March 26, 2020
After seeing your food haul, I wanted to ask if you and Sam eat differently and how you guys do that? I live in a home that is not willing to change up their diet, which is making it hard on me, because I’m near foods I want to avoid and because it’s harder to eat together.
Frustrated by Family
Dear Frustrated by Family,
Yep, Sam and I do eat a little differently! And that’s okay, but I totally understand your frustration. It’s not always easy for me to be around some of the foods I buy for Sam, because there’s no denying that they’re delicious! Also, I think this is a super common thing for families. Everyone has different taste, different goals and different values when it comes to food. For me, I feel better when I keep that in mind. Sam and I aren’t the same person, and that’s ok! We’re all in different places – even the ones we’re closest with.
That being said, it sounds like you want your family to eat healthier and I know how difficult that is too! When you’re passionate about eating healthy and doing the best for your body, it’s frustrating when you can’t convince your loved ones to look at it the same way. But I will say this – the more you do your thing and continue eating healthy without pressuring your family to eat everything you eat, the more likely they are to follow in your footsteps with time. They’re probably just not ready to change their diet.
This has been true for Sam too! Even though he still likes HIS foods, there are a TON of things he’s willing to eat now that there’s no way he would have eaten a few years ago. Just be a good role model, show them that healthy food is DELICIOUS too, and who knows, maybe your good habits will rub off on them – when they’re ready.
Here are some ways that I do it –
- I compromise – I try to plan meals that we’ll be eating together with an entreé that we both like (chicken, salmon, turkey burger, etc.) and then a couple side options that might include something healthy that I want, but maybe he isn’t so crazy about. That way he has the option to try it, but there’s no stress for us.
- I ask him to help me prep/cook. There’s just something about seeing how recipes come together that make them more appetizing! I’ve seen this as a picky eater tip for kids…but it works for adults too 😊
- I communicate – Sam knows that eating healthy is important to me, and why. Even if your family isn’t ready to change, it’s important that they understand and respect your choices. Communication is everything with family! If nothing else, it might save you some tension at meal time.
In the meantime, you said it’s difficult for you to have other foods in the house that you would prefer to avoid. TOTALLY get that. It’s soo much easier to just keep those foods out of sight and out of mind. In your case, here are some ideas that might help:
- Designate an area in your pantry or fridge for these foods that helps keep them more out of sight for you.
- Just consider these foods “theirs.” If I tell myself a bag of pretzels is “Sam’s,” I’m just less likely to even consider eating it. It sounds kinda weird, but it works!
- Most importantly – If you do give in and eat a few chips, or a bowl of ice cream, or WHATEVER it is that’s tempting you, accept it and move on. Don’t get down on yourself! Sometimes a small serving of whatever we’re craving is exactly what we need to move past the craving and avoid bingeing on it later. And you know what? It’s about the LONG TERM. If you’re eating healthy most of the time, an occasional treat is not going to ruin your goals. So if it happens, it happens. You’re human!
Oh, and one more thing that you’re already doing and should keep doing – lean on your POPsters for support! Your question is a problem that sooo many of us (maybe even most of us) have experienced. I love this community because we all value health and fitness and we can support each other! It’s seriously amazing.
I hope this helps you out. I’m so proud of you for sticking to your goals and especially for wanting the best for your family too! Just keep doing your thing – they’ll get there.
PS – If you have a burning question you want to ask me, I’m taking questions via text at 510-692-4556. Currently this only works for US and Canada. If you’re outside of those countries, you can leave a question below.