Get over yourself
Get over yourself
Hey guys!
Looks like you all are powering through the #FABruary Calendar. I am so proud of you! On my end, I’ve been training super hard too! Yesterday I had a shoot with Cosmopolitan Magazine so for the past month since I heard about this, I’ve been 100% beast mode. You gotta see where I was yesterday! This was in Malibu.
This is where I got my hurr and makeup done. I can’t even believe this modern palace exists. It is just LIFE.
And there’s tiny little me planking with a beach ball! I can’t wait to show you the feature when this issue comes out!
Getting photoshoot ready meant I worked out 5-6x a week doing Pilates, dance, weights, and HIITs while eating super clean! This meant I got to fill up on whole, nutritious foods. I ate a lot of salads, homemade chili, vietnamese spring rolls, black bean spaghetti, omelettes, and no-rice cucumber sushi! I never got bored of my food. I probably had a couple YOLO meals because there were birthdays in between all this training but otherwise, my body bounced back the next day due to all the water I was drinking. I drank around 2-3 L a day religiously until my pee was nearly clear.
Also, because I’ve been dancing more than usual, my body craved a little bit more carbs. So my current meal plan consists of a lot of zucchini, squash, black bean/mung bean noodles, corn, beans, and occasionally rice paper. Of course I’m having lean proteins and veggies alongside it all.
Oh but can we talk about dancing for a sec!!?? I cannot get enough of it. I can go so hard for a full hour and I will be LOVING every second of it (as compared to burpees). I just am obsessed with how I can get into this euphoric, unstoppable state of mind and body by emitting my energy through movement and music. Dance just makes me feel so happy. It is something that I look forward to daily with a passion! I schedule my class in and I never miss it as long as I am not traveling.
The concept of POP Pilates has a lot to do with dance. It’s essentially a little mat dance done to the beat of the song and is choreographed to make your muscles toned and sore. I truly believe that Pilates and dance were made for each other. I feel like I found my harmony 🙂 And in case you were wondering, I danced a little in high school and college recreationally. I am so happy to be picking it up again!
Ahhh now let’s get to the meat of what I want to discuss today. Did you notice my title? “Get over yourself”? Kinda sassy huh? Well I had a recent experience that really irked me and I want to talk to you about it because I hope you can learn from it too.
I was working alongside some people and noticed that everyone there was pretty quiet, looking down at their phones. That’s fine and all if you’re busy, but there was a sense of coldness in the air. And I’m not talking about temperature.
As soon as it was my turn to get ready for my shoot, I sat down in the chair and a couple people started doing my hair and makeup but no one was talking to me. Usually the makeup artist tries to get to know you and ask a few things. Because I had already felt uncomfortable with the frigidity of the situation, I just sat there to test out how long this silence could last.
Well, it lasted way too long so I broke the ice and started asking where they were from and how long they had been doing their profession. The odd thing was that no one reciprocated the question to me. They didn’t even give the slightest care. Like, have you ever had a “conversation” where you felt like you were the one doing all the work? It was definitely really weird.
Then after this had been going on for a while, one of the “higher-ups” asked me about how Blogilates was doing, the book, and 24 Hour Fitness and then the weirdest thing happened.
The other people’s stone-like emotionless faces brightened up immediately. Like the switch had been turned ON. All of a sudden, I was their best friend.
Guys, I just want to let you know that this little situation up here is just DISGUSTING.
How can you treat people a certain way based on who you think they are? You have to treat every person you meet, no matter what their education, their status, their salary, their job title, their ethnicity, or even how many followers they have – the same. You have to treat each person with kindness.
That moment when their little switch turned on made me feel ill to the gut. I knew for sure that these people were vain and egotistical. They only wanted to be associated with people who could take them somewhere higher. And if you can’t, then you’re no one to them.
Either way, I was still nice to them. (I honestly don’t know how to be any other way.) Maybe they needed some extra light in their life. It’s ok. My cup is overflowing with positivity so I have enough to spare into their half empty souls.
So that’s my little lesson for you today. Treat everyone with RESPECT. Give everyone a smile and a chance.
Much love,
Cassey
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Hi Cassey
I’ve been drawn to this post because you mention your meal plan includes a greater amount of healthy carbs because of all the dancing you did. I am a salsa dancer and have a competition at the beginning of May…I want to get real fit these next two months by eating clean in addition to the at least 4 hours of cardio I do a week and strength training.
I looked at your meal plans but I am concerned there may not be enough carbs there to sustain me during my rehearsals. How do I add healthy carbs to the meal plans you already have, and how do I know how much to add? Its so easy to overload with carbs!
Your help or anyone else’s would be much appreciated 🙂 I want to kick butt at this competition!
“My cup is overflowing with positivity so I have enough to spare into their half empty souls.” MY FAVORITE PART GIRL!!! I wanna learn to be i little more like you, Cassey. I wanna be more kind to people, i just don’t know. I know it’s sound silly, but…. it’s not that easy to me.
TONS OF LOVE TO ALL OF YOU!
I feel like sometimes the people that usually should be doing the talking don’t so it gives you a chance to be the one that asks the person questions instead.
Hey Cassey! Just tuned into your site – what kind of dance do you do?
Agreed, I think people feel self-important and I’m glad you’re still so down to earth. Looking forward to future updates! <3
Annie @ http://www.xoanna.org
hey cassey! That story is really sad. People are so involved with themselves and their phones, they don’t even know or see the people around them. Then when they realize who you are they suddenly are your best friends. I really dislike this new way of society. People discriminate so much and judge so harshly. I always wonder what a world without this would be like. Anyway this story was really a reality check for me because I realized that even if people are rude or mean to you it doesn’t give you the right to reciprocate that behaviour. You are truly and amazing person cassey and everyone else out there!!! Be Happy!!!! 🙂
Hm. Hopefully people don’t think i’m rude for not speaking up. I’m very shy and won’t talk until someone brings up a common talking point! Something I need to work on for sure, but doesn’t make me mean or bad at all 🙂
I know everything about those situations where you “have to do all the work” because I (myself) hate that heavy kind of silence and I wanna make situations comfortable for everybody even if they weren’t so talkative! I wanna break the ice and say “How are you? What you’re planning to do today?” because I bet everybody wants to tell about something for someone.
But when someone isn’t answering. Not making the conversation work.. I’m mad and I still try because the silence is always killing me. Eww. With my best friends and many other, good friends there can be this good, light silence if we both are writing, doing make-up, eating, surfing in internet.. But that is just totally different!
Wow, those types of attitudes is something I’ve dealt with for a long time. It is actually what gives me low self esteem and want to be someone that does something so I have some type of worth.
I’ll have spots where I just wish I was important COMPLETELY forgetting that I already am good enough and worthy.
Yeah it’s uncomfortable in situations like that. I work at an art gallery and I recently got my art work displayed for sale. Super exciting! Dream come true! People can be so cold to me and even some go as far as to say my painted wine glasses aren’t worth the price. When a coworker mentions that those are my hand painted wine glasses, those cold customers want to your best friend. Regardless, I stay positive and treat people with respect:)
It’s sad but that’s the way it usually is. I had the same experience in the past too. 😐 I agree that people should at least try their best to treat everyone with equal respect.
Cheers!
Thank you Cassey for this good post! I got your email exactly when I needed it, right after I received some overly harsh criticism at work. My mom always taught us to treat everyone the same regardless of their occupation, wealth, looks, positions, etc. thanks!!!
hmm, yehh. it’s so sad to see that so many people are so in making themselves into a completely different person just to gain a higher status… Thanks!
Cassie,
as a 50 yr old grandmother with a sedentary job who realized she needed to do something so she could run with her grandkids, thanks for your blog and beginners work out calendar. My first week I just did the Body Pop Cardio dance, but then started the beginners calendar……I appreciate your attitude, advice, and providing a way to slowly work back toward being tone and fit. I am seeing and feeling a difference already. Can’t wait to see where I am 6 months from now.
Hi! That whole situation sucks, and I don’t mean to be brusque, but I really love your cardio dance videos! Like, crazy much- there’s nothing like dancing it is the ultimate happy pill, ya know? Your most recent one with the Bodypop song just had me smiling like crazy! So just whenever you want to make another one would be awesome! I really look forward to it! Thanks for everything, bye!
