20 Things I learned in my 20s
20 Things I learned in my 20s
Hey guys!
I’ve officially been 30 for 3 days! How does it feel?
EXACTLY THE SAME.
In fact, I feel as energetic and as youthful inside as I did in college…except, in my personal opinion, I think I look better! And I am a lot wiser. Well, as wise as a 30 year old can be!
When I was a kid, I used to think I’d fall in love at 16, be married by 25 and have kids at 30. Thanks Disney movies.
Yes I am in love, but I am not married, and my kids are my businesses – so that’s a lot right now!
Today’s post will be a reflective one. I am thankful for every day that I get to live to see the next day, while being able to make cool things happen. Here are 20 things I learned in my 20s – in no particular order.
- Love is not finding someone you can live with. It’s finding someone you can’t live without.
- Follow your passion no matter what anyone says.
- Do more of what makes you happy and less of what doesn’t.
- Your friends are a reflection of who you are.
- There is no such thing as the perfect diet.
- There is no such thing as a perfect body.
- It’s ok to fail.
- You can’t trust everyone.
- If it feels wrong, it probably is.
- Confidence is more beautiful than external beauty.
- Never stop learning.
- Having too much ego will be your downfall.
- Every person has a back story. Try to understand them before you judge.
- Everything is possible, and you must never give up.
- Time is priceless. Don’t waste it.
- Give, give, give without expectation. And you shall receive.
- Being nice gets you way farther than being mean.
- Business isn’t about money. It’s about relationships.
- Your parents are people too and they are not perfect.
- Don’t be afraid to quit your job.
I think I could probably type up 100 more, but I’ll save that for another time.
I’m such a different person today than who I was when I was graduating college. It’s so interesting, because at every stage in my life (except at my 1st corporate job) I always felt super confident. My peers called me arrogant, but I think that’s what you get for being a “girl boss”. If a guy is “arrogant” he’s just being confident.
ANYWAY!
Confidence is what got me to where I am today. If I didn’t believe in myself, who would? You gotta believe in who you are, what you’re meant to do, and you just have to go for it. Don’t be afraid to fail. If you do, all you have to do is get up and try again. The thing is, if you don’t take any risk in life, your reward will not be grand. You’ve got to be bold!!! Don’t be scared!
With that said, I want to share with you pics from my bday party this weekend! My sis flew down and helped us prep the house for a party! I’ve been SLOWLY interior decorating over the past 3.5 years since I moved down to LA and I’ve never had a proper house warming. So when we decided to have the party at home, I went into a frenzy and bought furniture, decor, and curtains like a madwoman.
The whole weekend was “prom committee” central. Sam and I were building furniture, nailing and screwing things to the wall, while my sister was making crazy balloon arch creations from Pinterest. She even stopped by the LA Flower Market at 6AM to get fresh flowers (and baby pineapples) for the party. IT WAS SERIOUS.
Here’s how it all turned out!
Low temperature hot glue gun is what’s holding the balloons together.
I have a pen. I have an apple. Oooh! AH! Pineapple pen!
Bought outdoor furniture and a fire pit. I am so adult.
Night time vibes. Waiting for guests to arrive.
So we’ll take pics while we wait.
People started arriving and we made them wear hats. It’s Phil and Jason! We’re unicorns obviously.
Rosanna and Lilly! Missing Justine and Lindsey to round out the #RoyalSquad 😛
TRAIN IS COMING!!!
Sam and Kurt playing mega Connect 4. Kurt wanted to play “blindfolded.” No, really.
Sam concentrating hard at big Jenga.
Can you believe my sister made this Matcha Green Tea Mille Cake? It was 40 layers thick!! AHHH I LOVE MATCHA!
One of the most tedious cakes EVER. But so so YUMMY!!! If you want to make a healthy (and delish) version of this cake, check out my CHEAP CLEAN EATS Matcha Crepe Cake recipe here.
I am so grateful that my friends were able to make it out on a Sunday night and celebrate with me. I feel so lucky to have all of them in my life. Each one, so kind, talented and inspiring.
And thank you to YOU for reading this blog post and being with me on this journey into the land of 30. I wonder what things I’ll learn over the next 10 years…
Love you so much!
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Happy MUCH MUCH MUCH belated Birthday Cassey! You are absolutely incredible, inspiring, sweet, kind, and honest. I truly see an amazing future ahead of you! And you look like you haven’t aged one bit since you’ve started Blogilates!
