#BikiniBridge – pointing out our mental flaws

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Hey POPsters!

Yesterday I was online and I saw that someone asked me about my thoughts on the “bikini bridge.” I was like excuse me what. Then I searched the hashtag and all this showed up:

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I was like whoa, hold on – is this the next inner thigh gap of 2014!? Like seriously!!?? I went on google and found the definition:

“phenomenon wherein bikini bottoms are suspended between the two hip bones, causing a space between the bikini and the lower abdomen.”

WOW.

I got so outraged that I immediately tweeted this:

You guys seemed to be equally upset about the whole thing and left over 1,000 comments on my facebook post! At least you were aware of the absurdity of this obsession. Well…now the story gets more interesting.

Fast forward to today…I find myself on The Daily Dot as a prominent player in 4Chan’s hoax. YA. A HOAX. 4Chan manipulated social media and fooled all of us into thinking this was actually the next unhealthy obsession of teen girls.

Sigh.

They succeeded through creating fake accounts, posting memes everywhere, and playing on our emotions…and I was fooled. But you know what? I’m not upset. I’m glad they brought attention to it and made a parody out of how superficial…how silly…some young women have gotten when it comes to achieving beauty. First it was all about the distance between your thighs. Now it’s how high your hips can protrude from your body. At some point, I believe that this bikini bridge thing would have gotten to the level of thigh gap. There were already pictures being posted. It just needed time to swirl in the inner circles of Tumblr.

We’re now standing on the outside looking in on a weird phenomenon being played out in front of our eyes. You can see clearly how ridiculous this is right? So ridiculous that a bunch of guys over at 4Chan could poke fun at our desire for vanity and play on our insecurities. Ya, that’s kinda mean…but we’re so conditioned to think we need to be thin that we actually believed this was true.

So here’s what I want you to take from this. Bikini bridge or not, don’t base your self worth and your beauty on it. Same with thigh gap. Or flat abs. Or having big boobs. Don’t be superficial enough to sacrifice your happiness in attaining one of these physical attributes. The only reason why we want these things is because someone tells us we need it. Kinda like a commercial. You didn’t know that you needed that car or those sexy stilettos until you saw a commercial for it. And they keep pushing and pushing it on you. The media shows us pictures of skinny models with perfect hair, skin, nails, and bodies in magazines and on TV. We want what we see. They keep showing us more and more and more of what’s so unrealistic to attain for most.

A thoughtful quote I want you to think about is this: “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

Focus on yourself and spend your energy on reaching your own potentials. Not racing against or being like someone else. We’re all made to contribute to this world differently.

As far as unhealthy obsessions go, stop it. Find your fire and your passion for working out and eating right. Your desire for pure vanity is not enough to sustain a healthy lifestyle. Dig deep and discover your inner motivation for getting fit and being happy. Once you figure this out, I promise your life and your body will sculpt itself accordingly. You have my meal plans and workout calendars to help guide you the whole way. I am here for you, to be your friend and your personal trainer.

Now onto something a little bit more fun! I have a SURPRISE pop up giveaway for you!!! I’m giving away 3 (three) Nike Free 5.0+ sneakers tomorrow, Jan 7th!

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Aren’t they beautiful? Yes yes yes they are and now I want to give you a chance to spice up your fitness fashion wardrobe! Fashion bloggers are all the rage about their fancy heels and delicate golden arm candy…us fitness gals want our sneakers to match our sports bras – hairband and fitbit on wrist!

Here’s what you’ll need to do:

1. Download the WeightTraining app

2. Log a workout

3. Tweet the logged workout to @blogilates and use the hashtag #blogilates. If you want another entry, just share your logged workout on facebook and also use the hashtag #blogilates!

The contest is international! Good luck!!

Also, don’t forget to download the Blogilates Official App too! Available on iPhone AND Android!

Ok that’s all for now! Have a FANTASTIC week. Be strong and love your life.

