Instagram Beauty Contests + The Judgement We Face
Hope you enjoyed the Gentleman routine! Wasn’t it fun?
Anyway, I wanted to speak on something that is probably lurking on all of your minds. After reading the loads of comments left on my weight loss challenge post, I realized that I may have left some of you confused and others motivated – depending on what your perspective was.
I think it is important that I address why I am doing the June Dietbet. From first glance, it seems as if it is simply a “Biggest Loser” style game where losers are winners – all based on the number you see on the scale. From what you’ve read from me in the past, you know I do not relate one’s weight to their character, integrity, or success as a human being. Weight has NADA to do with that! Yes, I would love it if we could base the game off of body fat percentage lost, but like I said in my previous post, not everyone has calipers or a body fat percentage machine at home, so it’s hard to do that. This is simply a fun (and different) way to motivate POPsters who want to lose weight. For those of you who don’t need the extra push, great! Keep doing what you’re doing because it’s working :)
The scale has gotten a bad rap in the fitness community as it dictates a lot of girls’ self esteem. In a world where your physical beauty can so easily be judged, a lot of women feel the NEED to look a certain way. ME INCLUDED. No lie. I face this pressure everyday. Probably more so than some of you because of my career. As a fitness instructor, I am “supposed to” be really lean, muscles popping, with six pack abs, and a major box gap according to the fitspo posts I see on Instagram and Tumblr.
The truth is…my body is not made to be naturally lean like that. I can get there if I want to (we all can, some more easily than others) but for me and my body type, it takes work. I know what you’re thinking. “Then Cassey!!! Don’t succumb! Be proud of your body and love it because it gives you strength to teach!” Oh yes, I am confident that I have the strength and stamina to go BEAST at the gym. So proud of it too! Yup and when you feel proud inside, you start feeling proud outside too. I was feeling extra fine the other day before filming the Gentleman Challenge, got some new clothes and took this pic before I got all sweaty.
Was feeling all good…until this happened:
Hmm, well thank you person for pointing out every single one of my “flaws” and telling everyone how insecure I am! You must know me so well! -_-
Comments like this are posted everyday on all sorts of social media. It pushes your self confidence into a hole and makes you never wanna get out. It brought back memories of this little girl who called me fat when I was 10. I remember being a happy kid who loved drawing and studying…then all of a sudden, I had this body to worry about. It was bad. I cried. A lot. And my confidence was shattered. Luckily, with puberty, I grew taller and it naturally leaned me out. I’ve gotten used to the judgement over the past few years in the public eye – you just have to learn how to hold your breath, swallow, and just move on. This comment though…it just irks me to the core.
It’s not just a problem I’ve faced…nowadays with social media cyber bullying happens all day long. Have you heard of Instagram Beauty Contests? It’s one of the saddest things I’ve heard of lately in regards to body image. Well if you haven’t, lemme tell you. Basically girls are making collages of other girls at their school, and having people comment and vote on who the prettiest one is. Winners get an ego boost and losers get a red X on their face.
OMG. I mean. Whoa. Kids as young as 10 are doing this. I mean…how would you feel if you were told that you were ugly? Would you even wanna go to school the next day? As a girl who is just growing up and learning what division is and why plants use sun as food, why does she need to be told that she’s undesirable? I’m no human behavior psychologist or anything, but I can tell you that this damages a person’s self esteem immensely and it will take a lot of healing to learn to love yourself again. This whole Instagram pageant thing is just outrageous.
This ABC article quotes one of the girls after she found her photo on the beauty grid, “I was upset because I know I am beautiful and I don’t like how people are saying I am ugly,” Samantha said. That’s right Samantha, you are beautiful. You didn’t need anyone to tell you otherwise.
So…as you can see, us females are judged every single day no matter who we are. Mean girls have no place in the Blogilates Community. I am always so impressed by your genuine support for one another. When I get to meet POPsters in real life, you shower me with the most vibrant kindness I have ever experienced from strangers! So thank you…don’t change. Embrace one another and work to lift each and everyone one of our spirits higher. I always believe that if you share your light, it will make the path brighter for all of us. (Think candles!)
Ok back to the Dietbet. You wanna know why I am doing it with you? #1. I want to share the journey with you. #2. I want to lean down as well.
This is truth.
No, I am not forcing myself to “look skinny” to fit other people’s ideals of what I should look like. Nope never. I am doing it for me. I know (and you know too from reading my posts) that I’ve gained weight since moving and the simple truth is that I wanna lose it! I have an extra layer of fat on me that I know can be exterminated with harder workouts and more focused eating. I also want to look and feel my best for my next DVD and I know that with special projects come special plans to lean down. June is my time to get back on track and that is that. So I am inviting you to join me if you have a weight loss/fat loss goal. I invite you to BEAST IT with me in June!
I hope you have a better understanding of where I am coming from. The Dietbet is to motivate you. But if you don’t need it, you don’t have to do it! I’m just putting it out there that fitness instructors, bikini models, trainers, your fave celebrities, and YOU have seasons where your weight fluctuates. So please don’t judge someone who doesn’t look how you wanna look, but also don’t judge someone who wants to transform their body.
Love yourself and follow your dreams because if you want it bad enough…it will happen.