what you are doing 100% of the time, if you eat unhealthy food they judge you, I had people from this group stalk me and unlike random posts about food for whatever reason people are crazy sometimes, needless to say I thought to myself I have to stay positive with my body myself I have enough judgement from friends society and even myself to even put up with the terrible vibes of people I don’t even know! You know that you are working hard Cassey and the fact you care about being healthy is good too!
I completely agree! People feel completely free telling fit people to “go eat a burger” when it’s not ok to tell an obese person to “put the burger down”. Not ok either way. Worry about yourself. Unless their weight is too extreme either way and you plan to help that person get professional help, then you do it in a careful, helpful manner. I’m glad you said this Cassey. Keep up the amazing job!
I totally agree your comment. I have a fairly fit body but I still do a lot of sports. It makes me feel happy, more energetic and positive. I am not ashamed of my cellulites but I still do booty workouts because I like the feeling afterwards. What is wrong with having a fitter stronger body?? And also you are making daily workouts, givin classes, workshops etc. Then those people who criticize the bridal bootcamp should be critizising everything you do! Or any other trainers in the world. I don’t get the point of critizising one series of workout when you have 1000 others. So I wouldn’t mind the people who never gets the point 🙂
Hi Cassey,
I love you and the messages that you send on being a better version of yourself every day and striving to be the best that one can be. I love you for being in my life, even if it’s through a youtube video because you’ve done so much for me. I believe you have changed, but for the better. You’re more confident and well-rounded, you make sure we’re getting our workouts, but also send positive messages at the same time. I sense that you care about us. I feel people get the wrong message about you because they don’t know the overall picture, and I agree that they don’t see your mind. Maybe put a disclaimer before your videos, or after your videos, or even in the description box about how you are in no way judging or directing how people should live their lives, that you respect everybody’s choices or something along those lines so people are able to understand your point of you?
I really like this post because I totally agree! It would be one thing if at the beginning of your videos you said “You need to be a size 0 for your wedding, so you better do this workout”, but you don’t! You’re always so awesome, and I love when you say things like “So you’ll be happier and more confident” rather than “So you’ll look perfect because you’re skinnier/fitter.” You can totally love yourself and want to better yourself at the same time! In fact, wanting to become a better person (whether that’s work out more because of health reasons or something else), and doing something about that, means you love yourself even more in my opinion 😀
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be the ‘strongest, fittest, best version of yourself’ on your wedding day! It’s fun. It seems to me that people seem to enjoy being ‘offended’ about everything. Keep going just as you are. It’s fun! X (I’m a middle aged woman and have been married for 30 years)
Hi. Human creatures are difficult to understand. Don’t be cheated. Do what you think is right. Listen to your instinct.
Hi Cassey! You’ve just made clear what I have thought for so long. It’s the same as people shaming anyone trying to slim down in the summer. I’m going to Thailand in a few weeks and I have been working on my body so I can feel super confident in a bikini, when I’m chilling on the beach but this doesn’t mean that I don’t like my body as it is already. I’m just working on myself. I think the common misconception is that anyone who works out or leads a healthy lifestyle is lacking in body confidence but sometimes it is the exact opposite.
Thanks for everything that you do! You are such a fantastic person so don’t let anyone dull your sparkle.
that is so true! Working out and eating well means selflove to me which has resulted i a natural weight loss.
To say that it is a form of punishment to loose weight is only true for people that are already skinny. overweight people for example benefit from a weight loss that is done properly.
I used to suffer from binge eating, where I gained weight. This fat did not come from the joy of eating. It was pure punishment and a form of not treating my body well.
Then I told myself even though Idod not believe it inthe beginning: “I love myself”
After a juice I could liste to the voice of my body. I workout a lot,I eat healthy and my body loves it.
The weight loss journey started from a different point.I allowed myself to simply feel instead of eating.
Oh my gosh, thank you so much for saying this. I’ve been thinking the same thing a lot lately. I want to better my body, get stronger, and gain confidence, and sometimes I see things on social media going against that and even a few of my friends have made hurtful comments in the past. I can’t tell you how many times in my life I’ve heard, “you need to eat more!” or “You don’t need to work out; your body is fine the way it is! You’re so skinny!” The truth is, I’m not as skinny as people think, and I am a bit self conscious about certain parts of my body. What is so wrong about being fit? I seriously don’t get it. Thank you for saying this. Please never stop being you and inspiring others. You’re amazing, Cassey.
When I saw your Bridal Boot Camp my first thought was “SMART”. We all know (and are very happy for you BTW) about this new chapter in your life and this is great way for all of us to be a part of your special day! AND this is one of the great things about you Cassey is that you are always bringing us new things and that is what life is about … new chapters and new adventures. There are many stresses in life an getting married is one of the biggest so working out is a great way to reduce your stress while working towards your goal whatever “it” is. It is so easy to be stuck and negative. It takes courage to move forward and change. Thank you for all you do and talking about serious health topics.
Well-said, Cassey! I think the only reason why people are sensitive about the Bridal Bootcamps series is because the weddings in general can amp up stress in brides…there’s so much pressure in wedding culture to look a particular way, to be at your most beautiful, to have the most gorgeous experience, etc, all in one day. There’s so many messy feelings involved that some brides may feel sensitive to any idea that suggests they somehow should fit this ideal bride mold (see the person who asked “Why are you making brides feel this way…” Well, you’re not! They’re just feeling that way already!)
I think the ultimate point is, people look to your videos to improve themselves, whether it be body, mind, lifestyle, etc. People look to your videos to be the best of themselves, not necessarily because they hate their body. As you mentioned, change is always going to happen, so loving your body is loving and accepting it now matter how it changes – for the worse, as well as for the better. Your videos are a way to encourage that positive change, which many of us are so appreciative of and thankful for.
And literally? The only difference between your other videos and this newest series is the word “Bridal”. So all this criticism is actually a projection of issues surrounding appearances in bridal culture, not at all on you! After all, I was doing your other videos already in anticipation for my own wedding, and now that I have a thematic one to follow, I’ll be even more pumped! Heck just for aesthetics alone, I’ll even be doing it after the wedding! So keep it up, Cassey! <3!!
I just want to say thank you. You addressed a serious topic and I think you said it very elegantly. I am also loving the bridal boot camp series! It’s so much fun!! I’m doing the 28 day reset just for fun (not getting married…yet) but I just love the fact that you put so much energy into your videos. They make my day when I do them and I always feel even better about myself after doing them. I have learned to love my body and I owe most of that to you. Thank you. You are a breath of fresh air.
I think every woman should be able to do WHATEVER she wants to encourage herself to love her body and feel better about herself on her special wedding day. Whether it be working out harder in the gym or sitting on the couch with potato chips, it doesn’t matter at all! What matters is YOUR mental and emotional confidence!
I love that you made a bridal boot camp!!! And it’s supper excited to reach new fitness goals. Everyone is different and has different goals. Women need to empower women not tear down. If someone is on a fitness journey then you should support them and not judge them no matter what that fitness journey is.
I did your total body workout religiously for a year before my wedding. It enabled me to drop two dress sizes and when I look back on my wedding photos, I am so glad that I looked trim & fit on my big day. Does this mean that I did all your workouts because I do not love my body? No way! Two years after my wedding, I welcomed my beautiful boy to the world. I put on 15 kg in this process. Did I hate my body thereafter? No, because I brought a lovely little one into the world. I’m back to doing your workouts again now because I love how energetic it made me feel, and you make exercise an enjoyable experience for me. Forget the haters, and enjoy your wedding from the excitement of the preparations, to the suspense & thrills of the actual day . You & Sam are the stars for this special time in your relationship… nothing else matters!
You are helping sooooo many more people than you are offending. Don’t let those few project their problems/insecurities onto you. Get it girl! We love ya Cassey!
That’s just how people. They always have something negative to say (most of the time). There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to look your greatest in your wedding day. Even if you ALREADY look fantastic, there is ALWAYS room for improvement. That improvement might just be mentally too! So ignore all the negative and get ready for that special day!
So glad that people are accepting and embracing all body types, but at the same time we shouldn’t neglect to work towards a healthy body. I’ve been following your workouts and advice for ages so that I can feel proud of myself and feel fit and energetic, and you’ve helped me realize that I feel most beautiful when I feel healthy and happy. I tried all the Bridal Bootcamp videos even though I am not getting married anytime soon and they were so much fun and so satisfying. You’re an amazing role model and don’t let other people ruin your mood. xx
Absolutely C! You tell em girl!
People are so annoying and seem to be getting so easily annoyed or offended by anything these days. Im not a bride but I love that you did a bridal workout and think its a great idea. Im probably getting married next year and will definitely do it cause I love all your other workouts so a bride one is perfect. You are alway about being body positive and how to do exercise to get stronger, not skinnier.
There are always going to be people who complain no matter what you do. Keep doing you Cassie! Your an inspiration to us and your positive attitude is a great example!
Cassey you need to follow my lead by not listening or reading negativity. I stopped watching the news when they were glorifying protesting and encourage hate. Tina’s world is happy an free of unnecessary hate. Keep doing what you do. Your awesome and inspiring to this 54 yr old
Cassey, I didn’t find anything wrong with the bridal workouts and I don’t know why someone would. Anyways that’s just how it is this days. Some people are getting offended over things that should be motivational for them
Cassey! I think you are so AMAZING! I’ve been doing Blogilates, and piit for 2 years and I have always loved your cute personality and your positive, bubbly personality. When I first read a few weeks ago about the body shaming and bridal boot camp stuff I thought it was ridiculous. People really take it too far and get offended by everything now days. It’s reallu sad. I have loved all your videos, and things like the bridal boot camp. I LOVE the bridal boot camp! You just keep being you! I was so excited when you got engaged and am super excited for you to get married! It is so much fun ❤️ And you’re going to be such a beautiful bride and cute wife 😄 I can’t wait for you to post about it!
People think this is offending the brides. No! This series is supposed to be fun for brides. They should do it if they want to, no one is forcing them.
I want to look great on my daughter’s wedding day, I am proud that I weigh about 10lbs more than I did almost 40 years ago when I got married. It is important to be in good shape and health at every point of yr life. These days everyone has the ability to not speak their mind but let the whole world read it.
we need to learn to ignore it, at my age it’s really easy.
so enjoy getting ready for your day 🙂
You are literally killing it, Cassey. These days, everyone gets so offended by what other people are doing that they forget about themselves. They would rather call oppression than really work to make a healthy lifestyle. The whole fat acceptance movement is people that are unhappy with themselves, and they want everyone else to praise and embrace their unhealthy lifestyles instead of changing themselves. My point is, true body positivity is loving yourself, living a healthy lifestyle, and being happy with whatever small imperfections you have that you can’t change.
This is the best response ever & thank you for being you! When I was heavy, I never experienced fat shaming because of the particularly pro-weight culture I belong to. While there is nothing wrong with that and I am extremely grateful for it, the flip side is that I never experienced weight shaming until after I lost weight and became stronger than I had ever been. You were the person out there who continued to encourage me while I was being shamed by friends, family, and barely-acquaintances. Keep shining, Cassey, because there are girls out there like me that will never get healthy if they listen to the haters. We need someone like you to look up to.
