We all need to take a break. For our health.

 

Hey guys!

Quick question: Have you ever really needed a break?

And no, I’m not JUST talking about the rest day in between a week of workouts. But the kind that allows your mind to relax – a mental health break. You know, a day to fully give yourself permission to just be. 

Mental health is just as important as your physical health. Let me repeat that: Mental health is JUST AS IMPORTANT as your physical health.

We spend so much time talking about fitness, what to eat and all these ways to best take care of our bodies. And that’s all great! But if you neglect your mental health, it doesn’t matter how many vegetables you eat or how many burpees you do. Being mentally unhealthy can create a very dangerous situation.

I like to think of the body and mind as a team. They rely on each other. They support each other. If one of the team members is struggling, the other one will notice a difference too. And sometimes, one of the team members needs some help.

There’s NO SHAME in recognizing you need to take a break. Or asking for help. Or just telling someone you’re having a hard time! Did you know that 18.2 % of the total adult population in the United States suffers from some type of mental illness?

And I know, the word “illness” is a weird one that immediately puts people on guard. I even hesitated writing it because it’s a touchy subject. But the thing is, if you fall into that percentage, you’re NOT alone! And being able to talk about it and reassure others that it’s okay to recognize when things are difficult is a GOOD THING!

I’m not an expert. I’m not a psychologist or a therapist. But I know so many people, AMAZING people, who have dealt with mental health issues. These are strong people! These are brilliant people! These are creative and inspirational people! And making sure we keep communication open and flowing is one of the things we can do to fight back against the stigma.

Mental health days are nothing to be ashamed of. They aren’t something to hide or feel like you can’t talk about.  And if today is one of those days when you are hurting, I want you to know I see you. And I hear you. And I am always, always rooting for you.

So, go ahead, take a day to check in with yourself. Slow down. Step off of social media. Turn off your phone notifications. (I actually have my phone on “do not disturb” at all times.)  Listen to what your body wants. Do what feels good. Whether this means getting a massage, going shopping, hiking with your friends, indulging in a book, or literally whatever “relaxing” means to you – do it! And do it to the max!

Do you ever take mental health breaks? What do you like to do? Do you have a self-care process?

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  • nova

    Cassey thanks for this post. I have so many moments when I could just use a break from everything and everybody. I just feel like I have so much on my plate right now and can’t afford to take that break for fear that something won’t get done. I’m a single mother of one (she’s the cute kid in my profile photo), taking five classes to complete a Bachelor’s in Education, and I work full time. I don’t have much time to spend with my beautiful daughter (imagine that guilt trip), haven’t had time to complete one workout routine, my meal plans have changed to really whatever is convenient to cook, and I haven’t had time for myself since I started back going to school. Between work and school I’m always so tired. This post definitely hit home with me, and I certainly need to start making time for myself. I don’t have a self-care process but I will definitely look into starting one.

  • Natasha

    Hi Cassey!!

    I know that feeling too, very well! I truly believe mental health is just as if not more important than physical health. You must look after it as you would your physical health. Going through sickness has tought me to never take health for granted again and really nourish your body with good food and surround yourself with people who make you a better, healthier and happier person!!!! I’m a massive fan of what you have created and how you have inspired me and many other girls to get healthy and find their ultimate selfs. I used to do your workouts every day until I got diagnosed with an invasive autoimmune disease. I’ve looked around and It’s very hard to find a pilates workout slower and accommodating for my tube to my heart in my left arm (PICC LINE). Your workouts used to really help with keeping me calm and happy, and now without them its been hard. I was wondering if you have any tips or suggestions as it my last year in school and i’d really love to slowly help my body get better? You are so so so inspiring and I miss my workouts in my amazing pop flex outfits! My next purchase is for sure the diary <3