Dear Cassey,
Happy birthday!! 🙂 I’ll be 30 in March, and I’ve just quit my job a month ago to start living a life true to myself, and reach for my goals and dreams with all my focus & strength! It feels like 2017 has a lot in store for me and I’m so excited! And the timing couldn’t be better to come across your videos & your blog. I’ve been doing your stretching & beginner workout routines for a few days only, but I’m already loving them! They give me so much confidence and positive vibes! I’ll be going into 2017 with you! Lots of love! 🙂 <3
Happy Belated Bday, Cassey! I’m sorry i didnt get to wish you in person when you were in SF…i came 10mins too late and you and ur squad were gone already! x-x
Hi Cassey! Belated Happy Birthday! I just want you to know that I am a new fan and you inspire me so much. I have a very low self esteem because of what had happened to me and my family in the past but you are one of the persons who gives me hope that I will have my own time to shine, and I am just so thankful that people like you still exist. ? Please continue what you are doing, stay humble and positive. Kudos and love from your fan in the Philippines! ?
Happy Birthday, Cassey! I turned 30 this past year, too–just a couple months before you. I couldn’t agree more with the list of things you’ve learned. It’s all so very true, and so many of those items are things we may have been told, but they don’t really sink in until we experience them for ourselves. I hope you have an amazing year and decade!
I have been a faithful popster for a little over two years now, although I recently took a short break. For my birthday, my husband and I found out we were expecting! Now that the intense nausea has passed, I’m trying to get back into it, albeit with a little less stamina. =) Thank you for being such a wonderful, inspiring instructor. Happy Birthday!!! xoxo
Your house looks amazingly beautiful; I didn’t even know there were houses like that (and not appartments) in LA.
I’m truly happy you had a great birthday and a lovely party. You deserve nothing less than that! <3
Beautiful party! Thanks for the lesson–a great reminder at any age!
Cassey, thank you so much for all what you do for us. You’re so inspiring! I’m 20 now, and you know what? I feel grateful to you, because you taught me to be a better person. I’m a popster for more than 3 years now and yeah, that’s one of the best thing which has happened to me. You helped me so so so much. I loved reading this list and I realized that that’s right what I’ve been learning too.
Hope you’re happy forever, you deserve it!
Much much love 🙂
(P.s sorry for my english, I’m italian :p )
omg PLZ DO POST 100 MORE !!!!!!
Oh my God , I almost cried. this so pretty, your spirit, you positivity, the way that you see things , it’s just amazing. you made me thinking about a lot of things. the lessons that you’ve learned are unforgettable. I’ll always remember them as i grow . because just in 5min they made me changing my mind in a lot of things and I’m looking forward to see how big the changes will be in my future life , thaaaaank you so so much for everything And HBD❤❤
written with love
Bushra
Happy birthday 😀
Happy Birthday, Cassey!
I have been watching you throughout your journey from the beginning. It is wonderful to see all of the success you have achieved. You are truly an inspiration! I am grateful to be a part of the Blogilates community and to get to see your smiling face in your videos – you are RADIANT inside and out.
I am also about to turn the big 3-0 in March so this post wast very fitting. I am going to do some reflecting of my own!
Cheers to the next 10 years!
<3
Autumn
Congrats and thanks for the tips. I must say, I also felt and looked better when I hit my ’30 s because that was when I started taking care of me. Enjoy!
Happy Birthday..Wish you a very very happy year…life after 30 ain’t that bad 🙂
Hi Cassie! Happy Birthday! I also just rolled into my 30s and agree with so many of your 20 things. I too feel like I am growing continuously into a better place, physically, mentally and spiritually. And it’s thanks to inspirational people like you. Bring on this awesome decade to come!x
Happy Birthday Cassie, I pray that you will have many, many years added to these 30. Much love & gratitude for you & your commitment to fit bodies, minds, & spirits.
P.S. I sooooo look forward to more new videos, they are so inspiring. I feel so much stronger after each workout, it’s amazing. Hugs.
Best wishes to you, your fam and friends from New Zealand! Have a wonderful time being 30!
those 20 life lessons really are true! i love you cassey! thank you for making me feel better about my body by eating healthy and working out. stay amazing xoxo
Happy birthday! (A week late, perhaps, but still very sincere)
Happy birthday dear u have really inspired me alot. Wish u all the best
Happy birthday Cassey! my sister is your BIGGEST fan!!! Will you ever be coming to Toronto to do any events here?!
i love the last one.
HAPPY belated birthday!
