20 Things I learned in my 20s

happy bday

Hey guys!

I’ve officially been 30 for 3 days! How does it feel?


In fact, I feel as energetic and as youthful inside as I did in college…except, in my personal opinion, I think I look better! And I am a lot wiser. Well, as wise as a 30 year old can be!

When I was a kid, I used to think I’d fall in love at 16, be married by 25 and have kids at 30. Thanks Disney movies.

Yes I am in love, but I am not married, and my kids are my businesses – so that’s a lot right now!

Today’s post will be a reflective one. I am thankful for every day that I get to live to see the next day, while being able to make cool things happen. Here are 20 things I learned in my 20s – in no particular order.

  1. Love is not finding someone you can live with. It’s finding someone you can’t live without.
  2. Follow your passion no matter what anyone says.
  3. Do more of what makes you happy and less of what doesn’t.
  4. Your friends are a reflection of who you are.
  5. There is no such thing as the perfect diet.
  6. There is no such thing as a perfect body.
  7. It’s ok to fail. 
  8. You can’t trust everyone.
  9. If it feels wrong, it probably is.
  10. Confidence is more beautiful than external beauty.
  11. Never stop learning.
  12. Having too much ego will be your downfall.
  13. Every person has a back story. Try to understand them before you judge.
  14. Everything is possible, and you must never give up.
  15. Time is priceless. Don’t waste it.
  16. Give, give, give without expectation. And you shall receive.
  17. Being nice gets you way farther than being mean.
  18. Business isn’t about money. It’s about relationships.
  19. Your parents are people too and they are not perfect. 
  20. Don’t be afraid to quit your job.

I think I could probably type up 100 more, but I’ll save that for another time.

I’m such a different person today than who I was when I was graduating college. It’s so interesting, because at every stage in my life (except at my 1st corporate job) I always felt super confident. My peers called me arrogant, but I think that’s what you get for being a “girl boss”. If a guy is “arrogant” he’s just being confident.


Confidence is what got me to where I am today. If I didn’t believe in myself, who would? You gotta believe in who you are, what you’re meant to do, and you just have to go for it. Don’t be afraid to fail. If you do, all you have to do is get up and try again. The thing is, if you don’t take any risk in life, your reward will not be grand. You’ve got to be bold!!! Don’t be scared!

With that said, I want to share with you pics from my bday party this weekend! My sis flew down and helped us prep the house for a party! I’ve been SLOWLY interior decorating over the past 3.5 years since I moved down to LA and I’ve never had a proper house warming. So when we decided to have the party at home, I went into a frenzy and bought furniture, decor, and curtains like a madwoman.

The whole weekend was “prom committee” central. Sam and I were building furniture, nailing and screwing things to the wall, while my sister was making crazy balloon arch creations from Pinterest. She even stopped by the LA Flower Market at 6AM to get fresh flowers (and baby pineapples) for the party. IT WAS SERIOUS.

Here’s how it all turned out!


Low temperature hot glue gun is what’s holding the balloons together.

baby pineapples

I have a pen. I have an apple. Oooh! AH! Pineapple pen!

outdoor furniture

Bought outdoor furniture and a fire pit. I am so adult.

balloon arch

Night time vibes. Waiting for guests to arrive.

sister pic

So we’ll take pics while we wait.

jason chen phil wang cassey ho

People started arriving and we made them wear hats. It’s Phil and Jason! We’re unicorns obviously.

lilly ro

Rosanna and Lilly! Missing Justine and Lindsey to round out the #RoyalSquad :P

cassey's bday party


kurt connect 4

Sam and Kurt playing mega Connect 4. Kurt wanted to play “blindfolded.” No, really.

sam jenga

Sam concentrating hard at big Jenga.

blowing candles
Can you believe my sister made this Matcha Green Tea Mille Cake? It was 40 layers thick!! AHHH I LOVE MATCHA!

green tea matcha mille cake

One of the most tedious cakes EVER. But so so YUMMY!!! If you want to make a healthy (and delish) version of this cake, check out my CHEAP CLEAN EATS Matcha Crepe Cake recipe here.

I am so grateful that my friends were able to make it out on a Sunday night and celebrate with me. I feel so lucky to have all of them in my life. Each one, so kind, talented and inspiring.

And thank you to YOU for reading this blog post and being with me on this journey into the land of 30. I wonder what things I’ll learn over the next 10 years…

Love you so much!


  • Happy MUCH MUCH MUCH belated Birthday Cassey! You are absolutely incredible, inspiring, sweet, kind, and honest. I truly see an amazing future ahead of you! And you look like you haven’t aged one bit since you’ve started Blogilates!