    Natasza xx

  • Kathyz09

    I know that feeling too. I just had such a situation last month actually. My friend married and I was her maid of honour, which means I had a lot to do. I loved being her maid of honour, it was fun, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t a lot of work.
    She married on the 8th of september and one day later it was my birthday. The bride stayed the night before the wedding with me. I also go to school two times a week after an 8 hours work day and sometimes also on saturday. So “Me-Time” has been very rare during the weeks coming up to the wedding.
    I planned the program at the party and suddenly three days before the wedding the best man jumped on me with stuff we hadn’t planned. Her colleagues also jumped on me two days before the wedding and her dad and her aunt jupmed on me with stuff they wanted to do.
    So I got to bed at 3:30am and got up at 10am, together with my boyfriend, cause it was my birthday and my family was coming to celebrate. And more stress for me.
    And that evening I really felt like I needed a break. Mentally I was just so exhausted and overwhelmed. When the first guests left the others started to leave to (thankfully). I even asked my boyfriend to leave, cause I just wanted some time to myself (we don’t live together). He was a bit reluctant, but he understood in the end.
    I don’t think I really have a self-care process. I just do things I like. For example doing my workout can help me to take my mind of things. Or just cooking a good meal if I’ve got the time. I really enjoy cooking.
    When I’m stressed in general I love to read, mostly Fantasy books. With them I can kind of ‘escape’ into a different world for some time. Or I watch a good movie on the couch in the evening. Or I do some stretching before I go to bed.
    That’s what helps me at least :)
    Oh, and about that mental sickness. A friend of me went to a psychotherapist once. She was kind of overwhelmed with everything. But in the end it helped her. In the beginning she talked to me and to our friends, but we’re not professionals and in the end she admitted to herself that she needed that professional help we couldn’t provide her with.
    I think that there’s nothing wrong with seeking out professional help. In my opinion it’s strong, because you admit that you need help.
    Ups, that post got longer than I anticipated, hehe.
    Take care of yourselves everyone, both mentally and physically ;)

  • Kathyz09

    I know that feeling too. I just had such a situation last month actually. My friend married and I was her maid of honour, which means I had a lot to do. I loved being her maid of honour, it was fun, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t a lot of work.

    She married on the 8th of september and one day later it was my birthday. The bride stayed the night before the wedding with me. I also go to school two times a week after an 8 hours work day and sometimes also on saturday. So “Me-Time” has been very rare during the weeks coming up to the wedding.

    I planned the program at the party and suddenly three days before the wedding the best man jumped on me with stuff we hadn’t planned. Her colleagues also jumped on me two days before the wedding and her dad and her aunt jupmed on me with stuff they wanted to do.

    So I got to bed at 3:30am and got up at 10am, together with my boyfriend, cause it was my birthday and my family was coming to celebrate. And more stress for me.

    And that evening I really felt like I needed a break. Mentally I was just so exhausted and overwhelmed. When the first guests left the others started to leave to (thankfully). I even asked my boyfriend to leave, cause I just wanted some time to myself (we don’t live together). He was a bit reluctant, but he understood in the end.

    That evening I just cleaned up a little bit and then sat myself on the couch, watching a Disney Movie. I even cried a little for no reason (up until now I don’t know why I cried, I really don’t know). I wasn’t sad or anything, but somehow I found suddenly tears rolling down my face. Is there anyone else out there to whom it happened to?

    I don’t think I really have a self-care process. I just do things I like. For example doing my workout can help me to take my mind of things. Or just cooking a good meal if I’ve got the time. I really enjoy cooking.

    When I’m stressed in general I love to read, mostly Fantasy books. With them I can kind of ‘escape’ into a different world for some time. Or I watch a good movie on the couch in the evening. Or I do some stretching before I go to bed.

    That’s what helps me at least :)

    What about you others out there? What helps you when you’re stressed out?

    Oh, and about that mental sickness. A friend of me went to a psychotherapist once. She was kind of overwhelmed with everything. But in the end it helped her. In the beginning she talked to me and to our friends, but we’re not professionals and in the end she admitted to herself that she needed that professional help we couldn’t provide her with.

    I think that there’s nothing wrong with seeking out professional help. In my opinion it’s strong, because you admit that you need help.

    Ups, that post got longer than I anticipated, hehe.

    Take care of yourselves everyone, both mentally and physically ;)

  • Melody Schwenk Gardner

    Absolutely! I’m in the midst of the comp exams for my doctorate and we went away and volunteered at a Spartan Kids race in Philly. It was a lot more rewarding than spending an extra day sitting on my butt and staring at a computer/books all day! It also reminded my body that I actually HAD a body instead of all brain action and no physical activity.

  • Kathyz09

    I know that feeling too. I just had such a situation last month actually. My friend married and I was her maid of honour, which means I had a lot to do. I loved being her maid of honour, it was fun, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t a lot of work.

    She married on the 8th of september and one day later it was my birthday. The bride stayed the night before the wedding with me. I also go to school two times a week after an 8 hours work day and sometimes also on saturday. So “Me-Time” has been very rare during the weeks coming up to the wedding.