You are NOT body shaming. When I posted a fitness selfie a couple years ago, a girl came after me saying that picture alone was body shaming. A lot of those comments come from a place of jealousy and insecurity. I love your workouts. I’m in better shape than I’ve ever been because of them. Please don’t give in to the fat pride bullies!!!
YES. THANK YOU! You do you girl, it’s been so awful seeing hating on your posts. I’ve been doing the bridal bootcamp series not because I’m getting married but because it makes me so happy to see you so excited about the whole thing! I’ve been following blogilates for around 6 years now and let me tell you, it’s changed my life. You will look amazing on your wedding day, there’s no doubt about that, but you feeling confident/great about yourself? That’s the real winner. Congrats Cassey x
There is a difference between treating fat people with respect as a human being and respecting that they are fat. The fat-acceptance movement was originally meant to tell people that fat people are PEOPLE who are aware that they are fat and shouldn’t be treated differently than others. They should be able to eat in public, wear the clothes, they want, and all around feel comfortable doing normal things in public. Is it NOT an excuse to treat your body like shit, eat anything and everything, not workout, and shame others who are actively trying to change their bodies. The whole idea of it that a fitness journey is personal and between the person and their doctors – not random people in the grocery store or at the mall. If you’re fat and your happy with that and not actively trying to change that, that’s fine, too. But don’t be mad at others for not being OK with it.
I don’t know why people are so surprised. You’re a fitness coach and a business woman. Of course you should take advantage of the situation. People are hateful because we are currently living in a society of whiners. Everyone cries and biaches about everything. No one can be skinny, white, straight, pretty, etc without the “persecuted” whining about it and vice versa. Just look at our president who takes up to social media to biach.
yep whining
I’m so glad you wrote this post. I don’t know what’s going on in the heads of some of the complainers, but maybe we just need to feel sympathy for them. Their comments are most likely a product of insecurity and discontent.
The whiners usually seem the loudest, but Cassey, you’re providing an amazing service that’s helping MANY more women out there feel great and regain their confidence. Your positive energy really brightens up my day!! Keep doing what you’re doing!!
I am honestly in disbelief that people really felt the need to criticize you for this!!! You are a fitness instructor, goal setting and transformation are a huge part of that! And you said yourself in your videos that the exercises are to become your most confident self when you walk down the aisle! Who wouldn’t want that? Seeing your husband-to-be’s face light up as you walk down the aisle feeling beautiful and confident is the best feeling. Keep doing you, girl <3
I absolutely love this! I have been feeling the same way about social media and some of the comments I’ve been reading and you really put my feelings into words. Yes, I can love working out, but not be anorexic or obsessed. Yes, I workout everyday, but not because I want to be skinny, but because I want to get stronger and because it makes me feel good! I have been doing Blogilates for 5 years now and Cassey, you really only get better and better. Thank you for everything that you do! I think I am finally ready to start PIIT now haha!
You are so AWESOME!!! I’m happy someone brought to light skinny shaming. It happens to me all the time and its really annoying. I dont need to quit working out, and I dont need to eat more. I’m healthy, strong, and happy. Keep being you lady💕💕
Thank you!!! I’m so happy to hear someone speak out on this. I sometimes feel like people use the body positivity movement to justify not changing anything about themselves and then feel good about it. Of course, change isn’t required, but it’s what helps us continue to grow both mentally and physically throughout life.
I agree with everything you just said. You can’t please all of the people all of the time. As a playwright and a feminist I’m always nervous as to how what I write will affect people, specifically, who is it going to offend? But we can’t live our lives trying to please everyone. Just keep doing you and following your heart/gut/head. You’re right, we can love our bodies and still want to challenge ourselves to grow. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel your best at your wedding. If people are threatened by you it’s probably because they have insecurities, trauma or problems with themselves and the way they’re been treated/they treat themselves, and they’re choosing to take it out on you.
The people who love you and believe in you understand that you’re going to grow and change. You are not just your brand, you are a human, and if we’re always changing, hopefully always growing.
I still enjoy your videos. Thank you for being you!
Oof sorry for the typos, typing this on my phone at work!
I truly appreciate that you call out these vicious comments. You are one of the most body-positive, mind/body/spirit positive, and encouraging people I have (never) met. You are a fitness instructor. From one instructor to another, your adaptability is what is making you a huge success. Bridal is just another offering that keeps everyone moving.
People! Wake up!
We love you, Cassey!
Weight loss shaming is the worst. I can’t believe people are putting you down for helping?! I started using weights and got a gym membership in 2016 because I was engaged. I wanted to look good and feel good in my dress. Although I did at the time, I’ve lost much more weight since then. I’ve had people say I’ve lost my butt (but I only slimmed down, then built my glutes back up in muscle), I need to work on this and that, I need to stop PIIT because I’m losing too much weight, etc. Some have even made fun of my pre-fitness journey weight, which still hurts even though I’m almost 20 lbs lighter. People just don’t think before they open their mouths. You’re an inspiration to me and you’ve changed my life.
Fantastic post and I agree completely. Why do they never think “she’s changing her body BECAUSE she loves her body”? Because that’s what I’m doing. I love my body enough to make sure it’s fit and healthy.
I think you are amazing Cassey, and you have helped me getting stronger and actually enjoying my workouts. You are so motivational and encouraging which i love! I think the bridal bootcamp videos are superfun and i don’t think you are body shaming anyone. This is a superimportant post, and i agree with your thoughts. It is important to love your body every step of the way! And it’s not okay to call anyone fat, but to say that someone is too skinny is not nice either. We should support eachother instead!!
I would also want to look my best on my wedding day, and if i can get to ‘my best’ through working out and eating better then that’s what i would do too. To feel comfortable and superconfident on your weddingday (and every other day ofcourse!) would be amazing, but ofcourse you could feel like that even though you haven’t been working out. It’s different for all of us. It feels good that you are honest about what you want do to to make you feel like your best self on your weddingday. For me it feels like you want to challenge yourself and get stronger, not that you want to be skinnier etc. Keep up the good work, you are my favourite workout buddy, so thank you so much for that!
Thank you for this great post, Cassey! You are one of THE most positive fitness YouTubers out there and that’s why I’ve been a follower for years and years. Self care and wanting to be your best self is an amazing act of self love!
PS As a fellow bride to be, I am really enjoying the bootcamp! It has AWESOME workouts and is also so pretty 😀
I personally love this series, even if I wasn’t engaged, I would still enjoy this. It is inspiring, just like you are inspiring. In the very first video you mention that it is supposed to be how you feel wearing the dress, and not so much on looks. Not just this series but all your videos are inspiring and body positive. I love them because they make the workout fun while encouraging me (and others I assume) to be a better me, and to love myself, and to concentrate on getting stronger and healthy and not so much lose weight. I greatly enjoy them. So thank you Cassey for what you do. Unfortunately, there are always people who want to pick at things. But I would like to personally thank you for everything you do
There are always someone who is going to take things the wrong way regardless of your intention. It’s a reflection on them not on what you are doing. You do what you want to do to make yourself feel confident. Plenty of women do all sorts of things before the wedding including taking better care of themselves regardless if it’s working out, getting a facial, or getting their hair styled a different way for their wedding. Everyone understands that these are for the photos that are going to be with you for a long time (hopefully). If it wasn’t important to someone then you can easily not bother spending so much time and money on a wedding.
You are very wise! I totally agree with every word. All my life people have shamed me for working out a lot and being in great shape and doing a triathalon at age 58! They all try to make me feel bad. But I feel great. They are to be pitied. They just don’t understand! Working out makes me ME. And I’m not skinny. I’m 62, need to lose five pounds, can’t work out as much as I did when I was younger ( I have systemic lupus,scleroderma,celiac diseases and have had lupus for 30 years)- but still loving life, still positive, still loving working out, going to do another triathlon in two weeks! I’m happy because I work out and eat right most of the time. I just need to take great care of myself; I know it keeps me at my best health and happiest pysically and mentally. So don’t listen to all the haters. Let them go. You’re the best!!! I loved all three piit28 journeys and your recipes and YOU. You don’t shame anyone or anything. If you wanna do a Bridal Bootcamp, go for it! Work it girl
Cassey keep on keeping it. Working out for your wedding is nothing new thousands of women have done that. It’s not body shaming is being able to accomplish what you want and enjoy your special day glowing. Please don’t let the negative get to you. Keep reaching for the stars and beyond. You are beautiful inside out. Why would someone assume that you are body shaming them (Unbelievable) . Some people have nothing positive to say about you so they make up negative things. Continue on your healthy and positive lifestyle. You are a winner and when I am getting married I will do your routine to get that body I want and beyond. All the best Cassey continue to be an inspiration to other may God blesses your union. One love
I don‘t know what everyone is mad about. There’s nothing wrong with changing yourself or trying to be better at something. Imagine telling someone „but you should like your intelligence as it is/your brain is already good enough!!“ because they are trying to read some books and get smarter.lmao
If these videos offend you DONT WATCH THEM. To all the haters go somewhere else to spread your vile. Cassey’s sites are all about being the best you and loving yourself during the whole journey. I’m not engaged and I have loved the series. Really works the entire body.
I did a bridal bootcamp dvd (there are sooo many out there, don’t know why they focus just one you) fr my wedding because, of course, that is the one day you want to look your absolute best. It’s taken me a long time to love me for me (no matter what my current weight) and I still struggle with it on occasion, but even then, I would never want to rid someone of a chance to be their best self if they choose to. I don’t understand why people don’t seem to realize nowadays that just because something like this isn’t for them doesn’t mean it’s offensive or ‘shaming’. It’s just one person trying to empower others and being kind enough to give those of us who want a change a WAY to change…
When I started seeing the Bridal Bootcamp videos, I saw them as another themed series. That’s something Cassey usually does, and it only made sense to do a series for this milestone. I think the decor and aesthetics are beautiful, and the workouts aren’t any different from the other blogilates videos! I think we should focus on working out with an instructor we love who motivates us! I love my in-person instructors, and I look forward to seeing Cassey’s videos for the day in the same way. That’s pretty magical! 💕
I don’t think you shame bodies at all but I do think that there’s opportunity to be more body inclusive. I don’t have any issue with anything you say or do and I actually think you have a wonderful message for women. I only wish that your workout line was made for bodies like mine. You can’t create a design and then just increase the design size to cover plus size. I’m a size 10 and bra size 36 ddd but your tops and bras just don’t fit. It broke my heart when I ordered six tops/ bras and they just didn’t fit with my body in mind and I think others feel that way too. There’s such a huge market right now in plus size bras and sports tops you should corner it. 💕
I don’t feel like you are body shaming. If anything you’re going to have bride to be’s that might want to loose weight and are looking online for any help. If the bridal boot camps will help out people then so be it. You are not forcing women into getting fit for their wedding. Women have brains and can think for themselves SHOCK HORROR LOL! So yeah, fab idea and a useful one if you are someone looking for some help if you need it!
I love the Bridal boot camp series! I am almost 40, been married for 13 years and I think they are fun! The background is beautiful and so serene! Your happiness is contagious-do not feel guilty about that. I recommend your pop program to woman of all ages and sizes because I think you are positive. Keep your chin up! You are doing great!