Hey Cassey 😀 first time commenting in here 🙂
Omg that is so sad 🙁 I can’t imagine how you feel at that moment. People is just interested in you when you have certain things and that is all. So sad 🙁 But you are amazing cassie and you have a big comunity of people that love and support you 🙂
Greetings from medellín, Colombia.
Hey Cassey! Sorry you had to go through that with Cosmo staff but honestly, what can we expect from a magazine that sells the same re-hashed stuff every issue? I hope when some of those people you meet try to work with you later on, you SLAM the door in their faces!
Hi!!!
I just wanted to say, that I guess It wasn’t Cosmo staff, because Cassey it’s too way polite to say where they from, just saying
Hi Cassey!
Such a great post! I so agree that you should treat everyone the same, regardless of status. I also wanted to say that blogilates has changed my life. I’ve been doing your videos for about a month and a half now. You have made such a difference for me. I love watching your videos because I feel like I’m working out with a friend. Your upbeat, positive, motivating attitude make me excited to roll out my mat everyday. I’m not athletic . I was the girl with the glasses at the back of the PE class just trying to keep up with everyone. Now I’m getting stronger and more confident everyday. Thank you so much!
Thank you Cassey for this wonderful post! I got your email exactly when I needed it, right after I received some overly harsh criticism at work. My mom always taught us to treat everyone the same regardless of their occupation, wealth, looks, etc. In the end we will all be in the graves and the only thing that will matter is our hearts and how we treated other people. Sorry kind of a depressing thought, but it always puts things in perspective for me. You always seem so gracefull, strong and positive and are such a big inspiration to me. Keep being you!
That kind of reaction makes me mad.
I personally have been judged so many times in my life and yet as unable to hate those people back, cause I was too kind and to shy to kick their ass.
I was constently trying to hide I was hurted. Constently making fun of myself, to show them I wasn’t touched by their childish and stupid behaviour. And, kind of, it killed me. I mean, I radically changed after that. I wasn’t and still am, unable to trust people, unable to trust myslef, constently remaining in my little world with only music, drawing and writing to ease my pain and sorrow.
Fortunately, I was able to meet some nice and wonderful pepole who helped me to feel better. I also started practicing martial arts, and my self trust increased !
And then I heard about Blogilates and started doing some fitness, cause I really wasn’t at ease with myself.
An trully, sport is one of the best ways to get along with your inner self and reach the surface when you’ve been brought down so many times.
And I really want each and every one of you to understand that no matter what, you have to like yourself first before wanting to be liked by others. Cause those people, who dare judging without thinking about the consequences, feel when your weakness. And they will take it as an opportunity.
Remember to spread the notion of RESPECT around you and more than everything, PROTECT YOUR SMILE FROM PEOPLE’S STUPIDITY.
You are absolutely right. Don’t let the world change your smile, let your smile change the world. ^__^
Hey Cassey,You are my greatest inspiration. You motivate me every time I watch your videos or even read your blog.
Hey Cassey,You are my greatest inspiration.
More powe to you Casey, your keeping us motivated!
Cassey,
I LOVE your passion for dance! As a trained dancer, I find all of your workouts are extremely complementary to dance, while in contrast things like running can be really detrimental to the way our bodies need to be for dance.
Would love to hear more about what you have done in the past and I get so excited every time you do something dance fitness related.
Thank you for all of the hard work you do and the amazing dedication you have to this community. Hoping to meet you in person some day!
Yeah that’s awful, just because they didn’t know who you are, and to them you’re just some girl they act like that. I don’t know who they think they are, and why they feel they’re better than you. Kudos to you for being positive, I myself have had issues with the world so long that my once sweet friendly side had burnt out. You though are an inspiration. Even if you didn’t have your book and all, you would still be better than them by not being arrogant and cold. You rise above negativity, I admire you :-).
Dear Casey!
I am following you for quite a long period and you are a beautiful person from inside out ,even if I don’t no you personnally.I You are doing lots of good around you ,without knowing us,without knowing how rich or poor,how thin or fat ,black,white, etc..We are all consider by you, and you are giving love to each of us .Thank you for everything you are sharing with us!Lots of love from all of us!
Love from Claudette!
Wow. That place looks awesome! But ya, that is not cool how those people treated you. If it was me, after they found out who you were I would of given them the same treatment that they gave me, the silent one. I have been to get my hair done before and the hairdresser didn’t say a word to me, and ya know what, I didn’t go back to give service to them.
Once again, you’re such an inspiration.
Sometimes, I give myself an excuse to judge saying that it’s just ‘human nature’, and there is no harm to have a first impression of someone. However, if we begin to change our way of treating them because of the way they look, then it’s crossing the line.
I completely understand how it sometimes takes a ‘title’ for people to make it worth their time to talk to you. Just hope that everyone you meet in the future would treat you better and with respect.
Love from London <3
Rachel
I absolutely LOVE this message!! My parents raised me and my siblings to treat everyone with a basic level of common courtesy and respect, regardless of their station in life! You meet people eye to eye – not looking at the ground, phone, or anything else. The sad thing is, many many people look at this as “strange” or as if you want something from them. When I’m walking or in a store or really anywhere for that matter, and I meet someone’s eyes, I smile and maybe even say hello. I cannot tell you how many people look away or give me a look of “what’s wrong with you”?!? That makes me sad. We are all human beings and, forgive me, but our poop all stinks. I have heard a saying that I believe to be true – “someone who is not nice to a waiter/service person is not a nice person”. My parents also taught us if you must say something negative to someone, it must pertain to what that person is doing/saying. A person’s nastiness has nothing to do with his/her religion, race, gender, etc.
Sadly, I happen to live in an area where many people think they are above everyone else. Sure, they will talk to you if they need something or think you can get them to where they want to be. Other than that, though, they don’t have the time of day for you. I find this repugnant!! I will never understand how someone truly believes he/she is better than anyone else. Money doesn’t buy class…….
I agree. It’s sad that some people won’t give you the time of day until they realize “who you are and what you’re worth”. Cassey you are a great inspiration for everyone out there. That no matter what, you are worth the respect and time of day. THANK YOU!!!!
You are inspiration! Keep up the positive energy!
I think you find those kinds of people all the time.. I have had so many ‘fake’ or pointless conversations with people who pretend to care what I have to say. At the end od the day the funny thing is that usually the genuine people are the ones who people like and have time for in the long run.
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hmm, yea….it’s so sad to see that so many people are so into making themselves into a completely different person just to gain a higher status. Especially in a generation when the world just seems to move too fast that it’s often hard to grasp the true identity of one.. I hope there are many more positive and pure human beings in this world like you, Cassey. You are truly one marvellous and inspirational women, Cassey! Keep it up! xoxo
I had that happen to me with someone I worked for. This person treated me one way at work.
Then when they saw my house, their attitude changed totally.
I just don’t get it. But then again I don’t get what some people do and think.
Thank You Miss Cassey for sharing your experience … I have recently been dealing
with a similar situation… It’s unfortunate how much shallowness, hypocrisy, and fakeness
exists in the world …. I too try my best to over shine the negativity with Gobs of Positivity…
Even when it gets you soo frustrated…Kill em with kindness…
Sending Love ❤️Your Way
God Bless You Cassey
Sincerely,
Michelle
XOetc…
This is so true! Being a Muslim and Asian I get this all the time. I’ve learned to ignore it but it doesn’t mean that it stops hurting. I think it’s the lack of morals we teach our kids these days. Our world has become so fast pace, which is not a bad thing, but we focus more on getting ahead in school, getting a better job, a bigger house, nicer car, that we forget to remember that in the end if we don’t have the decency to interact with other humans than our technological , scientific, and monetary advances have essentially done us no good.
I feel that as the world gets more futuristic we as humans get more uncivilized. We’ve lost the sense of how to be kind to one another. How to respect one another.
What makes me sad is that I’m not asking anyone to like my religion or even praise it. I’m just humbly requesting people to know that I’m a Muslim and respect me like anyone human deserves to be respected.
But no doubt we as humans, despite our great and modern ‘civilizations’ have failed on this very basic yet truly critical part of social interaction.
