I wasted so much time being embarrassed…

Hey guys,

I’m having a reminiscing kinda day and I’m just thinking about all those times I wasted feeling embarrassed. It’s a weird feeling. No one likes it. And the sooner we can shake it off, the sooner we can get on with life!

But when we’re young, we spend soooo much energy being embarrassed. For example, my last name. “Ho”. Kids always made fun of me for that (on top of being chubby and asking too many questions in class). I felt really bad that I didn’t have a regular last name like “Smith” or “Lee” or something like that. I was ashamed of my name and I let the thoughts of other ignorant people negatively affect my self-confidence.

I look back and wish 6th grade Cassey could choose not to worry about that. But being young, EVERYTHING is the end of the world.

I’ll say this – one of the benefits to getting older is you start gaining perspective on what really matters…and who’s opinion actually matters. You learn what is a big deal and what just seems like a big deal. We start cutting ourselves slack. We allow ourselves chances to mess up and make mistakes. We aren’t absolutely consumed with what people will think.

When I think back on all the things I didn’t do because I was embarrassed, I feel so sad. When I think about time I spent being worried someone would make fun of me or think I wasn’t cool, I just want that time back.

Here’s the truth: we’re our hardest critics. No one is looking at you as much as you think they are. Take that dance class! Try out for a local improv group! Join a recreational soccer league! TRY things! Do stuff you are interested in. You are the biggest obstacle standing in your way. Because, I promise, if you’re thinking, “I’m just going to embarrass myself!” you’ll think back later and wish you had given it a chance.

When we think back on our most embarrassing moments, they usually turn into funny stories. Funny at the time? Oh DEFINITELY not! But honestly, life is about looking foolish occasionally. It’s putting yourself out there and being vulnerable and attempting stuff you haven’t done before. If you can laugh at yourself, nothing is ever that bad.

I want to always try new things. New fitness classes. New endeavors. New activities. Am I going to be good at everything I do? Nope. Am I going to look out of place and like I don’t know what I’m doing? YEP. Because that’s what “new” means. You haven’t done it before!

We let embarrassment and fear keep us from so many life experiences. We get into our own heads. That mean lil’ voice of ours emerges and fills us with negativity.

Tell that voice to SHUT IT. Life is too short to be embarrassed.

I dare you to step outside of your comfort zone this week. Do you accept?

  • angela joy Bernardino

    already done it , god and it feels so Good !!! , i easily get irritated because when my friends hug me or try to lift me (they always do that .. i dont know why , i think it’s there way of affection) i didn’t liked to be hugged because they might feel my fats , but when she hugged me , it feels good , and they said , you’ve been losing weight haven’t you ? , and even i gain fats , they always hug me and other’s say we hug too much i say: wanna hug , to know how it feels?

  • Julz Amidala

    I accept, thank you Cassey

  • Sasha de Freitas

    I accept !!!!

  • Liene

    Thank you for this post! I`ve been too hard on myself all my life and inspirational women like you show that self-esteem issues are normal, common and it`s our choice to rise above negativity and struggles. Keep doing the awesome work you do! xx

  • Tiffany

    All of this!! Thank you Cassey – this is why you are so wonderful – you share your “being human” moments that everyone can relate to. While I’m past the “I’m embarrassed” stage, (it’s funny how turning 40 can give you a whole lot of “I just don’t care”!!) I still have issues with feeling regret over past events. But it’s a learning and growing process.

    And the sixth grade me would have totally found a friends in arm with the sixth grade Cassey. :)

  • Gabriella

    I really loved this because I go through the same thing all the time. At least I used to. Thank you, Cassey:)

  • Pauline

    I’m drowning in shame. Everytime I think about a past situation where I was embarrassed, a huuuuge wave of shame paralyses me and makes me want to hit myself so hard. I can’t do anything anymore because of that, it hurts so much. I wish to make peace with myself but I would have to see a specialist, and I’m too ashamed for that.

    • Gabriella

      Don’t be ashamed. Past mistakes are the way that we grow. I hope you find your inner peace. I am praying for you:)

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    I can’t seem to subscribe to the newsletter. I’d really like to do the monthly calanders but after subscribing multiple times I’ve yet to receive a code. Really hope this will get resolved soon. Love the workouts!

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  • Life is too short to be spent regretting things, I agree for that for sure! I’m in a rut right now, and I’ve been feeling a little bit down about myself lately.

    I don’t know what it is, but it’s an onset of sad feelings that come in waves. My heart feels heavy right now, but I know that there’s so much joy out there in the world. I know that life is too short to be spent feeling miserable all the time! I’m going to make an extra effort after reading this post, too do something. Anything. Keep me in your thoughts and prayers!

  • Ade

    This is what I really needed to hear today.. Thanks Cassey <3