    I planned the program at the party and suddenly three days before the wedding the best man jumped on me with things he wanted to do which we hadn’t planned. And her collegues also asked me two days before the wedding if they could come as surprise guests. Oh, and on the wedding day her father and her aunt told me they’ve also some stuff planned. Long story short – I was really stressed, but in the end it was worth it and my friend had a beautiful wedding.

    So I got to bed at 3:30am and got up at 10am, together with my boyfriend, cause it was my birthday and my family was coming to celebrate. And more stress for me.

    And that evening I really felt like I needed a break. Mentally I was just so exhausted and overwhelmed. When the first guests left the others started to leave to (thankfully). I even asked my boyfriend to leave, cause I just wanted some time to myself (we don’t live together). He was a bit reluctant, but he understood in the end.

    That evening I just cleaned up a little bit and then sat myself on the couch, watching a Disney Movie. I even cried a little for no reason (up until now I don’t know why I cried, I really don’t know). I wasn’t sad or anything, but somehow I found suddenly tears rolling down my face. Is there anyone else out there to whom it happened to?

    I don’t think I really have a self-care process. I just do things I like. For example doing my workout can help me to take my mind of things. Or just cooking a good meal if I’ve got the time. I really enjoy cooking.

    When I’m stressed in general I love to read, mostly Fantasy books. With them I can kind of ‘escape’ into a different world for some time. Or I watch a good movie on the couch in the evening. Or I do some stretching before I go to bed.

    That’s what helps me at least :)

    What about you others out there? What helps you when you’re stressed out?

    Oh, and about that mental sickness. A friend of me went to a psychotherapist once. She was kind of overwhelmed with everything. But in the end it helped her. In the beginning she talked to me and to our friends, but we’re not professionals and in the end she admitted to herself that she needed that professional help we couldn’t provide her with.

    I think that there’s nothing wrong with seeking out professional help. In my opinion it’s strong, because you admit that you need help.

    Ups, that post got longer than I anticipated, hehe.

    Take care of yourselves everyone, both mentally and physically ;)

  • Kathyz09

    I know that feeling too. I just had such a situation last month actually. My friend married and I was her maid of honour, which means I had a lot to do. I loved being her maid of honour, it was fun, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t a lot of work.

    She married on the 8th of september and one day later it was my birthday. The bride stayed the night before the wedding with me. I also go to school two times a week after an 8 hours work day and sometimes also on saturday. So “Me-Time” has been very rare during the weeks coming up to the wedding.

    I planned the program at the party and suddenly three days before the wedding the best man jumped on me with things he wanted to do which we hadn’t planned. And her collegues also asked me two days before the wedding if they could come as surprise guests. Oh, and on the wedding day her father and her aunt told me they’ve also some stuff planned. Long story short – I was really stressed, but in the end it was worth it and my friend had a beautiful wedding.

    So I got to bed at 3:30am and got up at 10am, together with my boyfriend, cause it was my birthday and my family was coming to celebrate. And more stress for me.

    And that evening I really felt like I needed a break. Mentally I was just so exhausted and overwhelmed. When the first guests left the others started to leave to (thankfully). I even asked my boyfriend to leave, cause I just wanted some time to myself (we don’t live together). He was a bit reluctant, but he understood in the end.

    That evening I just cleaned up a little bit and then sat myself on the couch, watching a Disney Movie. I even cried a little for no reason (up until now I don’t know why I cried, I really don’t know). I wasn’t sad or anything, but somehow I found suddenly tears rolling down my face. Is there anyone else out there to whom it happened to?

    I don’t think I really have a self-care process. I just do things I like. For example doing my workout can help me to take my mind of things. Or just cooking a good meal if I’ve got the time. I really enjoy cooking.

    When I’m stressed in general I love to read, mostly Fantasy books. With them I can kind of ‘escape’ into a different world for some time. Or I watch a good movie on the couch in the evening. Or I do some stretching before I go to bed.

    That’s what helps me at least :)

    What about you others out there? What helps you when you’re stressed out?

    Oh, and about that mental sickness. A friend of me went to a psychotherapist once. She was kind of overwhelmed with everything. But in the end it helped her. In the beginning she talked to me and to our friends, but we’re not professionals and in the end she admitted to herself that she needed that professional help we couldn’t provide her with.