<3 Cassey

Comments

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  2. Wow, I wrote a post about it, something like this, to share my (negative) thoughts about this phenomena. I didn’t realize at all that this was a hoax! You say 4Chan set up the hoax. Who is/are 4Chan? Are they some kind of social organisation or a foundation? Either way, they failed big time, as these images are food for pro-ana kind of website/social media accounts and hàve set a trend.

  3. Beginners, on the other hand, need a softer boot to help prevent movement
    mistakes transferring to your skis. I am sorry brother but I can’t hold on to the burden much
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  4. MiinaMarie says:

    Wow

    Wow is right.
    I’m never one to comment on what looks good or not, because we’re all different – with different bodies, goals and ideals…but I have to say..though I never knew that there was an actual ‘term’ for what that is..I’ve always found it appalling to look at. C’mon friends, we all know better than that. Shame on those people who created that random ideal…and did I read right..that it was some guys? I don’t know one ‘buff’ male that focuses so diligently on an individual ruler sized portion of their body…that’s totally unacceptable. And just in my opinion again, i don’t think bikinis that ride that low are attractive on any body type whatsoever…if I were to make a pre-judgement – it sure as hell wouldn’t be about a bikini bridge…I’d be looking into the personality type that thinks this look is even flattering…anyway, again we’re all different – to each their own, I hope nobody loses sleep over this :(

  5. This post was absolutely perfect in every way. Thank you inspiring me to become a better me but someone new. You’re my inspiration So please don’t ever change.

  6. Je trouve ce site fantastique! Cassey met toujours de super articles et de super vidéos. Elle est un modèle pour moi puisque je me dis qu’elle s’assume en tant que femme et assume tout ce qu’elle dit. Je trouve ça déplaisant de voir des gens dire des vraies conneries sur elle, je me demande bien ce que vous faites sur ce site alors, là est la question. En faite, de voir cette histoire de pont me rappel bien que la société dans laquelle ont vit nous demande continuellement d’être parfaite.

    Cassey you do a awsome work! I always show your video to the french people from Canada, where I live. You help me to push myself and be proud of myself. I love everything you do, im gonna say you You are totally sick! :) This is the expression to say that you are awsome. Continue your work and dont listen to the haters because what they say are only jalous comments. I think we have chance to have great mentor like you. Have a nice day xxxx :)

  7. Cassey, you’re such a beautiful person 100% inside and out. you promote a vision about health/fitness that I wish more people would embody. Women are SO fixated on these stupid little things (shamefully I admit, myself included at times) and your posts help me think differently. You have such a positive outlook and focusing on self love is a concept that is way too overlooked in today’s society. Don’t let peoples’ negative comments get you down, which I know you don’t, but it must be hard to read some of those. The majority of us think you are a wonderful, caring person and I believe you promote a VERY healthy ideal of fitness and loving yourself. After all, we are all beautiful in our own ways!!! I’m so happy that you started your own magazine and I’m glad that you are trying to make a change in the world. Very few people are committed to truly spending the time and dedication it takes to “change the world” – but you have already been an inspiration to so many people. Now that you’re starting your own magazine you will be able to reach out to that many more people. To be honest Cassey, finding your blog has changed my life and many others, as shown in the comments. I don’t post very often but I felt very passionate about this one. Oh, and another thing, it’s all for free?!?! That is just AMAZING, you can never find a detailed calendar, videos, recipes, etc. ANYWHERE ELSE for free. So I just wanted to say you are truly an inspiration in every sense of the word, and I love your bubbly desire to help others, it’s just great and gives me the warm fuzzies. Haters will be haters but there are so many of us that love you! :) Thanks for pointing out our mental flaws for what they are–FLAWS– and bringing this to attention. Keep doing what you’re doing, I’m looking forward to seeing “Fiterazzi” blow up. :) xo

  8. Oh dear, I didn’t even know this was going on!! Well, it’s always nice to hear when you really care about us Cassey. Thanks for being your superfantabulous self and please never change!!!