Wow…Recently I was actually thinking about being “successful” in life because I literally hate people who only judge people by their status in society. So I was really studying hard for my major even if it IS vacation and rushing towards my goal, being successful. But after I read this, wow it just blew my mind. I should fill my cup with positivity and energy before I rush through. I just never thought of filling others with my energy. I just wanted to knock them over and show they aren’t perfect, which I know now that I really should not do.
Thank you for the inspiration Cassey. Even if you don’t know me, you mean so much to me in my life. Love from Korea xoxo
Hey Yujin,
You are already brimming with positive energy, and filling others with it. Thank you for that,
Today, YOU are my inspiration. Thank you.
Love from France!
Hey Cassey,
I finally got on my email today and saw this post…just want to say your quote (hardest times lead to your greatest moments) really spoke to me. I just graduated early from college and have been feeling a lot of stress from the pressure I feel to get a home, get a job, get a life…etc…and I’m really trying to pull it together. Though I’ve been traveling the country the past few weeks and missed a few workouts, you’ve once again inspired me to stay on track mentally and physically (is there even a difference!?). Your quote inspired me to actively deal with some of these tough times with the hope of soon pushing through to my greatest moments.
Hey hang in there, Nina. Cherish the good little moments. Relax and enjoy each day. stay positive. You’ll buy a home, find.a job, but you are living already! Be excited to wake up each day and be able to move around. Things will fall into place as you plan your future. Baby steps:) you will get though it. Lean on good friends and family about what you feel and ask them for advice and help if you u need it. it sucks that you are feeling overwhelmed but take a step back and congratulate yourself for the hardwork of earning your degree! Congrats! . Hope this helps:) take care<3
I’m sorry you went through that at your shoot! I’m an actress in the Bay area and I had a commercial shoot where the wardrobe and makeup people were treating me so rudely. And I’m like, “Maybe it’s because I’m a dark asian? Are my clothes not nice enough? Maybe they expected someone prettier to walk in the door?” And them being white especially made me feel bad about myself. But at the same time I’m like, immmmm it’s your job to make me pretty for this shoot, so if I don’t look like a million bucks when I came in, you need to fix that!! Anyway, I wish everyone can just treat each other the same 🙁
Amen Cassey, well said! I also try to treat everone with respect only for this, that they are the same humans as I am. But I find it difficult when someone is treating me bad, but after this I think, that I’m the winner of this situation, because I don’t have to be rude to someone else only to built my selfconfidence. So lt’s keep in shape our body and Souls 🙂
Hi Cassey,
It makes me sad to see people like that. I like to think I’m the type of person who gives respect to everyone who I meet, regardless of their background. I call everyone Mr. or Ms. in my profession and can’t imagine calling the Dr.s by their first names, just because of the respect I have for them (despite them trying to tell me otherwise). Anyhow, I wish I could be more like you…brimming with positivity! Once someone loses my respect, it’s hard for me to forgive. I wish I could be better about it, but you forgive quickly, due to that positivity. You are a wonderful role model! Don’t ever change!
Can’t believe that happened, that’s absolutely horrible. Hope your kindness catches on, Cassey, I’m sure you simply radiate it. 🙂
I think you handle that quite well. You are some people try to get on board with your high and success without putting in the sweat. You, yourself, have to make it happen. Don’t be on the side line looking to be pick up! You need to put thing in motion for yourself and be a leader striving for great expectations.
People are very selfish and superficial these days unfortunately. But you Cassie and everyone who you can make more positive and who in return will become positive towards others will slowly fill this world with light! (: let’s share the smiles and positivity (and I mean the geninuine ones, no fakes) 😉 love you Cassie! You’re a great insipiration and a role model! Stay awesome!!! Xoxo Ira.
A similar event happened to me when I went to Vegas for vacation. I’m naturally the type of person who doesn’t mind holding doors for others, but as I held a door open for a young guy at the hotel I was staying at, he sneered and said, “Ha! You’ve obviously only been here for five minutes.” Maybe I’m overly sensitive ,but that foreshadowed a lot of my negative encounters during my trip. No one should be ridiculed for being polite.Sometimes you just have to be who you are, even if other people think you’re naive for being kind.
OMG thank you for calling those people out. You’re right–it’s disgusting how some people could be so cold just because they don’t initially think you’re worth their time. And even worse, when people like them have friends just like themselves, they’re purposely choosing that life, and the last thing they’re willing to accept is advice on how to be nicer to people because they simply don’t care. We’re so proud of you Cassey! Keep being amazing!
Hey Cassey!
This post couldn’t have come at a better time! I’m working in an environment where there is so much hypocrisy and people judge you before they even get to know you and say very hurtful lies behind your back. Recently I’ve been made to feel incredibly ashamed of myself and while my new friends here and my old friends back home are doing their best to comfort me I’ve still spent a fair amount of time crying over the way these people are treating me and making me feel. Everyone seems to have to go through this at some point in their life sadly and your comment really helped 🙂 I also read a quote recently I thought was quite apt, it’s something like this “don’t worry about your reputation that’s just what other people think about you, it’s your character that matters because that’s who you really are” x
And this is the reason I won’t pursue a career in the acting industry.
Your experience makes me think of something someone once said to me. I’m a health aide and I was working in a classroom where there was also a nurse on duty whose job it was to accompany a student at school. She would sit in the back of the classroom, but was available to her student when necessary. I always said “hi” to her everyday, and one day, while on a break, I sat in the back and we talked for about 15 min. We had a beautiful conversation about beliefs and children, etc. About a week later, she presented me with some delicately crocheted bookmarks she had made. They were beautiful! The note she included said, “Because you came and talked to me.” I was confused and asked her what she meant. She said, because of her appearance, no one ever talks to her. She told me people outside of her work especially, assume she is uneducated or a maid and she is usually ignored. I was shocked and saddened. This is a sweet, talented, and strong woman! She told me that when I took the time to talk with her, that meant a lot. I said, but your’e a person, and I’m a person so why wouldn’t we want to talk to each other! I haven’t met a person yet that I haven’t learned something from! It’s amazing how much people have to offer! People that make assumptions about others not being worth their time are truly missing out! Blessings to you and your endeavors!
Hi cassey. Im from argentina. I cabt believe what happended to you. That people are so lost. Just to be nice or have good manners only with people who have money or connections its kind of sad. If they are so dark how can they meet people who can help them. u are one of the brighter persons in youtube. I love u. Ah and by the way i wanted to let u know that i dance too. i go 3 days a week to a zumba class and i combine your clases and calendars. all this things combined really help me to get rid of stress and loose weight. Sorry for my english but i speak spanish. Bye
I mean…I’m not super surprised. Sadly. It was a photoshoot in Malibu. People in LA tend to be incredibly fake and it’s all about who you know, how much you make, what your IMDB profile says about you, whatever. I lived there several years. Not everyone is like this, but a lot of people are. Sorry you had that experience!
I found such great comfort from this post. I feel like I have occurrences like this one far too often. It hurts, and it even makes me doubt myself. You really helped me with your post today, Cassey.
I guess I’m just too nice because I don’t know how anyone has the balls to be so rude and cold to others, especially right to their face. Thanks for sharing Cassey!
Cassie thanks for sharing this. This sort of attitude bugs me to no end too but since I can’t do much about it I choose to turn deaf ears and blind eyes to it. I think the society nowadays are brought up to strive higher and by associating themselves with the “best” to get where they are, some seem to have lost many of their core values such as compassion, empathy, kindness and altruism. Very rarely does someone do good these days without at least hoping for something in return. People are drowning in this materialistic world with all the shimmer and glitter that’s overshadowing the people who truly put their hearts out there to care.
Kudos on you for voicing this, and I do hope people who are at fault are reminded of what matters most in life and what makes us human. Have a great day Cassie, love you, you’re truly inspirational!
Cassy, we now live in a world of “me.” We “must” be politically correct, everybody “must” get a trophy, and Nobody can be better than anybody else….. well….except “me.” You, are that fragrant Spring Flower that, when the gentle breeze flows through the open window, exudes a fragrance so perfect, it makes everyone close their eyes, lift their chins, and breathe deeply, smiling long after the fragrance leaves. Be yourself. ALWAYS.