    I think that there’s nothing wrong with seeking out professional help. In my opinion it’s strong, because you admit that you need help.

    Ups, that post got longer than I anticipated, hehe.

    Take care of yourselves everyone, both mentally and physically ;)

  • Kathyz09

    I know that feeling too. I just had such a situation last month actually. My friend married and I was her maid of honour, which means I had a lot to do. I loved being her maid of honour, it was fun, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t a lot of work.

    She married on the 8th of september and one day later it was my birthday. The bride stayed the night before the wedding with me. I also go to school two times a week after an 8 hours work day and sometimes also on saturday. So “Me-Time” has been very rare during the weeks coming up to the wedding.

    I planned the program at the party and suddenly three days before the wedding the best man jumped on me with things he wanted to do which we hadn’t planned. And her collegues also asked me two days before the wedding if they could come as surprise guests. Oh, and on the wedding day her father and her aunt told me they’ve also some stuff planned. Long story short – I was really stressed, but in the end it was worth it and my friend had a beautiful wedding.

    So I got to bed at 3:30am and got up at 10am, together with my boyfriend, cause it was my birthday and my family was coming to celebrate. And more stress for me.

    And that evening I really felt like I needed a break. Mentally I was just so exhausted and overwhelmed. When the first guests left the others started to leave to (thankfully). I even asked my boyfriend to leave, cause I just wanted some time to myself (we don’t live together). He was a bit reluctant, but he understood in the end.

    That evening I just cleaned up a little bit and then sat myself on the couch, watching a Disney Movie. I even cried a little for no reason (up until now I don’t know why I cried, I really don’t know). I wasn’t sad or anything, but somehow I found suddenly tears rolling down my face. Is there anyone else out there to whom it happened to?

    I don’t think I really have a self-care process. I just do things I like. For example doing my workout can help me to take my mind of things. Or just cooking a good meal if I’ve got the time. I really enjoy cooking.

    When I’m stressed in general I love to read, mostly Fantasy books. With them I can kind of ‘escape’ into a different world for some time. Or I watch a good movie on the couch in the evening. Or I do some stretching before I go to bed.

    That’s what helps me at least :)

    What about you others out there? What helps you when you’re stressed out?

    Oh, and about that mental sickness. A friend of me went to a psychotherapist once. She was kind of overwhelmed with everything. But in the end it helped her. In the beginning she talked to me and to our friends, but we’re not professionals and in the end she admitted to herself that she needed that professional help we couldn’t provide her with.

    I think that there’s nothing wrong with seeking out professional help. In my opinion it’s strong, because you admit that you need help.

    Ups, that post got longer than I anticipated, hehe.

    Take care of yourselves everyone, both mentally and physically ;)

  • Kathyz09

    I know that feeling too. I just had such a situation last month actually. My friend married and I was her maid of honour, which means I had a lot to do. I loved being her maid of honour, it was fun, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t a lot of work.

    She married on the 8th of september and one day later it was my birthday. The bride stayed the night before the wedding with me. I also go to school two times a week after an 8 hours work day and sometimes also on saturday. So “Me-Time” has been very rare during the weeks coming up to the wedding.

    I planned the program at the party and suddenly three days before the wedding the best man jumped on me with things he wanted to do which we hadn’t planned. And her collegues also asked me two days before the wedding if they could come as surprise guests. Oh, and on the wedding day her father and her aunt told me they’ve also some stuff planned. Long story short – I was really stressed, but in the end it was worth it and my friend had a beautiful wedding.

    So I got to bed at 3:30am and got up at 10am, together with my boyfriend, cause it was my birthday and my family was coming to celebrate. And more stress for me.

    And that evening I really felt like I needed a break. Mentally I was just so exhausted and overwhelmed. When the first guests left the others started to leave to (thankfully). I even asked my boyfriend to leave, cause I just wanted some time to myself (we don’t live together). He was a bit reluctant, but he understood in the end.

    That evening I just cleaned up a little bit and then sat myself on the couch, watching a Disney Movie. I even cried a little for no reason (up until now I don’t know why I cried, I really don’t know). I wasn’t sad or anything, but somehow I found suddenly tears rolling down my face. Is there anyone else out there to whom it happened to?

    I don’t think I really have a self-care process. I just do things I like. For example doing my workout can help me to take my mind of things. Or just cooking a good meal if I’ve got the time. I really enjoy cooking.