Jesus… some people clearly have nothing better to do than to be constantly annoyed. If you don’t like, don’t follow… why loose your time or someone else’s by posting something negative? I agree with everything that it’s said here in this post and I find awesome that you’re doing a bridal theme series. It’s just like inviting your followers to join you on this journey, I think! Thank you for your work and this post 🙂
Let’s just think they were having a bad day and just venting their frustration to negativity. For the rest of us who appreciate truly what you stand for, continue to be positive. Let’s spread the good vibes and shake the bad off. I remember smiling when I watched the first bridal video and yeah, only Cassey can turn an already exciting event tto even more exciting. Thanks for all you do.
Cassey- Congrats on getting engaged. As for the social media criticism, man have I seen this on every platform about every topic. My husband and I quit Facebook two years ago because of it and it’s been a struggle maintaining our other platforms because of it. Keep doing you and when situations like this occur, turn your comments off for a few days to purge out the negativity. You got this and enjoy every moment of your bridal boot camp!
I am currently not a bride, but I have really enjoyed the Bridal Bootcamp series. I love that they are 10 minutes long and focus on specific things. Also, our bodies evolve over the years. Mine sure has after becoming a Mom. The way I take care of my body now has changed a lot from 5 years ago. I like your new ideas and videos. It is always great to share new ideas and support one another on the journey – not tear one another down
You always have a smile on your face and provide positive motivation for all of your viewers. Keep it up!
Think it is important to be reminded that you can challenge yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally while still loving yourself on this journey we call life. I love all your workouts and appreciate all the good you inspire thanks for Blogilates
Hi Cassey, Being positive all the way, loving myself and everything you do. I have been here and there with you (in the shadows of the web) since the beginning of blogilates and I love what you have achieved. I appreciate that you fight negativity openly and remain the positive little sparkly star in our world 😉 Happy Wednesday my lovely.
Cassie, people will always talk and no matter what you do, you can’t please everyone. OMG! Not even God could please everyone – that’s why our world is so messed up. Love what you do, keep the positive vybz, work like a beast and look like a beauty. It’s YOUR wedding, and you are sharing positive, wholesome tips with others. There are persons who have issues (self esteem and otherwise) that you can do nothing about. Let them talk! Just continue being the success that you are. I don’t know how they can get the message that you don’t like your body. I believe it’s BECAUSE you like your body that you want to keep it beautiful and at it’s optimum. And just like we keep improving our character, our body is no different. Keep it up! Love you chica!
Love this
I love the Bridal Bootcamp series, even though I’m not a bride to be. I find them motivational and inspirational, not body negative in any way. Just as Cassey says: it’s posible to love your body but at the same time wanting to become even stronger. For me, it’s the same with jobs and other goals in life – you can love what you do and be happy, but still wanting to try something new or push yourself to experience new things. I hope that everybody finds joy and happiness in life and within themselves, we all deserv it! <3
I feel these days a some reader just want to ridicule others, make them feel less than they are or twist the intention that is behind the words.
Cassey, you have inspired me all these years and only thanks to you I can love me as I am and don’t just look at my shape, rather enjoy how I feel after your workouts. I’m 41 and I feel and look great. You have NEVER sounded as a body shamer, on the contrary you have always encouraged to love our bodies even with the muffintops hanging over those jeans. Thank you for your dedication, time, effort and unending positive energy you have during the hardest workout.
From the bottom of my heart wish you happiness, health and bless you. Keep it up you sparkling ball of positive energy !
Cassey, you helped me love my body when all I would do was look in the mirror and find fault after fault. You saved me from myself when I was ridiculously skinny but still not happy with what I saw. I love your messages and all that you stand for, keep fighting for what you believe in!
Hi Cassey. I totally agree. Everyone gets offended over everything on social media. People are so quick to criticize and put others down, a lot of times I think it’s just easy for them to blame someone else for them being miserable. I think you have a really positive body image, you’re always advocating to eat well and work out to feel good. It’s not just about looking good but feeling good also.
For me personally, I am about to turn 44, I have always been slim throughout my life, good genes I guess, but have copped a fair amount of nasty comments for being slim. Some people just don’t know how to mind their own business.
Keep doing what you’re doing, I look forward to your uploads every week, and love your workouts, they make me feel happy doing them! I’ve even been doing your bridal workouts, and I’m not even close to getting married, they’re just really good workouts. Don’t let their negativity get you down.
Here, here! I only started sustainably working out and eating well once i fell in love with my body. It went sort of like this: I looked at myself in the mirror and thought, you, lady, are so awesome, you deserve the greatest stuff. From that day on, I decided to take care of myself. Two years later, I am still eating well and working out at least three days a week, every week. Training has turned my body into an incredibly well-tuned instrument that allows me to do things I never dreamt of doing; it’s how I explore and experience the world; a world that’s become more exciting once I became fit. But my fitness has little to do with my size; it’s what I can do, not how I look that keeps me going.
Thank you so much for this post! I also feel like today, anything and everything is offending people, and they are comfortably sitting behind their keyboards so they feel like they can say anything, which they would never dare to do in real life.
I’m also getting married this fall (Yaaay!) and I think that it’s GREAT that you’re doing the bridal bootcamp, I’ve done some of the videos even though my dress is very simple just because it makes me feel good and feel positive!
I’ve always felt that you are a great example for us to accept our bodies whatever we look like (I even blogged about you saying how great I think you are a few years ago!).
I think encouraging unhealthy habits is the only thing people should be careful with (in the sense that of course it’s not ok to fat shame, but people should also keep in mind that morbide obesity creates health issues) and you always encourage us to get fit (not skinny) and feel good about our bodies.
Keep up the good work, you’re awesome!
Well, I agree with you Cassey that the body positivity has gone extreme ….but we don’t really see à Groom Bootcamp..and those Bootcamps are aimed for ‘looking good’ (which is why you get sole “but you don’t need tout workout” when your weight is average. We (you, gym trainers) should shift excusively to a mind & health. That’s what yoga does …but unfortunately it’s changing now…
Hi Cassey,
please know that there are a lot more people who are positively rooting for you. We just don’t always type in a comment, unlike the negative nancies that seem to have a lot of time to put people down from behind their screens.
I love exercising, but my body type is that which finds it hard to gain weight. For my wedding last month, I wanted to keep my stamina up for dancing all night, but at the same time, my partner pointed out that I seem to be losing weight. I had to limit my exercises and be more mindful of how and what I eat. Everyone’s body is different, and as you say, no one knows what we go through! They just see us through their own lens. So keep doing what you doing, cause your sincerity shows and their lens usually won’t change anyway.
Hey Casey. I just think there’s a bit of confusion regarding your brand and the bridal boot camp series. When I first saw it I made a snap judgement myself. I’d hate to admit because I like to remain non-judgemental. But I tried a video and I was like ‘wow this is actually really cool’. What I’m saying is females are brainwashed unconsciously into thinking that they need to look a certain way to be beautiful and accepted, your channel tells us that it’s OK to be whatever size we are and promote acceptance but still teach us ways to be strong. That’s Powerful. I think that’s the message that’s become confusing after the bridal boot camp as I think we as females want to feel validated in ourselves because we are all still struggling with our own body image and our identity around that. So having to ‘look a certain way’ for your wedding is a personal choice. If anything you should be proud of the huge influence you have on these girls’ lives. Please don’t get mad. Get what perspective I’m putting out there?
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be and becoming the best that you can. A special, once in a lifetime, event like a wedding is all the more incentive to be as beautiful as possible in the gown as the bride. People who criticize you for that are being silly. Try not to let them influence your positive generosity of spirit. Most of us who follow you are grateful for your online coaching. I’ve improved immensely and haven’t been injured once. Keep going and enjoy the heck out of this phase of your life!!!!!!
The desire of having a stronger and healthier body for such a special day of your life, doesn’t mean that you’re not “body positive”. It’s so easy to overreact and be sooo sensitive on social media. People understand only what they want. Ignore them and just be you, and continue doing what’s best for you.
You inspired so many popsters to be happier and healthier.
I was always a skinny girl and I still am. Body shaming happens also to skinny people, and even now, I hear comments like: “why do you even workout? you are skinny already !! Why do you eat healthy?? you need to put some weight! “. I’ve learned to ignore them and laugh because they don’t have anything better to do.
CAssey, I think your amazing! And what people tend to forget is changing ur body and image that benefits ur health, life and mood is good for you. People are getting to caught up in main stream media bs! To really remember or see the truth of things. What works for you may it always work for others and vise versa. And your boot camp for brides is a great idea… your are not shaming any one or telling them there to this or that all you are doing in give women the option “for their big day “ to walk through a new door in their life both with a person they love but with themselves and change or get fit or what ever there goal is to be amazing on there day. Hell I think a birth day boot camp would be great too so us women who are getting closer to 40 can celebrate a new age and a new fit or body etc… or any age 20,30,40,50,60,70++ or if ur a teen needing to feel good or whom ever for any reason… what I have learned is there is always someone or one’s you can’t please or will. So don’t . You do what you know to do and let god deal with the rest. When you are on the right track to things good in your life the enemy or haters or whom ever u wish to call it , will find a reason to come at you and discourage you. Don’t be distracted !! Stay focused stay true to your heart and believe in it and keep on keeping on… “we are worth a better everyday and tomorrow “ and what ever that means for people (each) then let’s go out and find it. Personally I can’t do working out, in truth I’m lazy! But I’ve always been thin and loved my body still do. I do need a tone here and there . And the reason I love you so much is finally I have found a women who isn’t perfect but is willing to be out there trying to make a difference and exposing her self to everyone and making it her thing to help shape others for the better. I can only watch your work outs u inspire me to want to stick with it.. lol don’t get me wrong I don’t tend to always stand on point with it, but I can come in when ever and work out or stretch etc and it never feels like I missed something. And I always feel 10000 times better even if it’s 5 min. And I love ur reaction during the work outs ur feeling the burn too.. lmao I have talked to you in ur videos like Casey girl ur killing me, what in the heck lol I’m literally laughing and yelling omg what in the world “it burns” or I can’t .. but I keep doing it.. short story shorter… u have a way to make it a part of a daily thing and not a omg I have to do this again.. at least for me. So go be proud of what you have done and keep doing. And love you like you do and as god loves you and rebuke and wash clean the negative that’s comes at you… there are more who like and love you then hate you!! God bless and have an amazing wedding!! And journey with love always Connie G
Cassey for me your a godsend. You have helped encourage me to try and be a better version of myself not to please the world and its haters but to please MYSELF.
You are a aura of positivity and happiness.
I always hoped you would do a bridal bootcamp and thought it was only natural that you would want showcase the fact your getting married and create a positive workout for brides (and none brides like myself lol).
Looking forward to your baby related workouts lol😉
Omg. Finally someone said it. I’m all for body positivity, but being positive about your own body means to look at it honestly and ask yourself if you feel good, if you feel healthy, and then to be able to take charge and make any necessary changes, for your own good and not to satisfy some social pressure. You are probably the most balanced and body positive workout bloggers out there. I love how you’re always stressing that working out is about health, about taking charge of one’s own life and about how everyone is able to achieve their goal of they set their mind to it. I’m not at my goal yet, but you are so encouraging and you make me feel positive about my body. If that’s not being body positive, I don’t know what is.
