October 17, 2017
Okay, honesty time…
Have you ever seen someone on Instagram and thought, wow, I wish I looked like that…?
Because I sure have.
It’s sooo weird to be alive during this age of social media. Especially as a woman. I truly can’t fathom what it must be like as a kid or teenager and able to see SO much online so easily. Hey, I’m an adult and still fall into the trap of comparing myself to what I see on Instagram!! It’s so difficult not to. We’re being bombarded with so many images all the time. Beautiful people! Beautiful locations! Everything always looks perfect. And even though the rational part of us KNOWS nothing is ever perfect, that’s not what you think about when you’re browsing social media.
Instead, you do the comparison game. You know the one I’m talking about. You ask yourself a series of soul-crushing questions. Why doesn’t my body look like that? Why isn’t my relationship that perfect? Why am I not traveling the world? Why am I not living my dream life?
And then there’s the WHOLE OTHER aspect of likes and followers. Somehow, no matter how much I KNOW that these numbers don’t define me, I still get affected when I lose followers and when a picture I post doesn’t get as many likes as I think it “should” have. Oh gosh, just typing that out is so silly. But I needed to say it. Because it is RIDICULOUS! Numbers shouldn’t have so much power over us! Not on the scale and especially not online.
Remember, social media gives you a peek into one part of someone’s life. Just one teeny part. It’s like a blink. You see a glimpse. But then we become convinced this glimpse is representative of all other aspects.
I still don’t have all the answers on how to battle social media insecurity. Sometimes you need to take a break. Log off. Put the phone down. Be around people you love and write down a list of all your greatest strengths. Say a morning mantra in the mirror.
That person you wish you looked like? They have days when they are unhappy. They have days when they are sad and wish THEY could trade places with someone else. None of us are perfect. None of us have it all figured out. Instagram is often a highlight reel. It shows the best, you know? It doesn’t show the nights with puffy faces from crying. It doesn’t show the self-doubt. It doesn’t show failure.
There’s only one YOU. And I know, I know, that’s cheesy. But it’s true! And you never know, someone might be looking at you, either in real life or on social media, and wishing they could be more like you…
We all have so many gifts and talents to offer the world. Let’s try to not get caught up in the comparison game. Let’s try to remember social media is just that…social media.
You are more than an IG post. You are more than a snapshot. You are so, so much more.
I promise you.
How do you guys deal with social media insecurity? Is it something that ever bothers you or do you not pay it much attention?