I absolutely agreed with you Cassey!
and i really think our generation started to lack respect as time goes, even i am lightened by your story. We always need to remind each other that we have to respect other people and how important it is 🙂
thanks Cassey!
You are a breath of fresh air! Never, ever lose who you are! I know you will always stay the same sweet Cassey and not get sucked into the vanity of your profession. I can tell!
I learn something new everyday from u . Thank you for sharing . Much love from boston
Yeah the same thing is happening to me in college.. (yes college! i know right) some people in my course just ignore me even if i reach out to them and try to be friends. I just feel like they are so full of themselves and are just snobs. I hate saying those words but that’s just the impression they’re portraying. Not that it matters to me anyway. I chose to just ignore that kind of behaviour and not force myself to people who doesn’t want me to be a part of their lives. And ofcourse surrounding myself with those who loves me. Thanks Cassie for the positive posts. Keep them coming.
Thank you Cassey for being so inspirational!
Cassey thank you for sharing such an empowering message to the world! We are all worth just as much and should strive towards loving everyone! This world is full of prejudice that we should fight against!
Also, I’m so glad you addressed dancing!
I love you Cassey! And everything you stand for! Since I started following blogilates about a year ago, you have been such an inspiration to me. You’ve helped me become a more positive person. You have taught me how to smile and be FAB even when I’m doing a tough workout. I feel stronger and more confident. I now love fitness and being healthy! Thank you Cassey, you are amazing!!!
Xo
Chloe
Working in film/tv industry this happens all the time. It honestly makes or breaks how good the job will be if you have even one vain or nasty person like this on set. I’ve worked with many amazing and kind people (and I think that is the majority of the industry). But I recently worked with an “actor” who treated me like dirt, said very nasty and unwarranted things, kept referring to me as his personal assistant (I was not), and at one point called me unprofessional and stupid. All the while, he was so nice and friendly with the director and producer but treated everyone else on the crew like garbage. Look, I’m not saying I haven’t made mistakes from time to time, but I know that I’m good at what I do. It really bothered me for several weeks after the shoot, but then I realized how sad it must be for him to go through life as miserable as he is, because you have to be miserable when you treat others as if they don’t matter. In the end, I am happy that I never have to work with him again and I choose to surround myself with fun, professional, and happy people, and my life is the better for it.
I can totally relate to a “conversation” where you felt like you were the one doing all the work. It kinda hurts when that happens (and also when you referenced people being shallow…I experienced that too). Oh well! Loved your post Cassey.
“I knew for sure that these people were vain and egotistical. ”
Is not that the same “treating people a certain way before you know them” opinion ?!
They might just be bored or sick or something…It really annoys me how you always speak about possitivity and blah blah when you are not so tolerant and positive as you think. The moment someone express different opinion you write a post how hurt you were. Hellooo..different people, different opinions..you should accept them all. Also, I did not even understand what this post was about ?! How you felt bad ?! Well, everyone feels bad from time to time but we do not make it a big deal and we do not exaggerate the meaning of everything that happens to us.
Sorry Alexandra,
But if you don’t want to read Cassie’s entries, what are you doing in this blog?
It is pretty straight forward when someone doesn’t want to talk you, and minutes later, after knowing who you are, he/she really wants to interact with you.
Maybe a bit of more human interaction will let you understand Cassie’s point of view.
In the meantime, enjoy blogilates.
Well said, Jenny. @Alesandra, you have to keep in mind that she didn’t “judge” these people during the initial interaction. In fact, she did try to talk to them. I think that realization part comes at the end when these people found out who she was. They changed from indifference to super friendly. Cassey’s point is to treat all people with the same kindness regardless of their status in the society. She didn’t feel bad by how she was treated. Why would she when in the end they were acting as her best friends. I think she feel bad that this kind of people exists.
I don’t know Cassey personally but I think she doesn’t aim to be perfect. She means well, so don’t take it the wrong way. Please don’t make room for hate just because you misunderstand things. Always smile, it’ll change your perspective. Have a blessed day!
‘They might just be bored or sick or something…’, really? If that was the case, they will not change right away their way to treat her when they noticed she was famous, don’t you think?
What “different opinions” were the makeup and stylists showing? They ignored Cassie, and then did a 180 in attitude when their boss came in. Maybe vain and egotistical were a bit strong, but I believe they weren’t far from it. She even noted that she was just venting and hoping maybe someone could relate or learn from this experience; this is after all her blog, she can do what she pleases.
Ha! Ha! Yes! They ALL must have been bored and sick at the same time, and ALL of them instantly got interested and well again simultaneously at the miraculous sounds of the words “blogilates, 24 hour Fitness, and the book!” I think since Cassie was there and it happened to her, she would know. We should always treat others with kindness, and I thought she did just that, even after the way she had been treated. If that’s not a positive attitude, I don’t know what is! Bless your heart and I hope you have a beautiful day!
Honestly, I feel that “I knew for sure that these people were vain and egotistical. ” was a bit of a… umm… negative thing to say? But I do understand what Cassey means anyway. But guys, berating a commenter on her opinion isn’t going to do ANYONE any good… 🙁
Have a happy day!
You are such an inspiration!
I felt this way around fake people so many times just waiting to find a moment to politely escape their company.
I can totally relate to that situation you were in – my parents play golf and I used to work at the restaurant that belongs to that golfclub … whenever I would go there as a guest, with or without my parents, everyone would treat me like their best friend in the world and like they are soooo happy to see me. But whenever I was there working as a waitress the very same people would suddenly not talk to me anymore and treat me …well… shit. Next day I’d come back as a guest and suddenly everyone’s huggs and kisses again… fakest situation ever, it made me feel really weird and uncomfortable to the point that I would not go there anymore as a guest because I felt at least they were honest when they were all rude and cold towards me but that whole pretendy friendship thing just made me sick ….
beautiful post Cassey! Thank you for sharing! you are great inspiration in fitness for me!
Moral lesson is so need it !
Oh Cassey, that’s really sad honestly when people do that…..I dislike being treated like that, I dislike seeing it happen to other people…it’s demoralizing.
But good for you for treating THEM the same regardless (:
I love your mindset, and using people is so wrong…I hope you enjoyed your shoot regardless! (:
Hi Cassey I just wanted to say I’m in a similar but permanent situation to that in the place where I’m living and there’s one person who doesn’t reciprocate my efforts to talk ever and it is horrible.I’m so stressed out that I can’t breathe properly and have shallow breathing.I’m doing exercise to compensate it but nothing’s working.I’ll be ok once I move out sometime in the future and I’m trying to not let it register but I totally get how you felt and all that shallowness those people showed.Errrrghhh! Treat people as you expect to be treated.Some people just revel in negativity.Shame on them.Hugs and love and light. X
About 6 years ago in 8th grade, I was in choir. We were having an audition day to see who would get to sing solo songs for the pop show. I was nervous because it was the first time I was going to do something like that. So me and a couple friends went to practice in the hallway. I sang a couple of songs so that my friends could helps decide which to do. Well as I finished, these three girls popped their head into the hallway door to see who was singing. This isn’t me bragging on myself, because Iim no Beyoncé. But they came in and were like, “Oh my gosh! Was that you?!” I said yeah. Keep in mind, I knew these girls personally, but I wouldn’t say we were friends. They only talked to me if we were working on something school related. Anyway, after I told them it was me, their faces glowed and they invited me to sit with them at lunch. I did because, hey why not? I wasn’t rude enough to say no. My point is, because they found that I was good at something that could make me somebody one day, they were suddenly interested in having me around. It was also one of the most awkward lunches I’ve ever had. Nobody talked to me. They just had me at their table. Needless to say I didn’t sit with them again. And they’re not terrible people. They were just the kind of girls who liked people who “matter.” It was really sad that that’s all that mattered to them at the time. I dot know what they’re doing with their lives now, but maybe they fgrew up a little after high school.
You spread so much kindness and positivity Cassey. It’s wonderful and amazing and gives me hope. If there were more people in the world like you, the world would be a better place.
That’s such a disrespectful behaviour! I also feel a bit ill when I come across people like that, but at the same time they’re probably acting from low self-esteem and could use an extra smile or two!
Keep up being awesome Cassie!