Personally I feel like it’s very sad that people find reasons to shame or criticize others. What’s the harm in working out and staying fit before your wedding….I’m pretty sure that I would work extra harder then I work now if my wedding was coming up and that certainly does not make me shallow or a changed person……embracing your body is one thing and staying healthy and fit is another because in the long run our healthy and fit body will make us live longer so their is no harm in working out before your wedding or after…..IGNORE SUCH PEOPLE cauz literally they have nothing better to do….
Stay positive Casey 😊
This is amazing. Thanks Cassey for your point of view. I don’t think some people will ever understand.
I like the questions you have at the end. These are what I believe people should ask themselves before they start to comment. Your bridal series is happy and motivating to some of us because of how fun you make it with creative themes and a smile that shows you love what you do.
Cassey, you keep being the positive light that you are. Please do not let those lashing out weigh on your heart. Know you are not alone in this. I’m constantly being told I’m too skinny or that if I eat a cheeseburger I won’t be thin for long…. your workouts have helped me realize how wrong those individuals are, and to just keep loving my strong self. So thank you for creating amazing work out programs. Keep up the amazing work<3
I love the bridal boot camp videos; they have become some of my favorite workouts. They are fun, creative and beautiful and intense. I’m not a bride to be but I liked the message behind the videos and I understood that it was just a way for Cassey to incorporate her important day into her workouts. The fact that people find it offense is not surprising though; unfortunately we live in an age where people are offended with the slightest thing. It’s honestly petty and we don’t need those type of people in our community of Popsters.
Your workouts changed my life. After my first born, I was nursing and couldn’t calorie count or diet. I felt stuck. Eventually I cut out flour and processed sugar and started doing some YouTube workouts. I lost a lot of weight but no one noticed. After doing your beginners calendar and then ordering your workout video, my body changed. I gained weight but looked so much slimmer. Everyone started commenting that I needed to stop losing weight. When I had actually gained from building muscle!! Now I’ve had my second baby and just started exercising again. After a few days of 10 minute workouts I’m already seeing a change.
Thank you for providing these workouts. Don’t let negative people put you down. It’s ok to want to workout. It’s healthy. It’s the right thing to do.
It made me so sad to read that you were crying 🙁 ….. Cassey, you are such a positive woman, with a good vibe, a beautiful person in and out, someone who knows what she want, happy, thankful, always smiling, helping others improve themselves, and the list goes on and on… It’s amazing what you can tell about a person just by doing their video workouts, lol. I love doing your workouts! It feels like a good friend is working out with me. You always make me smile. I thank you for that. Cassey, there would always be negative people, “haters”, that would look for a way to put others down. That only means that they have a problem with themselves, not you. If they try to blame you, then I say, don’t let them! No one can hurt you without your approval. Choose not to get hurt. You know that the things you do comes from your heart. You are a kind, loving and caring person. Never change!
You’re awesome, don’t worry about all the crazies. Your success speaks for itself.
It’s all about judgement. Those haters spew these words because they are judging themselves for not working out, not feeling good about their bodies, not accepting their bodies, maybe not eating healthfully, whatever. And, they are simply trying to make you judge yourself. So, what to do? Keep your barriers down and let the judgements fly at you and go right through like the wind.
I totally agree with you Casey! It is not a negative thing to want to be our very best during any season of our lives. Just because I want to be the best I can be doesn’t mean that I’m in any way shaming someone else who is perfectly happy with where they are at in their fitness journey. I’m so happy for you and your upcoming marriage! I know that you will be radiant!
Amen!!! Preach this all the time for women..
Well said! This is something I’ve noticed since the body-positive movement started, and it has annoyed me! You’re not body-shaming by wanting to be stronger and more healthy. You’re not telling everyone that all brides have to be thin! I’m fact, I think you’ve been really good at sharing your personal story with your workout videos of late. When I saw your Bridal Bootcamp video, I thought, wow that’s so great for Cassie! There’s nothing wrong with setting healthy goals and working hard to achieve them. People on the internet these days… just trying to find a way to criticize and not caring about hurting others.
Idk why anyone would be following a fitness blogger if they aren’t okay with setting weight&strength goals. They might as well tell you to shut down your operations completely. (Don’t do that!)
All of this! I’m a bride getting married in 12 DAYS. Omg what 12??? I changed up a lot for my body these past few months, and it’s because I want to feel GREAT on my wedding. As for myself, I cannot say “I feel increíble” when I’m eating poorly and not involved in a vigorous workout routine. Nope! I feel sluggish and horrible! Thanks for keeping it real Cassey.
Hooray for adventurous exercise called “ bridal boot camp”! Makes me appreciate all the magnificent ways my body temple works for me!!
Isn’n it all about HEALTH? It’s taking care of our one and only body by eating food that is the proper fuel for it and working out so it feels comfortable to bee in this body. Let’s except each others’ way to feel fit and Cassey’s way to help us to improve our health!
1st, Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! I’ve been married for 20 years. Heaven forbids if I ever had to get remarried I would be looking up a wedding day booty camp, honestly, after 20 years and 3 kids I need one! There is no shame in doing what makes you feel good to get ready for a wedding. Do you have a summer swimsuit boot camp? I need one of those for this summer! Oh, that could be considered body shaming too! Sorry, but seriously I really could use one!
You are an inspiration to everyone everywhere. I have been a victim of weight-loss shaming too. (but did not realise it until I read the word in your blog right here) Thanks for giving words to everyone’s thoughts. You are the best. Wish you a great wedding and a happy married life! <3
Thank you for sharing this post. It is so true. People get carried away without thinking anything through. They just react without processing. Life is an ebb and flow. We will roller coaster through so much. It doesn’t matter what others think, but how we feel about ourselves. People are quick to jump to extremes and forget there is an entire world of in betweens. People need to quit focusing on everyone else and look within themselves. I think it would decrease judgement if we all actually to the time to reflect on ourselves. Discontent usually starts from within.
Anyone who has been following Cassey for any amount of time should know that she has one of the purest hearts on social media when it comes to fitness influencers. Personally, I’ve been following Cassey for about 2 years now and I have not only had a physical transformation but I can’t even begin to describe the mental transformation I’ve had about my body simply from reading her posts and listening to her words of encouragement in her workouts. Cassey has always advocated for body positivity and has always said that a healthy body starts with a healthy mind. I love that she talks mental health and physical health because the two really do go hand in hand.
Another thing I do wanna say is that, WANTING to improve YOUR OWN body, does not mean that you don’t like your body the way it is at that given time.
Everyone has different ideas of what they want their body to look like in general or maybe for a specific occasion and if they are working towards a goal that will make THEM happy, so be it! Leave them be! There is no harm in improvement and there is no harm in staying the way you are… if you are happy!
To tie this all together, for someone to say Cassey has changed or that Cassey is body shaming because of her bridal boot camp is absolutely ridiculous and is a result of false assumptions.
And now I will leave you with this: If her bridal boot camps are a form of body shaming, then wouldn’t the summer body workouts or any workouts for that matter, be body shaming too??
The answer is no!! It’s absolutely ridiculous to think that right? All it is, is self improvement and a way for people to enjoy working out!
With all this being said: Cassey, I absolutely love you and what you stand for! You have helped me in so many ways regarding my physical and mental health regarding my body and I can’t thank you enough!
It seems like people will find anything to be mad about these days. You know you and what is best for you personally. Maybe working out for a wedding doesn’t fit in someone’s life 🤷🏼♀️ Sure… regardless it’s about what makes you happy, and no one should ever shame that.
Casse, you are amazing. People love to body shame others, and its a reflection of themselves. You do you, girl!! 💖💗💖💗 Much love from a big, Puerto Rican islander, fan. 💖💗💖💗 Keep being inspirational.
Cassey im so proud of everything you’ve achieved, those negative comments are from people too afraid to achieve their own goals so they tear down other people so no one achieves anything. Stay strong and keep inspiring the popsters!! Xxxxx
Yes!!!! We all have to look within ourselves first. Positive changes come from within. Alsoooo, just want to say that your perseverance, strength, courage, motivation, videos and smiling face have changed my life AND my mom’s. We totally work out together 🙂 so thank you for being an amazing human being 🙂
Love, Steph
Yes, yes, yes!!! I have been totally shunned by the “body positive” community because I am into fitness and I have lost weight. It’s LUDICROUS. They are literally telling people they don’t love their bodies if they are working out. Which is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. I work out BECAUSE I love my body, and I respect it, and I want to treat it right. THANK YOU for this and for not backing down to people who are projecting their own insecurities on your intentions.
When I developed type 1 diabetes 7 years ago (at the age of 35), my weight dropped from 135 to 95 in a month. I’m 5’4″. Thanks to my disease, I struggle every day to stay above 120lbs. For 7 years I’ve heard nothing but snide “skinny girl” jokes and received tons of “skinny shaming”.
I don’t understand why body shaming isn’t okay for one size but is okay for another.
If we took all that negativity and turned into love and support for one another, imagine what kind of world this would be!
Do you sweetheart. Let the haters hate.
Hit the nail on the head. Girls are so nasty and mean. Because you love your body, you want to take good care of it. It’s called good stewardship. God tells us that our body is a temple and we are his creation. Therefore, we are to take good care of it. Hatred towards those of us who take care of ourselves is really just self-hatred. They blame others for their own insecurities. Don’t let it hurt you! This whole PC/SJW movement is out of control. Just keep being you Cassey! I love your work outs, and I love your character. Don’t change because of some haters. They weren’t really committed if they resent you for taking care of yourself and inspiring others to do the same. Keep being you!
People are ridiculous. Cassey, you are so right. You can love your body but want to make it stronger and better. Those who don’t understand that need to open up their minds. Like someone else said, it probably just means that they are not confident in themselves and feel the need to lash out on you. And that’s sad.
I admire you for your articulate response to negativity. Your brand is inspiring! I see you as a positive person who loves fitness and you share with us how that resonates with you and it’s great!
Hell yeah! Great quotes and thoughts! I hate that people feel free to write everything that is going through their minds!
You’re amazing at what you do Cassey & thank you for continuing to do it no matter what the haters say!! I grew UP as the obese kid! And even though now I’ve lost weight and look great – and still want to make more personal progress; I also get people who seem to be “uncomfortable” just because I’m taking the healthier route and they’re not. Seriously. Bc I chose a salad, people are like OMG ARE YOU TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT?!! Well shit MAYBE I am or MAYBE salad is 100% healthier and makes me FEEL good no matter what my weight is. People always have something to say! I love your bridal workouts the whole theme was adorable & I’m not a bride and I can still appreciate it. You’re not body shaming- people are just too damn sensitive!!!! Love you!
Right on. Reverse shame is still shame.
I think we need to analyze why we are rash to judge. “Self Aware” and “Supportive of Things that Aren’t About Me” need to be movements.
I admit that when I saw the bridal series, I felt left out. Then I said, “Hey, this isn’t excluding me. I am just having my own reaction.” And then I did that ab workout and thought it almost killed me; so, indeed, the bridal boot camp benefited me – a non-bride. And I love how excited you are about getting married. Your workouts address the inside and outside and beyond.