    When I’m stressed in general I love to read, mostly Fantasy books. With them I can kind of ‘escape’ into a different world for some time. Or I watch a good movie on the couch in the evening. Or I do some stretching before I go to bed.

    That’s what helps me at least :)

    What about you others out there? What helps you when you’re stressed out?

    Oh, and about that mental sickness. A friend of me went to a psychotherapist once. She was kind of overwhelmed with everything. But in the end it helped her. In the beginning she talked to me and to our friends, but we’re not professionals and in the end she admitted to herself that she needed that professional help we couldn’t provide her with.

    I think that there’s nothing wrong with seeking out professional help. In my opinion it’s strong, because you admit that you need help.

    Ups, that post got longer than I anticipated, hehe.

    Take care of yourselves everyone, both mentally and physically ;)

  • Jen Scott

    yes yes yes I do that and thank you for saying it. But since weight has been a very big problem for me so what I do is I still take my magic tea on off days. It is made with strong black seed oil and this ingredient is great for fat burning. This oil gives me the peace of mind that there is still something I am doing so makes it easier for me to take days off

  • Kathyz09

    Hey Cassey and everyone who bothers to read this ;)

    I know that feeling too. I just had such a situation last month actually. My friend married and I was her maid of honour, which means I had a lot to do. I loved being her maid of honour, it was fun, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t a lot of work.

    She married on the 8th of september and one day later it was my birthday. The bride stayed the night before the wedding with me. I also go to school two times a week after an 8 hours work day and sometimes also on saturday. So “Me-Time” has been very rare during the weeks coming up to the wedding.

    I planned the program at the party and suddenly three days before the wedding the best man jumped on me with things he wanted to do which we hadn’t planned. And her collegues also asked me two days before the wedding if they could come as surprise guests. Oh, and on the wedding day her father and her aunt told me they’ve also some stuff planned. Long story short – I was really stressed, but in the end it was worth it and my friend had a beautiful wedding.

    So I got to bed at 3:30am and got up at 10am, together with my boyfriend, cause it was my birthday and my family was coming to celebrate. And more stress for me.

    And that evening I really felt like I needed a break. Mentally I was just so exhausted and overwhelmed. When the first guests left the others started to leave to (thankfully). I even asked my boyfriend to leave, cause I just wanted some time to myself (we don’t live together). He was a bit reluctant, but he understood in the end.

    That evening I just cleaned up a little bit and then sat myself on the couch, watching a Disney Movie. I even cried a little for no reason (up until now I don’t know why I cried, I really don’t know). I wasn’t sad or anything, but somehow I found suddenly tears rolling down my face. Is there anyone else out there to whom it happened to?

    I don’t think I really have a self-care process. I just do things I like. For example doing my workout can help me to take my mind of things. Or just cooking a good meal if I’ve got the time. I really enjoy cooking.

    When I’m stressed in general I love to read, mostly Fantasy books. With them I can kind of ‘escape’ into a different world for some time. Or I watch a good movie on the couch in the evening. Or I do some stretching before I go to bed.

    That’s what helps me at least :)

    What about you others out there? What helps you when you’re stressed out?

    Oh, and about that mental sickness. A friend of me went to a psychotherapist once. She was kind of overwhelmed with everything. But in the end it helped her. In the beginning she talked to me and to our friends, but we’re not professionals and in the end she admitted to herself that she needed that professional help we couldn’t provide her with.

    I think that there’s nothing wrong with seeking out professional help. In my opinion it’s strong, because you admit that you need help.

    Ups, that post got longer than I anticipated, hehe.

    Take care of yourselves everyone, both mentally and physically ;)

    Kathyz09 :)

  • Taylor

    Something i love doing for a metal health day is to go to the Savannah Rapids and walking the trails and soaking my feet in the rivers, it so beautiful there, and best part is that its not even 10 minutes away from my house!

  • Kathyz09

    Hey Cassey and everyone who bothers to read this ;)

    I know that feeling too. I just had such a situation last month actually. My friend married and I was her maid of honour, which means I had a lot to do. I loved being her maid of honour, it was fun, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t a lot of work.

    She married on the 8th of september and one day later it was my birthday. The bride stayed the night before the wedding with me. I also go to school two times a week after an 8 hours work day and sometimes also on saturday. So “Me-Time” has been very rare during the weeks coming up to the wedding.