Hugs from Sweden
As near as I can tell from meeting you briefly in person, hearing you speak, and seeing how you interact with people, you are one of the kindest and most real human beings. I wouldn’t care if you were a garbage collector or a president or a librarian or a bus driver, rich or poor, brown or purple or green or white or striped, you’re just a good person when you are with others. As if that was not enough, there’s more. You freely give so many things to people you don’t even know (hello? free workouts, tons of them, and a free monthly workout calendar?? who does that??), and you are always encouraging.
This made me feel bad because I’m shy and think people think I don’t like them because i don’t talk to them. I don’t know what happened with the people there but for me I feel judged just because I am not as outgoing as other people and when i do want to I feel like I will be judged for talking. Like “Oh, she talks!” It gets really annoying. Anyways, I’m sorry this happened to you.
Im shy too. Sometimes people think im stuck up. But im not I just dont talk to people because it makes me nervous. People say that to me all the time “oh my god you can actually talk” . So rude.
Kristi,
Not to worry. There is a huge difference between shy and vain people. A shy person is consistently shy all the time.
Kristi, you totally took the words out of my mouth! I’m super shy too. So we’re basically in the same boat. I’ve had a guy tell me that he thought I was just stuck up but once he got to know me he was all “You’re just quiet…not stuck up a all” lol. I’m 26 years old and it’s still immensely difficult to make and keep friends. The struggle is real.
Ugh! Sorry to hear that happened to U! I have lived and worked in many different places around the US and LA seems to be the worst place for this! I really hope it doesn’t spread. I live in Colorado now and everyone is refreshingly down-to-earth and friendly.
I went to parties when I lived in CA, and no one would talk to me until they found out who my boss was. It is just sad for those shallow people.
Cassie, this is a marvelous post. I think that what you shared here is important not just for the happiness of those around you but for your own piece of mind. One of the most shameful moments of my life is a time when I felt “too good” for another woman and brushed off her friendly request to spend time with me. At the time, I truly believed it was a privelage for her to be in my company (how awful is that?!). Now mind you I was bullied relentlessly as a child, so I knew what it was like to feel rejected, but I still made this choice. Within a few days however, I began to feel ashamed for disragarding her genuine and brave request.
To this day I occaisionally drive by her in town and a sharp pang of guilt rips through me. I am so ashamed to admint that I have ever acted this way, even if it was 9 years ago. I am so thankful that as I’ve grown older (and I hope wiser) I have learned that other people’s company is the real privelage and everyone has something valuable to offer to you in life. She may never think of it, but I certainly learned that day that the way you treating others poorly can be detrimental to yourself as much as to them.
Unfortunately, I see things like this all the time in NYC. Every one is so arrogant and stuck up. It is very sad and it just spurs me to be even more nice to people every day regardless of who they are.
I’m so happy for you and your sucess, and your positivity is so contagious! I know that if I had been in that situation I wouldn’t have acted anything like you did. It makes me sick that people can be so full of themselves like that and I’m so glad that you’ve never let your sucess turn you into someone like that. I know it sounds like I’m gushing but you genuinely reach me how to e a better person, you teach us way more than how to sculpt our bodies but also our minds, outlook, and personality.
Many people are so shallow. I have had this same instance happen to me; when people find out a piece of information about you that is interesting or that may help them, they change. It is sad, but a good lesson on how not to act.
I love your word ‘irked’ it reminds me of my mom and fun to see someone so young using the old classic words that are cool and different.
Stay true to yourself. I am much older than you and You amaze me with your wisdom! <3
Hi Cassey!
Just wanted to say how much a absolutly adore you! Your my idol for s many reason, and reading this just maked me even more sure about how awsome you are!
Many thanks for all your hard work you share with us, and for being such an amazing person!
Hey Cassey!
I wanted to leave a little note for you, because your message rubs me the wrong way a bit. There is a way to exude positivity without pointing out the fault of others. In the end, you honestly don’t know what those people were thinking or what their motivation was. I love reading your posts, but this one is so negative. I felt I just wanted to share that impression with you. Lots of <3
I get that a lot. My family move to US 4 years ago, and my parents speaks very little english. My english is broken too but I know enough to understand the words, “brown people”, “annoying”. I recently went to a restaurant while my boyfriend was getting something from the car. The people acted like, they were very worried I wont have enough money and if I “REALLY” wanted to eat here, my boyfriend came in who is white, and suddenly they are the nicest people ever. Don’t get it..
Hi Cassey,
I want you to know that you are so right about how some people only care about you if they figure they can get something from you– whatever it could be, even to have others think they are special. It is a shame we have so many self-important people in this world and those that do not even care for themselves so obviously they can not care about others. It was heart-breaking to read the way you were treated because you are such a friendly and bubbly person that I, myself, can not get enough of watching your videos– you always bring a smile to my face because you are special and bring me into your personality. I think you are a great person and appreciate what you do for people. Sorry you had that terrible experience.
Stay true to yourself
Cassey
Thank you, seriously. It’s great to know there are people like you in places like that that.
What!? That’s so lame and a similar thing happened to me when I got my hair cut a while back. I bought a groupon for a haircut and felt like the girl judged me so much because of it. She was silent and really short with me. I tried to make friendly conversation but eventually just gave up. She then started talking to her coworker and they were talking trash about another coworker. It was super lame and I definitely wouldn’t go back and support that salon. Anyway, thanks for being real and sharing your experience. xo
And THAT is quite likely why this particular salon needed to advertise on Groupon. Sad.
Thank you- that is the first thing I have to say. I am grateful for the series of events that pushed me into your world. From your post (this is the first one I have read) I know I am linked up with a like mind.
Keep your positive attitude shining, be that light or mirror and in the event YOU need light it will appear.
You are helping people you may never meet in person, but our minds have met and appreciate the union.
Thanks and keep up the momentum.
Hi Cassey,
I just had to laugh when I read the ending… it is so true You do have so much and I Thank You for Sharing with the rest of us too;) I have to say yes everyone you come across in your lifetime and have the opportunity to share a moment in time with them, sharing something you have in common can be empowering for everyone invloved. Even though I grew up in “those types are this way and those people are that way they are never to be trusted”. Later In life, on my own I learned how kindness works while getting a job, becoming socially adept, asking for help and helping others. Now I take paratransit with my daughter and the looks I get sometimes getting off the bus and even on until I smile and say “Hi” has helped me learn about a woman battling kidney issues on dialysis, an elderly lady who had a son that was like my daughter had surgery by the same Dr. my daughter will be having her spinal fusion from. Her son passed in his twenties but he never had a problem with his surgery. I love learning and discovering through others. Now if I could just figure out how to stay on top of my daughters fundraiser and STAY positive. The rollercoaster is exhausting.
Enjoying this months calendar.
Have a wonderful FABruary Cassie!
Those people are what I call social status climbers: people who only want to be your friend to climb that social status ladder. It sucks that you had to deal with that, and sadly there are a lot of those people out there. But I’m glad you stayed positive and didn’t let it ruin your day. You’re awesome Cassey! Love you <3
Danggg! Get it girl! You show them how its done. Kudos to you for being nice to them despite treating you like a nobody, that’s tough to do.
Hi Cassey, I adore you even more for raising that subject, with such honesty and from your level.
I’ve had a similar experience not long ago in a bank where wanted to open my business account. Well, one thing- they guy who gave me the attitude, I’ll tell you only this much, he did not realise how and from whom it will come back to him 😉
You just never know and treating people with kindness is the best thing you can do & the best peson you can be.
I love the poster I saw saying “I saw that– karma”
Much love Cassey, from me& my bunny who is my blogilates excursuses companion.
Hi Cassey, I noticed you posted about this on instagram so decided to come here and read your post. I just wanted to ask you something. When you I first meet someone, I am always nice and treat everyone with respect. However, what about when the person actually doesn’t turn out how you think they were because once they know you’re good at something, they started to feed off of you? Do I continue being as I was, or should I stop talking to this person? It’s just a bit unfair that I am doing all the work and they just kind of like waiting there until I get it done so I can tell them how to do it later? Sorry if I am making no sense at all, I just felt like this can’t be applied to all situations or perhaps this is a different scenario.
Love you Cassey!
