20 Things I learned in my 20s

happy bday

Hey guys!

I’ve officially been 30 for 3 days! How does it feel?


In fact, I feel as energetic and as youthful inside as I did in college…except, in my personal opinion, I think I look better! And I am a lot wiser. Well, as wise as a 30 year old can be!

When I was a kid, I used to think I’d fall in love at 16, be married by 25 and have kids at 30. Thanks Disney movies.

Yes I am in love, but I am not married, and my kids are my businesses – so that’s a lot right now!

Today’s post will be a reflective one. I am thankful for every day that I get to live to see the next day, while being able to make cool things happen. Here are 20 things I learned in my 20s – in no particular order.

  1. Love is not finding someone you can live with. It’s finding someone you can’t live without.
  2. Follow your passion no matter what anyone says.
  3. Do more of what makes you happy and less of what doesn’t.
  4. Your friends are a reflection of who you are.
  5. There is no such thing as the perfect diet.
  6. There is no such thing as a perfect body.
  7. It’s ok to fail. 
  8. You can’t trust everyone.
  9. If it feels wrong, it probably is.
  10. Confidence is more beautiful than external beauty.
  11. Never stop learning.
  12. Having too much ego will be your downfall.
  13. Every person has a back story. Try to understand them before you judge.
  14. Everything is possible, and you must never give up.
  15. Time is priceless. Don’t waste it.
  16. Give, give, give without expectation. And you shall receive.
  17. Being nice gets you way farther than being mean.
  18. Business isn’t about money. It’s about relationships.
  19. Your parents are people too and they are not perfect. 
  20. Don’t be afraid to quit your job.

I think I could probably type up 100 more, but I’ll save that for another time.

I’m such a different person today than who I was when I was graduating college. It’s so interesting, because at every stage in my life (except at my 1st corporate job) I always felt super confident. My peers called me arrogant, but I think that’s what you get for being a “girl boss”. If a guy is “arrogant” he’s just being confident.


Confidence is what got me to where I am today. If I didn’t believe in myself, who would? You gotta believe in who you are, what you’re meant to do, and you just have to go for it. Don’t be afraid to fail. If you do, all you have to do is get up and try again. The thing is, if you don’t take any risk in life, your reward will not be grand. You’ve got to be bold!!! Don’t be scared!

With that said, I want to share with you pics from my bday party this weekend! My sis flew down and helped us prep the house for a party! I’ve been SLOWLY interior decorating over the past 3.5 years since I moved down to LA and I’ve never had a proper house warming. So when we decided to have the party at home, I went into a frenzy and bought furniture, decor, and curtains like a madwoman.

The whole weekend was “prom committee” central. Sam and I were building furniture, nailing and screwing things to the wall, while my sister was making crazy balloon arch creations from Pinterest. She even stopped by the LA Flower Market at 6AM to get fresh flowers (and baby pineapples) for the party. IT WAS SERIOUS.

Here’s how it all turned out!


Low temperature hot glue gun is what’s holding the balloons together.

baby pineapples

I have a pen. I have an apple. Oooh! AH! Pineapple pen!

outdoor furniture

Bought outdoor furniture and a fire pit. I am so adult.

balloon arch

Night time vibes. Waiting for guests to arrive.

sister pic

So we’ll take pics while we wait.

jason chen phil wang cassey ho

People started arriving and we made them wear hats. It’s Phil and Jason! We’re unicorns obviously.

lilly ro

Rosanna and Lilly! Missing Justine and Lindsey to round out the #RoyalSquad :P

cassey's bday party


kurt connect 4

Sam and Kurt playing mega Connect 4. Kurt wanted to play “blindfolded.” No, really.

sam jenga

Sam concentrating hard at big Jenga.

blowing candles
Can you believe my sister made this Matcha Green Tea Mille Cake? It was 40 layers thick!! AHHH I LOVE MATCHA!

green tea matcha mille cake

One of the most tedious cakes EVER. But so so YUMMY!!! If you want to make a healthy (and delish) version of this cake, check out my CHEAP CLEAN EATS Matcha Crepe Cake recipe here.

I am so grateful that my friends were able to make it out on a Sunday night and celebrate with me. I feel so lucky to have all of them in my life. Each one, so kind, talented and inspiring.

And thank you to YOU for reading this blog post and being with me on this journey into the land of 30. I wonder what things I’ll learn over the next 10 years…

Love you so much!


  • Nathan Brown

    you seem to be in a wonderful environment. Congrats for u and your success

  • One of my favorite posts thus far. I turned 30 last year and your list is spot on. You are so inspirational. Love you so much and so happy for you!

  • Madeline Caples

    I love these pictures! The decorations are so pretty!!! Tell your sister that she did an amazing job with the cake! You all look so beautiful and happy. Happy birthday Cassey!! :)

  • Sthefania

    Happy Birthday!! I’m on day 2 of pilates 2.0 for beginners. My legs hurt so much on day 1 when doing the exercise!