    I planned the program at the party and suddenly three days before the wedding the best man jumped on me with things he wanted to do which we hadn’t planned. And her collegues also asked me two days before the wedding if they could come as surprise guests. Oh, and on the wedding day her father and her aunt told me they’ve also some stuff planned. Long story short – I was really stressed, but in the end it was worth it and my friend had a beautiful wedding.

    So I got to bed at 3:30am and got up at 10am, together with my boyfriend, cause it was my birthday and my family was coming to celebrate. And more stress for me.

    And that evening I really felt like I needed a break. Mentally I was just so exhausted and overwhelmed. When the first guests left the others started to leave to (thankfully). I even asked my boyfriend to leave, cause I just wanted some time to myself (we don’t live together). He was a bit reluctant, but he understood in the end.

    That evening I just cleaned up a little bit and then sat myself on the couch, watching a Disney Movie. I even cried a little for no reason (up until now I don’t know why I cried, I really don’t know). I wasn’t sad or anything, but somehow I found suddenly tears rolling down my face. Is there anyone else out there to whom it happened to?

    I don’t think I really have a self-care process. I just do things I like. For example doing my workout can help me to take my mind of things. Or just cooking a good meal if I’ve got the time. I really enjoy cooking.

    When I’m stressed in general I love to read, mostly Fantasy books. With them I can kind of ‘escape’ into a different world for some time. Or I watch a good movie on the couch in the evening. Or I do some stretching before I go to bed.

    That’s what helps me at least :)

    What about you others out there? What helps you when you’re stressed out?

    Oh, and about that mental sickness. A friend of me went to a psychotherapist once. She was kind of overwhelmed with everything. But in the end it helped her. In the beginning she talked to me and to our friends, but we’re not professionals and in the end she admitted to herself that she needed that professional help we couldn’t provide her with.

    I think that there’s nothing wrong with seeking out professional help. In my opinion it’s strong, because you admit that you need help.

    Ups, that post got longer than I anticipated, hehe.

    Take care of yourselves everyone, both mentally and physically ;)

    Kathyz09 :)

  • Kathy Parker

    Hey Cassey and everyone who bothers to read this ;)

    I know that feeling too. I just had such a situation last month actually. My friend married and I was her maid of honour, which means I had a lot to do. I loved being her maid of honour, it was fun, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t a lot of work.

    She married on the 8th of september and one day later it was my birthday. The bride stayed the night before the wedding with me. I also go to school two times a week after an 8 hours work day and sometimes also on saturday. So “Me-Time” has been very rare during the weeks coming up to the wedding.

    I planned the program at the party and suddenly three days before the wedding the best man jumped on me with things he wanted to do which we hadn’t planned. And her collegues also asked me two days before the wedding if they could come as surprise guests. Oh, and on the wedding day her father and her aunt told me they’ve also some stuff planned. Long story short – I was really stressed, but in the end it was worth it and my friend had a beautiful wedding.

    So I got to bed at 3:30am and got up at 10am, together with my boyfriend, cause it was my birthday and my family was coming to celebrate. And more stress for me.

    And that evening I really felt like I needed a break. Mentally I was just so exhausted and overwhelmed. When the first guests left the others started to leave to (thankfully). I even asked my boyfriend to leave, cause I just wanted some time to myself (we don’t live together). He was a bit reluctant, but he understood in the end.

    That evening I just cleaned up a little bit and then sat myself on the couch, watching a Disney Movie. I even cried a little for no reason (up until now I don’t know why I cried, I really don’t know). I wasn’t sad or anything, but somehow I found suddenly tears rolling down my face. Is there anyone else out there to whom it happened to?

    I don’t think I really have a self-care process. I just do things I like. For example doing my workout can help me to take my mind of things. Or just cooking a good meal if I’ve got the time. I really enjoy cooking.

    When I’m stressed in general I love to read, mostly Fantasy books. With them I can kind of ‘escape’ into a different world for some time. Or I watch a good movie on the couch in the evening. Or I do some stretching before I go to bed.

    That’s what helps me at least :)

    What about you others out there? What helps you when you’re stressed out?

    Oh, and about that mental sickness. A friend of me went to a psychotherapist once. She was kind of overwhelmed with everything. But in the end it helped her. In the beginning she talked to me and to our friends, but we’re not professionals and in the end she admitted to herself that she needed that professional help we couldn’t provide her with.

    I think that there’s nothing wrong with seeking out professional help. In my opinion it’s strong, because you admit that you need help.