  • Matylda Krasoczko

    Dear Cassey,
    Happy birthday!! :) I’ll be 30 in March, and I’ve just quit my job a month ago to start living a life true to myself, and reach for my goals and dreams with all my focus & strength! It feels like 2017 has a lot in store for me and I’m so excited! And the timing couldn’t be better to come across your videos & your blog. I’ve been doing your stretching & beginner workout routines for a few days only, but I’m already loving them! They give me so much confidence and positive vibes! I’ll be going into 2017 with you! Lots of love! :) <3

  • Dana

    Happy Belated Bday, Cassey! I’m sorry i didnt get to wish you in person when you were in SF…i came 10mins too late and you and ur squad were gone already! x-x

  • Chriscia

    Hi Cassey! Belated Happy Birthday! I just want you to know that I am a new fan and you inspire me so much. I have a very low self esteem because of what had happened to me and my family in the past but you are one of the persons who gives me hope that I will have my own time to shine, and I am just so thankful that people like you still exist. ? Please continue what you are doing, stay humble and positive. Kudos and love from your fan in the Philippines! ?

  • Maria

    Happy Birthday, Cassey! I turned 30 this past year, too–just a couple months before you. I couldn’t agree more with the list of things you’ve learned. It’s all so very true, and so many of those items are things we may have been told, but they don’t really sink in until we experience them for ourselves. I hope you have an amazing year and decade!

    I have been a faithful popster for a little over two years now, although I recently took a short break. For my birthday, my husband and I found out we were expecting! Now that the intense nausea has passed, I’m trying to get back into it, albeit with a little less stamina. =) Thank you for being such a wonderful, inspiring instructor. Happy Birthday!!! xoxo

  • Claudia Rodríguez Iturrino

    Your house looks amazingly beautiful; I didn’t even know there were houses like that (and not appartments) in LA.
    I’m truly happy you had a great birthday and a lovely party. You deserve nothing less than that! <3

  • Sarah

    Beautiful party! Thanks for the lesson–a great reminder at any age!

  • Veronica Russo

    Cassey, thank you so much for all what you do for us. You’re so inspiring! I’m 20 now, and you know what? I feel grateful to you, because you taught me to be a better person. I’m a popster for more than 3 years now and yeah, that’s one of the best thing which has happened to me. You helped me so so so much. I loved reading this list and I realized that that’s right what I’ve been learning too.
    Hope you’re happy forever, you deserve it!
    Much much love :)

    (P.s sorry for my english, I’m italian :p )

  • hey

    omg PLZ DO POST 100 MORE !!!!!!

  • Bushra

    Oh my God , I almost cried. this so pretty, your spirit, you positivity, the way that you see things , it’s just amazing. you made me thinking about a lot of things. the lessons that you’ve learned are unforgettable. I’ll always remember them as i grow . because just in 5min they made me changing my mind in a lot of things and I’m looking forward to see how big the changes will be in my future life , thaaaaank you so so much for everything And HBD❤❤
    written with love

  • Karen Bateman

    Happy birthday :D

  • Autumn Summers

    Happy Birthday, Cassey!

    I have been watching you throughout your journey from the beginning. It is wonderful to see all of the success you have achieved. You are truly an inspiration! I am grateful to be a part of the Blogilates community and to get to see your smiling face in your videos – you are RADIANT inside and out.

    I am also about to turn the big 3-0 in March so this post wast very fitting. I am going to do some reflecting of my own!

    Cheers to the next 10 years!


  • Mjech

    Congrats and thanks for the tips. I must say, I also felt and looked better when I hit my ’30 s because that was when I started taking care of me. Enjoy!

  • Dg Noorfarta ag jair

    Happy Birthday..Wish you a very very happy year…life after 30 ain’t that bad :)

  • Sarah

    Hi Cassie! Happy Birthday! I also just rolled into my 30s and agree with so many of your 20 things. I too feel like I am growing continuously into a better place, physically, mentally and spiritually. And it’s thanks to inspirational people like you. Bring on this awesome decade to come!x

  • Lisa

    Happy Birthday Cassie, I pray that you will have many, many years added to these 30. Much love & gratitude for you & your commitment to fit bodies, minds, & spirits.
    P.S. I sooooo look forward to more new videos, they are so inspiring. I feel so much stronger after each workout, it’s amazing. Hugs.

  • Laney

    Best wishes to you, your fam and friends from New Zealand! Have a wonderful time being 30!

  • Emily

    those 20 life lessons really are true! i love you cassey! thank you for making me feel better about my body by eating healthy and working out. stay amazing xoxo

  • Deanne Estelle

    Happy birthday! (A week late, perhaps, but still very sincere)

  • Rosemary Onyeka Okeke Ugoji

    Happy birthday dear u have really inspired me alot. Wish u all the best

  • ctm

    Happy birthday Cassey! my sister is your BIGGEST fan!!! Will you ever be coming to Toronto to do any events here?!