Cassey, you really give me so much life. Situations like this happen all of the time, but it’s positive people like you and all of us in the POPster community that allow for the world to shine a little brighter.
Tis all, bless up. <3 ^.^
U r so true Cassey!!! I feel so bad that people judge u by ur status…if u r nothing n will not benefit others…u r just like dust to others!!!it happens many times with me..n sometimes I just cry in alone n feel upset for many days….but i treat all others with respect, kindness…u know wat in Respect is everything…that v need everytime…RESPECT LOVE KINDNESS…key words of good life…thanks for sharing your experience Cassey…i truly love BLOGILATES…THAT IS U CASSEY…u r not only our instructor but also a good friend..v never met but our hearts are attached…i love this community…
Thanks for being so honest about your experience, not a lot of people would do that. I completely agree with you, it’s so rude to do that to someone. The beach looks beautiful though. Btw I’m loving February workout calendar (have done atleast one video on it most days) and 30 day butt chalange (doing it everyday) they’re super motivational & easy to do.
Hi! ^^
My sister and I danced out hearts out with you today Cassey! 😀 It was SO much fun! I think we did all of your dance-videos + Gentleman Challenge + Fun Cardio Work Out (which is practically dance, right?). Man, I was sweaty afterwards, but I feel sooo good <3
Yeah, that situation is deisgusting… I feel it very often. Cause I have this friend, she's not like other people and she's struggeling a bit. These last days she has been away from school, and my school-camerates have suddenly much more interest in me now that she's not around! Yeah, I like that they finally want to no me and that she's not there to "scare" them away, but I wish they could just accept her as she is and not avoid everyone around her just because of here problems….
Oh Cassey~Thank you so much for your honest thoughts! I think that’s one of your greatest attributes. You’re not afraid to state the good, bad, and the ugly if it means shedding light on the truth. Perhaps those people did have a bad day at work and who knows whelse, but ultimately we should all strive to live with love and grace on others.
My story is a bit like yours and not like yours all at the same time. I’m the wife of a pastor and I surprisingly get both sides from people, hah!! As a devout lover of Jesus (or at least trying hehe), I have learned to see people for what they are or may be going through and if any hurt is directed toward me it’s usually because they have their own craziness going on in life–not because I am me. Not to justify their actions but hurt people, hurt people. Right? And interestingly enough, there are women who want to get close to me not because of ill-will but because they know I’ll be there for them to pray, encourage, etc. I don’t mind that because it’s a job and a calling–a huge joy to me! But I’ve accepted that as close as we can get to many people, there are usually only a FEW really reliable individuals I can call friend+sister. On the other hand, many will be more than ok with me AS A PERSON and potential friend, but will flee because I have that Christian and ministerial label. Ah, such a paradox but it’s all worth it in the end! I guess I’m wanting to say that people will always have some kind of hang up (including myself) but it’s up to us to embrace them unconditionally or push them out of our personal lives if wisdom demands us to. Well, thank you for letting me share that super long and unsolicited comment hah! I think our generation is becoming exponentially calloused to the world around us and so entrenched in our own selves, so it’s refreshing to hear such young people like you and others in this platform be so aware and caring about HUMaNS, period! <3
Just a thought, maybe they were more introverted than you (I imagine most are)? I am incredibly introverted. Being around super bubbly, outgoing people makes me uncomfortable. I am constantly trying to change this bc I think I give off a cold vibe by retreating from these super social people and I certainly don’t want to give off the wrong impression. I completely grasp at straws, trying to find something about extroverted people to engage them in talking about themselves, rather than me. Maybe upon learning about your life, they were more comfortable getting you to lead the encounter? If we met, you would probably think I was horribly stuck up. Nope! I am good at engineering and critical thinking but bad at being bubbly and sociable!
I agree with you Alexandra, I don’t think it’s fair that us introverts get persecuted. There’s nothing wrong with not being talkative. It does seem odd that everyone Cassey was coming into contact with was acting strange though. We will never know the reason why the people were acting the way they were since we weren’t there. Cassey could be right and every single person on set was a snob, or maybe it was something else. Maybe they were sad because something had just happened. I would encourage folks to not jump to conclusions and assume people are jerks because they’re quiet.
I agree that you might be right, but if those people were really introverts, why would they start to speak to Cassey and behaving not like introverts as soon as they found out who Cassey was? 😉
I agree half with you but even if you are introverted if someone starts talking with you, you don’t give an answer and when you find out, the person is kinda famous, suddenly you talk and smiling? Sounds like an awkward situation and probably not real.
Anyway, we shouldn’t judge since we weren’t present when Cassey experienced it.
This has happened to me lots of times. Like for example, I met someone who really didn’t speak to me at all and few months later, I found out it was a close friend of a friend of mine. And when she “introduced” us, she was so happy to meet me and stuff. Of course I followed her lead because I pitied her. I think it’s horrible for people to judge by the cover and change their opinions or personality for such little. With what happened, I realised tens of people do this.
I’m so sorry you had to go through that situation and the awkardness of it all.
Not related to this but I have two very super important questions.
I do your exercises every day and sometimes I don’t finish them because I play volleyball and my arms, knees or ankles can hurt. But I always try them. So the problem is that I always eat more than what’s enough. And I know that one more cookie in the breakfast is not going to screw it. I usually have chocolate or other kind of junk food. This really annoys me because I want to have THE BODY to be happy with myself and to let everybody that I can have THE BODY, you understand me, right? Can you give me tips to get over this and get IT?
And the second is the most important. I know youi have been in different cities teaching Pilates. Have you ever come to Madrid? I’m from Madrid 🙂 and I wanted to know if you were or if you’re going to be here soon. I’d love to be there.
And, as another girl said before, and I quote her to say goodbye, thank you for everithing you do daily. Thak you for the calendars and videos and workouts and the time you dedicate to this.
<> So thank you. I’m sure I’ll do this with your help.
-C-
PS: Excuse me if there are any spelling mistakes. 🙂
I can totally connect with this and really needed the reflection this morning! A similar situation occured with me at work today. One of the “higher-ups” went to talk to my boss before even confronting me about anything. Apparently I wasn’t allowed to nap ( I was reeeeallly tired that day) in this back room and I had no idea about it. Rather than just telling me the day she found me she felt as though she couldn’t take the time to talk to someone below her on the ladder. It made me feel hurt and angry. Why do people treat others that way? No matter who you are I talk to you the exact same way…
Did it make you feel like you were in the ‘Capitol’ of the hunger games?
Awful though really. Agreed I couldn’t ever treat anyone that way. I would’ve felt really self conscious if no one was talking to me and embarrassed like maybe I had a huge cold sore on my face or something. I’m so glad you were able to push through and maintain your positivity! We love you. Thanks for always being so nice.
xoxo
I absolutely love how you promote a healthy lifestyle AND a healthy attitude about the world. You are truly a bright light and illuminating people’s lives in so many ways.
Thank you Cassie!
You should do a thirty day dance challenge calender!!!!!!!
that’s why we love you Cassey. You love people and you don’t care who they are..And that’s a gift so precious. People today is just interested in what can earn from you or from any situation. But just as you recommended, every person is to treat with dignity just because was created on God’s image.
Love you Cassey and feel very lucky to have come to know you!
God bless you dear
Milena <3
Thank you so much for sharing!
Sadly I’ve to admit that I know these situations too well. I’ve been to different hair dressers and hardly ever they talk to me, they seem to care more about the older ladies who come and not about young people. I’ve also had this “leading a conservation on my own and feeling weird doing so” lately in college. We have two students from foreign countries and the girl can’t speak my native language too well and she doesn’t really understand English either. I found myself several times trying to get into talking with her by using hand, feet, writing, etc. Trying to explain some things, only using easy basic words so she could follow. She didn’t really seem to be interested much. Most of the time she told me she’s hungry.
These moments are so completly different than what I had experienced today. I had to see my doctor and my god, he’s so nice, so friendly. He asks how you do and really means it. He shows major interest in how I’m doing with my studies and if you ask him back he’s honest.
I try to do my best in treating people alike. I’ve had an internship several years ago in a facility where people with handicaps work and you always think they are poor and helpless. Suddenly I was the helpless one. They told me that you are not unabled if you can’t walk, don’t have all legs or arms or are mentally limited. They can do everything if they just try and don’t give up and so can we too.
