Being Called FAT. It hurts. And you don’t forget.

Hello POPsters,

Yesterday I announced the winners of the Kallisti Body chain. The winners were selected based on their thoughtful answers to “What makes you feel beautiful?” One entry that particularly touched me was Cari Garvey’s. She talked about how growing up people taunted her for her size and how she will never forget the hurt that she endured for being overweight.

Her story touched me because I know the hurt. I was once called fat. It was 13 years ago. I was at a family birthday party, we were all eating together at this long table with all sorts of wonderful foods laid out. I was thoroughly enjoying my plate along with my mom and sister. Then this little girl who was probably a year or two younger than me looks at me and says “Why are you so fat?”

I stopped chewing. My eyes welled up with tears. The edges of my lips curled and I fought the quivering frown overcoming my face. I dropped my fork. Ran into another room. Cried. The kind of crying where you can’t stop and you can’t breathe.

It wasn’t long before my mom chased after me and held me in her arms. She didn’t know what happened but she did try to calm me down. When I could finally catch my breathe to tell her, she laughed it off, saying that the little girl didn’t know anything and that she didn’t mean it. I eventually stopped crying. But it didn’t matter. Kids tell the truth. And the truth was, I was fat. I’ll never forget.

I was 11 years old at the time and chubby. In my yearbook pictures, I had a double chin when I smiled. It was hard to find jeans that fit me. But none of it had even bothered me up until that point. I didn’t even know I was fat. I was active, happy, doing well in school, and had friends. That was all that mattered. But from that point on, I became self conscious. I lost confidence. Body image then became something I was constantly aware of. My body dictated my feelings.

Luckily as I reached puberty, I naturally leaned out as I grew taller. In high school, I was on the Varsity tennis team for 4 years and didn’t ever have to think about working out. It was just part of my routine. I didn’t know much about nutrition either so I’d notice that I’d get skinny on season and gain weight off season/in the summer. One September when I got back to school one of my closest friends straight up told me “You look bigger.” I clearly remember defending myself, saying “No, it’s just the sweater, really I didn’t.” I begged her to understand. It was like I was fighting for skinny. It hurt so much. That was 8 years ago. I was 16.

I would say that from that conversation on, I began my struggle with body image satisfaction. No, I never had an eating disorder or anything, but I can confess that I am very hard on myself when I look in the mirror. I see things I wanna improve, just like any other girl. It’s a bad habit, but being the perfectionist that I am, the goals get harder and harder to reach every time.

Do you know that every time I put up a new video, I have this fear that one of the commenters will say “looks like you got fatter”? I don’t think it’s happened yet, but it’s bound to. I’ve lost definition and put on a few pounds since I moved back to the West Coast. Not gonna lie. I can envision this happening when I read the fat comment…I will freeze up, have chills run down my spine, and think back in detail to when I was 11.

Being called fat is something that is offensive and hurtful. It’s something I can forgive, but I cannot forget. Being called fat is a personal attack on your most vulnerable self. It’s a physical insult that leaves an emotional scar.

But like anything else, we must move on to continue growing. Where do you go from here? You begin by removing yourself from that person or the situation that is making you feel horrible. You are still amazing, regardless of what you look like. (Remember how content I was before that girl called me fat?) If you choose to change your physical appearance/lose weight, then do it with passion and know that you’re doing it for the right reasons. Confidence. Health. Fitness. Then enjoy the journey. Find happiness in your day to day struggles and happiness when you reach your destination. Life is too short to be sad over things like this. Just keep remembering that you are resilient and that you can conquer anything you put your mind to. You just need to want it badly enough.

QUESTION: Are you hurt when someone calls you fat? How did you feel and what did you do to make things better?

PS: I’m banning the word “fat” from my vocab, and you should too. That’s no way to describe a person.

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  • PJR

    One would “lose” weight. (One would not “loose” weight.)

  • Barbara

    It hurts and stays with you for a long, long time. I’ve been heavy ever since I was in grade school. I was a thin little girl when I started school, but years of being shamed and bullied caused me to find comfort at the bottom of a tub of ice cream. I look at pictures of myself through the years, and every year my pants got bigger and the sparkle in my eyes got dimmer. I was abandoned by my parents, and raised by my grandparents, people who were never pleased with me no matter how hard I tried. I gorged myself on food to make up for the approval I could never attain.

    Growing up it was reinforced again and again that I was unacceptable because of my body. I can remember an aunt who was skinny as a rail telling me that every time she saw me I got a little wider. I can recall standing at the top of an escalator in a store, waiting for my mom, when two boys walked by and called me a dog. I wanted the floor to swallow me up. Later in life there were the boyfriends who told me they would love me if I’d just lose weight. Soon I was hiding from the world, and again finding comfort in food.

    Today I weigh 260 pounds. I’ve let life pass me by in so many ways – the jobs I didn’t try for because I figured they wouldn’t hire a fat girl like me; the experiences I didn’t participate in because I was embarrassed by my size, the people I pushed away because I hated myself and I thought nobody would really want to associate with me. Even God – I knew people didn’t like me, God couldn’t love me because I was so messed up. Down deep it was just that I hated me. I regularly called myself a fat, lazy, worthless slob. It hurts to have somebody call you fat. It hurts the most when you’re the one abusing and humiliating yourself.

    It has to stop. Some stranger cussed me out today because I wasn’t driving the way he thought I should, and he called me a fat cow. The cursing didn’t matter to me, but when he mentioned my weight all the hurt came back. I went home and sobbed. I’m tired of basing my worth on the size of my ass! I’m more than my body, and if it takes me forever I’m going to learn to love the person I AM. I I can’t undo the past, but I’m responsible for my own future, my own health, and for treating myself with respect and love.

  • Frances

    I have read enough and wanted to make a comment on the subject. I’ve also been called fat by family members and acquaintances older than me. The best thing to do? GET YOURSeLF OUT!!! MOVe AWAY from them!! They are toxic and HURTiNG ur self esteem!!!! The best thing I did was when I moved out at 19. I found out what style I liked, how I wanted to dress/ look witbout hearing my mom constantly in my ear, telling me this skirt is too small on you or how I’ve got big thighs and no men like that. I am 5’3 and 160lbs. My mom is a small Asian woman so she expects me to be small like her, but I have my dad’s broad shoulders and built. I have a thick torso and in her head, she thinks I have a thick torso because I’m fat, but that’s just my body structure!!!! Really!! If I lost weight, I’d have a smaller version, but the waist and hips would still have no definition. So move away from these people, look in the mirror and be honest with yourself. Do you like how you look now? Are you healthy? That’s it. Only your opinion should matter, it’s so sad to hear women develop self-esteem issues….why are women hurting each other?? We should be helping each other because we are under constant pressure by the media to look a certain way so we know how it feel!!! Why do we do this to each other??! After you ask yourself these questions, you will be true to yourself and this in turn will turn to confidence because it’s validating how YOU feel.

