I want you to know that your body is perfect as it is. There is nothing you should hate about it. Now this doesn’t mean, you should “accept your fate” and not do any work to feel changes or improvements. All it means is that you should accept yourself at this point in your journey, and know that with everyday that goes by, it is a chance to create a better version of who you are today.
I used to tell my belly how much I hated it. I used to look in the mirror and push out my hip dips. I used to look at my arms and wish they were thinner. That type of mindset was detrimental to any progress I wanted to make. Why? Well, believe it or not, your body and your cells can tell how you’re feeling. Yeah. It knows when you’re unhappy. When you’re stressed. When you upset. Though a cell may not be able to talk to us in words, they speak to us through chemical reactions.
The more I yelled at my body, the less it wanted to do what I wanted it to do.
I mean, as a person, I hate it when a coach or a boss yells at me to do something. Yelling doesn’t fire me up. I know it does for some people who are wired to “prove people wrong.” Yelling actually makes me want to do the EXACT OPPOSITE. I’m the type of person who needs encouragement and positive coaching. This I already know about myself. So why would I try to coach my body in a way that makes it mad?
For a long time, I wasn’t nice to my body. I gave it so much hate. And you know what happened? That’s when I was having digestive issues, acne, AND to top it off – all the working out and eating clean I did didn’t amount to ANYTHING. My body was like “nah, not gonna give you any results so you learn your lesson and be nice to me.” That’s when I was plagued by metabolic damage. I felt like I had zero control over my body and my situation. It took years to heal.
Now, I’ve learned.
I’ve learned to shower my body with the love it NEEDS.
There is a DISTINCT difference between by old habits and my 90 day journey habits.
- Instead of criticizing my body, I compliment my body when I see it in the mirror.
- Instead of doing workouts that burn more calories, I do workouts that bring me joy.
- Instead of thinking I’m not progressing fast enough, I accept that I am progressing as fast as I should be.
- Instead of doubting my body, I trust my body.
- Instead of feeling bad if I can’t stick to something, I embrace the fact that flexibility is good, and often necessary.
Once you practice these things, the layers of self judgement will begin to peel away. And guess what? The underlying joy that is YOUR LIFE and YOUR INCREDIBLE TEMPLE OF A BODY will emerge!!!
Fit journal entry. Yesterday I went to a Crossfit class and then did 1 hour of stretching at a pole dance studio. My body was YEARNING for movement after a weekend of sitting on my butt at the computer. Even though the Crossfit class was hard, it felt good to be pushed.
23% carbs, 51% fat, 26% protein
Chicken skewers with jalapeno sauce salad and a side of egg thin Daiya cheese quesadillas topped with salsa.
23% carbs, 25% fat, 52% protein
Chicken skewers with broccoli florets, egg tofu, and tons of sriracha and coconut aminos. I ended up having 2 more skewers to balance out all that broccoli 😛
Shrimp with cocktail sauce.
55% carbs, 12% fat, 33% protein
Now the entire shrimp thing we bought at Costco is eaten, so no more shrimp pics! Haha.
I came in at 1,474 calories and 102g carbs (29%), 49g fat (32%), and 137g protein (39%).
Out of the 5 things I tell myself in order to have a healthy relationship with my body, which one resonates with you most?