    Ups, that post got longer than I anticipated, hehe.

    Take care of yourselves everyone, both mentally and physically ;)

    Kathyz09 :)

  • Kathyz09

    Hey Cassey and everyone who bothers to read this ;)

    I know that feeling too. I just had such a situation last month actually. My friend married and I was her maid of honour, which means I had a lot to do. I loved being her maid of honour, it was fun, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t a lot of work.

    She married on the 8th of september and one day later it was my birthday. The bride stayed the night before the wedding with me. I also go to school two times a week after an 8 hours work day and sometimes also on saturday. So “Me-Time” has been very rare during the weeks coming up to the wedding.

    I planned the program at the party and suddenly three days before the wedding the best man jumped on me with things he wanted to do which we hadn’t planned. And her collegues also asked me two days before the wedding if they could come as surprise guests. Oh, and on the wedding day her father and her aunt told me they’ve also some stuff planned. Long story short – I was really stressed, but in the end it was worth it and my friend had a beautiful wedding.

    So I got to bed at 3:30am and got up at 10am, together with my boyfriend, cause it was my birthday and my family was coming to celebrate. And more stress for me.

    And that evening I really felt like I needed a break. Mentally I was just so exhausted and overwhelmed. When the first guests left the others started to leave to (thankfully). I even asked my boyfriend to leave, cause I just wanted some time to myself (we don’t live together). He was a bit reluctant, but he understood in the end.

    That evening I just cleaned up a little bit and then sat myself on the couch, watching a Disney Movie. I even cried a little for no reason (up until now I don’t know why I cried, I really don’t know). I wasn’t sad or anything, but somehow I found suddenly tears rolling down my face. Is there anyone else out there to whom it happened to?

    I don’t think I really have a self-care process. I just do things I like. For example doing my workout can help me to take my mind of things. Or just cooking a good meal if I’ve got the time. I really enjoy cooking.

    When I’m stressed in general I love to read, mostly Fantasy books. With them I can kind of ‘escape’ into a different world for some time. Or I watch a good movie on the couch in the evening. Or I do some stretching before I go to bed.

    That’s what helps me at least :)

    What about you others out there? What helps you when you’re stressed out?

    Oh, and about that mental sickness. A friend of me went to a psychotherapist once. She was kind of overwhelmed with everything. But in the end it helped her. In the beginning she talked to me and to our friends, but we’re not professionals and in the end she admitted to herself that she needed that professional help we couldn’t provide her with.

    I think that there’s nothing wrong with seeking out professional help. In my opinion it’s strong, because you admit that you need help.

    Ups, that post got longer than I anticipated, hehe.

    Take care of yourselves everyone, both mentally and physically ;)

    Kathyz09 :)

  • My parents always guilt me for taking a mental health day. They call it fooling around. But it’s so important and I’m planning one this coming weekend.

    • Kathy Parker

      That’s sad to hear. It is really important, as you know yourself. I know the feeling, once on my birthday I just wanted a quit evening, because the time before that was quite stressful. And I wanted everyone to be gone so I could just have some me time. It worked out in the end but they all where like ‘What, you even don’t want your boyfriend around?!’ And no, in that Moment I didn’t want anyone around, just some quite and peace for myself.
      You’re doing right not letting them talk guilt into you – take care of yourself :)

      • I know it’s important for sure! I’ve grown up with skewed family dynamics so I’ve pretty much been ingrained with these values, but it’s time to change that! <3 Thank you and keep me in your thoughts!

      • Thank you Kathy! It’s nice to have reassurance from smart cookies/popsters like you to reinforce that what I’m doing is the right thing.

  • Kathyz09

    Hey Cassey and everyone who bothers to read this ;)

    I know that feeling too. I just had such a situation last month actually. My friend married and I was her maid of honour, which means I had a lot to do. I loved being her maid of honour, it was fun, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t a lot of work.

    She married on the 8th of september and one day later it was my birthday. The bride stayed the night before the wedding with me. I also go to school two times a week after an 8 hours work day and sometimes also on saturday. So “Me-Time” has been very rare during the weeks coming up to the wedding.

    I planned the program at the party and suddenly three days before the wedding the best man jumped on me with things he wanted to do which we hadn’t planned. And her collegues also asked me two days before the wedding if they could come as surprise guests. Oh, and on the wedding day her father and her aunt told me they’ve also some stuff planned. Long story short – I was really stressed, but in the end it was worth it and my friend had a beautiful wedding.