  • Willa

    I’ve struggled with my weight for as long as I can remember. I was born premature and was given steroids to help my organs develop faster. This didn’t help when I started to develop, and by age 9 I was packing on the pounds. My mum and I live with my grandma, and she wouldn’t stop talking about it. When I was 13 she forced me on a diet and I lost 20 pounds. My weight started to climb as I entered high school and has been an uphill climb ever since.

    I went on antidepressants 2 years ago, and one of the side effects was weight gain. I was 160 before, and my grandma made fun of my weight then. Calling me fat, chubby, ginormous, etc. on a good day. I’ve gained another 30 pounds on the medication and everyone notices it. No one seems to care about my mental health, only my weight. I know I’m fat, but it would be nice if she wasn’t down my throat over it every day. She says all my clothes look awful, and that none of them fit, which the not fitting part is true, but she refuses to buy me any new clothes. She says I’ll just have to loose weight and fit into my old ones. She also insists that I’ll never find a husband or get a boyfriend because no nice guy wants a fat girl. My grandma is killing me. And she’s got the rest of my family on board with her. I’ve tried telling her how it makes me feel, but she doesn’t care and says that if she doesn’t tell me no one will. Help!! I’m living in hell!!

    • Just Me

      I totally understand about the antidepressants. about 3 years ago I went on them. I wasn’t at my thinnest then, but I was an okay size for my height I guess. I switched antidepressants because of side effects and was kind of excited when I started Welbutrin because it also often makes people lose weight. WRONG. Over the past 3 years I’ve gained 30 – 35 pounds. On the one hand I want to go off of them so maybe I can lost some weight, on the other hand, I don’t ever want to feel as helpless as I did before, so I’m sticking with them for now.

      My boyfriend is constantly on my case about exercising and eating carbs. It’s infuriating as he can eat whatever he wants and doesn’t gain weight. He also doesn’t like sweets – well I do. He’s never had a weight issue and doesn’t know what it’s like, and we fight over this ALL the time. I’m unhappy with how I look and he tells me “well then do something about it,” even though I really wasn’t asking for any input, just letting out some frustrations.

      I guess people just assume that all overweight people are lazy slobs who eat a gallon of ice cream every night. I guess those people should also reevaluate their lives and worry about something else.

  • Just a human

    I have been called fat before by children and I know that they probably don’t know what they are saying but its most likely real . over the years I have become more self conscious because of this reason, not only that but being judged by family members and some kids really hurts.and its something that will forever taunt me. In other peoples eyes it might not mean anything but to me it hurts so bad. But I am making a difference not for them but for myself to be able to live a long and healthy life . I’m greatful I can relate to all of the girls. There words ononly make me stronger to go forward and not give up.

    Thanks :)

  • Sabrina Reyolds

    My brother just called me a fat piece of crap. I instantly started crying. I don’t think I’ll forget this.

    • Vanessa

      I totally understand what it’s like to be called fat by your own brother. Thing is, I’ve become immune to his insults. But that doesn’t mean his friends go easy. Three of them have straight up told me that I was F.A.T. Sometimes, I wonder if my diet is working at all and want to quit. Then I read about Cassey’s story and realise that if she can do it, then so can I. I hope you’re feeling okay. Just remember that things do get better. You need to hang on, remember your motives and prove them wrong.

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  • sad girl

    usually, my intelligence is what i use as a cover for how large i look physically. i use my intelligence to protect myself from the fat shaming i usually get. this time around though, i got a C in one of my university classes this semester…it wasnt because i was lazy. i genuinely tried my best, went to office hours, did extra problems, practically everything i could. it was possibly the most frustrating period of my life. my parents called me dumb. they asked me what major corporations would ever want to hire me because i’m dumb and that they are wasting their money on me. i really want to go back to college next fall so i begged them to let me. my father tried to make me promise that i would lose 10 kg by the next time i saw him if i wanted to go back to college..which for me is impossible…… he specifically said i was fat and since i have no brains, i have to get married into a good family to have a decent life, which wont happen because no decent boy wants a fat girl. im not kidding, these were his specific words. when i asked if he cared more about me being happy or me being fat, he said me being fat and my happiness didnt matter. my parents care more about what society will think rather than how i feel. i dont know whether i feel more hurt by their words or ashamed that they are my parents. theyre sending me back to a university but i keep wondering if its a fucking joke. you dont believe in me, you think im really dumb and you vocalize that to everyone. are you spending 60k a year and letting me go back as a joke??? or to keep me away from you all??? im so frustrated and upset. i feel very, very lost and insecure about myself. i dont have anyone to turn to and talk to. i am desperate for any attention thats not negative about me. worst off i keep getting compared to my pretty and skinny sister whos shadow i live in, and whom i look nothing alike :( i didnt think i was that fat until everyone kept saying it and now i hate myself because im dumb and fat. nobody believes i can make something of myself, or that i can excel in anything :( i dont have anything going for me and i keep hating myself more and more every day
    sorry im writing this here i dont really know where i can turn to……….

    • Kelly

      My dad started calling me fat every day, when I was 11. My mother was the first to say it. She is supportive in everything I do normally, but she is tiny and I am not. I never thought of how I looked, or that I looked bad until someone pointed it out. I had to lose 15 lbs to earn my first car, and when I was a teenager I would starve myself (250 calories and day, and 0 fat= a bowl of frosted flakes and an apple)…all the adults in my life knew and nobody cared! I began to obsess over my weight and measurements. I had a journal and would weigh and measure myself head to toe at least 3 times a day. Exercising incessantly and not eating to the point that I would almost pass out if I stood up too quickly. Until one day I just decided that whatever I did wasn’t working, and I gave up. I stay away from scales and try not to think about any of that…dieting, I just think it I don’t want to go back to that.
      I am 32 now, and over the years I have dated guys who all cheated. Then a few years ago, I dated this guy who slowly and subtly just made me feel terrible about myself. In many ways. I didn’t want to look at myself in the mirror for a few years (and on top of what my parents did, I just don’t think I’ll ever see myself in a good way). This guy had me very depressed, and then when he finally admitted to cheating he told me it was because all the other girls were prettier than me! I haven’t dated in 5 years because of how I let this person treat me. I mean, what is wrong with me that I allow this in my life, right? From there, I just tried to focus on something else to make me not hate myself. I started going to school, and just studied really hard. I did very well in school and ate like I wanted to gain more weight. The funny thing is that I thought I was fat 50 lbs ago. I didn’t notice really, or care that I was putting on 50 lbs. Because what is the point, right? Why not make myself happy with food? Nobody likes the way I look anyway, right?
      Last year I met someone who inspired me…out of nowhere was this guy who made my heart beat really fast and I was so scared I couldn’t say anything to him! Months later, when I eventually told him how I felt, he called me a fat pig. The worst part is that I instantly forgave him! It bothered me, yes. But I still wanted him! The funny thing about that was that when I thought there might be a real chance that I had found someone important- who really liked me, I became inspired to start exercising and eating well and wanting to lose weight…for me! For him…because he was attracted to me anyway (or so I thought).
      Lately, I have been trying to internet date. Mainly to help someone else not shy, but I chat with people now and again. There was a random guy on this site, who said really gross things to me (sexual things). And I asked him why men are so vulgar and rude…he told me I was fat and gross. When I responded that “I know” “I’m working on my weight, maybe you should think about why you are so mean” , he back tracked and told me I looked nice and had a ‘kissable face’. Earlier today he wrote me and said ‘hi’ like nothing had happened, so I told him that he made me feel awful and I was now thinking about radical diet changes…he told me to exercise! That he would ‘whip me in shape’ and then said something else sexual. It is why I am on this site today. I have been crying all day and wanting to start starving myself again.
      How awful to feel rejected, over and over, when you don’t feel bad to begin with!
      I don’t know what the answer is, and I don’t even know what to say (my dad told me I was stupid once too), but your story resonated with me, and I just wanted to share my story too and let you know that at least you are not alone.
      I say fuck your parents…go to school and keep trying and fuck them.

