December 3, 2017
I’m having a reminiscing kinda day and I’m just thinking about all those times I wasted feeling embarrassed. It’s a weird feeling. No one likes it. And the sooner we can shake it off, the sooner we can get on with life!
But when we’re young, we spend soooo much energy being embarrassed. For example, my last name. “Ho”. Kids always made fun of me for that (on top of being chubby and asking too many questions in class). I felt really bad that I didn’t have a regular last name like “Smith” or “Lee” or something like that. I was ashamed of my name and I let the thoughts of other ignorant people negatively affect my self-confidence.
I look back and wish 6th grade Cassey could choose not to worry about that. But being young, EVERYTHING is the end of the world.
I’ll say this – one of the benefits to getting older is you start gaining perspective on what really matters…and who’s opinion actually matters. You learn what is a big deal and what just seems like a big deal. We start cutting ourselves slack. We allow ourselves chances to mess up and make mistakes. We aren’t absolutely consumed with what people will think.
When I think back on all the things I didn’t do because I was embarrassed, I feel so sad. When I think about time I spent being worried someone would make fun of me or think I wasn’t cool, I just want that time back.
Here’s the truth: we’re our hardest critics. No one is looking at you as much as you think they are. Take that dance class! Try out for a local improv group! Join a recreational soccer league! TRY things! Do stuff you are interested in. You are the biggest obstacle standing in your way. Because, I promise, if you’re thinking, “I’m just going to embarrass myself!” you’ll think back later and wish you had given it a chance.
When we think back on our most embarrassing moments, they usually turn into funny stories. Funny at the time? Oh DEFINITELY not! But honestly, life is about looking foolish occasionally. It’s putting yourself out there and being vulnerable and attempting stuff you haven’t done before. If you can laugh at yourself, nothing is ever that bad.
I want to always try new things. New fitness classes. New endeavors. New activities. Am I going to be good at everything I do? Nope. Am I going to look out of place and like I don’t know what I’m doing? YEP. Because that’s what “new” means. You haven’t done it before!
We let embarrassment and fear keep us from so many life experiences. We get into our own heads. That mean lil’ voice of ours emerges and fills us with negativity.
Tell that voice to SHUT IT. Life is too short to be embarrassed.
I dare you to step outside of your comfort zone this week. Do you accept?