  9. petravosahlova says:

    Well.. I had bikini bridge last summer. I went through hard period of life and had no appetite. There were days I had only two cups of tea and no food all day. Yes, perhaps I was skinny, but all my family members and friends said I looked unhealthy and I definitely didn’t feel great. My mommy was even so scared that she wanted me to go to hospital.. Now after few months I’m ok again, but there is almost no bridge. But I DO feel great. I eat healthier than ever and train more than before. I feel healthy and fit – without bridge. And that’s all what matters!

    • I had a bikini bridge when I was underweight but I was very low on energy and had all sorts of pains. Now that I’m a healthy weight, I’ve got much more energy and am able to enjoy food.

  10. Cassey, thank you for being such an encouragement! I know when you post stuff like this that you really truly care about us! Don’t let the haters get you down! I hope you can separate yourself from all of the negative comments and know you are helping so many people! Love you<3 thanks so much!

  11. Annabelle says:

    Many of these comments are rude and offensive and it just saddens me for Cassey to see it. I’m glad to see that the majority are uplifting, but it’s tiring to see this constant fat shaming, thin shaming ridiculousness. I’m naturally very thin, for the longest time my BMI was in the underweight range and even now if I’m excercising I have to ensure I eat enough or the weight falls off too fast and I get sick and drowsy. I have heard more than my share of how much men like curves And I spent years stuffing myself with every unhealthy food I could get my hands on trying to get these curves. All I got from it was an addiction to sugar and a slight pudge in my abdomen. That was just as unhealthy as a girl I know who went on the pineapple diet to lose weight the week before prom and ended up cranky and unhappy. She barely lost any weight and didn’t enjoy the dance at all. We need to stop doing anything and everything to acheive these features that the media says we need. When I’m fit and healthy I have almost no thigh gap thanks to my narrow hips and bulkier “soccer thighs” as Mom calls them. However, my stomach sucks inward slightly and my ribs are noticable. Every doctor tells me that’s just the way I was made and to cover it with fat is unhealthy but I am so self concious when I wear a bikini and people comment on it and say I’m too skinny, anorexic, guys don’t like that, etc. Say something nice or don’t say anything at all people. Skinny, fat, athletic, large boned, fine boned, short, tall, whatever we are all women. We need to have each other’s backs because the men will say enough harsh words about our looks.

    • You definitely shouldn’t eat to become curvy! I agree with what you say. I’m sorry people criticize you for being thin. Maybe it’s because eating disorders are so common nowadays that they’re worried you have one?

  12. Cassey,
    Here is my problem when you post stuff like this. I want to be clear. I love you and your videos so this isn’t a hate message but, you put down all these things about the thigh gap and this bridge and it comes off to me that you are putting down skinny people. Who cares if we have a thigh gap. If that’s someones goal, then let it be their goal. Who are you to keep putting down thin people?

    • Where exactly did she say this? Where is she putting down skinny people? It’s okay if you have those things naturally, Cassey’s focus seems to be about young women wanting to achieve such a physique through obsessive, unhealthy behaviour. Nowhere does she say you’re a bad person if you have a thigh gap or a “bikini bridge”.
      Now, if she had said being thin enough to have a thigh gap and/or a “bikini bridge” is gross and disgusting, then I could understand you being bothered by her post, but this simply isn’t the case.

    • I don’t think Cassey means that… Cassey’s always very much about fitness and strength, becoming the best that you can be, and realizing that being skinny or attractive doesn’t mean just having a thigh gap.. Besides, Cassey’s got a thigh gap, so I doubt she’s putting down people who have them!

    • Erin, I think you’re a little over-sensitive. She’s trying to be a role model and say don’t strive for these things. If you have something naturally that’s one thing but obsessing over little things about your body IS stupid and superficial. And you are wrong because no one should STRIVE for these things, but only strive to be the HEALTHIEST they can be. I’d like a thigh gap just so my thighs don’t always stick together when it’s hot and extremely humid outside, but I don’t strive for it and neither should young girls. It’s NOT healthy. There are A LOT of young, adolescent and even pre-adolescent girls on here. Remember that before you get offended or sensitive.