  • mark

    So at what point is it okay to tell a woman or a girl that you believe she is to overweight? If she is struggling finding men to date her and you are her friend and you believe her weight has something to do with it is it ok to tell her then? If I am bald and have stinky breath and a woman says to me hey I don’t find you dateableis that not allowed because I will get to hurt? Whatever happened to simply having thick skin and dealing with criticism that is warranted? If a girl says to me oh I like guys who have more meat more muscle on their bodies I’m not going to run into another room and cry I’m going to go to the gym and get more muscular so I can be more sexually attractive to that woman. So, if I say to a woman I’m not attracted to you because you have a few extra pounds in your body, I don’t understand why there is so much hurt. Get skinny.

    • Kayla

      @mark I’ve never been overweight, but for most of my life I have been pretty chubby– at least by society’s standards. Even before people began to tell me I was (mainly in the form of joking by family members) I always knew how I looked– it was clear to me what the desired body shape was because social media constantly reminded me of what I didn’t have. I was young and ignorant of nutrition. My single father didn’t have the time or money to let me join recreational sports (since my school offered none), and eating well was usually too expensive and strange given the usual cuisine of my immigrant family, not to mention school lunches sucked. Since I didn’t have a naturally fast metabolism, these poor habits caught up to me a bit. Still, I was always aware of how I looked, I just didn’t have the resources to live as healthily as I should, and it wasn’t really my fault. Simply the environment I was in, and lack of proper education from my parents/public school. Later in life, when I was able to adjust my lifestyle, I slimmed out a bit, however, even at my thinnest (around 118 lbs, age 18), I was NEVER satisfied with how I looked. The problem with telling girls (or most girls) they are fat is that something like this happens… It kind of brings about this cycle of never being satisfied with how you look from a very young age, which is mentally, physically, and emotionally destructive, especially during puberty. I wouldn’t mind people telling me I needed to be a little healthier/slim out when I was a bit older and able to make my own decisions concerning my diet, but what really effed with my mind was being told I was fat at a young age, when I had no control over how I looked. And most girls I know struggling with their weight were told they were fat at a young age, right around when puberty hits (aka when girls begin to gain weight). Puberty is one of the most crucial periods in any persons life. You’re body is changing and since weight gain is inevitable for most girls (because estrogen makes you store fat), you are basically being taught to hate what your body is doing to itself. In my middle school, the age of puberty, they would weigh you in gym class, in front of everyone, and tell you how much you gained from the previous year… Don’t get me wrong, I think it is totally fine to tell someone (say a girl who is interested in you and wants to know why you don’t find her attractive, or a friend that is struggling with dating) that if they slimmed out you think it would help them, but there is a certain way of doing it that is not as destructive as “You’re fat”. Blatant honestly can be good in some situations, but when it comes to body image I think it does more harm than good. Odds are, the girl you want to tell is already aware of her weight, and saying something like that can bring back bad memories and insecurities. Everyone has their struggles, some may not be as evident as weight. A perfectly healthy looking girl/boy could be struggling with their weight just as much as someone who is bigger, and you’d never know. Just today my dad called me chubby because I gained a bit of weight this last semester at college, a 10 lbs that I was already aware of, but that comment made me consider not eating today (or for the entire month, for that matter). He is unaware that I was anorexic for a year and half during a period when I was away from home, so naturally he wouldn’t know the gravity of such a comment. I’m not mad at him, nor do I blame him for hurting me, because he doesn’t know the power of his words. And sadly most people don’t. So, even if you genuinely think someone should slim down purely for aesthetics, I think it best to refrain from using words like “fat” or “chubby”. Instead, I think you can promote self love, and love for your body, by encouraging better eating habits and exercise, for the betterment of one’s own health not for one’s own aesthetic (though the two usually go hand in hand!). Lead by example. I personally find encouragement to become healthier when I see others doing the same, and that’s what people should focus on. Health, not thinness. Healthy bodies are the most attractive bodies, amiright? Maybe, if you want to help someone out, just be like “Hey wanna go to the gym with me?” or something like that haha. I don’t know, it can be hard to broach the subject, but if it can’t be done in a harmless way, I’d say better not do it at all. I know people, similar to yourself, who just can’t understand why body image is such a big deal to others. I suppose it’s hard to quantify just how badly it hurts being called fat until you get hurt by it yourself. Anyways, I hope you don’t feel like I’m attacking you! I totally am not meaning to come across that way if I am. Just sharing a personal experience and trying to be helpful. Also sorry this is so long haha but I truly do hope you see where I’m coming from. Best, Kayla

  • Zaynab isabella

    I need help guys and it that when happen if ur fat in high school.How is people gonna a treat you like??.

  • Amy

    I know how it feels. Everyone says me fat my friends my family everyone and yes i gets hurt but than i forget easily about their word cuz the didnt matter me alot. But today i was being called fat by a boy, it hurts and really it hurts so much that i becomes so much depress that i deactivated my facebook account cuz whenever i open my face book acc it reminds me of his words. Well, that boy was not a special one or not as that he means alot to me but really when he said that in your dp you look very smart but when i saw your full pic you are very fat. And the after this all the time i m thinking of his words all the time i m thinking that yes i also wanna be smart like my friends, I also wanna be liked by people. I know i am fat n was really dont care if someone says me fat but i dont know how the words of that boy effects me. I really dont know. now i pray to Allah that plz do something plz make me smart or do anything else but i dont wanna make more fun of myself. Ufff i dont know how can i overcome my sadness now plz Allah plz help me. :( Plz if someone wanna give me some advise whoch can motivate me than plz give plz.