    So I got to bed at 3:30am and got up at 10am, together with my boyfriend, cause it was my birthday and my family was coming to celebrate. And more stress for me.

    And that evening I really felt like I needed a break. Mentally I was just so exhausted and overwhelmed. When the first guests left the others started to leave to (thankfully). I even asked my boyfriend to leave, cause I just wanted some time to myself (we don’t live together). He was a bit reluctant, but he understood in the end.

    That evening I just cleaned up a little bit and then sat myself on the couch, watching a Disney Movie. I even cried a little for no reason (up until now I don’t know why I cried, I really don’t know). I wasn’t sad or anything, but somehow I found suddenly tears rolling down my face. Is there anyone else out there to whom it happened to?

    I don’t think I really have a self-care process. I just do things I like. For example doing my workout can help me to take my mind of things. Or just cooking a good meal if I’ve got the time. I really enjoy cooking.

    When I’m stressed in general I love to read, mostly Fantasy books. With them I can kind of ‘escape’ into a different world for some time. Or I watch a good movie on the couch in the evening. Or I do some stretching before I go to bed.

    That’s what helps me at least :)

    What about you others out there? What helps you when you’re stressed out?

    Oh, and about that mental sickness. A friend of me went to a psychotherapist once. She was kind of overwhelmed with everything. But in the end it helped her. In the beginning she talked to me and to our friends, but we’re not professionals and in the end she admitted to herself that she needed that professional help we couldn’t provide her with.

    I think that there’s nothing wrong with seeking out professional help. In my opinion it’s strong, because you admit that you need help.

    Ups, that post got longer than I anticipated, hehe.

    Take care of yourselves everyone, both mentally and physically ;)

    Kathyz09 :)

  • Kathyz09

    Hey Cassey and everyone who bothers to read this ;)

    I know that feeling too. I just had such a situation last month actually. My friend married and I was her maid of honour, which means I had a lot to do. I loved being her maid of honour, it was fun, but I would be lying if I said it wasn’t a lot of work.

    She married on the 8th of september and one day later it was my birthday. The bride stayed the night before the wedding with me. I also go to school two times a week after an 8 hours work day and sometimes also on saturday. So “Me-Time” has been very rare during the weeks coming up to the wedding.

    I planned the program at the party and suddenly three days before the wedding the best man jumped on me with things he wanted to do which we hadn’t planned. And her collegues also asked me two days before the wedding if they could come as surprise guests. Oh, and on the wedding day her father and her aunt told me they’ve also some stuff planned. Long story short – I was really stressed, but in the end it was worth it and my friend had a beautiful wedding.

    So I got to bed at 3:30am and got up at 10am, together with my boyfriend, cause it was my birthday and my family was coming to celebrate. And more stress for me.

    And that evening I really felt like I needed a break. Mentally I was just so exhausted and overwhelmed. When the first guests left the others started to leave to (thankfully). I even asked my boyfriend to leave, cause I just wanted some time to myself (we don’t live together). He was a bit reluctant, but he understood in the end.

    That evening I just cleaned up a little bit and then sat myself on the couch, watching a Disney Movie. I even cried a little for no reason (up until now I don’t know why I cried, I really don’t know). I wasn’t sad or anything, but somehow I found suddenly tears rolling down my face. Is there anyone else out there to whom it happened to?

    I don’t think I really have a self-care process. I just do things I like. For example doing my workout can help me to take my mind of things. Or just cooking a good meal if I’ve got the time. I really enjoy cooking.

    When I’m stressed in general I love to read, mostly Fantasy books. With them I can kind of ‘escape’ into a different world for some time. Or I watch a good movie on the couch in the evening. Or I do some stretching before I go to bed.

    That’s what helps me at least :)

    What about you others out there? What helps you when you’re stressed out?

    Oh, and about that mental sickness. A friend of me went to a psychotherapist once. She was kind of overwhelmed with everything. But in the end it helped her. In the beginning she talked to me and to our friends, but we’re not professionals and in the end she admitted to herself that she needed that professional help we couldn’t provide her with.
    I think that there’s nothing wrong with seeking out professional help. In my opinion it’s strong, because you admit that you need help.
    Ups, that post got longer than I anticipated, hehe.
    Take care of yourselves everyone, both mentally and physically ;)
    Kathyz09 :)