I’m getting married soon and have been making an effort to get into shape (not just for the wedding but for my own personal wellbeing) and despite months of consistent workouts, I don’t see much physical change. Overall I feel stronger, which was my goal from the start, but part of me feels self-conscious about my thicker arms.
I know part of the problem has been a lot of stress eating (planning a wedding during a pandemic is not fun) but even when I do eat healthier there is no change in my arms. Cardio has never been my friend (my asthma kicks in right away and I can never finish the workout) and I’m at a loss for what else to try. I want to feel good about myself and feel comfortable in my own skin at my wedding, but at the moment I just feel discouraged.
Dear Self-Conscious Bride,
CONGRATULATIONS on your wedding! I hope it is the best day, and everything you’ve ever dreamed of. You’re totally right – planning a wedding is already stressful enough, and I’m sure this year has been especially stressful!
There’s so much pressure to look perfect on our wedding day. I know so many people fall victim to crash diets and seriously insane measures to lose weight or deal with body insecurities. I’m glad to hear you’re working out for more than JUST your wedding. Hopefully, the workouts are helping a little with the stress too 😉
But before you read any further, read this as many times as you need to: do not let your arms define you – not today, not on your wedding day, not any day.
I know it can be frustrating – I’ve been there. But this time is about celebrating with your partner, family, and friends! The focus should be on your love! That’s the MOST important thing.
If you are looking for practical advice, I can share this: arms are STUBBORN. It’s one of the last areas to shed fat for a lot of us. All of the bicep curls in the world can’t spot reduce any extra fat your arms are holding onto, but they will increase your muscle mass. More muscle means your body will burn more calories at rest, including calories from fat. Even if you can’t choose where your body loses fat, adding muscle will eventually help reduce body fat all over. Plus like you said, you’ll get stronger!
So here’s my advice:
- Keep focusing on working your entire body
- Stay consistent
- Eat plenty of healthy foods – LOTS of lean protein, fruits and veggies, whole grains and healthy fats!
Yes. Enjoy the entire wedding planning process and know that you are going to look absolutely gorgeous on your wedding day. I know it’s no fun to have body insecurities, no matter how big or small they are. But I promise that when your wedding day is here and you slip into that wedding dress, you are going to look and feel like a goddess.
You won’t look back on your special day and feel self-conscious about your arms. And no matter how stressful wedding planning may be, you’ll look back and miss it. Don’t let the pressure to have perfect arms take over one of the most special times in your life!
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