    • Aya

      Hey, first of all I hope Im not replying too late to your comment and I hope you will read my reply. You see, tonight in the middle of a little argument with my father he called me fat. I told him I wanted to buy a motorcycle to ride to school but he said no, because I dont know how to ride a bicycle and that I will never learn because “the volume of my laziness is as heavy as I am” (I know it sounds weird, its because it wasnt said in english). I know he said it because he was angry, but there must be some truth in it right ? He must think I am fat no ? I already know that I have to loose weight, but hearing that really hurt me. So I can imagine what you felt when that idiot called you “fat”, but I decided to not cry, because in the end, my father just said that to hurt me, like self defense during the argument. And thats exactly what that boy wanted to do, he just wanted to hurt you, he searched for a weakness and used it against you, but he is just a bully, thats what his life is all about, he hurts other people to feel superior. The only solution you have, is to F*CKING speak up ! I´m sorry for being crude but GIRL ! What right does he have to judge you and talk to you like that ? Who does he think he is ? And what about your friends and family ? What you said really shocked me, who calls anyone fat like that ? And you are telling me that you are used to it ? Im not saying to yell at them or curse, just explain to them that it hurts, some people, who dont mean any harm dont know the weight of their words, so I want you to talk to them. For the strangers who critisize you, just ignore them, because all they want is attention, someone who needs to hurt people to feel good has a really big problem you know, so you should let them alone, their life is already as hard as it is ! ;-) but if they dont stop, do not be afraid to talk back.
      oh, sorry, I got carried away…What I wanted to say was, rise above the bully, you are who you are, who cares if you are really smart or average, small or tall ? You are You, and you should never question that, be brave, never be affraid to SPEAK UP.
      ok.. XD, got carried away again, well good bye and have a beautifull day.

  • Amaya

    I’m 9 year old girl and my waist is 30 so that it

  • Kaya

    No, I dont have the flattest stomach. No, I dont have the sleekest arms. But we shouldn’t have to go through this hurt. It’s the worst. I’m not over-weight but people still call me fat. I know that they are just insecure and want people to feel like them, but it still effects me. Sometimes I just feel like crying, and other times I just sit there and eat. Eating makes me happy. Sometimes I wish that I could just wake up and be skinny. I know life doesn’t work like that, so I just try to ignore these people as much as I can. Summer is coming up so I will have enough time to exercise! I want to show them that anything is possible. I want to show them that “the girl you called fat last year is now sexier than you are!” so I cant wait!

  • Steve

    “Fat” should mean nothing except to the person who uses the term. A single word does not effect who you are, which is a unique person loved by God. The only person that the word “Fat” reflects on is the person who uses the word. It is a reflection of the ugliness that lies deep inside of them, and THEY are to be pitied because they are so unhappy about some aspect of themselves and their lives, that they feel compelled to denigrate others. Be secure knowing you are loved by God, and many wonderful people who understand what this life is all about. Pray for the ignorant ones who are so miserable they feel the need to lash out at others, that they find some type of peace. They are the ones who need understanding and forgiveness…

  • Amaya the fat girl

    I am. Fat I hurts. this girl at my school says you need to lose weight cause you have a bigger desk than everyone else so that hurt my feeling by everyone post to fat girls

  • Jenna

    I wasn’t always fat, as a young child I was of normal size but then when I got to primary school, I started getting bigger. No idea why and still to this day I am clueless. I was always playing sports after school ,everyday almost-but still I was fat. Kids at school called me names behind my back. My mother and sister even called me fat names. My mother forced me into every diet there was out there, but nothing seemed to work for a long enough, before I would just stop losing weight all together and then just put it back on.
    I very clearly remember sitting on my mom’s bed after school one day crying about my weight and instead of comforting me she told me that no one would love me if I was fat! What this comment and all the name calling have done to my confidence level and body image, is pretty much destroyed them. I have never had much self confidence in myself, which effects many parts of life, but most importantly, it affects the relationships I could be experiencing, but am not, due to my lack in confidence and fear of never being loved for who I am.
    I am now 27 years old, should be happy and living life, which I’m trying to do, but in the back of my mind I remember all the things that have been said to me over the past years and it’s very difficult to move on and be a regular person who can tell people how she feels without fearing rejection, or constantly wondering what people are thinking about me when I see them looking at me. I hate that I have such negative images and thoughts about myself, when I should be happy with you I am and what I look like. When people pay me compliments of any kind, I find myself wondering who they are actually seeing, I think it’s me, but it’s not the me that I see. When I have feelings for someone, I won’t say anything because I don’t want to be rejected! This is silly, I know, but I can’t help it-my childhood has scared me badly and I’m not sure how to get over all of this! I would like to lead a normal life at some point, but I don’t know if it will ever happen for me.

    I’m sorry if this sounds ridiculous, but these have been my feelings for many years and this is the first time I have put them down in words.
    Hopefully this is a step in the right direction.

    • Kaya

      We are all beautiful in our own way! Everyone has been called fat or a toothpick or some kind of name some point in their life! You just have to ignore it, and no matter what always tell yourself that you are beautiful and they are jerks. Do something to make yourself feel confident and pretty =) Do exercise that will make you feel like you’ve done something good or feel skinny. Buy a tight dress that will make you feel sexy. Or eat healthy food all day to feel like you’ve been fit and healthy all your life! These things always help me and keep me motivated too! People will love you for who you are no matter what, especially if you stand up for yourself. Never feel scared to share your feelings with someone you love. I may only be 17 but I KNOW being called fat is a nightmare.

  • Former fatty

    I know those feels, Cassie. I was very overweight as a child and not a day passed in my school years that I wasn’t called fat. Turned out I have PCOS and as soon as I went on medication for it when I was 16, I lost a lot of weight (35kgs). I was obese before so I needed to lose it. then after I got married my doctor advised me to stop taking it, so I did and within 5 months, all the weight came back except for maybe 5kgs. So there I found myself: 22, depressed, 80kgs at 5 foot 5″, newlywed and seeing the disappointment in my husband’s eyes. Then, my in-laws started to pass comments “you’ve gained SO MUCH weight!! [smiles]” “are you pregnant? are you sure” “you need to get rid of your belly” “come on, you van lose weight you just have to exercise and eat right”…..which I was already bloody doing! 2 and a half years on I’ve had a baby :D I’m 15kgs down, my BMI is finally in the ‘normal’ range again and I have more to go but so far, so good. The one who was the worst was my brother-in-law. despite he, and more so, his wife, have always been even fatter than me, his comments didn’t quit: “how’s your health?” “how much do you weigh now? I want to compare you and (wife’s name)”….I saw her recently and she’s now almost double my weight! And our in-laws are passing comments on how fat she is and how she needs to lose it. I was close to saying something to her but then I suddenly remembered how much it hurt when she and her husband said it to me. I don’t want to be that person who calls people fat and condescends them for their weight. What other people think of me isn’t even in the top twenty reasons I wanted to lose weight but gosh, I’m secretly enjoying the bullies having their comeuppance!!