Thank you for being a sensitive, deep thinker.
Keep on, sis.
As a YouTuber, but in the Christian sphere, I get the exact same ridiculous, hateful comments – and they’re usually from other women. Just today I received a hateful comment from a woman saying I couldn’t wear my wrap dress because my boobs weren’t perky enough. Could you imagine having the nerve to say something like that? Rude!
I really dislike the body positivity community – and I’m not thin. It’s another movement of “don’t tell me that I need to change. Let me be a perpetual victim”
Nobody can force you to feel bad about themselves. When women complain that you’re body shaming them by simply existing and providing boot camp, what they’re actually saying is, “don’t take away my excuse for being overweight on my wedding.” And for the record, I was in a size 16 wedding dress, so I was not thin and can still see through all the victimhood stuff these complainers are projecting.
You go girl!
The”don’t take away my excuse” bit is priceless. Spot on!
Well said!
Agree totally!
I totally agree, people these days always like to hate on others EVEN when there doing something that is good for themselves and sometimes inspiring others while doing so! I honestly think some persons hate/ twist positive movements or motives because they do not have the strength and courage to go out and help themselves. You go Cassie! And make sure you walk down that I’ll feelin’ like a trillion bucks👊💪❤
I think that anyone who has followed your posts or viewed your workouts would understand that your intent for the bridal bootcamp workouts is positive. There is absolutely nothing wrong with pleasing yourself. You have never said that everyone should participate, or that people should be ashamed of how they look. I am 66 years old, and I am still trying to improve how I look. It is just a personal choice. I exercise everyday, and when I really don’t want to, there are certain workouts I will turn to. Your ab workout is one of those because of your personality, for I feel encouraged while watching and listening to you!!! I appreciate your work and your sharing your workouts as you do.
I totally agree!! Also, I think you should write a book!! Not just a workout and meal planning book. But a book about you and your journey to who you are now!! I would love to read it because you give so much insight into being a strong, confident boss woman!!
Thank you, Cassey! You’re so right! Everyone is in such a hurry to be offended, and I’m so glad you made the point that you can’t have it both ways. Why shouldn’t you want to be your strongest you and feel your best on your big day??? I love that you said it’s about loving your body at every stage–whether that’s being okay with how it is or wanting to be stronger or healthier.
Thank you so much for sharing! I think you’re right on about advising people to worry more about their own internal state of mind instead of judging and over analyzing yours.
Cassey, I am also getting married this fall and I was so thrilled to see bridal videos being created! You’re absolutely right, working out goes so much deeper than creating a specific look… it improves your confidence and just overall makes you feel good. I’m very disappointed to read there has been negativity towards you recently. I don’t understand where those people are coming from other than maybe their own insecurities. Thank you for all you do, I really mean that!
Yes! 💗💗💗
So glad you feel confident and good in your own skin to let this all out and shut up the shamers. Honestly, they are body shaming you for wanting you to improve and want to be at your best for a event you want to remember for a life time. And who cares if someone wants to get better just for one date. I think any reason to want to improve yourself is positive, wedding or not. You go girl, you tell me how it is and dont pay attention to them. This is my first comment on here although I’ve followed you for years (currently mid way through Piit 3.0 and i LOVE it), but I want to show you that I support you and that you are amazing. AND YOU LOOK SO GOOD IN THAT DRESS!!! I’m sure its not THE one your wearing to the wedding (i know your going to keep it a secret til the end) but I LOVE THAT ON YOU. I will be pinning this picture to my pinterest.
I just wanted to say that I really needed to read this! I started weight watchers again in December and have been using my workout routine. I feel like it was the first time that I actually feel fit and athletic. And now everytime I turn around I feel like someone is saying something about my weight loss. I’ve been letting it get to me and think what’s wrong now?! It’s very frustrating and disheartening when you feel proud and healthy that the negativity of others takes some of that away. I keep reminding myself that other people do not make me feel bad. I allow others comments to make feel bad by letting their words have more weight than my own. Thank you for this article. I’m glad I am not the only one that sees this issue!
SMH I cant with people sometimes. When my friend was getting married she started to workout more just so she could feel good about herself on her big day, any other time she did care to say the least lol. But really people need to understand that there are other brides-to-be that are doing the very same thing Cassey is and that there is nothing wrong with that! People are focusing on dumb stuff rather then real problems.
Yes! And, working out helps manage all the stress of wedding planning! If you’re someone who always works out, why STOP right before your big day?,
Cassey, you are terrific and you have done so much to help women be healthier, happier, stronger and more powerful. The naysayers can go jump in a lake! I have followed you since 2012, and you always make everyone feel welcome and wonderful. I know the trolls can be hurtful, but please know you have plenty of fans. I agree with the comment below, from Divania: “their nastiness says a lot more about them than it does you.”
Thank you!!! I sometimes have people act as if it’s okay to try to shame me for being slim and working out. I suppose it’s their choice to be mean. I usually just turn it around and ask if they want to join me in my fitness journey. Then if they try to be self-deprecating, I remind them that it’s not nice to say negative things about their weight and other people’s weight too.
I commend you for taking care of yourself and evolving in a healthy way…. And sharing your workouts with us for free!
Isn’t that so unfair?? Some days for me, it’s so hard to find motivation when people poke fun at my workout routines and eating habits. I’m just trying to put in the authentic work to better myself, and they don’t understand it for what it is: WORK. You keep on keeping on!
Or, how about people stop worrying about others and worry more about themselves.
You go girl! I totally agree with you and you’ve been a boss and inspiring since day 1 … keep doing you and I hope you feel fabulous on your wedding day! <3
I hear ya girlfriend. I just got hitched and I just wanted to be my ‘best self’. A healthy lifestyle and the recommendations from my own government in Aus, is literally everything you’re doing – healthy physical active lifetsyle, including muscle strengthening exercises and healthy eating. Sorry you weren’t feeling the love here. You have a great message and good on you for being bold and clearing up the confusion when you didn’t need to!
Thank you for saying this. Totally agree that there is nothing wrong with wanting to eat better or work out differently. People are ridiculous, and their nastiness says a lot more about them than it does you.
Ugh don’t get me started on people being offended by EVERY. LITTLE. THING!! As if most women don’t start fad diets or extreme workouts before their wedding day! This is just you showing them a healthier approach to that same thing. This is your career but this doesn’t make you exempt from also having the same goals as most women before their big day. I personally think that if I had your body I wouldn’t even try to change it because I think you look perfect already, but it’s your body and your big day. You have every right to want to try and look your best (even though you already look fabulous.) xxxx
love you Cassey keep being YOU !!!!
Hi Cassey,
I don’t think you’re body shaming at all!! You are promoting health and making people want to feel beautiful. It’s always the matter of how the readers look at it. Everyone has their own opinions and it is just their opinion. They are not wrong/right for having opinions, but it is a matter of how we take those opinions. We can choose to like, hate, or ignore them and that is our choice of how we want to take those opinions. (So, in other words, don’t take them personal)
Don’t stop doing what you do, I admire your motivation and positive vibes. If anything, you make us ladies (or men for those who watch the videos) want to feel healthy and beautiful, inside and outside. If anyone else complains, let them complain. Just DON’T stop being yourself because of what people say. Your heart is in the right place and that is all that matters.
FYI to me: Bridal Bootcamp means Bootcamp class to make the bride feel her best on her special day. (I know for my wedding day, it was very busy and I needed all the energy I can get for that day. Come one, who wants to feel tired on their special day? )
Cheers,
Lisa
Chestermere, AB in Canada
I would have to agree with you Cassey!
Honestly I think this is more a macro problem with society right now. We’re all grumpy, tired, overworked or scared for our futures in this current timeframe. There’s so much uncertainty and instability for so many people around the world right now (looming wars, food shortages in places like Venezuela, defunding failing schools, racial tension, distrust of governments, growing income inequality etc etc etc!). So the stress is bound to show so I’d just try to show empathy because anyone who saying that to you probably isn’t killing it at life right now :/. I’ve been following you forever and even met you once! You seem thoughtful and kind so just do you, and when the world is a more optimistic place again, people will come back around 🙂
Casey, darlin, they are all just jealous of u and your beautiful body lines.
THAT dress on you is STUNNING!!!
I absolutely love this post, thank you Cassey for once again addressing that people can both love their bodies while working out and exercising. Exercising because one hates their body is extremely unhealthy, but seems to be the main motivation for many people. So when they see workouts, they are self hate, not self love and appreciation. I workout because I love my body and want it to be healthy, and yes, I do want to lose a little weight. BOTH!
I’ve experienced fat shaming. It was horrible and demeaning. And I have experienced thin shaming, which to me (and just me!) was worse. Why? Because I worked extremely hard to get my body to a healthy weight, and I loved every minute of it because I felt so good after a workout! But some toxic people in my life (friends sadly) took offense to this. They saw it as a personal insult to their own body weight, comparing themselves to me, suddenly forgetting how long and hard I worked. And finally, insulting me, repeatedly. They jokes because they were jealous, and I became angry and confused. What exactly do you want from me? I’d even offered to take them to the gym with me and teach them my routine whenever they mentioned wanting to exercise too, but they refused. And at the point where results where showing, my skin was glowing and my mental health was at its peak, they wanted to strike it down.
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. People don’t believe in fit shaming because we are so used to fat shaming, but turning against a different type is just as loathsome.
So anyway! Thank you for addressing this, and I am sorry that so called fans would try and make you feel bad for doing something you love.
You always look gorgeous. All popsters do. Much courage and love to all! Yay!
❤️
Social media is the worst and I’ve mostly deleted the majority of my accounts for this reason. I’m sorry that people are making you feel this way, and it sucks that people can’t just follow the simple rule of “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all!” Body positivity should embrace all sizes and health and fitness levels. If we can’t support each other, especially as women, that’s really sad to me. Thanks for continuing to be a positive voice in the fitness community, and I hope you don’t let the haters get you too down!
I think you’re truly awesome, you’ve made me realise that I don’t want to get skinny I want to get strong and healthy. Your vitality and strength not just in body but in self shines through in your videos and I want to emulate that. It’s not about changing you it’s about caring for yourself. So thank you for being a voice for body positivity, health and strength!
Мy niece got engaged a few days ago, Casso Ho to declare this for herself. I do not know if she will train on the bridal calendar but when I showed it she was very excited. In order to offend others from this workout program, it means that they are not involved with what they are excited about, the positive-minded to change precisely the purpose of a particular day that is unique to two people who love and want to show everyone else that , tied to the wedding celebration.
Any change related to the wedding day should be joyful and exciting. You should not be offended by the fact that it’s good to be more beautiful than usual on the wedding day. Besides, beauty is subjective, but there is nothing wrong with training for some purpose.
P.S. I used translator . Sorry if there any mistakes suck as in the name of Cassey Ho* .
Ok. there are few more mistakes but i’m sorry. I can’t edit it. There is not an option about it.
Such* … Although I have never been married and mature, it is not offensive to me that the calendar is not said, for example: D “training for old girls”. It’s pretty stupid for someone to be offended just for the sake of training, rather than being grateful for this wonderful opportunity to take advantage of these well-chosen exercises. For some people, all sorts of reasons, including “offensive” names of training, apparently for an excuse not to care for the health of their body. Indeed, no matter how subjective beauty, the choice for workout is personal.