Thanks again for sharing, Cassey and thank you to everyone who has posted their experiences! I’ve read them all 🙂
Kathy
Hi Cassey,
I’m so sorry to hear how appallingly you were treated by those superficial, fake people! But am inspired by the way you nevertheless treated them with kindness and positivity. I had a similar experience at a bank a while ago, where I was getting some routine things organised with my bank accounts. The person who served me was so cold and almost condescending, she didn’t smile at all, obviously judging that I was a young person who was essentially a “nobody” (I was dressed very casually and wearing no makeup). Her attitude COMPLETELY changed when she asked for my ID and recognised my address as the same address as my dad, who is a regular customer of the bank and had a lot of dealings with this particular person. He has even brought them gifts once to thank them for their great service. Her eyes lit up and said “Oh! Your dad must be one of our regular customers!”. I confirmed this, and she said “I know him quite well!” For the rest of the time she served me she was smiling and super friendly the entire time.
Needless to say I was disgusted by this behaviour and have never been back to that bank branch. It’s funny that my dad has always said everyone at that branch was really nice. Little did he know, they are all just total fakes.
It’s sad how many people like this are out there. Unfortunately we can’t change this, but we CAN try our best to treat everyone with equal kindness, respect, and humility.
Thanks for all that you do Cassey! Keep up the amazing work 🙂 xxx
Thank you so much for that post!
Still believe in kindness and love, I wouldn’t want it any other way! You really give me the feeling that there’s something good in the world 🙂 I promise you guys, you will have the best day of the week when you leave your phone at home! Don’t care about the stuff on fb or twitter for one day, just flow with the time you have by yourself! It REALLY cleans your soul 🙂 Thanks Cassey for motivating me <3
where is the like button when you need one? lol! but Cassey you’re so inspirational for being the bigger person! i need an extra boost to workout to your vids btw! God bless~
Thanks for sharing this story. I am a PhD student at a university and I give a lot of courses for the undergraduates. Last week I gave one for a special elite master programm and the people taking my course treated me like a servant….up until the moment the professor dropped by to asked me how I am. Then they were all extremly interested and nice..
I love your positivity and how you still keep it during a situation like this. Thank you for inspiring so many people 🙂
What you wrote is so amazing – you’re reallu inspiring me.
I hope you don’t mind me asking but this is a question I’m really curious about – do you believe in God?
xoxo
I love you Cassey! So please don’t take this the wrong way, but it sounds a little like the pot calling the kettle black. Like maybe you’re judging them based on assumptions that they are judging you. This post made me think of a lesson that my daughter and I covered today in the Bible… “When anyone is replying to a matter before he hears it, that is foolishness on his part and a humiliation.—Prov. 18:13.”
I try to exercise discernment and understanding, and though it’s not always easy because my imperfect self wants to say, “The nerve!” It’s always good to remember scriptures like these at times like this.
I always want you to be your beautiful self! Take care.
A bit ironic to give a passage about being judgmental then proceed to judge a situation where you weren’t present at.
Omg am sorry that happened to you Cassey. Those people are VERY fake and what I like to call “bougie” as hell! I feel like everyone should be treated with kindness and with respect no matter their wrath, skintone, race, religion, etc. At the end of day we are all humans and should be treated as such! For them to have treated you differently as soon as they heard about your success was dead wrong of them to have treated you that way and was very rude. They in that “Hollywood” mindset and clearly it ain’t cute! They were looking for a come up instead of really genuinely loving you the moment they met you. They were so rude to you and that’s not right at all!
I’m so sorry that you received that kind of treatment on your shoot. How unnerving! I am so sensitive to that kind of thing. I have so much trouble relaxing if people around me are cold or upset. I can’t believe you had a chance to see their true colors, too. Ick! I love how friendly and sweet you are, Cassey. It always brightens my day, and it makes it so fun to work out. Thank you for always being your bubbly, kind, caring self with us!
Situations like this are the worst! You definitely handled it well, Cassey. My dad is a farmer, and he always told my brother and I how important it was to be polite to everyone we meet. “Even a pig can grunt” he would say- kind of shows where these people were on the food chain, no? ? 😉 lol
Not going to lie, I’m so glad you didn’t pursue medicine and you blessed popsters and people all over the world with such positivity and light. Saving lives physically is important but so is saving lives mentally.
Wow, I have been in many situations like this just dealing with my peers at school or work, it’s like if you’re not the most liked or prettiest people aren’t as nice, but as soon as that “pretty” or popular person talks to you then everyone else will. I really admire your positive attitude just on life and appreciate to have a role model who has these values. One question: what type of dance class do you take? I’ve been looking to take fun dance classes but my gym doesn’t offer any as of now :/
oh cassey I love you 🙂 and it’s true people like that need positivity but they also need to be told the truth; that they need an adjustment to their characters.
Thank you, Cassey. I do agree on the “Get over yourself” part. But any idea how to also get over these people and not let them affect our mood altogether? I mean, it’s easier saod than done to ignore, but if these go on for a longer period; their negativity would eventually have impact on us. You’re truly an inspiration, and i hope we can learn more from you. To stay fit, and positive!! X
Well luckily I did my thing and got out. You have to remove yourself from these people.
Well, sometimes we can’t get out easily. Say, if those people are our colleagues or, worse, our bosses. Or clients. Anyway, appreciate your reply!
Sorry this happened to you! But I was dying when I read “My cup is overflowing with positivity so I have enough to spare into their half empty souls” lolol They definintely showed their true colors. You keep doing you!
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This reminds me of one of my favorite quotes:
“The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.” -Samuel Johnson
that is an amazing quote
Hi Cassey! First of all, great job prepping for the shoot – I bet it wasn’t easy, and I can’t wait to see what comes out. Second of all, be true to yourself. It goes to show you’re a good person that you were trying to talk to others. I’m sorry you experienced that. But maybe they learned a lesson? Rock on!
What a bunch of shallow, little people. You handled that a lot better than I would have. It is shame you were treated so poorly. Thank you for all you do for us. We appreciate it! *Hugs*
You’re so down to earth, is unbelievable. I love you even more for this, and hey cassey, who is. Teaching the dance workouts youre doing? I want to get my butt off the couch to do dance cardio. Is it really that hard?
Ahhh Cassey!! Thank you so much for being a positive person!!
I want to cry lol. I recently worked as staff for an event where teachers from all over the prefecture gathered and I was working at a reception table. I smiled and greeted everyone, even though I’m really only familiar with a quarter of the 300 people attending. And it upset me so much that so many people wouldn’t return a smile, or at the very least acknowledge me. It was the worst when I said hello to someone by name and they just looked at me and walked away.
It was a two day event, so after going home that night and letting out my frustrations I returned the next day determined to not let it get to me. I even made an effort to invite my friends for lunch that weekend. Come that weekend, the four of us are snuggled into a booth and enjoying a meal and even though the mood should have been up, it was down. At some point, someone says, “So guys, what’s the meaning of life? Let’s talk about something for reals.”
Since no one was answering, I blurted out, “Happiness! Finding happiness, not the superficial kind, but being happy with what you have and making other people happy. I think that’s important.”
She shot it down so fast. “No no no… Happiness… That’s to self-serving.*
Another friend just looked at me and turned to the other, “I think it’s time I join that club of cynics you and —– have going on.”
I didn’t even respond. She probably doesn’t have any idea how hard it is for me to accept that it’s okay to be happy, that I deserve to value myself at the same level I value the people I care about. To call my desire to be happy “selfish” hurt so much. And after a really hard year of dealing with tough situations, learning to be happy with the little things and what I have has been an effort for me.
Phew. Sorry, I needed to get this off my chest. It’s been a few weeks and I still get upset when I think of this and I haven’t wanted to hang out with anyone because I can’t stand how down they are. I feel like I need new friends. Why is it so hard to meet genuine, positive people?
I think this is a big reason that I prefer to workout with your videos than with anything else. We’ve never met obviously, but you are a positive person in my life. You are smiling and happy to show off your new nail polish and even that is the extent of how I know you, it means a lot to me. Thank you for your bright outlook and positive attitude!