  • afatgirl

    My parents are so judgemental!!!! My mom constantly criticizes me. Last night she told me “I know one of my daughters is almost 300 pounds” in my head I’m like ” for you info I’m only like 252″ . then my dad will grab my arms and says ” giiiiirllll, what are you gonna do.” Then my mom touches my stomach and says” girl look at all of this” and being the obedient girl I am I just walk off. I ask God to help me not to get angery because He said be slow to anger but then I just cry and cry. They’ve threatened to put chains on the refrigerator…..I do EVERYTHING they ask and the one area I lack in they want to drill down my throat. They have done this I was a little girl. I have emotional scars being added to the stockpile almost everyday….. I always get compared to my super skinny twin sister. I am 16 at 252 pounds and my sister is 145. I am the one always there for my mom. Getting through her cancer, I was the one there driving her around, staying out of school for her( even though I have had a perfect attendance record for four years) I was the freakin` one to cook all of her meals. I was the one giving her support. Not my sister!!! She was up in her room talking on the phone!!! Not one time was she with her. I do so much and get treated by crap by aunts. Calling me fat and says I look like my dead 250 pound grandmother!!!!! I never say anything. I’m just so sick of this….. Everyday. I wanted to stay home through college but I’m changing my mind….

    • Unhappy Downer

      Look, I think you just need to tell them that it hurts and that you don’t like what they’re saying. You need to stand your ground and tell them that you’re trying to cope with it and what they’re saying isn’t helping. They’re your parents, they should NOT be saying that to or about you. Eventhough they’re your parents, that can’t just judge you like that because I’m sure they wouldn’t like it if their mum or dad said that to them. They may be your parents, but they have absolutely no right to say that to you. Yell at them if you have to; just tell them how to feel. I’m 100% sure that you are a beautiful and smart young lady, you should not be going through this! I had some emotional times as a child where heaps of bullies were telling me bad things about myself and then I started going through an existential crisis! And I was about six or seven! I started feeling like nobody loved me and I really didn’t feel good in my own skin. I would tell myself everyday that I was fat, stupid, ugly, lonely and I would just think of myself as the duff. But I eventually got through it and I’m sure you can too! You just have to tell yourself everyday ‘ you’re beautiful ‘ and you can get through it! I believe in you! Just know that even though your parents do this to you, they still love you and they want the best for you. Just ask them why they do it and I’m sure they’ll feel sorry. I hope you start feeling better soon!

  • Kate

    I know the feels. I’m going to be 16 and from the past 2 months all my mother’s friends taunt me and say that i’m fat. They laugh too. Their words just leave a scar. I remember crying myself to sleep because of this. And i started working out from 2 days with a lot of exercising and eating a lot less but its hard. I have to be as others tell me to be.I lost a kilo in 2 days but i don’t feel like myself anymore. I hate this. I just hope one day i become thin so that i can shut the mouths of the people.

  • Lucy

    Hi my name is Lucy
    I’m upset I was eating and someone came and said “your gonna eat all that your too fat” it hurts alot I want to lose weight but I’m feeling self consious about myself I feel like crying I need to talk to a good friend of mine to feel better

  • Natalie

    Hi, I’m 11 and weigh 123 ponds and I am 5’7 or 170 cm tall. I get called fat a lot. Every night I cry myself to sleep, remembering the horrible things I have been told since I was about 6. I don’t know what to do! All my friends say that I’m not fat but they all weigh like 60 and I’m here with 120. I am way above average in height, and my bones are quite large, but those excuses won’t work. The words are breaking me apart and I always want to be alone and cry all day and night. I’m depressed but I’ve kept it a secret for 4 or 5 years now. Please help I can’t take it much longer!

    • Grace

      I’m just like you. I’m 11 and am 5′ 6″ 112 pounds. All of my friends tell me I’m not fat and that I’m stick thick and that my legs are perfect, but all I see when I look in the mirror is how fat I am. I used to be super skinny and never ever felt self conscious, but now I always want to change something. Or

    • Kaya

      whoa girl you are not fat! Eat healthy and do exercises to keep your body toned! Its all you need to do. And just be happy no matter what. You are beautiful in every way. You shouldnt let a jerks words bring you down.

    • OMG WHY DO U THONK UR FAT? Both of you girls arent fat. You people are crazy. Im 5’1 and probably 115-120 lbs and my doctor says im perfect! My dad cares about my weight and if I was fat, he would tell me (trust me) and my dad says im skinny! WHY do you think YOUR FAT? That’s crazy talk right there. YOU GIRLS ARE BOTH BEAUTIFUL, im serious. My god, stop being so worried! Im 11 too!

    • Wow neither of you girls are even remotely overweight! I am 27 years old, 5′ 5″, 143lbs and very fit (I’m a horse trainer). Look in the mirror every day and realize how beautiful you are. Pick out things you love about your body and make a point to notice those every time you look in the mirror. With your tall and slender figures you sound like super models!

  • The Man Who Cant be Move

    Im fat. Im always being insulted just like yours. Sometimes my friends and my family are insulting me . I dont know why they always insulted me. I didnt do anything bad to them. Every time they insulted me, im just going to smile and let them. Even tho it hurts so bad. I dont like being fat. I didnt choose that.

  • jae

    Being “fat” is a tough one. I know how it feels. I had an eating disorder and gained quite a lot over my ideal weight. My thoughts were constantly obsessed with losing weight. I was miserable. I think those feelings stem from what you fear others think about you. I began writing down most of my dreams and talking to a loving therapist. Within about 6 months I had a cathartic dream where I remembered a traumatic event when I was 3. I was left alone in a park while my mother was off somewhere else. I never overate again. I began telling myself about 100 times a day (at least) that I was healthy, strong and beautiful. I did this while I swam- with every stroke. I love to exercise and I have done this throughout all the highs and lows of my life. Now I am 45. I just gained 25 lbs from being with a man who eats a lot of fatty foods and shows his love by over feeding me. I had a woman recently shout in front of a room full of people that she barely recognizes me because I am so much bigger. I truly do not care. I look great. I take really good care of my skin and I have a great back side and great breasts. No one ever believes I am the age I am. I know it is hard to do when you are in the thick of it and young and people are truly idiots, but focus on the parts of you that are gorgeous and accentuate them. Always wear beautiful clothes regardless of your size. Adorn yourself. Do not let the talk of fools effect you. You are a child of God.