I prefer to celebrate with happy people rather than hatters. Strenuous days are a reason for joy and not for reproach to those who want to be special in some way exactly on such a day as the wedding.
Why do people need to be offended by bridal workout videos?? Is it just because it has the word “bridal”? Are they also offended by regular workout videos? That’s ridiculous. The only reason they’d have to be offended is because they have nothing better to do or just because they don’t workout so no one should want to.
Pretty much! So much criticism roots from unhappiness. But the sad part is I derive a lot of happiness from the workout community blogilates created, and I don’t want to see that negativity when I’m doing what makes me feel good!
I totally agree Cassey. I think people take the ‘shaming’ outlook way too far. It took me a long time to love my body for every part of it and be able to look at my insecurtites and still think, “Yep, I’m amazing and I still love myself” but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to continue to maintain my body and health? Surely just because I’m happy with the way my body looks, doesn’t mean I begin to neglect it by not exercising and eating healthy just because I’ve ‘gotten where I’ve wanted/ needed to be’ ? Surely we want to be the best versions of ourselves and keep pushing ourselves and our health? To be better and see what are capable of and get STRONGER ? I don’t know why this baffles so many people, perhaps they haven’t thought about that way. Or perhaps they are just not open minded enough.
I saw a quote somewhere that was something like this…”I don’t work out because I want to love my body. I work out BECAUSE I love my body.”
So that’s what I started telling people when they make comments about how I eat or about my workouts.
EXACTLY!!!
People are so ignorant. I came into the world of fitness already loving myself but wanting to be a better version of myself. I’ve been bullied for my weight all the way until the 8th grade and it doesn’t feel good. Your videos are what inspired me to want to work out while having fun and then i started using weights to build arm strength for pilates. I started dropping weight from (200 to 170). Now I’m dealing with wanting to exercise all the time it’s not healthy and people harassing you will cause damage your dress is beautiful stay confident
I am so glad this was said. I feel like I’ve been seeing this more and more. You can love yourself and still wanna change. Congrats on the engagement Cassey
I have lost a lot of weight in the last 2 years, almost 100 pounds! I now weigh 103 pounds and I’m working on building some muscle because you inspired me to do so! You also inspired me to work towards being healthier and feeling good about myself! I am grateful for that and I can finally say that I am at peace with the way I look and I’m confident about myself, not just my body. Now, before I lost weight people used to give me compliments and praise my curves but it wasn’t okay for me, so I changed. Dealing with the amount of negative comments I get about being “too skinny” is horrible, people treat me like I am sick. Shouldn’t positivity be something each and every one of us finds within ourselves? If I see someone working hard to improve themselves I can only give praise for taking a step forward towards being their best self!
Cassey,
Thank you for sharing your feelings with us. I completely understand that you’re confused and maybe sad. I don’t understand at all why people talk about these things, why they even think about them. You made for US the Bridal Bootcamp and that doesn’t mean that brides should lose weight. It’s made for popsters/blogifam that followes your workout calendar. I suppose that this just has to control that brides work out everything and not just a one part or muscle, so you have everything shaped. Don’t take them too seriously, there still millions of us that love you still the same and understand that you didn’t meant anything bad by doing your job/passion.
Sending you lots of love from Czech republic,
Kami
You are totally right. It’s about how YOU truly feel about yourself. If I like my body completely, no matter what size it is, that’s wonderful. But in opposite way supporting is as much needed as being body positive. But it can’t be pression too. It’s about feeling positive, not just body positive.
You are totally right cassey. I live you
Well said Cassey! I was ALWAYS the skinny girl growing up and people would skinny shame me for it. Shame is still shame and it’s not okay – whatever what the body type is. Please continue to speak up about this.
I totally agree. I was not skinny but I loved running and was always in great shape. People didn’t like how I ate ( just was never into a lot of carbs) either. People will always find something to try to complain about if they themselves are miserable. The shakers and complainers are to be helped/ pitied- they are so unhappy with themselves. It’s not us it’s them.
Love this so much!! All we hear about is “fat” shaming but “skinny” shaming is very real to. 💕🙌🏽
Most people who say comments like that only say them because they feel threatened by your own potential. They see you bettering yourself as a big sign telling them too to do that and so they feel attacked and start attacking you instead.
I agree with marinaa, it may be hard to ignore what they say when they attack you casey but be strong just like how you’ve been in your workouts and don’t let what they say sink in to you. Keep up your goals and you still have like me that supports you and love your motivation for us to transform our body. Please don’t change and keep your positive attitude all the time. We love yah Casey!
Yes girl! Exactly!! Also I’m so glad you made the bridal boot camp. I searched high and low for a bridal inspired workout and couldn’t find one. It was needed. I lost 40 pounds for my wedding and boy how people talked. I got told I was too skinny and that I was anorexic. I just wanted to be my best self for the best day. (Oh and by the way my BMI was healthy)
I just viewed your insta story and came here. I answered “yes” to being fat shamed, skinny shamed, and weight loss shamed because I have been shamed for all. Working out and eating healthy will change your body no matter your starting weight. You cannot be a healthy person without a decent diet and without movement. You can love you body and change it at the same time. Those are FACTS. No arguements. The human body was made to move. That’s why we have joints, muscles, and that’s why our body’s must taken in nutrients to be turned into fuel. To move!!!! It’s only glorifying and appreciating your body to work it and push it to a new level. Another bonus is that 50 years from now when you are showing your wedding photos to your grandchildren, it’s yet another teachable moment to say “This was me on one of the greatest days of my life. I felt confident, strong, and ready for the future”. Being healthy only brings blessings when done correctly. Cassie, you have been a part of my journey since I found you in 2012. I would love to meet you one day and hug you because you have enriched my life every single day since.
Thank you so much for this!
Just the other day someone commented on one of my recent pictures, and told me I was too skinny. I’ve recently changed my lifestyle/diet to plant based vegan, so I lost a few pounds, but I feel great. I’ve changed my eating habits due to some health issues, and now I feel a lot better than I have felt in years. I am currently on a mission to healing myself with “food being my medicine” and I have been working out using your videos 6 Days a week. I enjoy your workouts and uplifting tips. But this “Too Skinny” comment has made me feel some type of way, for the past few days I’ve been thinking maybe I need to workout less, maybe it will help me gain a few pounds. Then I realised, what?? Wait a minute, you can’t let a “Skinny” comment get to you.
So thank you so much for this, you have once again uplifted me. Thank you Cassy!
The weight loss shaming is definitely the MOST ANNOYING thing I’ve come across and it drives me insane. Making the decision to start taking care of yourself to not just feel better in your own skin but feel happier and healthier overall is such a positive decision that should be celebrated! But the shame I can’t help but feel when I eat a salad in front of certain friends and I hear the same line over and over —’How do you even get full with that? Salads are so gross’ just makes you feel so uncomfortable and kinda isolated. Especially when I’m feeling so proud cause I spend waaay to much time making salads that I know will taste really good and satsfying.
Thank you so much Cassey for this post and making all women feel empowered and bringing us all together in such an amazing way :)) so much love; ignore all the haters who think that cause it’s the 21st century everyone has a right to get offended by EVERYTHING. Haha 🙂 <3
I’ve been always the type of person to whom people say (literally yesterday) “You should eat more, you’re gonna break” and they don’t understand why I go for jogging, why I do pilates, why I don’t eat white bread. Well believe me when I tell you – I LOVE my body and that is why I want to take care of it, I want it to be healthy, to be muscular and when I gain muscles I love it even more.. Why shouldn’t I try to make it better? And in every area if life I belive in the maxima – you can always do better! So I agree that change is progress and we should change in the direction that we ourselves desire, not listen to others. And I believe that no one should tell you what to do with your body and how to feel with it (except for doctors, if you are not healthy). If you are healthy and you like what you see in the mirror and like to stay that way – go ahead, if you like it, but you like changing and bettering yourself – do that too!
Love this! Been skinny all my life and skinny shamed a lot, I was depressed when I was younger and I know exercise would have made a big difference (because I know how it makes me feel now). But, since the fitness industry has been only about looks for so long, there was no message to motivate me and people still often tell me “but you’re skinny, you don’t need to work out”. But I really, really NEED to, if I want to be happy and have energy that is!!! I’m in my 30’s now and you are the first fitness trainer that has ever inspired me because you always say that the inside is more important than the outside, I feel so grateful to you for uploading your videos and spreading a genuine message of body positivity <3
I got married two weeks ago. I followed your 28 day reset earlier this year (I actually only followed the diet advice, I’m already semi active so I didn’t ramp up the workouts) and I lost 12 lbs. Only a few people noticed I lost weight. When I told others I did they’d say “you have no weight to lose!” I only did it for myself to feel my best in my dress. And damn did I feel amazing that day. You do you, girl. This is your day, you deserve to feel like your best self. And I can’t wait to see pictures of you looking amazing!
Why do someone even look at your videos if they don’t want change? There are sooo much people that want to exercise and be better, ans they’re searching for the perfect workout in youtube. Why someone who don’t want it need to say something negative. Go watch videos you like if you are ok with your body and don’t want to be better. Cassey helps ao much people and we all love her and her wokrouts, and advices… just mind your own business. I don’t get it. There will always have someone to say something bad. GL Cassey. We love you!
Yes! I can relate to this very very much! When I gained weight people be commenting on my physical appearance “you’re getting fatter” “you eat too much” but when I back to my usual body people commented on my physical appearance again. Well even worse actually, “you’re too skinny” “ew you’re only bones and skin” “guys prefer someone with more meat” “you need burgers” blablabla. It even got worse when I exercise and eat healthy! “You’re skinny already why do you exercise you only want to be bone or what” and things like that. I exercise to be a healthier and stronger self. I want to feel good about myself by changing my lifestyle to a healthier one. People be like offended all the time and saying bad things to others and minding my business. But guess what? 🤷🏻♀️ I don’t care hahaha I do things for MYSELF not for others. Don’t worry Cassey! It’s not you it’s just those people who don’t mind their own business
there’s a lot of projection that comes through social media. The people who comment negatively may not be in a good place in their lives, so they take out their insecurities on anyone else that is bettering themselves and trying to progress in making themselves more authentic. It’s not even just you, but they see you in your happiness and they feel the need to make it about something else. You provide so much great content for everyone! and exercising isn’t just meant for looking good, but for mood stabilizing and health in general! Come on, people.
Cassey, you deserve to look your most beautiful on this day. You have worked hard for what you have and try to promote health both mentally, physically and emotionally. You’ve helped so many people find a path of health here, so don’t take notice to people who are just not there atm. It’s not your burden to carry other people’s feelings. Especially those who try to drown you.
Whats even worse than body shaming is the fact that women are SO hormonal, and you never know how much impact you’re going to have on someone’s day. You could actually ruin they’re day if their mind ins’t in the right place. I’ve been fat shamed, skinny shamed and work out shamed, and most days I don’t care because only I know how has my journey been and how much I lo ve my body, but other days when I’m already feeling bad for something it really gets me. We should just abstain from saying anything if it’s not nice or supportive, the world would be such a nicer place.