  • Hanh Le

    i love the last one.
    HAPPY belated birthday!

  • Brooklyn W.

    Happy belated birthday, Cassey! I’ve enjoyed working out with you! :P ;) ;)
    <3 Brooklyn
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  • Valerie

    Hope you had a wonderful birthday!! I’ve always thought it was so cool that we have the same birthday!

  • Happy Birthday, Cassie! And thank you for sharing both the pictures and your reflections. You’re an inspiration! xx, Marie

  • Loumar

    Nice Photos Cassey!!! I’m here always to support you onwards!!!!

  • Samantha Ballard

    I can’t wait to go shopping. So many good ideas and your cake reminded me that I really want to try the matcha cake. I’m very happy that you had a great birthday. Looks like you had a ton of fun. Most of all, thank you for the list. As a girl in her twenties, over the last year, I’ve decided to change the things I don’t like for the better. Trying to make the most of my time and achieving goals that I wanted for myself. Finally taking care of me and getting to know self love. Thank you for helping me with my journey.

  • Selman

    Aaw! Congrats Cassey! Seeing you happy makes me so happy! <3

  • GRP

    Happy birthday, Cassey! <3 I wish you the best. (Also, you said you're entering into the third decade of your life in your email… It's actually the forth!)

  • Cindy

    Not to be nosy or anything but I would love if you shared who your love one is <3 so we can all know you in a deeper level

  • Happy belated birthday, Cassey! I love how you listed the things you learned in your 20’s. I totally agree when you say you should never stop learning. I am now in my early 30’s and I feel like I am trying more new things and push myself out of my comfort zone more than when I was in my 20’s. It’s really amazing to learn new things and discover strengths that I never knew I had. :)


  • Cassie Novak McArtor

    Happy birthday Cassey! I just turned 30 this last year as well… the beginning of another era. I agree to the tee with how you described it… the same, but more mature and I think I look heaps better too! :P Your party looked amazing and so much fun! :)

  • Sonia S

    Aww Happy Birthday! My lil girl had her bday the 16th and I’ll be 30 on the 30th!! So scary and exciting to enter that next era in my life, 30 just feels like “there’s no turning back, you’re for sure an adult now” lol having kids wasnt official enough ?

  • Šárka

    All the best, Cassey !!! Thank you for what kind of man you are, amazing, honest, beautiful. Either keep myself, you are a tremendous inspiration !!!! Beautiful birthday :-)

  • Mary Martinez

    Happy Birthday! 30 never looked better! Cassey your such an inspiration, those lessons that you’ve learned are true! But I submitted my form for my Piit28 tank like a month ago, do you know what could have happened? I did piitsagram & every workout! I’m really upset, did I fill out the form wrong or something?

  • Regina

    Blessed belated birthday Cassey! Thank you for being such an inspiration to us <3
    Love reading all your posts and following your workouts. Keep up the superb effort!

  • Roxana Guevara

    Happy Birthday, Cassey! I just started my 20s this week, and I look forward to seeing what its in store.

  • Tammy Falcon

    Thanks for sharing with us Cassey! I’m glad you had such an awesome party!! ❤

  • Payal

    Dear Cassey,

    Many many happy returns of the day. Glad you have amazing birthday. I love all your emails and recipes. I am a big fan of yours. You are my inspiration and your positive thoughts have always motivated me to stay happy and healthy. Thankyou for all the words and encouragement. You are awesome :)

  • Kirstie Rose

    Cassey, aka my birthday twin! JAN 16!
    I am super happy you had a great time with your loved ones to celebrate YOU! Happy 30th birthday! I turned 26 on our birthday! I have so much yet to learn! I love your “20 things I learned in my 20s” list. I agree with soooooo many of those; you are so relatable! I am very happy you have found LOVE (omg cute!) and have the coolest career (YAAASS BLOGILATES) and the coolest sister (HI JACKELYN) and oh yeah you got to meet Taylor Swift (still so jealous haha) I love you and I enjoy your YouTube videos so much! I cannot wait to see what you come up with next!

  • Dee

    Happy birthday! Looks like you had some awesome fun :) Thank you for sharing the life lessons. I gotta say #20 was the hardest one for me, and I wished I learned it sooner :p

    Anyway, welcome to your 30s :D Keep doing the awesome work! :)

  • Viktoriya

    Happy Birthday Cassey! Wow I can’t believe you’re 30! You literally look so young! Anyways thank you so much for blogilates! I’ve been doing them for about 6 years now and don’t regret a minute of it! It has truly changed my life and made me stronger in many different aspects! Blogilates is my secret weapon and guilty pleasure! Being only 20, my health is super important to me, and you have been a true role model of health and fitness. You have shown me that I can live a healthy yet indulgent life! Thank you and keep the monthly calendars coming! God bless your beautiful soul!!!