      • I think it is okay for people to voice their different opinions, this is supposed to be afriendly place no matter the difference in point of views no?

        • You have a right to an opinion but posting something that is negative and harmful can be damaging to people’s feelings & confidence. Don’t forget that there are young girls on here, girls who are looking up to Cassey and popsters as healthy, positive role models. When someone creates a post about a (sometimes if it does not occur naturally) unattainable and/ or unhealthy goal like a thigh gap (it is a matter of bone structure, not necessarily a measure of health or fitness), Cassey’s message of showing your body love and treating it right can get lost. This a friendly community full of people who support each other with one another’s journey to a more healthy lifestyle.

  13. A hoax it may have been, but a really stupid one that could have easily turned into a trend.

  14. And also Cassey, if you think obsessions like ‘thigh gaps’ are silly, then why do you post videos that are supposedly to help women GET a thigh gap? You’re an idiot.

    • Woah…wait a sec. Ive never seen anything by Cassey that has anything to do with a thigh gap. She focuses on health and fitness. Having a thigh gap is not only about being skinny, it’s your whole bone structure that has to be modified.

    • It makes me sad to see people like you here on this Earth because you have no inner peace :/
      Go drink some tea and breathe.

      • I don’t think that Cassey has ever said specifically that her leg exercises serve the sole purpose of getting a thigh gap, nor has she ever been a promoter of the thigh gap trend. The objective of her videos is to help us get stronger, healthier and happier. And calling her an “idiot” does not make your argument any stronger.

    • Ky, You are a mean person and don’t deserve even one word on this page. Cassey is an awesome person and a great motivator. She’s full of love and you’re full of hate. You are part of the group of people who make this world a horrible place to live in. Thanks to Cassey, I finally found a program that’s helping me lose weight. I have lost 4 pounds since I started almost a month ago and I haven’t been this successful before. I am sure that the majority of us will be very happy to not hear one more word from you.

    • If you think she is such and Idiot , which she most definitely IS NOT an idiot she is a wonderful person, you are in the wrong place. This is a community for people who care about fitness and supporting each other through their journey’s. Take your negativity else where.

    • KY …. Stop extrapolating things. This is the second post you have made here just to complain about what you have read between the lines. If you don’t like Cassey (for whatever personal feud you have with her) exhibit some maturity and stop posting inane and offensive things here. Your negative attitude is not welcome here. This is supposed to be a place of positivity and outreach, not a place for you to stir the pot.

      • http://www.blogilates.com/blog/2012/08/11/how-to-get-an-inner-thigh-gap/

        to everyone insulting and being mean to Ky ( who should not have insulted cassey BUT…) she was half right so dont be so judgmental

        • “Thigh gaps may look desirable as many models have them, but may not be achievable by all women. It has something to do with the distance between your hips! So do not get disillusioned and work out just for vanity – do it for the right reasons – to get stronger and to get more skilled at Pilates as a craft.”

          Straight from the article. Cassey has said numerous times that many people start working out for vanity’s sake, but keep going because of how good it makes them feel. The video itself is called “Beginner Inner Thighs” and the fact that the title has quotation marks is because she mentions that “how to get an inner thigh gap” is how many thinspo people would probably pass the video around the Webisphere. She is not actually advocating thigh gaps, and she certainly isn’t promising them.

  15. “I’m glad they brought attention to it and made a parody out of how superficial…how silly…some young women have gotten when it comes to achieving beauty. ”

    What the hell? Why are you blaming the victims in this? Having an ED or body dysmorphia isn’t because we’re being ‘silly’, it’s because we live in a patriarchal society that constantly dictates to us how we should look, whether it’s thigh gaps or rock hard abs, all of these trends are made to make women feel bad.

    I’m disappointed in you Cassey, yet again, and unfortunately I’m going to stop supporting you because it really is true what they say about you on tumblr – you’re fat phobic.

    • woah, how did you manage to come from “you are blaming people with EDs because of their body” to “you are a fat phobic” in less than 5 sentences?

