How to Deal with Bad Days: when the sucking gets even suckier
How to Deal with Bad Days: when the sucking gets even suckier
Hi Guys!
This week has been anything but great. I have run into so many problems and complications. And it’s like one after the other, after another. It’s just one of those weeks where it’s like “Yea, there’s no way that would ever happen to ME”…
and it does.
In every aspect of life. Domino style.
Won’t go into details about my issues but can you imagine Cassey being mad and irritated all the time? Ha, probably not, so don’t. It’s no fun. For me or anyone around me. So I thought I’d dedicate this post to self empowerment.
As a student, I used to let my grades affect my mood. If I got an A, life was amazing and I’d be singing all over the place. If I got a bad grade, I’d “punish” myself and lock myself up in my dorm and be like “BAD YOU” – no shopping for you this weekend. I’d even cry. (I think this has something to do with my strict Asian upbringing…)
Other things that used to affect me or still do: a friend saying something behind your back, someone saying something mean about you, someone misinterpreting your actions, a failed opportunity, not reaching a goal, not being able to please someone etc, I mean the list can go on.
Sometimes these things hurt real bad. Like I get this heavy feeling in my chest, I freeze up, I feel like a complete failure and wanna shrivel up and escape reality for a while. Yea I know, REAL bad. These feelings are true and real, but knowing what to do about those feelings is what makes the diff between a regular person and a RESILIENT human being.
We POPsters are resilient. When it gets tough, you gotta tell yourself to effin get back up. I know it doesn’t feel good, I know it doesn’t feel right, but you just gotta do it. Stop slumping. Shoulders down, chest proud. Inhale through your nose and out your mouth. Then think about everything that makes you brilliant.
Did that one thing someone said about you really erase everything that made you who you are today? NO! Not even close.
I have a trick or technique that helps me snap out of my funk every time. I guess I sorta “developed” this in high school when I was extremely pressured in academics, social circles, and sports. If I ever failed at something, I’d take a step back and repeat some of my favorite accomplishments to myself.
Sounds self-centered right? Well it is. But when you’re feeling down, the only person that can TRULY pick you up is yourself. This technique works really well when playing counselor with friends too.
Example: Julie’s boyfriend just broke up with her and she lost the deciding game for her tennis team, which in turn made the whole team lose the championship. Julie begins crying and can’t get a hold of herself. Feels worthless.
You’d say something like, “Julie. Stop. Now look at me. You’re a beautiful girl who has accomplished so many things! You don’t need to waste your feelings on this. Remember last year when no one thought you’d make varsity and now you’re team captain? You’re an honor student on the Dean’s List every semester! You’re class president! You just got nominated as “Most Likely to Succeed!” Everyone’s jealous of your fashion sense! You’re at Harvard on a full ride! There are 3 companies waiting to hire you after you graduate!”
This works. It makes them smile how ridic you can get with the accomplishments sometimes. And it works on you too.
So today, I fell. (Actually, I’ve been trippin all over the place all week long.) And picked myself up. No, I don’t actually say these affirmation types of things out loud, I say em in my head. Eventually, that heavy chest feeling goes away. It also helps to talk to someone who will listen. They don’t need to have solutions. They just need to let you pour your feelings out. A trusting significant other, loyal best friend, or close colleague can be that person.
So today’s lesson? EMPOWER YOURSELF to make the change. I’m gonna relate this to fitness now.
If you ever feel unmotivated, give yourself the strength to CREATE CHANGE. The couch isn’t holding onto your saddlebags and telling you not to go to the gym. YOU are. FIGHT your negative thoughts and flood your mind with positivity. Make yourself feel good inside and you are more likely to listen to your own commands.
That’s all I have for you right now POPsters. Have an amazing Wednesday!
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Thank you for this post! I have some pretty bad days with no workouts then the negativity becomes heavier in my mind.
Filling your mind with positive thoughts is a simple cure. Thanks 🙂
Yes it is!
Augh this is totally what I needed to read.
So many family issues have been taking over my mental ‘stability’…
From friend issues to my motivation to do anything productive; I have been dying.
But reading this, at 1:30 in the freaking morning, has truly given me strength. I think reading from non-personal things is a refresher because from loved ones, it gets kind of repetitive for me. Like, oh you can do this, you;re strong…blah blah blah. So this has been really nice for me! Thanks for absolutely everything you do for your fans; especially me! 😛
God bless!
I just discovered your blog/site this morning while I was kicking myself in the butt, stuck to my bed and facebooking! On accident! Your words reminded me of who I really am and I’m out of my slump that quick lol thanks! 🙂
Woowoo, what a wonderful article. Thanks Cassey for this information. I have learnt a lot from this article this very morning and it will really make my day.
There are times I feel working out is worthless for me, but going through this, I have to create a change in my head and I must fill my head with positive thinkings.
I hope you feel better sweetie. Frowns aren’t made for your face. Smiling is =) And I understand the “If I got a bad grade, I’d punish myself and lock myself up in my dorm… has something to do with my strict Asian upbringing” – I’m asian too. It’s not easy. So smile from now on ok? =)
aww, i love u.
Hi Cassey, I’ve found your videos last week and I’m sooo glad I did. I’ve been bragging about you and your blog to almost everyone I’ve encountered 🙂
This post is great and the timing is just right. I’m about to do something that I haven’t done yet… resign from my old job and move on w/ my life. Your post just make me so PROUD of who I am and give me the positive energy to move forward. Thank you so much. Btw, I started my eat-right challenge this week (on Halloween). I’ve been working out everyday and eat very mindful and “clean”. <3
YES!!!! Take that step and go for it girl. I promise you, if you’re thinking of leaving, it’s WORTH IT! So many opps to come you way!!!