  • why am i fat? i eat healthy…. i never eat junk…

  • Ellie

    hi I’m just really upset right now and I’ve been crying for an hour now, it’s like that crying described in the text I hate it so much. Someone posted a pic of this boy in my class and he looked kinda fatter than usual but no where near the point where you can call him fat, he commented saying ‘ew I look fat like Ellie’ I didn’t see this comment till one of my friends showed me as they wanted me to know but this really hurt me and I don’t think that people understand how much it hurts when they say something like that to you, I know I’m fat and I really want to lose weight but I can’t and I think he had made me want to because I don’t want people seeing me and thinking they can label me without even knowing me. I really hate him right now and I don’t know what I’m gonna go at school tomorrow because I know at least someone is gonna ask, a few people told him to shut up and stop being rude but i know they were thinking the same thing. Sorry I just needed to say something.

  • Guys dont lose hope! Believe! Oh yay and Kylie… your skinny. Why do you think your fat lol.

  • Hi my name is Elizabeth.
    I eat so much. I weigh the most in my entire school. I weigh so much that I don’t even want to say. I am 13 years old. I love food so much that I ate a tried to eat a sandwich in class without getting caught. I eat nonstop. I even snuck 5 bags of chips at like midnight when I was younger and sometimes I still do it. Nobody wants to be my friend because I am so fat. And sometimes the teachers tell me they want to talk to me after class and I say ok and after class I ask them why they want to talk and they say that I need to lose weight and they might have to get me to talk to the nurse. I think I have a disease because like I eat so much. I eat nonstop, literally. I sneak food in class as a said earlier! I tried to stop multiple times but I can’t! It seems impossible! It is so hard to find clothes that fit me. People make fun of me. My parents tell me to stop eating and they say I can’t get desset but sometimes I end up sneaking some candy! Please give me some advice. I am gaining way to much weight! In fact, I am eating right now! Please give me advice, I would really appreciate it.

    • Hey Elizzzzaaaaabethhhhh! XD
      So your 13, eh? Your beautiful, girl. Everyone is! I recieved a nice reply to my post. It gave me a boost of confidence. Even if you are fat, REMEMBER YOUR BEAUTIFUL. But I noticed you REALLY wanted advice, so ok!
      First of all, YOU CAN control your eating habits. I know its hard, I have huge cravings too. And excercise! Thats all I can say. But listen, you are more beautiful than you think, trust me. If you get down on yourself, your gonna get anorexia, as getting anorexia might seem ok, it isn’t. Don’t do it. Your beautiful Elizabeth. Trust me. I know your 13 and you get cravings (if you know what I mean) but as the person who commented on my post said, tough it out! Hope this helped!

      P.S.: You are beautiful no matter what size you are.

  • sabrina

    one time i was in class so i sat next to this awful guy. then my teacher called me up to the front than i accidently hit the table.everyone saw it and that guy called me fat and said “i know that you have a huge body” everyone heard it .my friend defended me at that moment but until today i am very low self esteem and i have been trying to loose some weight but it just won’t work

    • Hey sabrina, (i love your name by the way) my name is Kylie. You proably read my post lol. But anyway, that is so mean that he called you fat! Everyone is beautiful. I used to not think this but I got really nice comments and I decided I wanted to help other people like you. Be positive, and don’t let people bullt you because you are beautiful. I have never been called fat before, I just have called myself fat so I don’t exactly know how this feels but I just want to let you know that you are beautiful. Stay Strong and beautiful, ok? I hope you find your boost of confidence I am giving you in this post. Because someone left a really nice reply to my post and it made me really happy. So I hope this makes you happy too.

  • Im an average 11 year old girl. I know im average, I just feel ao fat. Im 5’1, or 5’2 (idk) and im around 104-106 lbs and my friends tell me im not fat. (including my friend that can be very mean even to me and doesnt realize and she told me im not fat) but today my dad says everyone in my family of 4 needs to lose weight and get skinner. And asked me if I run often. I saud yeah. But it really hurt my feelings because I live a different lifestyle than most kids and I don’t want to talk about it. :( Please don’t ask. But I have been having HUGE cravings. Sometimes i put my hands on my stomach and try to push in the fat and sometimes I hold my stomach in. I am thinking about starving myself.

    • Listen Kylie, I seen girls your age at that weight and they are beautiful. You are not fat, you are average. You are skinny-average. You are not fat. Trust me. Your beautiful. If anything I am the big fat one who needs to lose weight. I don’t want to talk about me though. Im talking about you Kylie. Your beautiful! If your dad thinks your fat, he has issues. I can’t even believe that he asked you if you ran alot and that everyone in the family of 4 needs to lose weight! He is wrong. I don’t know how much the other 3 family members weigh, but I think everyone 3/4 of the family needs to lose weight. The 1/4 is the part of the family who doesn’t need to lose weight. You are the 1/4. Be happy that you are not fat. I did notice that you said you had HUGE cravings. My advice to you, do your best to stop eating so much. I know growing girls have cravings but you need to tough it up or you will be fat! You are beautiful right now, so be happy. And for other people reading this, please help Kylie. Don’t make her so down on herself. Shes a beautiful girl and I want you to tell her.

  • Fatty

    I’ve also been called. The worst thing is that i didn’t know this person. My friend told her i was fat and when this person saw me, she just blurted out that my friend is right, I’m fat. It’s one thing to tell your friend she’s fat, we are used to friends insulting us as a joke but when she tells people about it, that’s another story.

  • joe

    If you are banning the word fat from your vocab, then how do you describe people who are overweight? Denying to call people fat does not change the fact that the person is fat. It actually makes the problem worse because the fat person does not have motivation to lose the weight. Also, being fat is a personal choice. Whether it is made with your conscience or subconscious, it is a choice that you make everyday when you eat, and excersise. Everyone (excluding people with actual conditions) have the capacity to get healthy and fit, but do not actually posses the drive to do it. They say they want it, but their daily choices say otherwise. Fat people always claim that they have tried everything, weight watchers, etc. and that nothing works for them, which tells me that they don’t really and truly want to lose weight. If they really wanted to lose weight they would lose weight, even without any fancy-ass pills and programs. I have put in countless hours of work and effort to keep my weight where I want it, and when people who are fatter than me are jealous of my defined abs and veins in my arms and legs, I tell them that I put in the work and that they can have this too but need to really want it. Go get motivated and stick to it, don’t sit around and complain. Go get off your ass and workout right now then eat healthy… doesn’t even have to be small meals, just really healthy.

    • Becca (Aka fat girl and proud)

      Honestly it’s like the same reason you wouldnt call a gay person f*g and the same reason that you don’t call African Americans slave. It’s offensive. There’s a better way to say it! “What do we call them?”… Beautiful! If you cant say that then keep your mouth shut because its unconstructive and doesn’t need to be said. (At the very least, just call us over weight.) As for the rest of the comment, didn’t need to be said, we hear it enough, if we wanted to change, we would work on it. Do you think constantly calling us fat and making us depressed will make us any more likely to do anything at all? Hell no.