      Cassey means exactly what you apparently want to tell: it is not ok that society dictates the body image we should have. and especially young girls can easily be influenced by this. this is the reason why all this tigh gaps hashtags are dangerous and should be brought to attention.

      Also, Cassey is not an idiot. It’s ok to have a different opinion, but this community is not build on insulting each other. Some people just have a body that will give them a tigh gap, when having toned legs, but if I remembered right there already has been a long discussion about it and Cassey has given her opinion on this.

  16. I think this kind of stuff is ridiculous. My average weight is around 105 (not in anyway bragging), and I used to get made fun of for my “thigh gap” and skinny arms etc. People would say “oh you need to eat” or “stop starving yourself” and accuse me of having eating disorders. It made me just as insecure about myself as any heavy girl. Anyone that knows me knows that my stomach is like a bottomless pit. I eat nonstop. And yes, I work out. In order to stay healthy and fit. In fact, I put on weight when I work out. But this “I need a thigh gap” garbage is not the direction girls need to go. Girls should aim for healthy, not bikini bridges. However, girls saying that skinny girls are “gross”, that “real men only go for curvy girls” and that “bones are for the dogs” is just as awful.

  17. I love your blog nuff said

  18. Hi Cassey,
    My friend told me about your website and I’m glad she did! :)
    I just wanted to let you know that I really appreciate your post on bikini bridge. I’m an Asian-American that does NOT fit into the asian social standard of beauty (a.k.a. 100 lbs). I used to be 300 lbs and now weigh less than I did when I was in Jr. High but the pressure’s still there to be “perfect” because of Asian beauty standards. Reading your encouraging post made me cry. Thank you so much for being a voice of hope and comfort to all the women who struggle with loving themselves.
    Again thanks for everything that you do. I hope your uplifting message catches fire more than the unhealthy fads!

  19. Hey Cassey! I don’t know if you actually read the thousands of comments you get everyday, probably not, but if you do read this, I just wanted to say I love that you’re a real person, speak your mind and are more obsessed with health than appearance. It’s a really important message to speak to young girls trying to lose weight. It shouldn’t be all about having a bikini bridge or thigh gap or really what other people think at all. It’s a journey for health and happiness. I was never overweight, but always had a poor body image and wasn’t in great shape. Last year, I decided to get in shape. Since becoming much fitter and healthier, I’m so much more confident and that allowed me to accomplish more goals! Thanks so much for all you do and being so passionate about it!

  20. Well I, personally, am not impressed by the photos nor do I think I need to strive for that look, especially if almost anyone can suck in their gut and play skinny in a picture. Several years ago, I had a friend who would post “bikini bridge” pics on facebook. Her belly looked super flat and toned in those pics. But she was FAR from being slim, fit, toned, skinny, or even healthy. This was a THICK girl. But she laid on her back and sucked in her fat stomach and Viola! bikini bridge. I’m not impressed with those pics as I know ANYONE can make themselves look decent with good angles, a great camara, baby oil, and not breathing. Also, proportion matters. If your hips are 40inches wide with boobs to match, and your waist is 35inches wide, you’re still not skinny but you’ll look proportioned, especially in a picture from those awkward angles.

    • haha, I liked this comment because I am 7 months pregnant and can have a ‘bikini bridge’ if I do what you describe….how ridiculous to think it’s a mark of fitness or anything worthwhile! SO SILLY.

  21. Why on earth would anybody in their right mind want thigh gap or ‘bikini bridge’? It looks gross. But I did grow up in NM, where women are notorious (and worshipped) for our full curvy figures and nice round hips and butts. Bony doesn’t look good at all. I was in the Navy and I grew up with all boy cousins and friends and of all the (literally) thousands of men that I have had the opportunity to be around and get to be great friends with, it is rare that they go after the super skinny chicks – extremely rare. The truth is, it is instict for a man to be sexually attracted to a woman who looks like she can support a pregnancy. Even when a man says he finds skinny girls attractive, they still date women with curves – by choice. Bony hips are gross to most guys. And I have been around men from all over the world, and being “one of the guys” they were always comfortable talking to me about these things. In fact, you should hear some of the very hateful things they say about ‘anorexic’ types – and they are meaner about them than ‘fat girls’. In my opinion, if a woman wants to boost her confidence and feel sexy and beautiful and feel great about herself, she needs to hang out with guys instead of girls, and truly get to know them and the way they think. They are just human like us, but they don’t care about how skinny you are as much as you and your friends do.