Happy belated birthday, Cassey! I’ve enjoyed working out with you! 😛 😉 😉
<3 Brooklyn
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Hope you had a wonderful birthday!! I’ve always thought it was so cool that we have the same birthday!
Happy Birthday, Cassie! And thank you for sharing both the pictures and your reflections. You’re an inspiration! xx, Marie
Nice Photos Cassey!!! I’m here always to support you onwards!!!!
I can’t wait to go shopping. So many good ideas and your cake reminded me that I really want to try the matcha cake. I’m very happy that you had a great birthday. Looks like you had a ton of fun. Most of all, thank you for the list. As a girl in her twenties, over the last year, I’ve decided to change the things I don’t like for the better. Trying to make the most of my time and achieving goals that I wanted for myself. Finally taking care of me and getting to know self love. Thank you for helping me with my journey.
Aaw! Congrats Cassey! Seeing you happy makes me so happy! <3
Happy birthday, Cassey! <3 I wish you the best. (Also, you said you're entering into the third decade of your life in your email… It's actually the forth!)
Not to be nosy or anything but I would love if you shared who your love one is <3 so we can all know you in a deeper level
Happy belated birthday, Cassey! I love how you listed the things you learned in your 20’s. I totally agree when you say you should never stop learning. I am now in my early 30’s and I feel like I am trying more new things and push myself out of my comfort zone more than when I was in my 20’s. It’s really amazing to learn new things and discover strengths that I never knew I had. 🙂
Polly
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Happy birthday Cassey! I just turned 30 this last year as well… the beginning of another era. I agree to the tee with how you described it… the same, but more mature and I think I look heaps better too! 😛 Your party looked amazing and so much fun! 🙂
Aww Happy Birthday! My lil girl had her bday the 16th and I’ll be 30 on the 30th!! So scary and exciting to enter that next era in my life, 30 just feels like “there’s no turning back, you’re for sure an adult now” lol having kids wasnt official enough ?
All the best, Cassey !!! Thank you for what kind of man you are, amazing, honest, beautiful. Either keep myself, you are a tremendous inspiration !!!! Beautiful birthday 🙂
Happy Birthday! 30 never looked better! Cassey your such an inspiration, those lessons that you’ve learned are true! But I submitted my form for my Piit28 tank like a month ago, do you know what could have happened? I did piitsagram & every workout! I’m really upset, did I fill out the form wrong or something?
Hmm, can you write piit28@blogilates.com? Maybe it did not submit.
Blessed belated birthday Cassey! Thank you for being such an inspiration to us <3
Love reading all your posts and following your workouts. Keep up the superb effort!
Happy Birthday, Cassey! I just started my 20s this week, and I look forward to seeing what its in store.
Thanks for sharing with us Cassey! I’m glad you had such an awesome party!! ❤
Dear Cassey,
Many many happy returns of the day. Glad you have amazing birthday. I love all your emails and recipes. I am a big fan of yours. You are my inspiration and your positive thoughts have always motivated me to stay happy and healthy. Thankyou for all the words and encouragement. You are awesome 🙂
Cassey, aka my birthday twin! JAN 16!
I am super happy you had a great time with your loved ones to celebrate YOU! Happy 30th birthday! I turned 26 on our birthday! I have so much yet to learn! I love your “20 things I learned in my 20s” list. I agree with soooooo many of those; you are so relatable! I am very happy you have found LOVE (omg cute!) and have the coolest career (YAAASS BLOGILATES) and the coolest sister (HI JACKELYN) and oh yeah you got to meet Taylor Swift (still so jealous haha) I love you and I enjoy your YouTube videos so much! I cannot wait to see what you come up with next!
Happy birthday! Looks like you had some awesome fun 🙂 Thank you for sharing the life lessons. I gotta say #20 was the hardest one for me, and I wished I learned it sooner :p
Anyway, welcome to your 30s 😀 Keep doing the awesome work! 🙂
Happy Birthday Cassey! Wow I can’t believe you’re 30! You literally look so young! Anyways thank you so much for blogilates! I’ve been doing them for about 6 years now and don’t regret a minute of it! It has truly changed my life and made me stronger in many different aspects! Blogilates is my secret weapon and guilty pleasure! Being only 20, my health is super important to me, and you have been a true role model of health and fitness. You have shown me that I can live a healthy yet indulgent life! Thank you and keep the monthly calendars coming! God bless your beautiful soul!!!
you seem to be in a wonderful environment. Congrats for u and your success
One of my favorite posts thus far. I turned 30 last year and your list is spot on. You are so inspirational. Love you so much and so happy for you!