    • Sophie

      That is really rude. Saying that fat people dont “really want to lose weight”. Of course they do. They just dont have the motivation or confidence to do it. Some people have eating disorders. They want to get rid of it, but they cant. Does that mean that they dont “really want to lose that condition”? Our weight is unpredictable. If your down, sure, you may eat some ice cream or chocolate to make yourself feel better. Its our bodies natural reaction. You cant help it. Genes are important in this too. You cant change who you were born as. Im 13, 5’1, and 135 lbs. Sure, im insecure about how I look, but I have friends and family who think otherwise. I have a boyfriend who loves me for who I am. I asked him why he chose me when there are hundreds of skinnier, prettier girls out there. He said “I chose you because most of those people are fake on the inside and outside. Who cares about your weight? I’d rather have curvy than boney”. And that changed my world. Im not really fat, as I went through puberty, I started to notice curves on my hips. My legs are nice and toned and I have muscular thighs. Not all people are skinny and fit, Joe. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, and you need to learn that. Dont ever say that fat people are lazy, because if you were overweight and tormented, what would you do? Try going through depression and see how lazy people are now. Hypocrite.

  • Kaitlyn

    My friend and i joke around about being fat cause we r LOL but we dont care we maintain and still pig out at times XD but they we lost alot of weight we r both 11 and in 5th.. i get called fat alot and so i just be like bitch ur the fat one here. (im not FAT FAT i look skinny but i weigh alot!)

  • It really hurts being called fat … Me and my friends were in this chat so some of my friends are boys and half are girls so one of my friends added this guy to the chat and he was wondering who I was cause for some reason he knows all of the others so after some time he remembered and said ” oh the fat one” and it really hurted me so I just left the whole chat and cried abt it because he doesn’t know how hard it is ….sometimes boys can be really off

  • jessica

    That’s it. I’ve been called fat 2 times in 3 months this year and I’m the average weight it says on websites and says the doctor.but I’m done. I don’t care what no one says I’m i quit eating. I will eat a little though like 3 granola bars a day. I feel fat even though I’m in sports so i decided I’m starving myself

    • Leah

      No please don’t starve yourself. That’s the worst thing you could ever do. You’ll either get an eating disorder or you’ll gain more weight because when you starve yourself, your body doesn’t know when it’s going to get it’d next meal and will go into survival mode. This means that it will store every ounce of fat. So you’ll be unhappy and be going backwards. I’m in the same position as you though. I do sports everyday and I’m also the average weight but I feel far and I think I look fat too. I’ve tried doing the workouts but I don’t have the motivation to carry on so it gets hard to lose weight. Just try to find a sport that you love doing and keep at it. Don’t forget to eat clean. Confidence is beauty so be confident. Every time someone calls you fat, thank them. It’ll just add to your motivation. Good luck!!!

    • Hey Jessica! Don’t starve yourself. If you feel fat, and people call you fat, your not. You mentioned that your average! But yes, I used to be average myself, I know how you feel. But trust me, being average is different from being fat or obese, I thought about starving myself too. I didn’t starve myself. You can stay that weight, that is a great weight, but if you REALLY want to lose weight, here is my advice:
      1. Each of the 3 meals is healthy
      2. NO DESSERT
      3. Excercise
      4. No stress, be happy! (This is proven to help)
      5. Don’t listen to people who call you fat, your strong! (and your probably not even fat because you mentioned that websites and doctors said your fat)
      6. DON’T starve yourself, you will end up with an eating disorder, anorexia.

      Please listen to my advice, and be positive and strong! :) Good luck Jessica!

      • omg! I am so sorry jessica. I made a terrible typo! Lemme fix that:
        5. Dont listen to people who call you fat, your strong! (and your probably not even fat because you mentioned that websites and doctors said your average)

  • JMJ

    I am 14 years old, and the other night, I was on younow, a live video chat app, with my two pretty, skinny, blonde-haired, blue-eyed friends. I was having a great time, until one comment appeared on the screen “the girl on the far right is a little bit fat?” I looked at it, immediately realizing he was talking about me. I brushed it off, laughing about it, and being sarcastic, so I didn’t look hurt at all, when in reality, my weight has been something I’ve struggled with for years. My sisters used to joke about it at dinner with the family, not realizing that I had gone to the bathroom and gagged myself until I threw up. I’ve tried countless diets, and downloaded hundreds of weight loss apps, and calorie counting websites. I don’t know what to do anymore. My family and friends say I’m not fat, but I know. I can’t go in changing rooms at clothing stores without sitting, looking at myself in the mirror and trying not to cry. I’m constantly covering up my stomach with my hands, making sure no one can see my stomach. I make myself sick. I don’t know what to do and I want is to be confident in myself.

    • Leah

      Talk to your family about it. They’re your best support mechanism. Once they understand, everything will become easier. Tell them that everytime they joke about your weight it makes you feel worse about yourself. Try the workouts Cassey posts and try to follow the calander. Drink lots of water and try to eat clean :)

  • Georgia

    I am going to the weight. Clinic but i need results to have. Them stop. Pushing me hurts tosee me in pictures. Fat not one good pictures. With myfamily help

  • Georgia

    Every one calls me miss piggy in my family. I am 300 pounds i need to lose about 150 pounds help me i needs support please

  • Talia

    I am extremely hurt. I’m 16 years old, 5’2′, and 126 pounds. I’m usually very happy with my weight and I execrise almost daily and enjoy it. Sometimes I just feel like I’ve made tons of progress and I’m so happy with myself. My mom is Asian though and I inherited my dads larger frames body, so my mom constantly yells at me and calls me fat, saying that I should lose 10 more pounds and I’ll finally be pretty. It really hurts me and makes me ashamed and feel like all the work I did was worthless. So far I havent found anything to make myself feel better, but when I do I know I’ll be 100x happier.