  • Ana M Rodriguez

    Happy Birthday Cassey! Thanks for being so inspiring and motivating. I hope you know what a great influence you are for a lot of us. Welcome to the 30 club! ;)

  • jessica roy

    Happy belated birthday !! Thank you for your advice and wisdom. I really need this today. I am doing the 28 day challenge reset with the January calendar and this far, it’s been surprisingly good. I feel amazing and i never look better. I look forward to workout every morning

  • Katy Fox

    happy birthday <3
    xo katy


  • Chavaleh

    I loved reading the top ten things you learned in your 20’s! You’re such an inspiration to me! I think you’re beautiful… do you have children?

  • suzan

    Happy birthday ? Cassey enjoy ur life

  • Melody Schwenk Gardner

    I’m turning 40 this year and I can tell you that you are totally doing it right! Keep having fun and don’t worry about anyone who isn’t supportive of you and your super-awesome healthy and happy. Those are NOT your issues to deal with! Happy birthday!

  • Christina K

    Happy Birthday!!!! I’ll be turning 30 in 3 days and I wholeheartedly agree with your list. Live your own life and not anybody else!!

    January babies rock!!

  • Winnie

    Sounds like you had an amazing birthday :)
    Your message was something I really needed to hear as this year I’ve started paving the way towards a brighter future both in body, mind and career and I would gladly tell you that Casey inspires most if not all of this desire to change myself and not “settle”. I’m already pretty active but I started working with a PT this year to help give me direction and he asked what my fitness goals were. I could only think that I wanted to become strong enough to do a freestanding handstand, I couldn’t imagine at all how I wanted my body to look.
    As someone who has had an eating disorder and a co-occuring obsession with exercising excessively with time I have rediscovered my body and all the things that make me happy. Strength and adventure were concepts you made real and accessable to me, and I could never thank you enough.

  • Petrina

    Love getting your emails….it’s always good reading.. thanks so much for your inspiration.

  • Maria Õunamägi

    Dear Cassey, happy birthday!
    I have followed your calendar since AprilAbs of 2014, and am so happy to see how far you have come! Your routines are a important part of my life – each month I print out the calendar and mark my workouts there, it helps bring balance and happiness to my life, I could write pages on how you have impacted my life, but lets leave than for another day.

    All I want to say is thank you for all you have done and are doing! :)

  • happykeiko

    #1 on your list is tearing me up. Thank you for this. I am so happy for you <3

  • Emily

    Happy Birthday Cassey! You are such a inspiration and such a positive influence to me, thank you for everything! <3

  • Happy Birthday, Cassey!
    You look super happy, and I am also happy for you :) I feel like you’re the type of person whose age is super hard to guess. I just realized I’ve been following you for about 4 years now and I think I will always think of you as a person in their mid-twenties, but somehow, to me, age has kinda lost it’s meaning. I turned 26 last September, but I don’t “feel” like that… and just got braces… when I don’t wear make up I guess I could still pass for 16 if I wanted to XD

  • Samantha Lee

    Happy birthday!! You decorated beautifully, and I am SO jealous of your backyard space. Where in LA do you live?? Haha.

  • Brynn Jornacion

    Happy Birthday Cassey! Thanks for sharing those beautiful wisdoms you have learned. I would love to read it if u write up to 100 hehe I feel we could learn so much from an amazing girl boss. Your party looked so great and I’m so happy you’re blessed with so many things and wonderful people. Thanks for everything Cassey! I wish you more blessings to come! Love you! ?

  • Suki

    I loved your pictures, I’m glad you had a nice birthday.
    Thank you for sharing what you learned through this years, I’m still in my twenties and there is no doubt I will keep all your advices in mind. :) :)

  • Ivona

    Happy birthday! Wish you all the best in the future. :) I’ll be 24 soon so this post means a lot! I think it is more important how do you feel than how old are you. You know what they say, youth has no age. You look at least 5 years younger! Thanks for inspiring us, not just in this post, but with everything you do. :)

    • blogilates

      Thank you :)



    • blogilates

      Good to hear!

  • Jackie O.

    I turned 30 on 12/12/16 so not too much older than you than I thought… I didn’t have a party, or see any friends :( Glad you had a good one!!

  • Serious birthday inspo! Happy birthday Cassey! <3
    Loved the list of things you learned from your twenties.


  • Helena Pratiwi

    Wow you do not look 30 at all! Btw I have the same birthday as you too :p glad to share a birthday with someone so inspiring! I hope I will be able to follow my dreams and inspire other people just like you ?

    • blogilates

      happy belated bday!

      • Helena Pratiwi

        Thank you ^^

  • Happy Birthday, Cassey! Welcome to the thirties!

  • Welcome to your thirties! It’s a great decade :) Happy belated birthday!

  • M S

    Happy Birthday Sweet Cassey :) A big hug from Portugal* (also turning 30 this year!)