I love these pictures! The decorations are so pretty!!! Tell your sister that she did an amazing job with the cake! You all look so beautiful and happy. Happy birthday Cassey!! 🙂
Happy Birthday!! I’m on day 2 of pilates 2.0 for beginners. My legs hurt so much on day 1 when doing the exercise!
Happy Birthday Cassey! Thanks for being so inspiring and motivating. I hope you know what a great influence you are for a lot of us. Welcome to the 30 club! 😉
Happy belated birthday !! Thank you for your advice and wisdom. I really need this today. I am doing the 28 day challenge reset with the January calendar and this far, it’s been surprisingly good. I feel amazing and i never look better. I look forward to workout every morning
happy birthday <3
xo katy
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I loved reading the top ten things you learned in your 20’s! You’re such an inspiration to me! I think you’re beautiful… do you have children?
Happy birthday ? Cassey enjoy ur life
I’m turning 40 this year and I can tell you that you are totally doing it right! Keep having fun and don’t worry about anyone who isn’t supportive of you and your super-awesome healthy and happy. Those are NOT your issues to deal with! Happy birthday!
Happy Birthday!!!! I’ll be turning 30 in 3 days and I wholeheartedly agree with your list. Live your own life and not anybody else!!
January babies rock!!
Sounds like you had an amazing birthday 🙂
Your message was something I really needed to hear as this year I’ve started paving the way towards a brighter future both in body, mind and career and I would gladly tell you that Casey inspires most if not all of this desire to change myself and not “settle”. I’m already pretty active but I started working with a PT this year to help give me direction and he asked what my fitness goals were. I could only think that I wanted to become strong enough to do a freestanding handstand, I couldn’t imagine at all how I wanted my body to look.
As someone who has had an eating disorder and a co-occuring obsession with exercising excessively with time I have rediscovered my body and all the things that make me happy. Strength and adventure were concepts you made real and accessable to me, and I could never thank you enough.
Love getting your emails….it’s always good reading.. thanks so much for your inspiration.
Dear Cassey, happy birthday!
I have followed your calendar since AprilAbs of 2014, and am so happy to see how far you have come! Your routines are a important part of my life – each month I print out the calendar and mark my workouts there, it helps bring balance and happiness to my life, I could write pages on how you have impacted my life, but lets leave than for another day.
All I want to say is thank you for all you have done and are doing! 🙂
#1 on your list is tearing me up. Thank you for this. I am so happy for you <3
Happy Birthday Cassey! You are such a inspiration and such a positive influence to me, thank you for everything! <3
Happy Birthday, Cassey!
You look super happy, and I am also happy for you 🙂 I feel like you’re the type of person whose age is super hard to guess. I just realized I’ve been following you for about 4 years now and I think I will always think of you as a person in their mid-twenties, but somehow, to me, age has kinda lost it’s meaning. I turned 26 last September, but I don’t “feel” like that… and just got braces… when I don’t wear make up I guess I could still pass for 16 if I wanted to XD
Happy birthday!! You decorated beautifully, and I am SO jealous of your backyard space. Where in LA do you live?? Haha.
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Happy Birthday Cassey! Thanks for sharing those beautiful wisdoms you have learned. I would love to read it if u write up to 100 hehe I feel we could learn so much from an amazing girl boss. Your party looked so great and I’m so happy you’re blessed with so many things and wonderful people. Thanks for everything Cassey! I wish you more blessings to come! Love you! ?
I loved your pictures, I’m glad you had a nice birthday.
Thank you for sharing what you learned through this years, I’m still in my twenties and there is no doubt I will keep all your advices in mind. 🙂 🙂
xx
Happy birthday! Wish you all the best in the future. 🙂 I’ll be 24 soon so this post means a lot! I think it is more important how do you feel than how old are you. You know what they say, youth has no age. You look at least 5 years younger! Thanks for inspiring us, not just in this post, but with everything you do. 🙂
Thank you 🙂
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! EVERYTHING GET REALLY GREAT AFTER 30!!
Good to hear!
I turned 30 on 12/12/16 so not too much older than you than I thought… I didn’t have a party, or see any friends 🙁 Glad you had a good one!!
Serious birthday inspo! Happy birthday Cassey! <3
Loved the list of things you learned from your twenties.
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Wow you do not look 30 at all! Btw I have the same birthday as you too :p glad to share a birthday with someone so inspiring! I hope I will be able to follow my dreams and inspire other people just like you ?
happy belated bday!
Thank you ^^
Happy Birthday, Cassey! Welcome to the thirties!