I so agree… I took a huge leap of faith earlier this year and quit my job (in the middle of a recession) and have had my best year EVER with incredible, crazy opportunities. If you’re feeling it in your gut I say do it!! Good luck!
Shoot, another question, where can i find the meal plan? i printed it out but i wanna print another copy and i subscribed for the new newsletter but cant find the meal plan. thanksss!!!
right on top! the counter box!
Great post…need one of those every once and a while! I have a question about the meal plan…what are we suposed to go if we go out to dinner? or eat at someone elses house?
if u can still make smart decisions, it’s ok!
Cassie -this could not have been more timely. I have had such a hard time being motivated the last 3 days to exercise. I am going to get it done today and think of you when sweatin my booty off on the stairmill!! thanks!! Stephanie
You know Casey i stumbled upon your website Saturday morning when i was beating up myself again for this annoying 10 pounds i gained and I am so glad I found your Pilates for beginners video on YouTube.
I too have been having a bad week, I make up my mind to do one thing right and then 3 things go wrong but I will keep pushing and believing that I will achieve the goals i want to.
Thank you so much 🙂
Wow, you have no idea how much needed this post was. That has been one of the worst weeks of my life and I’ve been crying every nigt since Sunday. Because over the weekend my mom told me she was moving out and I just lost it. I’ve been trying to say on track but it’s hard with the way I’m feeling right now. Thank you so much for posting this at such a perfect time.
Aww glad I could help. Feel better Natasha.
Casey thank you so much for posting this! I also had a pretty rough day yesterday (cried over the phone to my friend and then myself to sleep) It wasn’t even anything super specific, just one of those days. It’s hard sometimes to step back from yourself and the situation to realize that it’s going to be okay, but here I am today and I’m fine 🙂 Thanks for sharing this with us 🙂
Cassey I know we all appreciate everything you are helping us do to better ourselves. I just want to say thank you for these words of wisdom.
Thank you Cassey for being human, and this post came right on time for me today…. Go Cassey, you are awesome!!
I have gone through bad times so many times, but from laying down in the gutter i have managed to get up again. Ive really been down to bottom in life. And as Renate says, everything happens for a reason. Maybe we wont understand it now but later on… I can look back at things today and be happy i went through it, because it makes me humble about things i could have been totally ignorant of today, that i could have taken for granted, i can be happy about the things i have in life because of the losses ive had, what didnt kill me made me stronger…. And yes, its only about our own will-power to get somewhere, i wouldnt have gotten where i am today if i hadnt made those decisions… But we do also need some encouragement from time to time, a listening ear, a kind word and something to keep the motivation up. Cassey, you have definitely helped me with that when it comes to health and fitness. And also you popsters, by following your progresses, seeing your before and after pictures, sharing your thoughts and soreness(!). This is a really great community!! hearts to you all
I had those feelings all last week. Halloween for me was the turn away 😀 thanks Cassey, I’ll try to remember the good stuff that next time I feel so crappy 😀
Awesome topic today, now I’m totally ready to get up and go! I wasn’t having as bad a week as you, but thank you, I appreciate all you do! You have a very addictive, happy personality; you are obviously doing what you love and are good at it! Carry On Cassey!
a much needed read! Especially since I woke up feeling a bit down.
I find myself in this fight constantly.
Some days it’s just a sinking feeling that picks up into a downward spiral and I know I’m just going to have to ride it out.
Yesterday was one of those days. After work I grabbed my 5 yo for some yoga time. Then we did jumping jacks & after dinner I threw in abs.
I’m not a talker, I don’t want to spill my heart out and have someone try to “fix” me. I’m broken, it just is. But doing something physical always seems to help, even just a little.
And when I can grab some extra cuddle time with my cub, even better 🙂
I’d love to hear more about how you battle this. I may have to write a post on it too…Great topic, greatly under-valued as a part of mental and physical health.
I can identify with you, Cassey. God has guided me out of the never-ending cycle of people pleasing. When there’s no forgiveness in your house, it doesn’t help matters any.
And don’t forget; every day is a new beginning.
Hey Cassey and all!
I am impressed that when things go against you, you don’t let your own frustration go out on everyone else. Would enver have known if you hadn’t written this post!
I have a thing for thinking that everything happens for a reason and it does so for the best, just that it wont be vivisble to you at the moment, but then some time later you suddenly realise what good came out of the bad!
And I focus alot on my own achievements to boost myself! Or just scream into a pillow as hard as I can and just get it out with. Write an angry email and never send it, just to vent it all out at something fictionary. And try not to pull myself down after a mistake, and knowing we are all humans, and as long as we learn something from the mistake, we come out stronger and wiser than before!
Love ya <3
Oh, Cassey. I want to give you a big hug right at this moment. That too, shall pass. 🙂
AWESOME! It is like your in my head…I really needed the pep talk. Now time to take it up with myself 🙂 Have a good one. Much Love <3 ROSIE
Thank you, Cassey. You are SO inspirational! I am going through a rough phase right now, too (can’t seem to get motivated for anything, especially not the things that need to get done). But thanks to your post I am going to put on my running shoes now and go for a run. After all, I need to train for my first 10K in December, which by the way, I found the motivation and strength to sign up for because I started following you! 🙂
Thanks so much for this, Cassey. I know ALL about messing up and I know ALL about beating myself up. I mean there have been times where I’ve screwed up so badly I just wanted to go to sleep and never wake up. There is nothing worse than that. Feeling so stupid and alone, sometimes it even hurts to breath. But you are right. Cliche as it might sound, you just have to pick yourself up again. The only thing better than looking back at past accomplishments is knowing that you have pulled yourself together even at your lowest.
Thanks again for reminding me of that. 😉 You are the greatest.