    • Maria Cristina Martinez

      I’m turning 30 this year too! Yey, 1987 rules! Cheers from Argentina =)

      • M S


  • Elizabeth Shiver

    I’m 35 and I actually feel younger & more capable physically than ever before (thanks to Pop Pilates & PIIT28!) and I’m more comfortable in my skin than I used to be. Here’s to your 30s!!

    • blogilates


  • Sara

    Glad you had a great birthday!! Trust me, your 30’s are going to be epic! Never before have I felt completely myself…I love my 30’s!

    • blogilates

      so good to hear!

  • Transbutter

    Love your decor for the party. So chic.

    • blogilates

      It’s all Joss & Main, Anthropologie, Homegoods, and World Market!

  • Happy birthday, Cassy! Lots of love from Naija (West Africa) *wink*

    • blogilates

      Oooh! I want to go one day!

      • Don’t worry, I have plans to invite you for a Blogilates event in Lagos, Nigeria some day soon ? *fingers crossed*

  • Molly Maka

    Happy Birthday, Cassey! What a great blog. Lots of good reminders even past your 20s (says the girl who’s almost 36).

  • Darny Sy

    Happy Birthday Cassey!!! Welcome to your 30s!!! The life lessons and words were exactly what I needed to read. I’ve been following you since you started with Blogilates. You truly are inspiring. Thank you for the words, encouragement, motivation, and postive attitude.

    • blogilates

      You are so welcome.

  • Eloise Bonel

    Happy Birthday Cassey! I turned 30 on the 14th of Jan #twinning! Congratulations on turning 30. So many people worry about it but I just think- its the start of a new decade and it’s exciting! Also, when I think about everything that happened between 20 and now… wowsers. That decade lasted FOREVERRRRR!!! <3<3

    • blogilates

      I KNOW!!! I am such a diff person and 20 seems like a diff lifetime!

  • Shannon Malbrough

    So awesome! Happy birthday! Mine was the 2nd and I turned 26, so I really enjoyed seeing the things you learned in your 20’s. Number 20 is resonating with me right now! Happy birthday again and looked like a fun party!!

  • Kayle

    Happy birthday Cassey! I’m coming up to 30. I have changed SO much since my early 20s, in a positive way.

  • Becky Brewer

    Happy Belated Birthday! I like your list, Cassey! For that last one, I’d suggest having an exit plan in place, kwim?

  • Amélie

    Happy Birthday Cassie, I’ll turn 30 too in March 3rd and I’m prepared to start this new decade with as much enthousiasm as you do !! Thank you for all your work and inspiration. “Bisous” from France

  • Sara Asghar

    Cassey <3 So glad to find you turned 30 and that even in January… I turned 30 on 1st January too. Cassey you are true inspiration for me. There was a time in 2015 when I stopped during workout and cried loud because I was working out to get slim for people to appreciate me. My fiance told me I had the worst body on this planet.. and worst butt some woman will ever have. This year and two could not transform me into "perfect body" but today I am a totally different person. I LOVE my workout now. I look fwd to do my PIIT28 daily. Above all… I am HAPPY today.. see your picture on my DP. Its you.. you are my hero <3 HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU. PS: I love everyone's expressions in Train is Coming picture :D

    • Kimbers

      Your fiance sounds like a horrible man. A decent partner would encourage you… not put you down.

    • blogilates

      Oh no, why did he say that? He should not talk to you like that. I’m glad that you’re working hard for YOU. Stay strong girl!

  • Just you wait cassey–I’m gonna be the next youtuber you’ll befriend and I’ll be coming to your 31st party. ;)

  • mvalmeida

    Beautiful post. Thanks for sharing this special moment with us.

  • Georgiana Androne

    Happy birthday, Cassey! Love love love!

  • Renata Saitan

    Happy birthday, Cassey! Welcome to the “30s squad”! I feel stronger, wiser and more beautiful than in my 20s too so I totally get you :)

  • There’s no way you’re 30! Oh my gosh you look like you’re 23! I swear it was like yesterday you said you turned 26… time flies. You’re beautiful :)

  • Ronnie

    Happy birthday Cassey! I sure am thankful you were born!

  • tazkattoo

    Happy Birthday! Nice list it is very similar to my own. As an add on to the excellent list above: On the more practical side one of the important things I learned to do well in my 20s was how to budget, save and invest my earnings. On the non-practical side I also learned not to be afraid of major change; change can be good even if it doesn’t seem like it at the time.

  • Donna Hicks (A Wundaful Life)

    Happy birthday! Love #10 and #20. If you aren’t happy with your job, it’s going to carry over to all areas of your life. It’s all about finding balance in life.

  • Lissy Doll

    While I’ve been learning these things in my 20’s, I haven’t really been “practicing” them… well, at least the ones you can “learn from”. Basically, I’ve just been drowning in stress, money issues, and a lack of friends lately that I don’t even know what to do with this knowledge now that I have it.

  • Rachael Heinan

    Happy birthday!