Welcome to your thirties! It’s a great decade 🙂 Happy belated birthday!
Happy Birthday Sweet Cassey 🙂 A big hug from Portugal* (also turning 30 this year!)
I’m turning 30 this year too! Yey, 1987 rules! Cheers from Argentina =)
🙂
I’m 35 and I actually feel younger & more capable physically than ever before (thanks to Pop Pilates & PIIT28!) and I’m more comfortable in my skin than I used to be. Here’s to your 30s!!
WOOHOO!
Glad you had a great birthday!! Trust me, your 30’s are going to be epic! Never before have I felt completely myself…I love my 30’s!
so good to hear!
Love your decor for the party. So chic.
It’s all Joss & Main, Anthropologie, Homegoods, and World Market!
Happy birthday, Cassy! Lots of love from Naija (West Africa) *wink*
Oooh! I want to go one day!
Don’t worry, I have plans to invite you for a Blogilates event in Lagos, Nigeria some day soon ? *fingers crossed*
Happy Birthday, Cassey! What a great blog. Lots of good reminders even past your 20s (says the girl who’s almost 36).
Happy Birthday Cassey!!! Welcome to your 30s!!! The life lessons and words were exactly what I needed to read. I’ve been following you since you started with Blogilates. You truly are inspiring. Thank you for the words, encouragement, motivation, and postive attitude.
You are so welcome.
Happy Birthday Cassey! I turned 30 on the 14th of Jan #twinning! Congratulations on turning 30. So many people worry about it but I just think- its the start of a new decade and it’s exciting! Also, when I think about everything that happened between 20 and now… wowsers. That decade lasted FOREVERRRRR!!! <3<3
I KNOW!!! I am such a diff person and 20 seems like a diff lifetime!
So awesome! Happy birthday! Mine was the 2nd and I turned 26, so I really enjoyed seeing the things you learned in your 20’s. Number 20 is resonating with me right now! Happy birthday again and looked like a fun party!!
Happy birthday Cassey! I’m coming up to 30. I have changed SO much since my early 20s, in a positive way.
Happy Belated Birthday! I like your list, Cassey! For that last one, I’d suggest having an exit plan in place, kwim?
Happy Birthday Cassie, I’ll turn 30 too in March 3rd and I’m prepared to start this new decade with as much enthousiasm as you do !! Thank you for all your work and inspiration. “Bisous” from France
Cassey <3 So glad to find you turned 30 and that even in January… I turned 30 on 1st January too. Cassey you are true inspiration for me. There was a time in 2015 when I stopped during workout and cried loud because I was working out to get slim for people to appreciate me. My fiance told me I had the worst body on this planet.. and worst butt some woman will ever have. This year and two could not transform me into "perfect body" but today I am a totally different person. I LOVE my workout now. I look fwd to do my PIIT28 daily. Above all… I am HAPPY today.. see your picture on my DP. Its you.. you are my hero <3 HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU. PS: I love everyone's expressions in Train is Coming picture 😀
Your fiance sounds like a horrible man. A decent partner would encourage you… not put you down.
Oh no, why did he say that? He should not talk to you like that. I’m glad that you’re working hard for YOU. Stay strong girl!
Just you wait cassey–I’m gonna be the next youtuber you’ll befriend and I’ll be coming to your 31st party. 😉
Beautiful post. Thanks for sharing this special moment with us.
Happy birthday, Cassey! Love love love!
Happy birthday, Cassey! Welcome to the “30s squad”! I feel stronger, wiser and more beautiful than in my 20s too so I totally get you 🙂
There’s no way you’re 30! Oh my gosh you look like you’re 23! I swear it was like yesterday you said you turned 26… time flies. You’re beautiful 🙂
Happy birthday Cassey! I sure am thankful you were born!
Happy Birthday! Nice list it is very similar to my own. As an add on to the excellent list above: On the more practical side one of the important things I learned to do well in my 20s was how to budget, save and invest my earnings. On the non-practical side I also learned not to be afraid of major change; change can be good even if it doesn’t seem like it at the time.
Happy birthday! Love #10 and #20. If you aren’t happy with your job, it’s going to carry over to all areas of your life. It’s all about finding balance in life.
I’d also like to add that I love number one. It hit me deep.
While I’ve been learning these things in my 20’s, I haven’t really been “practicing” them… well, at least the ones you can “learn from”. Basically, I’ve just been drowning in stress, money issues, and a lack of friends lately that I don’t even know what to do with this knowledge now that I have it.
Happy birthday!