Thank you for being so honest and amazing! You keep doing your amazing self, and have the best time at your wedding! 🙂
Back in high school I was always abused for being FAT. In college, people always feel free to tell me how skinny I am and that I will “dissappear” and I should “eat something” and I look “anorexic” even though I eat healthier than the entire lot of them.
It feels like society always has a problem with anything and everything. The best thing to do is to just live for yourself. You’re an inspiration, Cassie!
I lost some weight a couple years ago and many people have commented on how skinny I look. And when I wouldn’t eat the same junky foods they ate, they commented even more and suggested I gain weight. It isn’t as widely known, but people do comment on someone being what they consider to be “too skinny.” Thank you so much for staying true to yourself despite the comments, Cassey! You’re so inspirational!!
Thank you so much for this. I am ashamed to admit that I have been weight loss shaming for a while now! I reflected and realized that I even have done it to my own friends and family in just the last month… I went through a physical transformation about four years ago, starting to really focus on healthy eating and exercising. I think I lost weight but that was never my goal. Ever since then I have felt so protective and defensive when other people put themselves down and say they need to lose weight.
I still have a hard time being supportive of people wanting to lose weight, but I can say that your article today has encouraged me to be more mindful of the things I say to people who do have weight loss goals. I do think that JUST losing weight isn’t the best goal to have, but like you said, other people’s bodies aren’t my business—why am I spending my time being concerned about what someone else is choosing to do with their own body?
Recently I have felt that I have started to gain some weight—I’m starting to notice my clothes are getting a little snug and there’s just some uncomfortable extra fat that I feel as I just move around. It’s been SUCH a mental struggle to try to get back into healthy eating and exercising without shaming myself because of the weight gain. I’m going to write that italicized quote you have and stick it up on my wall in my room: “Just because I’m changing, does not mean I can’t also cherish my body at the same time.”
Social media definitely emboldens people to spread their opinions as though they are fact. I have a hard time keeping my opinions to myself in real life, so I understand the compulsion to share your thoughts and opinions on platforms where you can really hone your words and it will be read by many others. But for that reason—that it will be read by many others—it’s important to think about other perspectives and be open to learning from other people. That’s something I always really appreciate about your posts, Cassey! You are strong-willed and steadfast in your opinions, but are also very kind-hearted and open-minded! We need more people like you in the world—but especially on the internet.
All right, went on a bit of a tangent at the end there 😅’ Anyway thanks again for the thought-provoking post, and here’s to more positivity and acceptance in the future! 🤗❤️
This is SO great. I love this! I love all of the points you bring out and it’s a great reminder to ourselves to work out because we love it, not because we hate it. I wish you the best of luck on your journey and i will pray for you as well as the people who agree and disagree with this. Your going to be a beautiful bride! Thanks for being so inspiring!! 🙂
In this time everyone is offended, instead they need to look in the mirror. The comments are so ridiculous. I love my body !!!! And because I love my body I workout and feed it well. You keep what you are doing and don’t worry about the sensitive ❄️, it is something they need to work on. You empower us to feel beautiful in our skin and if they can’t see that message I feel sorry for them.
People are always going to hate no matter what, and if they can’t understand that what you’re doing with the bride videos is your way of empowering women all over, even if they won’t do the videos. This is your passion and happiness of helping other women being content with their physical and emotional selves. For those that bash on others and yourself, they’re insecure on the inside that they haven’t found their satisfaction in life with either their bodies, succession, or both!!! You have taught me to be balanced with my health overall as I am about to go to college and start my life independently as you present yourself to be a real human, not putting yourself on a pedastool. Thank you girl, and ignore those haters!
THIS THIS THIS! So many times have I gone to a restaurant, ordered a salad and had literally 5 people shame me because “You’re so skinny already” and it like almost makes me feel ashamed. Like…it was a crime to want to eat healthy? What? Seriously? When I was heading into my wedding, I got shamed for buying shapewear and whenever I told someone that I felt funny when I didn’t work out, they’d roll their eyes and be like “you’re too skinny anyways!” Like, I don’t do it because I want to be thin, I do it because I WANT TO BE HAPPY. Working out makes me happy. I’ve struggled with my image for years and had a brief struggle with eating disorders and I’m happy with where I am now so whenever people shame me for wanting to work out, to maintain and continue to be happy, or to eat a salad one day so I can have a YOLO meal every once and a while, it messes up my psyche and it almost makes me feel shameful. People would make comments about how they didn’t understand how I could eat so much while staying so little, how I didn’t eat enough, “skinny minnie,” it’s rude and unnecessary. My body, my opinion is the only one that should matter. I don’t need anybody opinions but myself and I love myself! Thank you for getting me Cassey!!!
So now people basically say: “If you want to be at your best on a special occasion, it means you don’t love yourself.”? Ridiculous. So sad.
Thank you!! I’ve been engaged for 2 years and we will finally tie the knot in September; over these 2 years I’ve slowly transformed my body, shedding 20kg through healthy eating and exercise. I loved my body before but even more now because I’m healthier and stronger. My fiancé is very proud of me but never considered me fat or overweight before and he still loves me now that I’m slimmer. So far the good news.
People have been really mean trying to make me feel bad about MY decision to change my body. People told me that I had “lost enogh now” (I’m nowhere near underweight, I had just reached the upper level of a healthy BMI) or that they couldn’t recognize me anymore in the street because “you can barely see me walk around” (again, upper level of healthy BMI). People are so rude and try to make you feel bad about a decision which benefitted my health (my doctor is super proud of me). I don’t judge you for not wanting to change, that’s great for you; so why not be happy that I’m achieving my own health and body goals.
Thank you for addressing this issue!! You go girl!
Always refreshing to here your thoughts on current issues, Cassey! Keep spreading your message and inspiring us all!
Yes, I always get, why do you work out you are already skinny? I work out because it makes me happy, it gives me energy, and I feel accomplished. Why do you always eat salads? I always eat salads because they are one of my favorite foods, right next to ice cream. Why is it such a bad thing to want to take care of something you value so much. I want to live a full well-rounded life and these are just a few things I do to help me achieve that.
Great post! I remember the first time I was fat shamed, I was 8 years old. I was one of the finalists in hula hoop contest when a boy yelled “the fat girl is going to lose”. Well, I won. Twenty years later, and I still get comments from strangers and even from my relatives (it is a cultural norm for them to call you out on your weight). And you know what? I’ve had enough. So I am using the power of social media to get my point across and that it is NOT okay. Whether I’m fat, skinny, tall, short, black, white, I don’t go around saying how old someone looks, how fat or skinny or how bald. So people need to stop. Thanks Cassey for posting your views and know that you’re not alone. I encourage you to continue to express your thoughts and opinions without fear; you will always have the support from those of us who are fighting the same battles. <3
I think a part of the backlash is because some people seek out body positive bloggers who won’t challenge them. It’s a toxic aspect of an otherwise wonderful movement. Instead of body positive being, “I love my body where it’s at, therefore I’m going to take care of it and improve it!” it’s become for some folks, “I love my body where it’s at and refuse to acknowledge that a healthy body requires a certain degree of maintenance. If anyone challenges that worldview then I am going to accuse them of not being body positive so I don’t have to confront my habits.”
As someone who is recovering from an ankle surgery and has spent the last year unable to perform many exercises because of an ankle injury, I know I had to reconstruct my positive self talk. Body positive for me became appreciating the fact that my body WILL heal and overcome, even if it’s going to get softer and bigger in the process. When I am healthy again my body positive mindset will be appreciating my body for healing and allowing me to make it stronger. And yes – I’m going to intentionally seek to lose weight. But I’m not going to love myself any more when I’m down 30 pounds, just as I don’t love myself any less when I’m up 30 pounds. I really do wish body positive bloggers would create a narrative that shows the nuance existing in self love.
hey Casey!!!
Thank you so much for sharing this! You couldn’t have said it better!! I wanted to share a story too. All my life I’ve been skinny-shamed, and now that being “thick” is the trend in society- I’ve find it harder to love my body these days. My eating habits has been ok, I have fast metabolism but I do know that I should increase my calorie intake (most days I try to eat more). And I gym pretty regularly because it’s my normal routine. Whenever I go out to gym- my dad stops me and says- “why are you going to the gym? You’re already skinny enough, you should be focusing on putting weight on yourself, not losing weight” and it always pisses me off. And I always get ridiculed of being skinny in my family. They say I should look like this or that- they say that I’m just too skinny and it doesn’t look good. Like first of all, I have 10 other reasons to go to the gym- it’s good for my mental health, I wanna beat my mile time, I wanna look more toned! like I’m not even trying to lose weight, I’m trying to look and feel better for myself!! Ive also gained weight the past few months and just because they can’t see it as well as I do, doesn’t mean i haven’t done any progress in changing my body for the better. It’s pretty frustrating! I know that going to the gym is GOOD FOR ME. and to hear someone say the opposite and shame me for going is reallllllllly annoying. ANYWAYS I know they may seem a little off topic but I’m glad that you posted this. Like fuck what other people say!! Your program is great!! & working out is good for everyone!! You’ve influenced me and others so much and it sucks that there are people trying to criticize every single thing you do. Keep going at it girl!
Hi Cassey! first thing first – congrats again on your wedding (Honestly Im kinda excited seeing your prep on insta stories lol)
And thumbs up 🙌🙌 for writing dis! i couldn’t agree more.
ive been there – both fat and weight loss shaming. 5 years ago I gained 10 kg weight and I got fat shaming a lot. but weird thing when I got sick later on and loss almost 12 kg from my “normal” weight, people start to body shaming about how I’m too skinny etc . Like come on😂
Frm now on I got to realization that well people always have sth to say – no matter what you do.
Anw I’m thankful for your amazing ability to creating content and delivering great message! Keep doing you.
Xoxo frm Jakarta 💛🧡🙆
I mentioned this on your Instagram post but I had this happen to me with my family when I began to journey of getting healthy in 2016. I lost weight and paid attention to what I ate and how I exercised. I stopped doing things I used to do a lot (which including things we did together) and I got a lot of hate for it. Instead of feeling proud of my accomplishments I felt ashamed for how I had changed because the people around me were making me feel that way. But I’m so much happier with myself, I’m more confident, and while I’m still not at my goal I love myself and my body and I know I’ll love it no matter how it continues to change. This journey not only helped me get better eating/exercising habits but loving my own self habits. You’re an incredibly inspiration Cassey and I hope that the negative comments people give you on social media never stops you from the change and positivity you’re bringing to me and many others around the world ♥
I love your honesty! It bothers me too when people feel they can say how you should or shouldn’t look. Your 100% correct only we can decide how we want to change!
Hello Cassey! I love your videos because they make me feel better with myself and I workout for only myself. I recently got married and I loved doing all your arm videos!
Regarding shaming… I have been through weight loss shaming.
I hated it!! It made me feel really angry and frustrated and I could not find a way to tell people that I was NOT sick I was just eating healthier and working out 30 min per day.
People would tell me I looked sick and to stop doing kickboxing (which I love doing). The thing is that my weight did not even go down. I am a size 2 and I only looked more toned than before.