*hugs*
just so many *hugs”
Speaking as someone else who isn’t Japanese living in Japan… this is a common thing. I don’t do JET or but I do work at an eikaiwa and as soon as you ask someone a question about emotions or personal goals… they can’t seem to do it. I asked a guy once what the people in a picture were feeling and his answer (honest to goodness) was “I don’t know. I can’t imagine things like that, I’m Japanese” so I’m not surprised that someone shot down happiness as being the meaning of life. Too many of my students come in to rant about how much they hate their jobs but refuse to get a new one or don’t stand up for themselves because it’s not “how we Japanese do things”.(again, something a salaryman actually said to me)
Herd mentality here doesn’t allow for much self-love 🙁 And if you are, you’re seeing as being too “self-serving” or, for us women “strong headed” or “independent” which is sadly seems to be an unattractive quality to many still over here
I dunno if this was another foreigner or a Japanese person who said this to you (although it doesn’t really matter) but try not to let them snub out your individuality or your happiness. If you do, you’ll find yourself lost in the herd and just as miserable. You need to keep true to yourself and you will draw like-minded people to you! There are out there, just stick with it ^__________^
*hug*
Can I just say how much I love that so many JETs/外国人-living-in-Japan are Blogilates devotees??
Seriously Cassey, you keep those of us so far away from home sane over here 😉
Yay for international popsters ^________^
I once had to go to a training thing for work and during the lunch break I was talking with one of the girls at my table and we got to talking about exercise. When I told her I did Pilates vids online… she said she did too… and we just kinda looked at each other and were like “popster?”
it was a magical moment XD
Ha! love it =D
Calling happiness selfish? That’s one of the craziest things I’ve heard. Of course the meaning of life is to find happiness. You are amazing.
This post about happiness being selfish makes me so sad! It’s also kind of silly because there has been so much philosophy written on the meaning of life. Hume, anyone? By truly seeking your own longterm happiness, you are seeking the happiness of others. Besides you seem like the kind of person who is happy when the people around you are happy. Where is the harm in that? I’m sorry about what they said and how people reacted to you. It sounds like you have a light inside of you that can brighten anyone’s day. Don’t let it get snuffed out! =)
It’s so funny you mention this. I was just having an in-depth conversation with my boyfriend about this because I work with someone that does the same thing. That is a quality that a lot of people have that REALLY gets under my skin. It’s one of my biggest annoyances. The silver-lining is that that quality makes it really obvious who you do and don’t want to invest in friendships with pretty much right away.
Cassey, one thing I like about you is that you DON’T do this! You’re not too important for us. You’re still being you and you’re still kind as ever! I was a little surprised to see just how down-to-earth you were when I met you recently at a POP pilates class in NYC. I can’t say I was blown away-it’s really obvious how kind you are if you watch 3 minutes of any of your videos. However, for someone with such a busy schedule, you sure do make sure to take care of every person you come in contact with. This is something that gets me down sometimes, and it’s so nice and refreshing to see that people still care about that!
I also really like that you talk about these things. So many young girls (and older ones like me!) look up to you for several different reasons, whether it be for body image issues or emotional issues and matters of respect like these. It’s nice to see you opening a dialogue about this and getting people to look at the big picture.
Always a fan, Cassey. <3 Sorry you had to put up with that, because nobody should!
Nah it’s alright. I just glad I realized what was going on. It was kinda shocking so I needed to share. So nice meeting you too!
Cassey! I loved your post. Its so funny how quickly people can change when they find out who you actually are. The funny part is once a boss or a higher up says something the minions tend to follow. I can’t stand fake people. I feel for you! A true person shows their character by how they treat everyone.
Great post,
Sam Boulter
Fake people. UGH!
This is something that has happened to me a lot in college. People always think I’m less cultured because I don’t think it’s necessary to wear make up or dress nicely all the time. I get treated differently all the time, and there’s people who change how they treat me based on how they perceive me, and not how I really am. It irks me!
Judging based on the surface is never positive. I try to treat everyone nicely, no matter how bad my day is.
Thanks for the post!
Not that I always succeed, but I usually try to remind myself that God has brought certain people into my life for a reason. A reason I may never know. But my duty is to do unto others as I would want done to me. Your story reminds me a bit of James 2:3 in which the perceived “important” person gets special attention and the “unimportant” person is essentially ignored. Read it and see if you can’t draw some comparisons.
Love your blog! Love your videos! Keep doing what you do!
You’re such a beautiful soul, Cassie. Well done on the photo shoot! I’m very sorry to read that you experienced that, but also grateful as the lesson might serve as a wake up call to people who read your blog who might do this without realizing. In my experience I’ve found the type of people you encountered at your shoot are more common than those (like yourself) who make a concentrated effort to treat everyone with equal respect, and I think its because it actually requires a concentrated effort to do so so. In our society we’re drilled to do well in our careers and sayings like ‘you are who you hang with’ and ‘its not what you know, but who know’ are drilled into our subconscious minds, so its hardly surprising that the masses (for lack of better word) behave in this manner. Hopefully positive, modern day role models like yourself and Ellen (“be kind to one another”) will inspire a positive change in our cultural norms.,, WOW, that was long.
Awkward moment when you post a grammatically incorrect comment and are unable to edit it. One so, not two :3
This was amazing post Cassey!! Couldn’t agree more! Everyone deserves to be treated with respect!!
You are so right about this topic, people only care about someone else when they have something to offer them which is quit sad really. You should always treat someone with respect no matter what. you can be the one person to turn there day around or make them happy. Why bring people down or make them feel uncomfortable. I used to work at a restaurant and people would come in with such a horrible attitude, you would smile at them and ask how there day was and they would just look at you like u were stupid. So what I would do is just kill them with kindness, no matter what attitude they would have towards me i would always walk away with a smile on my face. you did the right thing, dont let there rudeness effect your amazing attitude! I love u cassey you are such an amazing human being 🙂
kill em with kindness 🙂
I couldn’t agree more. I am like you. Even if I want to treat people badly, I just can’t. I am always positive and always smile and try to avoid conflict until the very end.
For example, I was taught by my parents and by my primary school teachers that I should say “hello” “have a nice day” to anyone that worked or lived in my proximity. At my university, I always say hello to everybody: from the cleaning lady to the rector. But what I have noticed is that people don’t reciprocate. Well, some of them do, but others unless I say hello to them first act as if they are more important and as if they cannot risk their pride getting hurt by saying hello first.
I always think the same thing when people do that “Get over yourself!”
Also, people treat you differently based on how you look and how you are dressed. Although I am a fashion lover, I never judge people like that.
This post made me love you even more. You are definitely the most positive influence in my life and my idol. ^^
Love you, Cassey!
I love your comment, so inspiring to me 🙂
This is so true. Everyone should be treated with respect. We all deserve it. Thanks for sharing, Cassey!
ugh!! I hate when people are like that! Working in high end retail stores I’ve come across way too may people like that and it can really ruin a day! UNlike you I may not have been so nice back but thank you for setting an example of how to make the world a better place! As I am trying to accept more positivity in my life and and become a much kinder person I love reading stories like this! Thank you!!!
Wow! That’s just crazy! I don’t understand why people think it’s okay to be that way. It makes you wonder how their personal life relationships are when they are so materialistic.
Hey Cassey,
I just cannot agree more with you on the fact that people who treat others according to how much the relationship will benefit them, really comes across as being full of themselves and just.. unpleasant. I ‘ve had an experience with a classmate at my university and I completely can relate to how you felt when you realized the standard some people have in meeting others (meaning, they treat you differently according to who you are..) I’m still bewildered about how I need to treat them back, when I know how they view me and therefore treat me like a no one.. but I guess you are right about just being who you are despite how they treat you and not let it affect change your attitude afterall..
Sometimes I just feel really frustrated about people like my classmate and those who were at your photo-shoot, but I guess we just o keep our heads up and not let those bad attitudes affect us!
G
I’m sorry they took away from what was supposed to be a great day.
This is so very true. I’m a nurse, but see how my peers and physicians treat aids, secretaries, housekeepers, etc. It’s shameful! I do my best to treat everyone how I want to be treated. It’s important to me to great people, learn their names and treat them with the respect they deserve. I couldn’t do my job without them.
Thank you for a great post.
exactly! we all need each other.