    • Natalie

      Dear Talia,

      Don’t listen to what you’d mom says! You are beautiful, and you are a healthy weight. I myself am only
      11 years old and I weigh the same as you. Everybody is beautiful and you should remember that! Stay
      strong and be happy :)

    • Carmen

      I can so relate to you!! I’m asain too, and i also have my dad’s family bodies which is bigger than my mum’s family. But both of my parents call me fat, which really hurts my feelings knowing that it’s my parents calling me this. They say that I’m fat all the time, but I don’t think they notice that they are hurting my feeling and I finally told them to stop calling me fat and that doesn’t help me lose any weight. They said okay. But they only stopped calling me fat for a period of time and they started again. I gave up telling to stop. I would show no emotions in front of them, but I would go back to my room and cried because of their words. I’m trying to lose weight. I come home and i try and exercise and eat healthy, but their comments make me feel like everything i do to lose weight doesn’t matter because my body looks the same. I starting to get depressed over this. But i’m trying to think happy and ignore them. I want to show them that I will have a skinny body :)

  • Sophie

    I’m a 14 years old girl, 157 cm and my weight is 50 kg which
    I’ve been called fat too, by someone I don’t even care about but it still hurt me, because I find myself too fat too.
    I seriously wish boys would think before they speak, they can be so rude to girls…

    • aGuy

      13 yo boy.
      Why are you so racist?
      You speak only about boys when many suicides were only because of girls,
      You think only the boys are the sinners?
      I really hate people that say one race or sex is better than the other!
      (sorry for my English it is not my first language)

  • Somheli

    Hi, i’m Heli and i’m 16. My height is 152cm and i weigh 56kgs. Being called fat is of course the meanest thing and its a really sharp weapon that ‘those people’ carry with their mouths. It hurts me at first when people called me fat but then i get used to it. This is a bad habit but so many people called me fat so it doesnt bother me much now. But these days as my dad knows about my weight (which i hid from him) he started blaming on me for eating ao much n he shouted at me infront of his workers n he kept on shouting the same things over and over until i cant take it anymore and my tears dropped, i wanted to hold it in but i cant help it then i ran upstairs and started crying so hard that i couldnt breathe it hurts so bad. Ive never been to that type of situation before and now im crying while telling this here because he just said things to me again and it hurts real bad. Ive been crying for half an hour now i just cant stop m sorry but is it all my fault for eating so much for being fat?? Cant i just be happy with what m doing?? Of course every girls want to be pretty and skinny but its not easy for fat girl like me. I have nobody to fight on this with me and it hurts me to the point where i dont want them to see me lose to see me fight this battle.

    • Natalie

      Dear Somheli,

      You are beautiful just the way you are. Being called fat every day sucks, I know, but we all have to push through it. It hurts and has shattered my soul but we need to keep pushing through it. Bullying that mentally breaks people is the worst, but if you stay strong and breathe than everything will go in ear and out of the other. Remember, you are beautiful and nothing will change that :)

  • nancy

    I have always been on the bigger side in the Asian community. Most Asian women around me are taller than I am and weigh in the two digit range [85-99] whereas you have me who is in the three digit range. So I am considered fat in their eyes and when my mother comes to visit, she constantly reminds me of how fat I am. I know I am on the bigger end in the Asian community but I know I am not fat. I do eat a lot more than my mother does but I eat like an average person. I even recall my sister once saying to her husband “Oh aren’t you happy I am not fat.” WTF are you serious? Yes, I am a lot thicker than she is but damn that was so offensive. Especially, that time was finals week so I did have a minor weight gain. Most of the time I sucked it up. I can never compare myself to my sisters, mother, or friends. They are way skinnier than I am and if I was ever to catch up with them, I would be really unhealthy. I never criticize them with how they look and I shouldn’t. I am just so damn annoyed of being called fat because I am not fat. I am not skinny either and am pretty active.

  • Liz

    I’m 14, 5’4″, and about 123 lbs. My brother constantly calls me fat. I feel like when he does, it reminds me that I never looked like other girls because I don’t fit into a category. I’m not “fat,” I’m not “skinny,” I’m not “fit,” and I’m not average looking either. I’m at about 25% body fat with muscle underneath, making me look pudgy or bulky. I eat right, get enough sleep, I used to swim but now I’m trying to get into biking, or softball. Still, I get called fat by my brother and occasionally by my dad…

  • Catherine

    You’re fortunate to only get criticised twice as you grow up… I grew up bwing called fat. I cant even recall those incidents when I gyoung, like nursery age, I had a big stomach. According to my family, it’s because of all the candies ive eaten. I cant recall how much I ate but I was pretty sure I looked like an average 5 yearold. You know kids would always have a round stomach sticking out right? My family called me fat becaise of that stomach. I didnt believe, then as time pass, I travel to and fro singapore and malaysia dialy to study eversince I was seven. I was introduced to junk foods and I ate at least 3 packets of chips every week. I grew even fatter but up to sfourteen , all that fats o.oMy body are still baby fats. I began growing from chubby baby fats to really adult fats. Those that you have to work really harx to get rid of. Im fifteen now and I am trying to believe that I can be slim. I will be slim by prom. Okay back to the fat insults. Every single day as I see my family members, they would say that im fat or I’ve grown horizontally very much. Let me list out. As my eldest brother would tell me to get out of his sight because I look disgusting with this body. Occasionally when I ask for tips to workout, he will discourage me by saying that I will never be able to lose weight. I would cry and cry and cry. Then my parents and elder sister: when ever they meet me, they would ask me “you became fatter again?” And whenever theres reunion at my hometowns, up to 8 adults from each parents side would comment about my fatty body. I dont even know how to feel right now. You say to avoid those who called you fat. Yep I dont even want to interact with my family, I love my friend more than anyone kn the family. People say that family are their shelter support (im crying now ) hufffft id say family is just rude strangers living with me. There wasnt a moment when I felt loved. Just today, 4 relatives asked me if I exercised, I said I do, because im actually a softballer. Then other 2 adults said that I seem fatter than the last time. I felt so hurt, I grew taller but they did not even notice. There wS once I saw mmy aunts bad mouthing me in their family group thqt my mum was in. They said not to feed me so much chocolate but the thing is I donf even eat chocolate. I stopped eating sweet food for months already and they are saying that to my mum without knowing a single thing. I dodnt even know whats the point in living when my friends ignores me. It felt like I had no where to go and I cant even commit suicide when my so called family is at home

    • Eve

      I´m really sorry for what are you going through. But please, try to love yourself. You are amazing the way you are, you are also a softball player, that´s cool! Please don´t worry about what is your family saying, they themself aren´t totally perfect. I know its hard but try to ignore what they are saying, you know it isn´t truth and that´s what matters.
      Take care and stay strong, you are better then them xx

    • sad girl

      Im facing the same problem, im in a relationship with a guy from 7 months and have cried many times because of him calling me fat and whenever i told him not to or im happy with how i am he will started telling me he is just joking but will start calling me again.The truth is yes,i am indeed 75 kg and i am pretty healthy but i tried so hard to look beautiful for him and for me to grew confidence but today im very much broke and i had a fight with him just now…i don’t know am i doing the right thing or not.

  • Not a Fun Life

    Today, my friend texted me and said, don’t be mad, but you’re fat. And she made it worse. She said she made up a program called ‘Operation Bikini Body.’ I am actually in middle school and people call me a fat pig behind my back. It hurt so bad and she then got mad at me when I confronted her. I have had problems with her in the past, but now, I don’t know what to do know.