I get what you feel and like you said before.. by weight loss shaming us I feel like I am being bullied because it really hurted me.
xoxo
This is so true Cassey. I get so much judgment ’cause I’m focusing on an healthy diet, friends say “you’re skinny, why do you care about what you eat, you make me feel guilty”, well is that problem really about me? Why is that so shocking that a girl works to take care of her body? I’m so disappointed by this attitude. Self-love needs work, it doesn’t mean “I do what I want, I ignore my body cause its always perfect as it is”, well maybe it’s not and it’s HEALTHY to take care of it! Also for the future, or for some special moments like you do. I’m so proud of you and you’re such a great example. Remember this.
Thank you for this post. I used to weigh 180 llbs a few years back and got fat shamed into losing it all. I’m now 105 llbs (I’m super short lol) and get skinny shamed now and I never knew it was a thing. I eat well and exercise well but people don’t see that. They only see the weight gain and the weight loss. I deal with this over and over again even though I lost my weight 4 years ago and have maintained my weight in the healthiest way possible for me. And I’m happy with myself right now, this is definitely something that more people need to talk about!
Gabby
You are so right! You can love yourself and want to change. Thank you so much for saying all of this, we should not antagonize each other for what beleive they mean, we should love each other and show support. You are such an inspiration!!!!
I have no issues with you doing a Bridal Bootcamp series and I honestly have no idea why anyone would.
The only thing that bothers me on social media (political stuff aside) is when companies use a plus size model and I see comments saying ‘what REAL women look like.’ Um, I’m a size 4. Am I not a real woman because I’m not plus size? I hate that!!!
Those comments putting down your workouts are shocking to me! Exercise is integral for maintaining BMI, preventing chronic illnesses such as obesity, diabetes, and metabolic syndrome, at helping stabilize depression, prevent/treat chronic pain, and so much more. Now working out is looked down on because “it promotes a certain body image?” For almost all people, a healthy BMI IS their ideal body type. Body acceptance, no matter your BMI, is essential – shaming anybody because of their weight is nasty. But as a nurse now I cannot tell somebody that they need to lose weight? We need to look into this issue more :/
Cassey, thank you for keeping your workouts fun. Sometimes people need that extra kick to get them to workout. As one of your original followers, I’ve loved everything you’ve done over the past 8 years. <3
Just because I’m changing, does not mean I can’t also cherish my body at the same time.
We must learn to love our journey at every micro step of the way. THAT is what body positivity means. Change in no way means self hatred. Change is simply our progress. All the mini befores, mini nows, and mini afters will be strung together to create our unique journey.
BEST LINES EVER!
Love u Casey as you helped me shape myself up…I’m a hardcore fan of yours and love working out with u…you make the work out so enjoyable and easy…keep up your spirit. Keep inspiring…God bless u
So True Cassey. I was a fat kid and later I worked hard to reduce my weight and get fit. All started commenting on how skinny I had become. Both the ways I got heaps of comments. Now I have gained weight again due to irregular work, food and sleep timings. Again the same people are offering me advise to lose weight in a healthy way. I love my body and I am getting stronger every day with your workouts. But what to do, people want instant results and that to as per their standards. Can’t live for others expectations right? I feel getting fit and strong will give you the body you want. That’s all.
I could not agree more. Have nothing to add. Perfect, spot on. And regarding the haters? As Irish say: “There is always one”. I have seen a clever quote: “You will never manage to live the way, the others like, therefore live the way YOU like”.
Hey Cassey!
This is SO true and resonates with me on so many levels!!
Sometimes it seems like “body positivity” only goes to one side of the scale. (Don’t get me wrong I am ALL about loving your body at every weight!! Go body positivity movement!! :)) BUT shaming fit people for wanting to improve is just straight-up wrong. Being positive about our bodies (be it fit or more to love) is the key!! And supporting ourselves should be the biggest goal.
🙂 love this article! Keep on rockin’ – you’ll be the most beautiful bride!! Ps: I love the bridal bootcamp workouts even though I’m not a future bride 🙂
Yes yes yes! I wouldn’t say I “love” my body right now. Frankly, due to finals, I haven’t been treating it too well and have consequently felt increasingly sluggish and “fat” over the past several weeks. (Full disclosure: I have been overweight literally my entire life – but my energy levels go up and down relative to how healthily I live.) I have friends with food issues (and I have some myself, from time to time) and honestly, it gets so tiresome when everyone comments on what you “should” or “shouldn’t” be doing with your body. As far as I’m concerned, health (mental and physical) is the most important thing, and to hear my mom say “you’re looking trimmer – keep up the good work!” while my friend tells me “don’t feel pressured to fit into what society tells you is a good size” is, frankly, exhausting. It’s like no one really understands that while, yes, I do have a “goal dress” or whatever, I mainly just want to feel full of life, energy, power, and capability. And having to constantly remind people of my primary motives is like… hello, are y’all even listening to me!? In terms of the bridal bootcamp: you do you, Boo. We all think you’re stunning already, but it’s a special day, so it deserves a special workout, if that’s what makes you feel your best. You want to look back at your wedding photos and remember feeling so happy, so confident, and so radiant. Will I do special pre-wedding workouts? I have no idea. I don’t even have a guy yet. But I do know that I want to be able to tear up that dance floor!
Well said. All the best with wedding planning and your wedding. Enjoy it all. Thanks for being yourself.
I personally have experienced shaming from my own mother. I’m 5 2 and always been between 115 and 125 pounds and my own Mon woukd say things like “oh look at that pouch” I remember I lost alot of weight before my wedding because it was a motivator and then she skinny shamed me because I had lost alot of weight and my dress needed major alterations. As a result of all her mixed messages I’ve always felt a bit unsatisfied with my weight no matter what.i can honestly say I felt the happiest when I was pregnant I had no care in the world that my weight was increasing-it was a beautiful thing. I am now back to trying to get in shape because I really missed working our. Anyhow I think it’s so important we send positive messages to each other 😀 I don’t see how any of your comments could be seen as offensive bit people take things too far.
So true! This means a lot to me. I am still a kid and though I was never overweight, both my family and I knew that I wasn’t fit. I started by doing random workouts and felt confident. I recently found your videos and I love them so much! I decided that I’m doing your beginner calendar and even though it’s hard, I love it. For my birthday, I even asked for your cool water bottle! Yes even though fat shaming and feeling bad about your body is bad, changing your body for the better FEELS amazing! Thank you Cassey!
Totally agree! When I was planning my wedding I had no help and was working full time so the thought of “losing weight” never crossed my mind. I wore a beautiful blush ballgown and was the same size I always was. Did other women I know diet, exercise like crazy, and lose weight for their weddings that were around the same time as mine? Yes, they did. Did they influence me to feel bad about myself or did their losing weight cause me to say “You shouldn’t do that because it makes people like me feel bad”? Heck no! They did what they wanted to do and I did mine. So I love your questions at the end of your post… if other women are offended by your choice to do a Bridal Bootcamp Series or lose weight/tone up/eat healthier for your own wedding then THEY have a serious issue with THEMSELVES. This whole blaming other people for the way they feel gets on my nerves. You are responsible for how YOU feel no one can MAKE YOU FEEL A CERTAIN WAY. Keep doing you!
Thank you for saying this!! This is very important to read and to reiterate to our selves when we as women get in our heads. It was the best message to receive especially today so again, thank you for your words of inspiration!! I honor your journey as I honor mine!
You can be body positive AND still want to change your body! What’s wrong with loving yourself so much that you want to change it and look and feel your best?! That’s what I truly don’t get from the “body positive” community. Thanks so much for addressing weight loss shaming, Cassey. I truly want to meet you one day.
the haters will be the haters. Your message to be fit and healthy is what it is all about! I am almost6 62 and have been doing pilates, yoga and tai chi for 10 years – I always want to be the best I can. You will be a gorgeous bride as you are a gorgeous woman.
Of course you want to feel and look your best at your wedding!
All those who criticize you, I bet they would go to get their make up done and get their hair done. Why? Why don’t you just wear the makeup you use everyday or just put up your hair in a ponytail? Or why do you wear a wedding dress? Why not your worn out jeans? Because you want to look beautiful and feel your best! If you do these extra things why is it so bad to do that little something extra with your body? Those criticizing this are the hypocrites, because they would also “change” themselves, maybe not their body, but with makeup, clothes and hairdos, because they too will look different on their wedding day than other days.
So let’s just be happy for Cassey and other people that are enjoying the journey to whatever it might be!
Be kind to each other!
Haters gonna hate hate hate. I don’t think you can change them by writing a blog post. It’s not about you, it’s about them. You write about this regularly but I doubt it will help. It only gives them attention. Focus on the wonderful positive comments instead! Here is one: you look amazing!
I 100% agree with you Cassey. I used to be extremely thin until i had my daughter and gained a nice 40lbs and i embraced it, I was ok with it because i was healing and enjoying motherhood and i appreciated what my body had given me. Once my daughter hit about 2 years old i was ready to get back in shape, not because i thought i was fat or imperfect but because i wanted to feel confident, healthy and strong. I think maybe people assume you are trying to change yourself for others when really it’s for YOU and there is nothing wrong with that. Keep up the awesome work, i love your workout videos and you have helped me get back on the road to feeling healthier and stronger.
i love the way you put this! So many people talk about how bad fat shaming is (of course it is bad) but yet they skinny shaming others. I think instead of assuming someone works out and eats healthy because they are unhappy with their body wrong, because so many people work out and eat good to feel confident and happy! The reason you should exercise and eat good should be for yourself-and no one else! Cassey, I love how you teach everyone to love their bodies:)
You tell em’ girl! Put some common sense back into the public!
A LITTLE LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!! SMH, people need to mind their own business and stay in their own lane. It is UNHEALTHY to be so obsessed with fitness stars or anyone on social media to the point that you feel entitled to criticize their choices when YOU DON’T KNOW THEM. Good for you, Cassey. Love to see that you aren’t complacent with health and fitness and are always looking for new goals.
Hi Cassey. I’ve commented before about body image because it’s a big deal to me. I feel like it’s very frustrating when people judge others as too fat or too thin. I’ve been judged by both standards and it was like I couldn’t make everyone happy. It was especially hard when it was my family members criticizing me as being too thin. Oddly they didn’t really criticize me when I was bigger. That was people on the outside. We really do just have to find our own happiness because we’ll never meet everyone’s idea of beauty. On top of that it seems like a lot of people have a distorted idea of beauty they get from a lot of fashion magazines and other places. They are judging actual people against massively edited and perfected images and not reality.
As far as what you said about people giving you a hard time…I think to a lot of people you are the epitome of health and beauty and if you say, “Oh I need to look better,” it could make the average woman feel like crap about themselves when they don’t look like you. I do have to say it threw me for a loop just a little when you said it because it was not something I normally hear you say but I can understand where you’re coming from wanting to look your best.
That’s just my thoughts.
Hope you and all the other comment people are doing well:)
It really sucks that you’ve been judged for being on both ends of the spectrum–you are damned either way! Do what you want–what makes YOU happy at the end of the day. 🙂
Wow it’s crazy that this topic is even a thing. I didn’t know there was weight loss shaming. As long as you love you Cassey that’s what matters! I’m excited for all the wedding photos to come in the Fall!!