    • Hell yeah! but also a lot of naturally thin people get SUPER offended by that kind of stuff. Everyone is different and every one should only strive to be the healthiest they can be. If someone is naturally skinny…good for them…that’s great …if someone is naturally curvy that’s wonderful as well. we all like different looks but we shouldn’t tear apart someone elses natural body…a lot has to do with culture too. in some countries, females just want to be thin and ‘danity’ in others they want to be curvy or muscular etc. We just have to respect each other and not strive to look a certain way but strive to be the healthiest we can be

    • What you just said is just as mean as people that attack someone for not being skinny. I think you missed the point. This is what Cassey said, “So here’s what I want you to take from this. Bikini bridge or not, don’t base your self worth and your beauty on it. Same with thigh gap. Or flat abs. Or having big boobs. Don’t be superficial enough to sacrifice your happiness in attaining one of these physical attributes. The only reason why we want these things is because someone tells us we need it. Kinda like a commercial.” What I see in those words is that we shouldn’t place so much value on what others want of us, and to find our real beauty from what we already have in ourselves. I get that you think that guys prefer curvy girls, and I have a lot of guy friends too, but what I think is guys are no where near as critical as we are of ourselves and will take us in many forms. And guess what? If one guy doesn’t there are millions more out there ;)

      • MiinaMarie says:

        I just skimmed it, but i think maybe what the original poster was saying was that it’s an unconscious choice men make. I’ve learned all about it. Of course there are guys who want the skinny girl or not…but on a very basic level, maybe more so with our ancestors, it wasn’t a conscious choice, men preferred (for that of a better work) “curvier” women, maybe not based on attraction, but because wider hips and such provided a capable healthy woman who is able to bare them children. Like I said, whether or not they thought it was ‘super hot’ or anything, that’s just what they often gravitated toward because they were helping to populate earth and carry on their genetic line.

  22. It’s not fair that these givaways are only for people with Twitter accounts. I will not use Twitter or Facebook or any other of those lame social media sites. I am constantly left out of the running for givaways like this simply because I don’t jump on the twitter “followers” bandwagon. I’m not a follower. You should make it fair and available to all of us who train with you.

    • MiinaMarie says:

      amen. I don’t use twitter or facebook or instagram or anything either. Cassie, I love you, but just as you say people shouldn’t be buying into whatever people are selling (better bodies, car commercials etc) because they’re told they need them….all of these social media outlets that require cellphones, signup fees, etc – they aren’t any different and by saying that people need to follow on facebook or twitter etc, if they want to win a pair of nikes, they need to give their personal info to some other corporation that’s advertised as a ‘need’. I’m sure we’re the same age Cassie, and I have never had a cellphone or any of that and I’m doing fine. I think most people found you on youtube, or watch you there anyway, because that’s where your videos are, that’s what people watch and do with you to get fit. It’s your biggest and widest audience, don’t leave them out just because they personally choose not to have a “twitter (etc)” account…

  23. Wow. I find that… very bizarre and possibly the craziest thing I’ve heard in a while. Being ‘healthy’ and ‘fit’ insinuates a lot of things but I’m not convinced that this is one of them. Although those girls look trim and toned, I can’t help associating visible bones with anorexia, so it disturbs me to be able to see their hips bones like that. Do… people actually find that attractive? =/

    I saw the word ’4Chan’ and i was like OHHHHH *laughingg* I always see the word 4Chan in the posts about the craziest things I’ve ever heard, I still don’t know why I am surprised.

    ‘Comparison is the thief of joy’, that’s an interesting quote. Thank you for sharing =]

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